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March 18 Why Pray for Your Marriage Every Day | Marriage Devotional Week 22
Prayer isn't a genie lamp. It's how a couple aligns with God's will and stands firm in spiritual warfare.
About This Episode
Daily prayer is one of the most important habits a married couple can build. In this devotional, we talk about why prayer is non-negotiable for protecting a marriage against trials, temptation, and spiritual warfare. Prayer is not a way to control outcomes or treat God like a genie; it aligns our hearts with His will and draws husband and wife into unity. We walk through the threefold cord of Ecclesiastes 4:12, the story of Elisha praying for his servant's eyes to be opened in 2 Kings 6, and James 5, where Elijah is described as a man with a nature like ours. We also share a testimony of God's provision in Malawi. Whether your prayers are long or short, consistency and a humble heart are what matter most.
About Aaron & Jennifer Smith
Aaron and Jennifer Smith are the founders of Marriage After God and authors of Husband After God, Wife After God, and Marriage After God. Married since 2007 and raising six children in Bend, Oregon, they started Husband Revolution and Unveiled Wife to share what God was teaching them, not from a place of having it figured out, but as fellow travelers pointing couples back to Jesus.
In This Episode
Daily prayer — why it is a non-negotiable foundation for a thriving marriage
Alignment, not control — prayer lines our hearts up with God's will instead of working like a genie
The threefold cord — Ecclesiastes 4:12 and the strength of a marriage bound together with God
Spiritual warfare — Elisha's servant seeing God's armies in 2 Kings 6 and the unseen battles around us
Ordinary people, fervent prayer — Elijah as a man with a nature like ours in James 5
God's provision — our story of help from a South African couple after a truck rollover in Malawi
Consistency over length — why a humble heart matters more than long prayers
Going deeper — using devotionals for study, journaling, and spouse-focused prompts, plus our prayer book The Marriage Gift
Scripture Referenced
Ecclesiastes 4:12
2 Kings 6:15-17
1 John 4:4
James 5:14-18
Romans 12:10-13
Philippians 4:6-7
Resources from This Episode
Husband After God by Aaron Smith (also in our shop)
Wife After God by Jennifer Smith (also in our shop)
The Marriage Gift: 365 Prayers for Our Marriage by Aaron & Jennifer Smith (also in our shop)
Marriage After God by Aaron & Jennifer Smith (also in our shop)
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46 min
March 11 How to Pray for Your Spouse | Marriage Devotional Week 21
Ask "How can I pray for you?" and learn to pray God's will over your spouse instead of trying to change them.
About This Episode
Praying for your spouse is one of the most powerful ways to grow in intimacy and unity. Building on our last episode about praying for yourself, we look at the one-flesh passages in Genesis 2, Mark 10, and Ephesians 5 and the Golden Rule in Luke 6:31, which show that praying for your spouse is also praying for yourself. We share the simple habit of leaning over and asking, "How can I pray for you?" We talk about the awkwardness and vulnerability of praying out loud, including with an unbelieving spouse, and we warn against using prayer to manipulate or belittle. The goal is to pray for God's will in your spouse's life, not to change them into who you want.
About Aaron & Jennifer Smith
Aaron and Jennifer Smith are the founders of Marriage After God and authors of Husband After God, Wife After God, and Marriage After God. Married since 2007 and raising six children in Bend, Oregon, they started Husband Revolution and Unveiled Wife to share what God was teaching them, not from a place of having it figured out, but as fellow travelers pointing couples back to Jesus.
In This Episode
One flesh — why praying for your spouse is also praying for yourself (Genesis 2:24, Mark 10, Ephesians 5)
The Golden Rule — Luke 6:31 applied to how we pray for each other
A simple starting point — leaning over and asking, "How can I pray for you?"
Praying out loud — working through awkwardness and fears of vulnerability
An unbelieving spouse — what 1 Peter says to the spouse praying alone
Guarding your motives — never using prayer to manipulate or belittle your spouse
God's will, not ours — praying for your spouse's growth instead of trying to change them (James 4)
Spiritual warfare — remembering our battle is not against each other (Ephesians 6:12)
Scripture Referenced
Genesis 2:24
Mark 10:6-9
Ephesians 5:28-30
Luke 6:31
1 Peter
James 4:3
Ephesians 6:12
Resources from This Episode
Husband After God by Aaron Smith (also in our shop)
Wife After God by Jennifer Smith (also in our shop)
Marriage After God by Aaron & Jennifer Smith (also in our shop)
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45 min
March 05 How to Build Healthy Marriage Habits with Casey and Meygan Caston
Casey and Meygan Caston nearly divorced in three years. Here are the habits that rebuilt their marriage.
