Have you ever struggled to keep up a new habit? Maybe you thought that the secret to success was not to let yourself off the hook. On today's episode I offer that you might very well want to let yourself off the hook. In fact, this might be the very key to showing up fully in your life.

Instead of trying to force ourselves into change, I offer a view of accountability as a relationship between parts of us that want different things. Putting these parts into conversation builds trust, self-compassion -- and also lets us show up fully to our life and goals.

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What would be possible if you didn't let fear stand in your way? Would you ask for a raise? Go to open mic night? Start a YouTube channel? Recently, I decided that I no longer want to make decisions from fear -- imagine! In this episode, I explore how fear often masks itself as avoidance and how asking the right questions—like “What am I actually afraid of?”—can shift everything. We can allow fear and even listen to it, without letting it drive our decisions. If you also want to stop making decisions out of fear, this episode is for you.

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In this episode, I explore one of my favorite topics—belief!, and the surprising ways we hold ourselves back from it. We often feel like we need permission to believe in ourselves, or to believe ideas that support us, especially when belief challenges our identity, feels risky, or seems like something we haven’t yet earned. We also often confuse belief for optimism. I talk about these moments and offer a gentle reminder that we can give ourselves permission to believe -- and that such belief is the foundation for growth & change. If you’ve been hearing the call of something new coming through -- stretching, growing, changing -- or if you want to believe in your own ability to rise to the moment, this episode is for you.

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You know how sometimes you have thoughts that you don't fully believe but they still hold you back? Things like -- I can't do this; I'm not strong enough? The thing is, our minds are like Little Free Libraries, filled with thoughts we’ve picked up from all over the place — family, friends, social media, even strangers. Often we notice that our internal "shelves" are filled with thoughts we don't even believe, but can't seem to get rid of. The good news? You get to curate what stays on your shelves. In this episode, I walk you through how to notice those unhelpful thoughts, try on new ones that feel better, and how you can powerfully borrow beliefs from people you admire -- or even from your own past self.

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Are you feeling drained—even when you’re technically “resting”? You’re not alone. In this episode, I talk about the kind of exhaustion that doesn’t come from lack of sleep, but from the thoughts we carry all day long.

Your mind can be your biggest energy thief—or your most powerful source of renewal.

I’ll walk you through three simple shifts that can help you reclaim your energy, not by forcing toxic positivity or pretending everything’s great, but by learning to intentionally choose thoughts that serve you.

In this episode::

• Why “true” thoughts aren’t always helpful ones
• How to spot your “tired thoughts” (and why they’re draining you)
• What it means to entertain a new thought—and how to do it with curiosity, not pressure
• How I shifted my own mindset around my workload

Check out this episode for practical tools to start feeling more like yourself again.

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I've been struggling with current events and feeling 'off,' and I bet many listeners can relate. In this episode, I share three questions that are helping me find my way back to okay—even when things aren’t. It's a brief episode -- perfect for a quick reframe!

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In this episode, I explore the power of recognizing and using the resources available to us, especially when we’re facing challenges. Our culture often glorifies independence, but true strength comes from seeing ourselves as part of a web of support. By broadening our perspective on resources—including past experiences, different forms of connection, and unexpected sources of support—we can navigate life’s challenges with more resilience and ease.

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Last week, I missed recording my podcast, and I found myself questioning my identity as a weekly podcaster. But then I realized—this was just a blip, and I could decide what it meant. So often, we fear we’re becoming worse versions of ourselves, but what if we believed just as strongly in our capacity to grow? In this episode, I explore how to shift our focus from self-criticism to self-compassion, embrace the process of becoming, and take small, meaningful steps toward the person we want to be.

In this episode:

✅ The thoughts that hold us back from stepping into a new identity

✅ The power of taking small actions

✅ Questions to ask yourself to get unstuck

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In this episode, I explore the surprising reasons we sometimes hold ourselves back from happiness—like feeling guilty when others are struggling or believing unhappiness keeps us safe. I share my own experiences, including how I’ve learned to give myself permission to be happy, even when my child is struggling. I also offer three powerful shifts to help us embrace happiness as a source of energy, connection, and strength. Happiness isn’t just for us—it helps us show up better for others, too.

In this episode:

✅ Why it can be hard to feel happy when people we love are struggling
✅ Three surprising reasons we hold ourselves back from joy—and how to challenge them
✅ Practical ways to embrace happiness as a source of energy, resilience, and connection

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In this episode, I’m diving into courage—how to build it, how to move forward even when we’re scared, and how to stay connected to our values in challenging times.

I’ve been thinking a lot about the courage of previous generations, especially my grandmother. She faced so many hardships—losing the love of her life, battling cancer, and ultimately having to rebuild her life multiple times. Looking back now, I see how much courage that took. It reminds me that even though we often think about courage as extraordinary, many ordinary parts of life such as aging, facing uncertainty, and navigating life’s challenges all require bravery.

But courage doesn’t mean not being afraid. We often think, “I wish I were braver,” when what we really mean is, “I wish I weren’t scared.” But courage is acting despite fear. It’s making a decision to move forward, even when it’s uncomfortable.

I also share three ways we can build courage in our daily lives:
1️⃣ Reconnect with your core values – Surround yourself with reminders of what truly matters to you.
2️⃣ Take action, even before you feel ready – Courage often follows action, not the other way around.
3️⃣ Build a courageous community – Find people who uplift and support you in being brave.

Take a listen to foster your own courage -- and share it with a friend, so we can build a courageous community together.

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