A healthy marriages requires two people who are committed to their own physical, mental, and spiritual health and are committed to their spouse's health as well. In this video, Dave and Ashley unpack the ups and downs of their own health journeys, and share some timeless wisdom from the Bible plus modern research to outline a practical strategy for health in marriage. This is part 4 of a 7 part series based on the book "Do Marriage Better" by Dave and Ashley Willis which is available as a paperback, ebook, and audiobook on Amazon. These videos are designed for individual use and also as a curriculum for small groups.

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Welcome to Part 3 of the series based on the book, "Do Marriage Better", by Dave and Ashley Willis. In this session, the Willises will unpack some hard-learned lessons about one of the biggest potential causes of stress in marriage...MONEY. When two spouses can get on the same page with their finances and financial goals, the marriage can soar to new heights.

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This is the second in a 7-part series based on Dave and Ashley's book "Do Marriage Better." This series can be used by individual couples or in small group settings. All of these videos are designed to help married couples (or those preparing for marriage) to build stronger relationships.

This second episode we focus on the topic of having a healthier sex life in your marriage.

Grab the book "Do Marriage Better" HERE

Check out the video version of this episode & more on Dave & Ashley's youtube page - @daveashleywillis

This is the first in a 7-part series based on Dave and Ashley's book "Do Marriage Better." This series can be used by individual couples or in small group settings. All of these videos are designed to help married couples (or those preparing for marriage) to build stronger relationships.

This first video will focus on building stronger communication habits which is foundational in every healthy relationship. You'll learn some common communication pitfalls that can trip up couples plus the tips, tools, and habits you'll need to develop to make sure communication stays strong through every season of your marriage.

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

1. What is the biggest hurdle we're facing to healthy communication right now?
2. Was there a time in our marriage when we were communicating better than we are right now?
3. If so, what were we doing then that we're not doing now?
4. In what setting (location, time of day) do you believe we have our healthiest communication?

Grab the book "Do Marriage Better" HERE

Check out the video version of this episode & more on Dave & Ashley's youtube page - @daveashleywillis

Join us for a heartfelt discussion on navigating the grieving process of infertility with our friends Kate and JJ Tomlin, who bring both wisdom and warmth to this sensitive topic. As we reminisce about the joys of friendship and parenting, we dive deep into the emotional challenges that come with losing a child, sharing personal experiences and insights that resonate with many. The Tomlins emphasize the importance of allowing space for grief while also holding onto hope, reminding us that God’s goodness remains steadfast even in the hardest moments. With humor and authenticity, we also explore the intricacies of marriage, communication, and the value of vulnerability in relationships. This final episode of Season One is not just about grief; it's about finding light in dark times and supporting one another through life's toughest challenges.

We are currently between seasons and aren't taking any more call-ins at this time.

In This Episode:

• The grieving process of infertility is often overlooked, yet it is crucial to address.
• Finding a balance between grief and hope is essential, especially after miscarriages.
• Establishing boundaries with in-laws can protect mental health and strengthen marriages.
• It's vital to take individual responsibility in marriage and not blame your spouse.
• Learning to communicate needs and emotions is key to a healthy relationship.
• The journey of parenthood can be challenging but also deeply rewarding, full of growth.

Show Notes:

Wrapping up the first season of Marriage on the Line, this episode features a deep dive into the often-taboo subject of infertility with guests Kate and JJ Tomlin. The hosts bring warmth and humor to the table, recounting their personal experiences with the Tomlins, which sets a relatable backdrop for the more serious discussions ahead. The episode explores the grieving process associated with infertility, where Kate and JJ share their heart-wrenching journey through two miscarriages. Their openness offers a rare glimpse into the emotional complexities of this struggle, emphasizing that even those who have experienced parenthood can face profound grief when dealing with loss.

Throughout the episode, the Tomlins share invaluable insights on the importance of communication in relationships, particularly during challenging times. They discuss how each partner may cope differently with grief, underlining the necessity of creating a supportive environment where both parties can express their feelings. Furthermore, they touch on the themes of patience and gratitude, encouraging listeners to find hope amidst their pain. The episode serves as a powerful testament to love’s resilience, showcasing how couples can grow closer through shared trials and the importance of cherishing every moment, even the painful ones. As they conclude, listeners are left with a sense of hope and community, encouraged to reach out and connect with others who share similar experiences.