About This Episode
What does it look like to love your spouse biblically? Aaron sits down with Casey and Meygan Caston of Marriage365 to talk about Jesus' two greatest commandments, to love God and love others, and why loving your spouse well is the first and most important place to live them out. The Castons share their story of nearly divorcing within three years and rebuilding over the following years after Meygan spent 13 months working on herself. They walk through ideas from their book The Marriage Habit, including a weekly marriage business meeting and the unsolicited apology, and they talk about how patience and kindness at home shape the emotional health of the whole family.
About Casey and Meygan Caston
Casey and Meygan Caston are the founders of Marriage365, which they started in 2015 and which now reaches more than two million couples each month. They are the authors of The Marriage Habit: 10 Simple Practices to Build a More Intentional, Thriving Relationship (Convergent, 2026). Married more than 20 years, they nearly divorced within their first three years, and with twelve failed marriages between their parents they had no healthy models growing up. Their own story of rebuilding now fuels their mission to help couples build Christ-centered marriages that overflow into strong families.
In This Episode
The greatest commandments — why loving your spouse is your first opportunity to love others (Matthew 22:37–39)
Their story — nearly divorcing within three years and rebuilding after Meygan spent 13 months working on herself
Breaking the pattern — growing up with twelve failed marriages between their parents
The weekly marriage business meeting — 30 to 60 minutes on schedules, budget, self-care, connection, and intimacy
Unsolicited apologies — acknowledging, validating, taking ownership, and asking how to rebuild trust
Love at home — how patience and kindness shape the emotional health of your family
Kids are watching — children learn what love looks like from their parents' relationship
The church and marriage — why couples need more ongoing marriage equipping
Scripture Referenced
Matthew 22:37–39
Matthew 5:23–24
1 Corinthians 13:4–7
John 13:35
Resources from This Episode
Marriage365 Website
The Marriage Habit by Casey and Meygan Caston
The Marriage Habit at marriage365books.com
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50 min
March 04 Why Praying for Yourself Matters | Marriage Devotional Week 20
Praying for yourself isn't selfish. Like a plane's oxygen mask, you need God first before helping others.
About This Episode
Is it selfish to pray for yourself? In this devotional, we make the case that personal prayer is vital, because we need God and His word even more than food and water (Acts 17:28). Neglecting prayer is like holding our breath. Using the airplane oxygen-mask picture, we look at Jesus, who repeatedly withdrew to desolate places to pray, even while grieving John the Baptist before feeding the 5,000. We talk about praying without ceasing, the Holy Spirit interceding for us with groanings, and approaching God's throne boldly. We also share practical ways to pray, like journaling, a prayer closet, and praying during hobbies, and we each open up about our own prayer requests.
About Aaron & Jennifer Smith
Aaron and Jennifer Smith are the founders of Marriage After God and authors of Husband After God, Wife After God, and Marriage After God. Married since 2007 and raising six children in Bend, Oregon, they started Husband Revolution and Unveiled Wife to share what God was teaching them, not from a place of having it figured out, but as fellow travelers pointing couples back to Jesus.
In This Episode
Not selfish — why praying for yourself matters as much as praying for others
Spiritually starved — why we need God and His word more than food and water (Acts 17:28)
The oxygen mask — securing your own walk with God before helping others
Jesus' example — withdrawing to pray, even while grieving John the Baptist before feeding the 5,000
Pray without ceasing — what 1 Thessalonians 5:17 looks like in everyday life
The Spirit's help — the Holy Spirit interceding for us with groanings (Romans 8:26)
Boldness before God — approaching His throne with confidence (Hebrews 4)
Practical habits — journaling, a prayer closet, and praying during hobbies like crocheting and painting
Honest requests — our own prayers around intimacy, fatherhood, and anxiety
Scripture Referenced
Acts 17:28
Job 23:12
1 Thessalonians 5:17
Hebrews 4:14-16
Hebrews 5:7-8
Matthew 14:13-23
Romans 8:26-27
Galatians 4:9
Resources from This Episode
Husband After God by Aaron Smith (also in our shop)
Wife After God by Jennifer Smith (also in our shop)
Marriage After God by Aaron & Jennifer Smith (also in our shop)
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Full show notes and blog post
Connect with Marriage After God
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51 min
February 25 Living with Purpose in Your Marriage | Marriage Devotional Week 19
No one is too unqualified for God's calling. The two callings every believer and every marriage share.
