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On Part:2, We discuss the need for men to form a relationship with God. We unpack the need to forgive our fathers and mend our relationships to help us understand their role in our life. We discuss the unfair expectations we have for our parents and how the trauma of not dealing with the lack of connection with our fathers can cause.  We share some personal stories about the negative perception of coaching/therapy among men and Hakeem gives some insights on the importance of getting the right coach to help deal with the trauma in your life. We end off by highlighting Batho Batsho Therapy and how their programs and toolkits can help you heal your wounds and help you reach your true and untapped potential.
   
To help me unpack this topic, I'm joined by the Founder of Batho Batsho Therapy, Hakeem Anderson Lesolang. He is an experienced Quantum Mind Coach, Transformational Therapy Specialist, Cognitive Behavioural Analyst & Certified NLP Practitioner who believes, “Every cell in your body is eavesdropping on your internal dialogue & every part of personal mastery, is the ability to control & rapidly change your state & thoughts...”

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Topics we cover on the show:

• 00:35 - Men spending time on God's word and learning His plan and purpose for men,
• 02:00 - understanding your father's failures and forming a relationship with him,
• 05:00 - internalizing the pain of not confronting our hurt and having unfair expectations for our parents,
• 10:55 - the importance of therapy and if men fair better with male coaches,
• 19:04 - figuring out what you want from a woman and views on polygamy,
• 21:30 - learning from other polygamous men and what it takes to be in a polygamous relationship,
• 30:00 - understanding our relationship with women and the importance of their role in our lives,
• 32:05 - Batho Batsho therapy toolkits and how their sessions can be beneficial for you,
•  41:41 - closing statements,  

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On Part:1 of Unmasking the Alpha male, we take a deep dive and look into the reasons why men are defining themselves by terms and titles they don't truly understand. We explore the origins and discuss some of the traits of being an Alpha male. We highlight some of the toxic also discuss the toxic and hidden world of the bro-code and how it perpetuates stereotypes about male groups. We question if competition amongst men is healthy and discuss how we can build a much better network with our male tribe instead if we stop competing. We talk unpack the discipline needed for men to be virtuous and successful men without relying on unfounded titles.  and we wrap this segment up by unpacking the quality of our friendships and the impact they have on our relationship with other men.
   
To help me unpack this topic, I'm joined by the Founder of Batho Batsho Therapy, Hakeem Anderson Lesolang. He is an experienced Quantum Mind Coach, Transformational Therapy Specialist, Cognitive Behavioural Analyst & Certified NLP Practitioner who believes, “Every cell in your body is eavesdropping on your internal dialogue & every part of personal mastery, is the ability to control & rapidly change your state & thoughts...”

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Topics we cover on the show:

• 02:37  - The meaning behind the name Hakeem and influence of his grandfather,
• 04:32  - Men defining themselves with words and titles without an understanding of its the origins,
• 08:26  - The bro-code, money and the hoes,
• 11:38 - Red-pill/blue-pill community,
• 12:35  - How society and the older generation normalized the Alpha male,   
• 06:12 - Life and challenges test you and force you to introspect and change,
• 10:07  - An unfortunate incident that led to the formation of Father A Nation, 
• 13:30  - Selfish and dominant behavior of the Alpha male on social media ,
• 15:36  - Getting lost in nature and connecting with good men as a great source of re-energizing and relaxing, 
• 17:04  - Can any good come out of being an Alpha male (the grootmaan and iceboy analogy)   
• 24:30 - Is the competition between men healthy and can men benefit from competing or collaborating,
• 30:14 - Similarities between black men's experience in townships,
• 33:26  - Are the so called financially successful men disciplined enough to support and encourage each other,
•  40:41 - Importance of having a plan in life 

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On our final episode of the Six Pack Of Champion Virtues series we take this opportunity to honor and highlight Craig Wilkinson as a leader and advocate for change and role model in, Leading For Change. Craig shares his early childhood memories growing up in Johannesburg, travelling around various countries with his family and schooling in Botswana. We unpack some unfortunate incidents that led to suicide in his family, inspiration for his work through Father A Nation and how much his faith has helped him through some of life's most challenging moments. An avid mountain biker and all round great guy, we discuss how he spends his time when relaxing and find out where he draws some inspiration to keep moving in his purpose and while doing his highly important but selfless work. 

My guest Craig Wilkinson is the Founder and CEO of Father A Nation which focuses on equipping men to be brave, fearless role models and fathers who use their strength to love, protect and stand against abuse. .

