Sex can be one of the most powerful ways a husband and wife connect. When intimacy is approached in a healthy way, it can deepen emotional connection, build trust, increase affection, and strengthen your marriage in incredible ways.

But the opposite can also be true. There are things couples can introduce into their sexual relationship that may seem harmless at first but can slowly create distance, hurt trust, or damage the marriage. That’s one reason we receive SO MANY questions from couples asking, “Is this okay?” or “Is this something we should be doing in our marriage?”

And honestly, some of these questions aren’t easy to answer with a simple yes or no. Every couple has different backgrounds, experiences, values, and comfort levels. What may be healthy and enjoyable for one couple may not be right for another.

So in this episode, we’re talking about some of these difficult and sometimes uncomfortable questions and sharing the guidelines we use in our own marriage to determine whether something is going to bring us closer together—or potentially create distance.

If you’ve ever wondered where the line is between what is healthy, helpful, and appropriate in the bedroom and what could ultimately hurt your relationship, this episode is for you.

We’ll give you practical questions and guidelines you can use to make those decisions for your own marriage, rather than simply following what everyone else says is “normal.”

🔥 Haven’t checked out the Ultimate Intimacy App yet? Now’s the perfect time! Find “Ultimate Intimacy” in the app stores or visit ultimateintimacy.com
and discover how to bring real connection, excitement, and fun back into your marriage. It’s FREE to download, and with close to 1 million happy users, it’s no wonder couples are raving about it!

And guess what? After a year of development, we just released the brand-new UandI App—designed to take your marriage to the next level. Click HERE.

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Stay connected with us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp
for app updates, fun polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes, and more.

Got thoughts, questions, or topics you want us to cover on future episodes? Shoot us an email at [email protected]

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*This episode was reposted from August 2022. 

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Should Your Spouse Really Come First?

It's one of the most controversial messages we share, and every time we talk about it, the comments explode.

Should your spouse come before your children? Before your career? Before your friends? Is putting your spouse first actually healthy... or is it outdated advice?

In this thought provoking episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, Nick and Amy talk with Austin and tackle one of the biggest debates in marriage. They discuss why prioritizing your spouse is often misunderstood, and what "putting your spouse first" really looks like in a healthy relationship.

Whether you completely agree, strongly disagree, or have never thought about it before, this conversation will challenge your perspective and help you evaluate the priorities that shape your marriage every day.

This episode may just change the way you think about what it takes to build a lasting, passionate, and deeply connected marriage.

🔥 Haven’t checked out the Ultimate Intimacy App yet? Now’s the perfect time! Find “Ultimate Intimacy” in the app stores or visit ultimateintimacy.com
and discover how to bring real connection, excitement, and fun back into your marriage. It’s FREE to download, and with close to 1 million happy users, it’s no wonder couples are raving about it!

And guess what? After a year of development, we just released the brand-new UandI App—designed to take your marriage to the next level. Click HERE.

💥 Want to spice things up in your relationship? YES, PLEASE! CLICK HERE
to explore our amazing products!

Stay connected with us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp
for app updates, fun polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes, and more.

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Get to know Nick & Amy like never before!

In this fun, honest, and personal episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we're pulling back the curtain and answering some of the questions we get asked most often about our own marriage. After more than 24 years together, we've experienced incredible highs, painful lows, seasons of deep connection, and times when we had to intentionally fight for our relationship.

We're sharing real thoughts and lessons we've learned the hard way, and the things that have helped us build a stronger marriage through every season. We answer questions like:

• What has been the biggest struggle in our marriage, and how did we overcome it?
• Have we ever gone through seasons where we didn't feel emotionally or physically connected?
• What's one thing we've learned about each other that still surprises us after all these years?
• What's the best—and worst—marriage advice we've ever received?
• Do we still argue, and what do we disagree about most?
• How do we keep our marriage a priority while balancing work, parenting, and everyday life?
• If we could give our newlywed selves one piece of advice, what would it be?
• What's one thing we each wish the other spouse did more often?
• How has our sex life evolved throughout the different seasons of marriage?
• After all these years, why do we continue choosing each other every single day?

Whether you've been married for six months or sixty years, we hope this episode encourages you, makes you laugh, and reminds you that every great marriage is built one intentional choice at a time. Join us as you get to know us beyond the podcast, the apps, and the social media posts—and discover that even marriage experts are still learning, growing, and choosing each other every day.

If this episode resonates with you, be sure to subscribe, leave us a review, and share it with another couple who could use a little encouragement in their marriage journey.

🔥 Haven’t checked out the Ultimate Intimacy App yet? Now’s the perfect time! Find “Ultimate Intimacy” in the app stores or visit ultimateintimacy.com
and discover how to bring real connection, excitement, and fun back into your marriage. It’s FREE to download, and with close to 1 million happy users, it’s no wonder couples are raving about it!

And guess what? After a year of development, we just released the brand-new UandI App—designed to take your marriage to the next level. Click HERE.

💥 Want to spice things up in your relationship? YES, PLEASE! CLICK HERE
to explore our amazing products!