About This Episode
Every believer and every marriage has a calling from God. In this devotional, we unpack what it means to be called: to have purpose, to belong, and to be called out, just as Jesus called His disciples. From 1 Corinthians 1:26-29 and Ephesians 2:10, we see that God uses the weak, foolish, and lowly right where they are, because we are His workmanship. We talk about two core callings for every Christian, to be holy and set apart and to love God and others, and we warn against quenching the Spirit through pride. Through Moses, David, and the man freed from demons in Mark 5, we show that no one is too unqualified for God to use.
About Aaron & Jennifer Smith
Aaron and Jennifer Smith are the founders of Marriage After God and authors of Husband After God, Wife After God, and Marriage After God. Married since 2007 and raising six children in Bend, Oregon, they started Husband Revolution and Unveiled Wife to share what God was teaching them, not from a place of having it figured out, but as fellow travelers pointing couples back to Jesus.
In This Episode
What calling means — purpose, belonging, and being called out, like Jesus' disciples
God uses the weak — 1 Corinthians 1:26-29 and why your background doesn't disqualify you
His workmanship — Ephesians 2:10 and the purpose God prepared for us
Called to be holy — living set apart as 1 Peter describes
Called to love — loving God and others (Matthew 22)
Don't quench the Spirit — how pride resists God's direction (1 Thessalonians 5)
Unlikely people God used — Moses, David, and the man in Mark 5 sent to tell how much the Lord had done for him
Callings in marriage — provider, helper, one flesh, and raising children
Scripture Referenced
1 Corinthians 1:26-29
Ephesians 2:10
1 Peter 1-2
Psalm 4:3
Matthew 22
1 Thessalonians 5
Philippians 1:6
Romans 12:2
Mark 5
Genesis 2:24
Deuteronomy 6:6-7
Ephesians 6:4
Callings for husbands: 1 Timothy 5:8, Psalm 1:1-6, Ephesians 5:23, 1 Peter 3:7, Colossians 3:19
Callings for wives: Genesis 2:18, Ephesians 5:33, 1 Peter 3:3-4, Titus 2:3-5
Resources from This Episode
Husband After God by Aaron Smith (also in our shop)
Wife After God by Jennifer Smith (also in our shop)
Marriage After God by Aaron & Jennifer Smith (also in our shop)
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Connect with Marriage After God
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40 min
February 18 How to Build a Resilient Marriage | Marriage Devotional Week 18
Every marriage faces trials. How faith in Christ and encouraging words help couples get back up.
About This Episode
Every marriage will face trials, so how do couples get back up? In this devotional, we define resilience as the ability to recover, and we remind each other that we are finite people who can't control everything. Jesus told us we would have tribulation, but to take heart because He has overcome the world. We lean on 2 Corinthians 4, Romans 8, and 2 Peter 1:3 to fight the lies of weakness and failure with God's word. In the second half, we talk about the power of words, how a simple "you can" or "you can't" shapes outcomes, and why encouraging your spouse is a real weapon against discouragement.
About Aaron & Jennifer Smith
Aaron and Jennifer Smith are the founders of Marriage After God and authors of Husband After God, Wife After God, and Marriage After God. Married since 2007 and raising six children in Bend, Oregon, they started Husband Revolution and Unveiled Wife to share what God was teaching them, not from a place of having it figured out, but as fellow travelers pointing couples back to Jesus.
In This Episode
What resilience is — the ability to recover and get back up
Trials are certain — Jesus' warning of tribulation and His victory over the world (John 16:33)
Afflicted but not crushed — finding endurance in 2 Corinthians 4
Perspective in suffering — Romans 8 and the glory to come
You lack nothing in Christ — fighting lies of weakness with 2 Peter 1:3
The power of words — how "you can" versus "you can't" shapes your spouse
Holding up each other's arms — supporting your spouse the way Moses' arms were lifted
Encouragement as a weapon — countering discouragement in hard seasons
Scripture Referenced
John 16:33
Hebrews 4:15
2 Corinthians 4
Romans 8
Ephesians 4:14-16
2 Peter 1:3
Resources from This Episode
Husband After God by Aaron Smith (also in our shop)
Wife After God by Jennifer Smith (also in our shop)
Marriage After God by Aaron & Jennifer Smith (also in our shop)
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Connect with Marriage After God
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40 min
February 11 Godly Wisdom That Strengthens Your Marriage | Marriage Devotional Week 17
Foolishness is knowing the truth yet not acting on it. How godly wisdom builds trust, peace, and intimacy.