Links referenced in this episode:

• heartofdating.com
• ashleywillis.net
• contentbuilders.co
• daveandashley.com
• @daveandashleywillis
• @marriageonthelinepodcast
• Extreme Ownership Book

Dave and Ashley dive into the joys and challenges of Christmas traditions with their friends Caleb and Stefanie Rouse. The conversation highlights how Christmas can amplify both the happiness and stress in relationships, especially when it comes to navigating in-law dynamics and unmet expectations. Caleb and Stefanie share their own experiences of creating meaningful traditions as a couple while balancing family commitments. They emphasize the importance of setting boundaries to protect their time together, which helps them savor the holiday spirit. With playful anecdotes and heartfelt insights, they inspire listeners to embrace the season with gratitude and intentionality, reminding us that the true gift of Christmas lies in connection and presence with loved ones.

We are currently between seasons and aren't taking any more call-ins at this time.

In This Episode:

• Christmas can amplify both joy and stress, so it's crucial to create personal boundaries.
• Setting aside time for just each other during the holidays is vital for marital joy.
• Finding shared interests and creating new traditions can strengthen your relationship during Christmas.
• It's important to manage unmet expectations during the holiday season to avoid disappointment.
• Practicing gratitude for your spouse can significantly enhance your marriage, especially during challenging times.
• Being intentional about your thought life and focusing on the positive aspects of your partner is essential.

Show Notes:

The holiday season often brings both joy and stress, especially for married couples navigating family traditions and expectations. In this engaging discussion, Dave and Ashley invite Caleb and Stefanie Rouse to share their experiences with Christmas and how it impacts their relationship as well as their families. They dive into the dual nature of Christmas — as a time of joy and celebration, but also as a period that can amplify underlying tensions and unmet expectations in family dynamics. The Rouses discuss their cherished traditions, such as cutting down their own Christmas tree and creating new rituals that blend their families’ customs, illustrating the importance of establishing boundaries to ensure quality time together amidst the hustle and bustle of the holiday season.

Stefanie emphasizes the need to let go of perfectionism during the holidays, advocating for a focus on gratitude and presence rather than getting caught up in the chaos. The conversation touches on the significance of creating personal traditions and how couples can work together to find shared interests that deepen their connection. Caleb shares his reflections on missing his family during the holidays, which adds a layer of emotional depth to their story. The episode resonates with listeners who can relate to the challenges and joys of navigating holiday expectations, making it a timely and relevant exploration of marriage during the festive season.

Links referenced in this episode:

• @daveandashleywillis
• @marriageonthelinepodcast
• daveandashley.com
• stefanieandkaleb.com

Sarah, a newlywed, poses a heartfelt question about navigating intimacy in her first year of marriage, especially after saving herself for marriage while her husband did not. She shares the challenges she faces due to her mental and physical health struggles, including a recent diagnosis of PCOS, which complicates their sexual relationship. Dave and Ashley Willis acknowledge the importance of communication, grace, and understanding in building intimacy, emphasizing that a fulfilling sex life takes time and is not always perfect. They highlight that intimacy is built through various forms of connection outside the bedroom, and they encourage Sarah to embrace the journey rather than succumb to societal pressures. The conversation also touches on the significance of prayer in their relationship and offers practical resources for couples navigating similar challenges, reminding listeners that they are not alone in these struggles.

In This Episode:

• The transition into married intimacy can be challenging, especially after waiting until marriage.
• Communication is crucial in navigating sexual intimacy, especially when facing health issues.
• It's important to give yourself grace as you and your partner learn together.
• Mental and physical health struggles can significantly impact intimacy, requiring ongoing conversations.
• Social media portrays unrealistic expectations for sexual relationships, emphasizing the need for open dialogue.
• Finding joy and creativity in intimacy can strengthen your bond as a couple.

Show Notes:

Navigating the complexities of intimacy in marriage can feel daunting, especially for newlyweds like Sarah, who reached out with a heartfelt question about her sexual relationship with her husband. After a year of marriage, Sarah, who saved herself for marriage, finds herself grappling with intimacy, feeling pressure due to her upbringing and societal expectations. During this episode, Ashley and Dave Willis offer insights into the challenges many couples face when transitioning from dating to marriage, particularly regarding sex. They discuss how the expectations surrounding intimacy can often lead to feelings of inadequacy and confusion, especially when one partner has a different sexual history. The couple emphasizes the importance of communication, grace, and understanding in the process of building a fulfilling sexual relationship. They encourage Sarah to view intimacy not just as a physical act but as an emotional and spiritual connection, which can deepen over time.

The Willis' dives into practical advice, such as the significance of creating a comfortable environment for intimacy and the need for couples to explore various forms of connection beyond intercourse. They remind listeners that intimacy can be playful and does not always have to culminate in sex, promoting a mindset that values the journey of discovery between partners. Through their candid conversation, they acknowledge the impact of personal health issues, like Sarah's struggles with PCOS, on libido and overall intimacy, asserting that such challenges can be tackled together. As they share their personal experiences, they highlight the importance of patience and perseverance in cultivating a healthy sex life, ultimately framing these struggles as opportunities for growth and deeper connection within the marriage.