Stay connected with us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp
for app updates, fun polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes, and more.

Got thoughts, questions, or topics you want us to cover on future episodes? Shoot us an email at [email protected]

We love hearing from you! And don’t forget to leave us a review, it really helps us keep bringing you content that strengthens your marriage.

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Have you ever felt like something is missing in your marriage, but you just can't put your finger on it? Maybe your communication isn't terrible, your intimacy isn't nonexistent, and you still love each other... yet something feels off.

What if the real issue isn't your sex life or communication at all?

In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, Nick and Amy are joined by special guest and therapist Austin to explore the many different types of intimacy every marriage needs to thrive. From emotional, physical, sexual, and spiritual intimacy to recreational, intellectual, and more, they discuss how each type plays a vital role in creating a strong, connected marriage.

They share real life examples of couples who struggle because one area of intimacy is missing, like when spouses don't share the same spiritual beliefs, or when they never spend time enjoying hobbies and adventures together. You'll discover why neglecting just one area of intimacy can quietly affect every other part of your relationship and, more importantly, what you can do to rebuild it.

If your marriage feels disconnected, stuck, or simply not as close as it once was, this episode may help you uncover the missing piece you've been searching for.

🔥 Haven’t checked out the Ultimate Intimacy App yet? Now’s the perfect time! Find “Ultimate Intimacy” in the app stores or visit ultimateintimacy.com
and discover how to bring real connection, excitement, and fun back into your marriage. It’s FREE to download, and with close to 1 million happy users, it’s no wonder couples are raving about it!

And guess what? After a year of development, we just released the brand-new UandI App—designed to take your marriage to the next level. Click HERE.

💥 Want to spice things up in your relationship? YES, PLEASE! CLICK HERE
to explore our amazing products!

Stay connected with us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp
for app updates, fun polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes, and more.

Got thoughts, questions, or topics you want us to cover on future episodes? Shoot us an email at [email protected]

We love hearing from you! And don’t forget to leave us a review, it really helps us keep bringing you content that strengthens your marriage.

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Most couples never realize they've been believing lies about sex for years.

They compare their marriage to Hollywood, social media, or unrealistic expectations and then wonder why intimacy feels disappointing, frustrating, or disconnected. The truth? Many of the "rules" we've been taught about sex are actually the very things keeping us from experiencing the passionate, connected, and fulfilling intimacy we all want.

In this eye-opening episode, Nick and Amy expose some of the biggest myths about sex and reveal the truths that can completely transform your intimate relationship.

You'll discover why:

• Waiting until you're "in the mood" may be hurting your sex life.
• Your spouse can't read your mind (and why that's actually a good thing).
• Women don't always take longer to become aroused.
• Sex is far more than just a "want."
• Talking about sex doesn't kill the mood—it creates better intimacy.
• Spontaneous sex isn't the only (or even the best) kind of sex.

...and many more myths that could be holding your marriage back.

If you've ever wondered why your sex life isn't where you want it to be, this episode could change the way you think about intimacy forever. Stop believing the myths. Start creating the marriage and the intimacy you've always wanted.

🔥 Haven’t checked out the Ultimate Intimacy App yet? Now’s the perfect time! Find “Ultimate Intimacy” in the app stores or visit ultimateintimacy.com
and discover how to bring real connection, excitement, and fun back into your marriage. It’s FREE to download, and with close to 1 million happy users, it’s no wonder couples are raving about it!

And guess what? After a year of development, we just released the brand-new UandI App—designed to take your marriage to the next level. Click HERE.

💥 Want to spice things up in your relationship? YES, PLEASE! CLICK HERE
to explore our amazing products!

Stay connected with us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp
for app updates, fun polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes, and more.

Got thoughts, questions, or topics you want us to cover on future episodes? Shoot us an email at [email protected]

We love hearing from you! And don’t forget to leave us a review, it really helps us keep bringing you content that strengthens your marriage.

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In episode 433 with Austin Ellis, we talked about how a man can be a better husband and father and discussed safety in marriage. If your wife doesn't feel safe in your marriage, nothing else really matters. She needs to feel safe sexually, safe emotionally, safe physically, and safe spiritually. But what does that look like?

In this episode Nick and Amy have Austin back on to dive deeper into safety in marriage, and what it looks like to feel safe for a wife and husband. When your spouse feels safe, everything changes. 

If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!

Check out the new UandI App we just released after a year in development.

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A few weeks ago, we did a podcast titled: 11 Things Every Husband Should Know (But Somehow Missed The Memo). Now it's time for the flip side. 

In this fun and honest episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, Nick and Amy reveal 11 things every wife should know—but somehow missed the memo. From what husbands secretly long for to the little things that make a huge difference in marriage, they share practical insights that can transform your relationship. Whether you've been married for one year or thirty, this episode is full of "I never knew that!" moments you won't want to miss.

🔥 Haven’t checked out the Ultimate Intimacy App yet? Now’s the perfect time! Find “Ultimate Intimacy” in the app stores or visit ultimateintimacy.com
and discover how to bring real connection, excitement, and fun back into your marriage. It’s FREE to download, and with close to 1 million happy users, it’s no wonder couples are raving about it!