About This Episode
Wisdom is something every couple wants, but it is more than knowing what is right. In this devotional, we look at wisdom personified in Proverbs 8 and at Job 28, where God declares that the fear of the Lord is wisdom. Foolishness is knowing the truth yet not acting on it, and we see that in Eve's choice in the garden. We talk about being doers of the word and not hearers only, the difference between worldly wisdom and the wisdom from above in James 3, and asking God for wisdom as Solomon did. Then we share the fruit that walking in wisdom brings to a marriage, from trust and financial freedom to deeper intimacy.
About Aaron & Jennifer Smith
Aaron and Jennifer Smith are the founders of Marriage After God and authors of Husband After God, Wife After God, and Marriage After God. Married since 2007 and raising six children in Bend, Oregon, they started Husband Revolution and Unveiled Wife to share what God was teaching them, not from a place of having it figured out, but as fellow travelers pointing couples back to Jesus.
In This Episode
Wisdom before creation — how Proverbs 8 personifies wisdom as present with God from the beginning
The fear of the Lord — where true wisdom begins (Job 28)
Knowing vs. doing — why foolishness is knowing the truth yet not acting on it, as Eve's story shows
Doers of the word — James 1:22-25 and the danger of hearing without applying
Worldly vs. godly wisdom — James 3 on selfish ambition versus wisdom that is pure and peaceable
Ask God — James 1:5 and Solomon's request for wisdom
A house built by wisdom — Proverbs 24:3-4 and leading your family well
Fruit in marriage — trust, financial freedom, physical health, emotional stability, and deeper intimacy
Scripture Referenced
Proverbs 8
Job 28:23-28
James 1:22-25
James 4:17
1 Corinthians 1:26-31
Proverbs 2:6-8
Proverbs 3:13
James 1:5
Proverbs 24:3-4
James 3:13-18
Resources from This Episode
Husband After God by Aaron Smith (also in our shop)
Wife After God by Jennifer Smith (also in our shop)
Marriage After God by Aaron & Jennifer Smith (also in our shop)
Shop Marriage After God
Full show notes and blog post
Connect with Marriage After God
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45 min
February 04 Biblical Roles in Marriage: Ephesians 5 | Marriage Devotional Week 16
Marriage is an earthly symbol of a heavenly truth. What Ephesians 5 really asks of husbands and wives.
About This Episode
God clearly defines the roles of husbands and wives, and living them out makes marriage a picture of the gospel. In this devotional, we walk through Ephesians 5:22-33: husbands are called to love their wives sacrificially as Christ loved the church, and wives are called to respect and submit to their own husbands. Neither role depends on the other spouse doing theirs first. We define love through 1 Corinthians 13 as a daily choice, not a feeling, and we ground submission in Jesus' own submission to the Father in Gethsemane. We also clarify common misunderstandings, talk about 1 Peter 3, and share the security, peace, and intimacy that come from following God's design.
About Aaron & Jennifer Smith
Aaron and Jennifer Smith are the founders of Marriage After God and authors of Husband After God, Wife After God, and Marriage After God. Married since 2007 and raising six children in Bend, Oregon, they started Husband Revolution and Unveiled Wife to share what God was teaching them, not from a place of having it figured out, but as fellow travelers pointing couples back to Jesus.
In This Episode
God's design — the roles of husbands and wives in Ephesians 5:22-33
Not contingent — why neither spouse waits for the other to obey first
Love as action — 1 Corinthians 13 rewritten as a husband's daily choices
Sacrificial love — husbands loving their wives as Christ loved the church
Submission modeled by Jesus — Christ's surrender to the Father in Gethsemane (Luke 22:44) and God's order in 1 Corinthians 11:3
Only your own husband — clarifying that wives are not called to submit to all men
Winning without words — 1 Peter 3 and a wife's pure conduct
Don't be a stumbling block — practical ways to help your spouse live out their role
The fruit — security, less conflict, and deeper intimacy
Scripture Referenced
Ephesians 5:22-33
1 John 4:7-12
1 Corinthians 13
Luke 22:44
1 Corinthians 11:3
1 Peter 3
Resources from This Episode
Husband After God by Aaron Smith (also in our shop)
Wife After God by Jennifer Smith (also in our shop)
Marriage After God by Aaron & Jennifer Smith (also in our shop)
Shop Marriage After God
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Connect with Marriage After God
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1 hr 1 min
January 29 Mismatched Sex Drives in Marriage: How to Talk About It with J. Parker
"Stop saying I want sex. Say, I want you." J. Parker on mismatched desire and talking openly about intimacy.