Links referenced in this episode:

• @daveandashleywillis
• @marriageonthelinepodcast
• daveandashley.com
• themarriagebed.com

Grace, a devoted wife and mother, shares her heartfelt struggle with wanting her husband to engage more actively in their marriage and take on a spiritual leadership role. Despite their commitment to growth after attending a marriage conference, she feels isolated in her pursuit of unity, as her husband seems preoccupied with work and life’s demands. Dave and Ashley dive deep into the complexities of this dynamic, discussing the importance of recognizing different postures within a marriage and how one partner's efforts can sometimes feel unreciprocated. They offer practical advice on fostering appreciation and gratitude, emphasizing that praising positive behaviors can encourage a spouse to join in the pursuit of a deeper connection. Join us as we explore how to navigate these challenges with love, patience, and a touch of humor, reminding ourselves that growth in marriage often requires grace from both partners.

We are currently between seasons and aren't taking any more call-ins at this time.

In This Episode:

• Communication is key in a marriage; expressing your needs can foster connection.
• Recognizing the different postures in marriage can help navigate feelings of isolation.
• Praising your partner for positive behaviors encourages them to engage more with you.
• Finding small moments to connect, even in a busy schedule, is crucial for intimacy.
• It's important to appreciate your spouse's efforts, even if they seem minimal to you.
• Spiritual growth often requires one partner to take the lead and initiate conversations.

Show Notes:

Grace’s call to the podcast opens a window into the often-overlooked challenges of maintaining spiritual unity in marriage. As a mother striving to cultivate a deeper connection with her husband, she articulates her feelings of isolation in their spiritual journey. This episode shines a light on the realities many couples face as they juggle work, parenting, and the desire for a more profound spiritual relationship. Dave and Ashley provide a compassionate response, recognizing the complexities of Grace’s situation and the societal pressures that often place a burden on one partner to lead spiritually.

The hosts delve into the critical role of encouragement in a marriage, suggesting that gratitude and acknowledgment of each other’s efforts can significantly impact the relationship dynamic. They discuss how Grace can foster a more supportive environment by praising her husband's contributions, however small, to spiritual growth. This approach not only fosters positivity but can also motivate her husband to engage more actively in their spiritual life together. The conversation emphasizes the importance of communication, urging couples to set aside intentional time to connect amidst their busy lives, particularly with young children.

Additionally, the episode addresses the unique struggles of parenting and how it can strain marital relationships. Dave and Ashley remind listeners that the early years of raising children are often the most challenging, requiring both partners to be intentional about nurturing their bond. They encourage Grace to explore creative ways to engage her husband in spiritual practices, such as short prayers or shared reflections, emphasizing that spiritual leadership is a shared responsibility. Ultimately, the episode serves as a poignant reminder that while the journey of spiritual growth can be fraught with challenges, it is navigable through love, intentionality, and open communication.

Links referenced in this episode:

• Living in the Love Seat Talk
• @daveandashleywillis
• @marriageonthelinepodcast
• Ask Dave And Ashley Your Question
• daveandashley.com

Recovering from an affair and navigating the complexities of remarriage can feel like an uphill battle, as Megan shares in her heartfelt call to Dave and Ashley. They discuss the emotional turmoil that follows infidelity, the feelings of shame, and the struggle to rebuild trust in a new relationship. Megan's journey highlights the challenges of co-parenting and managing relationships with ex-spouses while trying to create a blended family. Throughout the conversation, Dave and Ashley emphasize the importance of forgiveness—both from oneself and from others—as a pathway to healing. Despite past mistakes, there is hope for a beautiful future filled with grace and redemption.

We are currently between seasons and aren't taking any more call-ins at this time.

In This Episode:

• Infidelity often leads to feelings of shame, but it's essential to remember that God offers forgiveness and hope for restoration.
• Recovering from infidelity involves not only healing individually but also learning to co-parent effectively and compassionately with an ex-spouse.
• Forgiving yourself is a critical step in moving forward and embracing the new life you have created after divorce.
• It's important to grieve the loss of your previous marriage while also embracing the growth in your new relationship with your spouse.
• Engaging with a supportive community, like a church or small group, can provide strength and encouragement during difficult times.
• Seeking counseling can help navigate the complexities of blended families and personal healing after infidelity.