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Topics we cover on the show:

• 01:40  -Early life in Johannesburg, Durban, Botswana and New Zealand,
• 03:00  - difficult upbringing , studies and building a career in commerce,
• 03:50  -  Details surrounding suicide in the family caused by lack of approval,
• 05:04  - Faith and becoming a father inspired change,  
• 06:12 - Life and challenges test you and force you to introspect and change,
• 10:07  - An unfortunate incident that led to the formation of Father A Nation, 
• 13:30  - Worst examples of masculinity,
• 15:36  - Getting lost in nature and connecting with good men as a great source of re-energizing and relaxing, 
• 17:25  - Utilizing your potential and impacting others to achieve success,
• 18:42  - Overcoming setbacks and navigating through the failures,
• 20:30  - impact of Wild At Heart by John Aldridge on Craig's life,
• 22:35  - Why have men left the church and stopped following faith,  
• 26:07  - How to deal with the unpopular opinion of speaking of masculinity in a positive light,
• 28:03  - Learning and forming an opinion before spreading the wrong message about masculinity or feminism,
• 28:48  - Leaving a legacy and Craig would like to be remembered,
• 30:49  - Six Pack Of Champion Virtues course details 

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On our fifth episode of the Six Pack Of Champion Virtues series we combine the last two virtues, How To Mentor The Next Generation & How To Make The World A Better Place. We look at the role older men play in equipping young boys with the right tools to help them navigate life and live in harmony with others. Looking into the state of masculinity, we discuss how demonizing traditional men has led to older men not sharing their story and experiences to the youth.  We also look the language around masculinity and point out how it can lead to negative stereotypes. We highlight the difference between teaching and making men. We end off our conversation by reminding men that in order for us to leave the world in a better state than we found it, we need to give more than we take and we need to find and live our purpose.

My guest Craig Wilkinson is the Founder and CEO of Father A Nation which focuses on equipping men to be brave, fearless role models and fathers who use their strength to love, protect and stand against abuse. .

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Topics we cover on the show:

• 02:32  -Defining what mentoring,
• 06:00  - When unlikely people mentor and support their community,
• 09:05  -  Toxic women on social media adopting false values of masculinity,
• 10:11  - How the traditional man has been demonized in modern society and how the story of men is being forgotten, 
• 12:17 - Young boys turn to the streets for guidance when fathers are not leading and teaching them,
• 13:30  - The language around masculinity being too modernized and confusing to men and women, 
• 16:33  - The problems caused when uninitiated men initiate young boys,
• 20:50  - The difference between teaching and making a man, 
• 25:32  - How peers and people men meet in life enhance or detract from a man's masculinity,
• 28:46  - Men being ashamed to come out and stand behind their manhood to teach and mentor others,  
• 33:30  - Finding our purpose and living it out to affect positive change in the world,
• 35:33  - The portrayal of men in the media and how we can elevate the simple and real everyday people who serve their community,
• 40:42  - Where can men find solace and a place to connect with men like them to help them elevate,

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Father A Nation
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On our fourth segment of the Six Pack Of Champion Virtues series we discuss How To Build Your Band of Brothers. Research shows that men are lonely. They have company, but they lack connection. We easily share a beer with other men but struggle to share our hearts. We start off by discussing how men need to embrace brotherhood and build strong, healthy and accountable relationships with each other. We unpack the 4 keys for Building a Band of Brothers. The first key focuses on how men honour each other by speaking positively into other men's lives. The second key highlights how men need to sharpen each other by having difficult conversations and creating a space for correcting each other and pointing out blind spots. The third and probably most difficult of them all, we look at vulnerability as a strength and not a weakness, and we discuss how men need to create safe spaces to share each others vulnerabilities. Lastly we look at how men stand for each other as true friends who serve each other.

My guest Craig Wilkinson is the Founder and CEO of Father A Nation which focuses on equipping men to be brave, fearless role models and fathers who use their strength to love, protect and stand against abuse. .