About This Episode
Sex is one of the hardest topics for many couples to talk about. Aaron sits down with J. Parker, who began writing anonymously about sexual intimacy in Christian marriage after seeing how few safe, honest resources existed for couples with mismatched sex drives. They talk about why the church often stays silent on sex, leaving couples alone and chasing the world's counterfeit answers. J. explains responsive and spontaneous desire, why values should lead feelings, and how to approach mismatched desire, including the marriages where the wife wants sex more, as teammates. They also discuss the harm of pornography-shaped expectations and why both spouses ultimately want to be wanted.
About J. Parker
J. Parker is a Christian author, speaker, blogger, and podcaster who has ministered to married couples on sexual intimacy for more than 15 years. She founded the Hot, Holy & Humorous blog in 2010, co-hosts the Sex Chat for Christian Wives podcast, and has written six books on marital intimacy, including The Higher Desire Wife (Baker Books, 2025). She holds a B.A. in history from Abilene Christian University and an M.A. in counseling from the University of Houston, and she has been married for more than 30 years.
In This Episode
Breaking the silence — why the church rarely talks about sex and what couples lose when it doesn't
Writing anonymously — how J. started writing about sexual intimacy in Christian marriage
Responsive vs. spontaneous desire — understanding how desire can work differently for each spouse
Values lead feelings — choosing to try for ten minutes instead of a flat no
The higher desire wife — the roughly 20 to 25 percent of marriages where the wife wants sex more
A "we problem" — approaching mismatched desire as teammates, rooted in the biblical idea of sex as knowing each other
Pornography and expectations — why an apology can begin to heal
I want you — why both spouses ultimately want to be wanted
Humor and honesty — breaking the shame and taboo around intimacy conversations
Scripture Referenced
1 Corinthians 7:3-5
Resources from This Episode
The Higher Desire Wife by J. Parker
Hot, Holy & Humorous (J. Parker's blog)
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1 hr 2 min
January 28 How to Handle Anger and Fear in Marriage | Marriage Devotional Week 15
A fool gives full vent to his spirit. How to stop anger and fear from leading your marriage.
About This Episode
Anger and fear are part of how God designed us, but when they go unchecked they can take control of our homes and damage our marriages. In this devotional, we get honest about our own struggles: Aaron with anger, especially when he feels disrespected, and Jennifer with fear and anxiety. We talk about how fear in one spouse can trigger anger in the other and disrupt communication. We look at how God is both righteous in His anger and slow to anger and rich in mercy, and at Scripture's call to self-control. We also discuss when anger can be rightly directed at sin and injustice, and how 2 Timothy 1:7 answers our fears.
About Aaron & Jennifer Smith
Aaron and Jennifer Smith are the founders of Marriage After God and authors of Husband After God, Wife After God, and Marriage After God. Married since 2007 and raising six children in Bend, Oregon, they started Husband Revolution and Unveiled Wife to share what God was teaching them, not from a place of having it figured out, but as fellow travelers pointing couples back to Jesus.
In This Episode
Emotions by design — anger and fear were created for good but become destructive when unchecked
Honest confessions — Aaron's struggle with anger and Jennifer's with fear and anxiety
Disrespect as a trigger — why feeling disrespected can spark anger
How fear fuels anger — the way one spouse's fear can trigger the other's anger and disrupt communication
God's example — righteous anger paired with mercy, slow to anger
Self-control — Ephesians 4:26, Proverbs 29:11, and James 1:19-20
Rightly directed anger — being angry at sin and injustice instead of at each other
Freedom from fear — 2 Timothy 1:7 and a spirit of power, love, and self-control
Know your triggers — recognizing emotional triggers so you can respond instead of react
Scripture Referenced
Psalm 7:11
Nahum 1:6
Romans 1:18
Nahum 1:3
Psalm 30:5
Psalm 145:8
John 3:36
Ephesians 4:26
Proverbs 29:11
Proverbs 14:29
Proverbs 19:11
James 1:19-20
Ephesians 4:31-32
Colossians 3:8
Psalm 37:8
2 Timothy 1:7
Romans 8:1
Isaiah 41:10
Proverbs 1:7
Resources from This Episode
Husband After God by Aaron Smith (also in our shop)
Wife After God by Jennifer Smith (also in our shop)
Marriage After God by Aaron & Jennifer Smith (also in our shop)
Shop Marriage After God
Full show notes and blog post
Connect with Marriage After God
Website: marriageaftergod.com
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Follow Aaron and Jennifer: Husband Revolution · Unveiled Wife
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1 hr