Making Midlife Magic

When life feels challenging, it can be especially difficult to do things that we know will help. We need to make that doctor's appointment but keep not doing it. Often we just try to bully ourselves into getting things done, but it doesn't work in the long run and makes us miserable.

There is another way! One that puts us in the driver's seat without force, and it starts with two words. Listen to this episode to put this simple tool into your hands.

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Tiny Experiments by Anne-Laure Le Cunff

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This week, I'm re-airing episode #14, "Are You Your Own Ride or Die?". I heard it differently this week, as I recovered from taking a tumble and spraining my wrist, as I explain at the beginning of the episode. Whether you want to confidently put yourself out there more, or to take better care of yourself during challenging times, this episode's wisdom is for you.

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Do you want to be more resilient? Most of us do. We want to be flexible through life's changes, rather than flattened by them. When things are hard, we want to know that we will bounce back. In this episode, I offer three surprising ways to increase our trust in our ability to bounce back from life's challenges --because being more resilient starts with reconsidering what we think we know about resilience.

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This week I'm celebrating episode 150! I take a look back at three of the key takeaways from the last three years. These are tools that have changed my life and that I continue to use every day, and I know they will help you too. Take a listen and let me know what you think!

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Have you ever struggled to keep up a new habit? Maybe you thought that the secret to success was not to let yourself off the hook. On today's episode I offer that you might very well want to let yourself off the hook. In fact, this might be the very key to showing up fully in your life.

Instead of trying to force ourselves into change, I offer a view of accountability as a relationship between parts of us that want different things. Putting these parts into conversation builds trust, self-compassion -- and also lets us show up fully to our life and goals.

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What would be possible if you didn't let fear stand in your way? Would you ask for a raise? Go to open mic night? Start a YouTube channel? Recently, I decided that I no longer want to make decisions from fear -- imagine! In this episode, I explore how fear often masks itself as avoidance and how asking the right questions—like “What am I actually afraid of?”—can shift everything. We can allow fear and even listen to it, without letting it drive our decisions. If you also want to stop making decisions out of fear, this episode is for you.

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In this episode, I explore one of my favorite topics—belief!, and the surprising ways we hold ourselves back from it. We often feel like we need permission to believe in ourselves, or to believe ideas that support us, especially when belief challenges our identity, feels risky, or seems like something we haven’t yet earned. We also often confuse belief for optimism. I talk about these moments and offer a gentle reminder that we can give ourselves permission to believe -- and that such belief is the foundation for growth & change. If you’ve been hearing the call of something new coming through -- stretching, growing, changing -- or if you want to believe in your own ability to rise to the moment, this episode is for you.

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You know how sometimes you have thoughts that you don't fully believe but they still hold you back? Things like -- I can't do this; I'm not strong enough? The thing is, our minds are like Little Free Libraries, filled with thoughts we’ve picked up from all over the place — family, friends, social media, even strangers. Often we notice that our internal "shelves" are filled with thoughts we don't even believe, but can't seem to get rid of. The good news? You get to curate what stays on your shelves. In this episode, I walk you through how to notice those unhelpful thoughts, try on new ones that feel better, and how you can powerfully borrow beliefs from people you admire -- or even from your own past self.

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Are you feeling drained—even when you’re technically “resting”? You’re not alone. In this episode, I talk about the kind of exhaustion that doesn’t come from lack of sleep, but from the thoughts we carry all day long.

Your mind can be your biggest energy thief—or your most powerful source of renewal.

I’ll walk you through three simple shifts that can help you reclaim your energy, not by forcing toxic positivity or pretending everything’s great, but by learning to intentionally choose thoughts that serve you.

In this episode::

• Why “true” thoughts aren’t always helpful ones
• How to spot your “tired thoughts” (and why they’re draining you)
• What it means to entertain a new thought—and how to do it with curiosity, not pressure
• How I shifted my own mindset around my workload

Check out this episode for practical tools to start feeling more like yourself again.

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I've been struggling with current events and feeling 'off,' and I bet many listeners can relate. In this episode, I share three questions that are helping me find my way back to okay—even when things aren’t. It's a brief episode -- perfect for a quick reframe!

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