The grass is not greener in someone else’s marriage. It is green where you water it. We have learned that firsthand. There have been seasons where our marriage felt easy, connected, and full and other seasons where things felt off, not because love disappeared, but because we stopped being intentional. Most couples do not have a love problem. They have an attention problem. When something feels dry, it usually just means an area has not been nurtured.

Over time, we have realized that strong marriages are built on six kinds of passion. Sexual. Fun. Emotional. Purpose. Growth. Spiritual. When these layers are healthy and working together, a marriage feels hot, joyful, deep, united, growing, and spiritually anchored. When even one is neglected, you can feel the shift.

Sexual passion keeps the spark and exclusivity alive. Fun passion keeps you laughing and enjoying each other. Emotional passion creates safety and vulnerability. Purpose passion unites you around shared direction. Growth passion pushes you to become better together. Spiritual passion keeps everything centered and sacred. Each one plays a critical role. Sexual keeps your marriage exclusive. Fun keeps it light. Emotional keeps it secure. Purpose keeps it aligned. Growth keeps it progressing. Spiritual intimacy protects them all.

If your marriage feels off, do not panic, evaluate. Ask yourselves which area needs more water right now. Not with criticism, but with curiosity and commitment. Thriving marriages are not built overnight. They are built through small, faithful investments over time. Start watering intentionally this week, and watch what begins to grow.

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What if the key to transforming your marriage isn’t more time, but clearer priorities?

In this episode, Nick and Amy are joined by therapist Austin to discuss one foundational truth: your marriage should be your priority. Not work. Not kids. Not phones. The marriage.

Austin explains that many couples enter therapy focused on surface problems or looking for a “bad guy.” But when couples strengthen their emotional, physical, and spiritual bond, many issues naturally improve. When the relationship is healthy, everything else such as parenting, careers, stress functions better.

It’s Not About Time, It’s About Intention

Prioritizing your spouse doesn’t require hours each day. It’s often small, consistent actions:

• A thoughtful text
• Planning intimacy before a busy day
• Protecting date night
• Choosing your spouse over your phone

These simple efforts say, You matter to me.

When a spouse feels prioritized, connection can rebuild quickly.

The Distraction Problem

Most couples live in “urgent but not important” mode — constantly reacting to notifications, emails, and distractions while neglecting what matters most.

If your marriage is truly the priority, it should go on the calendar first — not last.

A weekly “couples council” can help you stay aligned: express appreciation, review schedules, and intentionally plan time together before filling your week with everything else.

A Covenant Mindset

Marriage isn’t just a commitment — it’s a covenant. When you drift, repair isn’t about blame. It’s about course-correcting and saying, You matter most. I’m all in.

A strong, intimate, playful marriage isn’t complicated.
 It’s intentional.

If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!

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Is it just us… or is everyone exhausted?

In this honest and relatable episode of The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, Nick and Amy tackle a question so many couples are asking: Are we too tired for our marriage?

Between careers, kids, packed schedules, hormones, and everyday stress, exhaustion feels constant, and intimacy is often the first thing to fade. But here’s the real challenge:

Are you truly too tired… or have you stopped prioritizing your marriage?

With humor and real-life perspective from 23 years of marriage, Nick and Amy unpack what’s behind the “I’m too tired” excuse, and how to shift back into connection.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

• Why exhaustion is often more mental than physical
• The difference between being tired and simply bored
• Why you find energy for what you’re committed to
• How overscheduling drains your relationship
• The power of small, intentional moments
• Why putting your phone down changes everything
• How dividing responsibilities reduces burnout
• Why laughter, play, and celebration actually create energy

A Powerful Reminder

Marriage isn’t about feeling perfect every day — it’s about choosing to show up, even when you’re tired.

Intimacy doesn’t have to be complicated or time-consuming. Sometimes it’s five focused minutes, holding hands, a compliment, or protecting a weekly date night. If you have energy to scroll, you have energy to connect.

If you’re exhausted, you’re probably doing a lot of good things. But this episode will challenge you to look at your priorities, set better boundaries, and intentionally protect your marriage.

Because when you get out of boredom and back into connection, energy follows.

If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!

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It’s easy to think love in marriage is only shown through romance, gifts, or intimacy. But one of the most powerful ways to show love to your spouse is through healthy boundaries. Boundaries aren’t about control, distance, or keeping your spouse out, they’re about respect, emotional safety, and creating a marriage where both of you feel valued, understood, and protected.

In this week’s episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we sit down with therapist and expert Austin to talk about boundaries in marriage. 

Many couples wonder: Is it too late to set boundaries after years of marriage? What happens if we never established them early on? The answer is no, it’s never too late. Boundaries can be set at any stage of your marriage, and when implemented with intention, they actually strengthen connection, trust, and intimacy.

Boundaries teach your spouse how to love you in the way you need. They show care by clarifying expectations, protecting your emotional space, and fostering mutual respect. Without boundaries, couples can unintentionally hurt each other, feel resentment, or struggle with emotional closeness. Whether you’ve experienced betrayal, miscommunication, or just want to prevent hurt from ever happening, boundaries are a key tool for maintaining a healthy, loyal, and passionate marriage.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why boundaries are an essential act of love in marriage
• How to set boundaries together as a couple, even if you’re years into marriage
• The boundaries we personally feel are most important and why
• How boundaries protect your emotional connection and help you prioritize your spouse
• How implementing boundaries prevents small conflicts from becoming big issues

We also discuss real-life examples and practical tips for couples to start setting boundaries today, plus guidance on how to communicate your needs respectfully and effectively. Boundaries aren’t about rules or rigidity—they’re about creating a safe, loving environment where both spouses can thrive emotionally, mentally, and physically.

