We all have these transitions and transformations throughout our lives and if we don’t stop to reflect on how we’re feeling at any given time, how are we supposed to work through it? The fact is that a lot of us don’t really ever delve into why we’ve become stuck in a certain way of thinking, a pattern or a behaviour. We don’t stop to think about whether we really like that job, love our partner or are happy with how our lives are turning out. We go through the motions and as a result, we don’t really ever evolve.

This is an area that I’m very passionate about, and to help me understand it I became quite interested in the chakras and the role that they play in the transformations that we go through during our lives. I feel as if there are a lot of men out there that aren’t open to spiritual concepts, and I’d like you to put your judgements to the side for a moment and open your mind to the possibility of a different way of thinking.

I hope you enjoy this episode. If you would like to dive deeper into the chakras with me, contact me via instagram or email: [email protected].

When I was back in my twenties I had left a corporate job and had decided to pursue a career as a personal trainer. Starting out in a whole new career I obviously didn't have a lot of money, but I had made a promise to myself that when I was in a better financial position I would buy my dream car. The dream car was a Golf R32 and I had wanted that car for so long. I looked up all the reviews, I watched the videos and I thought about it all the time.

After around 2.5 - 3 years, I finally had enough money to buy the car and it was such a momentous occasion. I remember going to the dealership and picking it up and I was so excited. It felt amazing to be able to purchase this car and I felt really happy. The thing is though, after a couple of months the novelty wore off. I found myself unmotivated and sad again, and I couldn't really understand why.

As I started delving more into self-development, I came across the work of Deepak Chopra and his teachings changed my life. It was through his work that I came to realise that I was relying on things outside of myself to make me happy. I was always looking for the next challenge, the next materialistic object to give me that sense of fulfilment. It wasn't until I started to go inward and look to my inner thoughts to provide the happiness that my whole world changed.

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I've got to be honest with you, this week I really struggled. I struggled with motivation, I was tired all the time and I really felt like I wasn't achieving anything. It was causing me to feel depressed and anxious and just not feeling like myself. Even though sometimes you may feel as if from the outside those that you follow have it all together, I want to let you know that none of us do. None of us have it all together all the time, and that's totally okay.

So after a few days of feeling uneasy, I really acknowledged that I needed to stop and just breathe. Just to be still.

You'd know by now if you've been following the podcast for awhile that I am a firm believer in the power of meditation, but this technique I'm sharing with you today isn't even as far as meditation. It's literally just focusing on your breath, being mindful of your surroundings and emotions, and bringing yourself back to a state of calm and presence.

Let me guide you through the simple breathing technique that I use to calm my thoughts and my body when I'm feeling anxious and overwhelmed and I hope this helps you too.

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There's no doubt that there has been a lot of emotion this year. I've found it really interesting to see how society has been forced into a time of reflection not only due to the isolation that coronavirus thrust upon us, but then with the death of George Floyd causing the whole world to take a look at where we're failing each other. The institutional racism that has been brought to all of our attention thanks to social media has been heartbreaking, but it has also forced us to think about how we can do better. How we need to do better.

It has also got me thinking about why we always seem to need a "good guy" and a "bad guy", just like we see in the movies. Where do these judgements come from, how are they part of our learned experience and what can we do to shift them?

I’m Sri Lankan and I have had my own experience with racism of which I wanted to share with you today. In most schools that I went to, I was the only Sri Lankan kid. Now I want to be really clear here, I love Australia. I love my country. If it wasn’t for the opportunities that my parents were given, I wouldn’t be in the position that I am today. I am well educated, I have a great life and I have been supported throughout my journey. This episode is just to share some insight into where I have come from, what I have encountered and how it has shaped me today.

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The relationship that we have with our siblings is often quite tricky. No matter your upbringing, there are always moments where you don't quite understand them, you wish they'd leave you alone or you want them to behave differently. My relationship with my younger brother, Matt was no different. In fact, there is a lot about our upbringing that created tension, uncertainty and situations that left both of us feeling as if we didn't quite know where we belonged. I was always the "hard worker", the structured and competitive soul that wanted to be the best. I felt like I had a direction and had this "go-getter" spirit within me.

My younger brother on the other hand, spent a lot of his upbringing really uncertain as to who he was, what he wanted to do with his life, and where he truly fit in. This lead to rebellion, acting out and eventually escaping the life that he felt trapped in to find himself in a whole new world.

This is the first time that I've had Matt on the podcast and I'm so grateful that he is here with us today to share his story. I learned a lot about his life that I didn't know, and it has provided valuable insight into the specific struggles that he faced.