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Topics we cover on the show:

• 01:50  - What is a band of brothers,
• 03:19  - The superficial nature of men's groups,
• 04:57  -  The changing role of men in society,
• 05:53  - Having a band of brothers through tough times helps men avoid loneliness and suicidal thoughts,
• 07:44 - How men and women bond,
• 10:06  - Honoring each other as men, 
• 13:20  - Sharpening your brother by highlighting his blind spots,
• 14:54  - Speaking your truth at the expense of losing negative friends, 
• 17:18  - Men avoid being vulnerable, open and honest with each other, 
• 20:31  - The journey of man being reminiscent of Jesus Christ's journey to the mountain,
• 21:40  - Society making it hard for men to stand up for each other and how men can support each other,
• 24:23  - Effects of social media on men and how we portray ourselves with our friends, 
• 25:50  - Allowing for redemption and forgiveness for men who did wrong, 
• 26:37  - Expressing love to each other as men, 
• 28:25  - Reminding men that you are enough as you are and there's no need to pretend,
• 29:19  - The importance of m

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On our third segment of the Six Pack Of Champion Virtues series we discuss How Men Define Themselves By Character. We start off by defining what character means to men and how we can build strong and positive characteristics on our journey to becoming great. We then unpack the 5 keys to being a man of character and take a deep dive into the 4 biggest lies men grow up with.   

My guest Craig Wilkinson is the Founder and CEO of Father A Nation which focuses on equipping men to be brave, fearless role models and fathers who use their strength to love, protect and stand against abuse. . 

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Topics we cover on the show:

• 03:05 - What it means to define yourself by character,
• 05:38  - Being dangerous but good and nice guys finish last, 
• 06:40  - Why men make up stories to make them feel validated and part of "the boys"  
• 08:10  - Great men and celebrities that fell from "grace" because of lack of self control,
• 09:20  - Big boys don't cry and men shutting of their emotions, 
• 11:48  - Men growing up with abuse and hiding behind the shame they feel, 
• 13:53  - Building strong character from the inside out, men need to stop posing and profiling each other,
• 15:02  - Keeping our word and fulfilling our commitments,
• 16:26  - Keep doing the work to improve yourself and those around you,
• 17:33  - Virtue signaling and effects of social media on men and relationships, 
• 19:21  - Speaking and relying on each other as ordinary men to get life lessons, 
• 20:17 - Exercising self control and taking control over your attitude and actions,
• 25:10  - Walking away from difficult situations and putting self control into practice,
• 26:43 -  Highlighting the next segment where we discuss how to build our Band Of Brothers.
• 29:06  - Closing statements, sign up for Six Pack of Champions Virtues Free Course. 

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On our second segment of the Six Pack Of Champion Virtues series we take a more introspective look into How Men Nurture Their Fields. My guest Craig Wilkinson is the Founder and CEO of Father A Nation which focuses on equipping men to be great men, role models and fathers who use their strength to love, protect and stand against abuse.

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Topics we cover on the show:

• 02:23 - Every man has a territory and the 4 most important things every man needs to tend to,
• 04:07  - Taking care of the people in your field and around you, 
• 06:17  - How are we impacting the life of others around us, 
• 08:51  - Take responsibility for the life you brought into this world and form a relationship with your child, 
• 10:39  - Things that stop men from fulfilling their responsibilities,
• 12:48  - Stop blaming, being humble and being aware for your privilege, 
• 15:47  - Why complaining never brings solutions, 
• 17:02  - Every man needs a reason to wake up in the morning and wants their life to count,
• 18:54  - How fear paralyzes men,
• 19:42  - Getting over laziness as a man,
• 22:01  - How validation from a father guides and shapes a mans self worth,
• 24:24  - We need people and mentors who can give us feedback and help shape our knowledge of self,
•  26:44  - How a man's sense of entitlement can lead to a disempowered and weak man full of blaming and complaints. 
• 31:47  - Closing statements, do the research and put in the work to better yourself as a man. 

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We kick off our Six Pack Of Champion Virtues with a deep dive into How Men Use Their Strength to help us harness the power of positive masculinity. My guest Craig Wilkinson is the Founder and CEO of Father A Nation which focuses on equipping men to be great men, role models and fathers who use their strength to love, protect and stand against abuse.

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Topics we cover on the show:

• 01:26 - The foundation of Father A Nation all about and the work they do with men in communities, 
• 04:10 - How single fatherhood has shaped and influenced Craig's life and relationship with his children, 
• 06:53 - How pain affects men and the need for men to be heroes for their family,
• 09:10  - Craig share what being a strong brother means in the context of men being strong, 
• 11:28  - The language men use among each other and how we need to honor instead of rip each other apart,
• 12:48  - Being a hero and standing up against unfair treatment of women and holding men accountable,
• 16:36  - How men fail to use their strength,
• 22:05  - Examples of how men can use their strength for good,
• 24:08  - Man's internal compass and what men value,
• 25:18  - How men show up and prioritize, 
• 27:43  - Being a man of conviction and setting boundaries,
•  29:15 - The pressure that men feel,
• 31:47 - Closing statements, know your strength and being present. 

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