If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Is it too late to set boundaries in my marriage?” or “Will my spouse understand what I need?”, this episode is for you. You’ll learn how boundaries can actually bring you closer, deepen trust, and enhance intimacy. Austin shares expert insights, and we share personal stories and lessons that make these principles relatable and actionable for every couple.

If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!

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Nobody ever really teaches us how to be married. Most of us walk into marriage full of love and hope, but with very little understanding of what we’re actually stepping into. We come from different families, different upbringings, and different beliefs about money, sex, parenting, communication, and conflict. Then suddenly, we’re expected to blend all of that into one shared life.

Marriage often feels like being thrown into the deep end and told to figure it out as you go. And for many couples, the struggle isn’t a lack of effort—it’s a lack of tools. We don’t know how to build the marriage we want, and sometimes we don’t even know what tools we’re missing.

In this episode of Ultimate Intimacy, Nick and Amy talk about how many of us have unintentionally built patterns, habits, and even entire marriages we never meant to create. Not because we didn’t care, but because we were never taught how to do it differently. They explore why understanding this truth can change everything, and why learning to extend grace to ourselves and to our spouse may be one of the most powerful steps toward deeper connection and intimacy. 

If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!

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In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we take a fun and honest look at the unexpected side of marriage and the things no one really prepares you for. From those moments when Nick asks, “What’s wrong, sweetie?” and Amy answers, “Nothing”… which somehow means something 😉 to Amy realizing just how much patience marriage would require, especially with Nick during those first 15 years.

We also take turns telling why and how we each came up with three things that were total shockers to us about marriage!

From finally realizing why marriage needs to come before the kids, to Nick admitting that he misses how affectionate and "all over him" Amy was before kids—anyone else relate to that one?

This episode is lighthearted, real, and full of moments every spouse can relate to. Whether you have been married for many years or are just starting out, you will find yourself laughing, nodding, and probably saying, “Yep, that is us!”

What surprised you about marriage?

What lessons have you learned that you never knew you would need?

Email us and let us know! We would love to hear your stories so we can do a Part 2 episode.

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What if one simple weekly habit could transform your marriage? It certainly has for us!

In this important episode of The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we (Nick and Amy) dive into the power of the weekly marriage meeting, and why thriving couples don’t just hope intimacy and connection happen… they really do plan for it.

From aligning busy schedules and tackling real-life stressors to creating space for emotional and physical intimacy, this conversation is practical, honest, and surprisingly fun. We share why intentional check-ins build trust, reduce conflict, and keep passion alive, without making your relationship feel like a business meeting. If you’ve ever felt disconnected, overwhelmed, or like life keeps getting in the way of your marriage, this episode will flip the script.

Download the Marriage Meeting PDF on the ultimate intimacy app under the resources section, and then coupon and printables! 

If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!

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We recently received a heartfelt message from a listener whose spouse had an affair. They shared a question many couples face after betrayal: Is it truly possible to forgive? While their spouse has expressed deep remorse and appears sincere, the pain, broken trust, and emotional weight feel overwhelming. They want to move forward, but don’t know how, or even if forgiveness is possible.

Betrayal in marriage comes in many forms, from seemingly small breaches of trust like a financial mistake, to deeply traumatic experiences like infidelity. No matter the size, betrayal can cause significant short- and long-term damage to intimacy, safety, and connection in a relationship.

In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we welcome back our good friend Austin Ellis to have an honest and compassionate conversation about healing after betrayal. Together, we explore what forgiveness really means (and what it doesn’t), why moving on isn’t a linear process, and how couples can begin rebuilding trust, whether reconciliation feels possible right now or not.

If you or your spouse are navigating the aftermath of betrayal in any form, this episode offers hope, clarity, and practical insight for taking the next step forward to finding Ultimate Intimacy again in your relationship.

If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!

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Everyone wants a better intimate life, right? 

In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, Amy and Nick dive into 10 simple things couples can do to improve intimacy in their marriage. These aren’t complicated or time-consuming, just small, intentional actions that can have a profound impact on your connection, closeness, and passion.

We also talk about why taking baby steps is key. You don’t have to do everything at once, just pick one or two ideas, start implementing them, and watch your marriage transform. Whether your intimacy feels okay, routine, or already good but you want it even better, this episode is full of practical tips! 

So if you want the clothes coming off more often, join us for this fun podcast episode!

If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!

Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.

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In this episode, we have Austin Ellis back with us to dive into what it really means and what it looks like to be a better wife in marriage. You are going to absolutely love this conversation. We have already talked about what it means to be a good, loving husband, but as we all know, marriage takes two. A healthy, thriving, and passionate marriage requires both spouses intentionally pouring into the relationship.

In this episode, we explore what that looks like specifically for wives and how small, intentional choices can make a big impact on connection. Expert Austin Ellis, LMFT, shares practical insights, tools, and strategies couples can use to reconnect and strengthen their marriage. He dives into how spouses can move beyond simply getting their needs met and instead build a relationship where both spouses genuinely want to engage, feel emotionally connected, and rediscover passion together.

If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!

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