We hope you enjoy the brotherly banter! You get extra points if you can decipher who is who in this conversation. We sound super similar!

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It's common for us to hear about a man cheating on a woman, and there's a certain stereotype, certain expectation perhaps that this is something that men do. It doesn't mean it's accurate, but you can probably agree that this is a more common conversation to have. But what about when a woman cheats on a man? Why do we not talk about this as much? Do we feel as if the man can "take it" more? That they don't have the same feelings that a woman has when their partner has cheated?

I find this topic very interesting and obviously it's a very complicated one to really break down. There are many reasons why infidelity occurs, and I want to talk you through some ways to deal with this situation if it arises for you. From the male perspective, I want to let you know that you're allowed to have emotions and you're allowed to be vulnerable. If you do decide to take your partner back after an infidelity, you're allowed to need time to process.

What do women want? Well as a man, I don't feel I'm really qualified to be able to answer that and it's a question I'm sure a lot of you men out there ask yourselves. To give us some insight into how a woman thinks, what she needs, how she communications and all the things us men really don't seem to understand, I've invited my wonderful wife Erika Cramer onto the show to break it all down.

There are so many great moments throughout this episode. We touched on what "love languages" are and how to figure out what your partner's language is. You don't need to take a quiz either, it's more about taking the time to notice how your partner behaves. Erika and I also spoke about the importance of communication and not getting stuck in the blame game or the negative energy. Releasing is so much better than keeping our emotions bottled up, and I know that's tricky for a lot of men. A lot of us aren't great communicators, so we really have to practice if we hope to change.

It's not all about us changing for the woman either guys. Both parties have to come to the table here. There needs to be compromises, supporting each other and true honesty with one another.

We hope you enjoy this episode. As we mentioned in the episode, if you're interested in watching the replay of our Couples Masterclass, head here for more info: https://erika-cramer.mykajabi.com/pl/155970

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I’m a massive fan of personal development as you probably already know. My wife and I combined have probably spent over $100,000 in personal and professional development. It’s been something that has been a part of my life for a very long time. Physical fitness is also a huge part of my life and I’ve always loved competing. From a young age I loved pushing myself, and I figured out fairly early on that not only did you need physical strength or endurance, the mind played a massive role. For many of you, I know that you’re on your own personal development journey and this idea of managing your mind, but we sometimes forget that it’s not just your mind that needs managing. What you’re putting into your body, what your body is using is fuel plays just a big of a role, if not bigger to be honest. If you’re not treating your body kindly by eating well and sleeping well, then your ability to managing your mind will be diminished. Your mind needs fuel, and it needs the right fuel in order to operate at the optimal level.

So that’s what I’m chatting about today on the podcast. I hope you enjoy it. As I mentioned in the episode, if you’d like to go deeper with this, I’d recommend checking out Grow A New Body.

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The other night I put on this movie for the kids called Outward. The basic premise of the film is that magic used to be prevalent in their world, and then with all the advancements in technology over the years, magic became obsolete and was largely discarded. While I was sitting there watching the film, it got me thinking of the parallels it was highlighting to our use of technology and all the convenience this has afforded us.

But at what cost?

We've chosen the convenient route more and more as time has gone on. Doing less laborious tasks, avoiding pain wherever possible and looking for any possible way to minimise our output to get a result. Now there are lot of examples where this is a very good thing, but there are also a lot of examples where this reliance on technology and things that are convenient is killing us. Killing our creativity, killing our ability to interact socially, killing our desire to get out into the world and do things.

It's an interesting conversation and I hope you enjoy it. Follow me over on instagram to continue the conversation.

I want to share with you this concept of left brain and right brain thinking because I feel like it's really influenced me to become the person that I am today. This concept states that we predominantly use the left or the right side of our brain, and depending on how we're wired, this informs our personality. If you're a left brain thinker you're more interested in logic, mathematics, planning and strategy. The right side thinkers are more working from a place of imagination, creativity, rhythm and intuition.

From a young age, I felt as if I was very much a left brain thinker. I always had to have a plan, a goal and something that I was working towards. There had to be a reason behind my actions and the thought process was very structured. My father is the same. He is great at anything pertaining to logic, but when it comes to social cues or creative pursuits - this was never his strong point. My mother on the other hand has always been a very creative thinker, intuitive and feeling more than thinking, as is my brother.

What I wanted to explore was whether you could incorporate both sides to achieve more balance and tap into the areas that perhaps you're less inclined to follow naturally.

In this episode I talk you through the journey that I've taken to find the areas of myself that I knew could be unlocked but required exploration in order to develop.