Show Notes:

Megan's call to Dave and Ashley brings forth a raw and honest exploration of the challenges faced after experiencing infidelity and embarking on the path to remarriage. The episode begins with Megan recounting her struggles post-divorce, where feelings of isolation and shame lingered after her choices led to the dissolution of her first marriage. The hosts commend her courage in sharing such a vulnerable story and emphasize the importance of self-forgiveness as a critical step in healing. They guide her through the complexities of her emotions, suggesting that while she must acknowledge her past, it should not define her future. The discussion highlights the necessity of establishing boundaries to protect oneself from repeating past mistakes, and the importance of leaning into one’s faith during tumultuous times.

The conversation delves into the intricacies of blended family dynamics, a topic that resonates deeply with many listeners navigating similar situations. Megan expresses her concerns about co-parenting with her ex-husband, especially now that he has remarried. Dave and Ashley offer practical advice on how to navigate these new relationships with respect and understanding. They stress the value of maintaining open lines of communication and the need for patience as everyone adjusts to the new family dynamics. The hosts provide Megan with reassurance that struggles are a natural part of the process, and that it’s crucial to prioritize the emotional well-being of the children involved. This perspective not only helps Megan but also serves as a vital reminder to listeners that co-parenting can be a complex journey filled with both challenges and opportunities for growth.

Towards the end of the episode, the hosts focus on the theme of hope and renewal. They encourage Megan to embrace her new marriage and the potential for happiness that lies ahead. Through heartfelt dialogue, they highlight that God’s grace can transform even the most difficult situations into sources of strength and beauty. The episode culminates in a powerful reminder that, despite the shadows of past mistakes, there is always a chance for a brighter future. Megan’s story, intertwined with the wisdom shared by Dave and Ashley, resonates with anyone grappling with guilt, regret, and the desire for redemption, making it a compelling and uplifting listen.

Links referenced in this episode:

• Ashley's Counseling: ashleywillis.net
• Blended Kingdom Families: blendedkingdomfamilies.com
• @daveandashleywillis
• @marriageonthelinepodcast
• Ask Dave And Ashley Your Question
• daveandashley.com

A listener named Bella reached out with a heartfelt question about how to navigate the delicate topic of sharing her and her husband's journey through infidelity, three years after they have healed. While Bella feels ready to open up and help others by sharing their story, her husband remains hesitant, leading to a conflict of interests. In this episode, Dave and Ashley explore the importance of sharing personal testimonies as a way to offer hope and healing to others, while also emphasizing the need to honor each partner's comfort level. The hosts provide practical advice on how Bella can approach her husband about this sensitive subject, ensuring that both of their feelings are respected. Through their discussion, they highlight the transformative power of vulnerability and communication in rebuilding trust after difficult times.

We are currently between seasons and aren't taking any more call-ins at this time.

In This Episode:

• Healing from infidelity can lead to a stronger marriage if both partners are committed.
• It’s essential to communicate openly with your spouse about sharing your healing journey.
• Sharing personal stories of overcoming struggles can empower and give hope to others.
• Navigating the decision to share your story requires respect for each other's comfort levels.
• Establishing healthy boundaries is crucial for rebuilding trust after an emotional affair.
• Encouragement and support from friends or a community can aid in healing and growth.

Show Notes:

Every relationship faces challenges, but how couples navigate those hurdles can define their journey together. In this episode, Bella shares her poignant story of resilience after her husband’s emotional affair. With a decade of marriage behind them, Bella and her husband encountered their most significant challenge yet. The emotional turmoil that followed was a test of their commitment and trust. Fortunately, through counseling and participation in a supportive couples group, they managed to emerge stronger, learning valuable lessons about communication and forgiveness. Bella expresses her desire to share their experience publicly, feeling that it could provide hope to others in similar situations. Yet, she is met with resistance from her husband, who is more reserved about divulging their painful past, especially since the affair involved a mutual acquaintance. This dynamic adds complexity to their healing process, pushing them to confront their differing approaches to openness and vulnerability.

Throughout the episode, hosts Dave and Ashley offer insights into the significance of sharing personal stories as a means to foster connection and healing. They underscore the importance of honoring each other's feelings and perspectives, encouraging Bella to have an open dialogue with her husband about their comfort levels regarding public sharing. The conversation navigates the fine line between wanting to help others and the need to protect the integrity of their marriage. Bella’s journey reflects the broader theme of how couples can transform their darkest moments into powerful testimonies that resonate with others who may be struggling. By discussing their story, they not only help themselves heal but also provide encouragement to those who may feel isolated in their pain.

As the episode concludes, a heartfelt prayer is offered for Bella and her husband, reinforcing the idea that healing is a shared journey that requires patience, understanding, and love. The hosts encourage listeners to take away valuable lessons about communication and trust, reminding them that every couple can find strength in vulnerability and that sharing their stories can lead to profound healing.

Links referenced in this episode:

• @daveandashleywillis
• @marriageonthelinepodcast
• Ask Dave And Ashley Your Question
• daveandashley.com