And guess what? After a year of development, we just released the brand-new UandI App—designed to take your marriage to the next level. Click HERE.

💥 Want to spice things up in your relationship? YES, PLEASE! CLICK HERE
to explore our amazing products!

Stay connected with us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp
for app updates, fun polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes, and more.

Got thoughts, questions, or topics you want us to cover on future episodes? Shoot us an email at [email protected]

We love hearing from you! And don’t forget to leave us a review, it really helps us keep bringing you content that strengthens your marriage.

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Many couples tell us, and we’ve seen it in our own marriage too, that they keep running into the same arguments over and over again. Even after trying counseling, things might improve for a short time… but before long, they slip right back into the same patterns.

So what actually creates lasting change in a relationship?

In this episode of The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast with Nick and Amy, we talk with Austin, a therapist who often works with couples after they’ve already seen two or three other counselors and are feeling discouraged that nothing has worked. Instead of repeating the same approaches, Austin takes a different path, one that helps couples break out of stuck cycles and finally start moving forward.

He shares what he does differently in therapy and why those shifts lead to real, lasting progress for the couples he works with.

🔥 Haven’t checked out the Ultimate Intimacy App yet? Now’s the perfect time! Find “Ultimate Intimacy” in the app stores or visit ultimateintimacy.com
and discover how to bring real connection, excitement, and fun back into your marriage. It’s FREE to download, and with close to 1 million happy users, it’s no wonder couples are raving about it!

And guess what? After a year of development, we just released the brand-new UandI App—designed to take your marriage to the next level. Click HERE.

💥 Want to spice things up in your relationship? YES, PLEASE! CLICK HERE
to explore our amazing products!

Stay connected with us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp
for app updates, fun polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes, and more.

Got thoughts, questions, or topics you want us to cover on future episodes? Shoot us an email at [email protected]

We love hearing from you! And don’t forget to leave us a review, it really helps us keep bringing you content that strengthens your marriage.

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For most couple's, talking about sex is a very difficult thing to do. It often times turns into an argument and can cause even more of a disconnect in the relationship. If you are one of these couples, you are not alone and will see from our poll that most couples have a hard time talking about sexual intimacy in their relationship. 

But remember, if you want to get better at something, or even become an expert at it, you have to talk about it all the time!

Consider this, if something causes an argument in your marriage, that means it is a problem. And if you have a problem, wouldn't that make it even more important to talk about so it doesn't become a bigger problem, or you can eliminate the problem in your relationship? 

Most couples just don't know where to begin or how to approach it the right way. Trust us, we were one of these couples for the first 15 years of our marriage. 

In this episode, we share the secrets on how to master the art of having intimate conversations, and transform your relationship. After listening to this episode, you are going to want to have these type of intimate conversations together all the time :)

❤️ Listen now and share this episode with someone who wants a stronger marriage.

🔥 Haven’t checked out the Ultimate Intimacy App yet? Now’s the perfect time! Find “Ultimate Intimacy” in the app stores or visit ultimateintimacy.com
and discover how to bring real connection, excitement, and fun back into your marriage. It’s FREE to download, and with close to 1 million happy users, it’s no wonder couples are raving about it!

And guess what? After a year of development, we just released the brand-new UandI App—designed to take your marriage to the next level. Click HERE.

💥 Want to spice things up in your relationship? YES, PLEASE! CLICK HERE
to explore our amazing products!

Stay connected with us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp
for app updates, fun polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes, and more.

Got thoughts, questions, or topics you want us to cover on future episodes? Shoot us an email at [email protected]

We love hearing from you! And don’t forget to leave us a review, it really helps us keep bringing you content that strengthens your marriage.

*This episode was originally posted in February 2024. But it is such an important topic and because of all of our new listeners we decided to re-post it.

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In this powerful follow-up episode, we continue our conversation with therapist Austin about one of the most misunderstood topics in marriage: obligatory sex. If you haven't listened to Part 1 (Episode 483), we highly recommend starting there first.

In this episode, we dive deeper into why obligatory sex happens, the emotional and relational patterns that fuel it, and what couples can do to break free from the cycle. If you want to build greater intimacy, understanding, and connection in your relationship, you won't want to miss this important conversation.

🔥 Haven’t checked out the Ultimate Intimacy App yet? Now’s the perfect time! Find “Ultimate Intimacy” in the app stores or visit ultimateintimacy.com
and discover how to bring real connection, excitement, and fun back into your marriage. It’s FREE to download, and with close to 1 million happy users, it’s no wonder couples are raving about it!

And guess what? After a year of development, we released the brand-new UandI App—designed to take your marriage to the next level. Click HERE.

💥 Want to spice things up in your relationship? YES, PLEASE! CLICK HERE
to explore our amazing products!

Stay connected with us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp
for app updates, fun polls, giveaways, daily marriage quotes, and more.

Got thoughts, questions, or topics you want us to cover on future episodes? Shoot us an email at [email protected]

We love hearing from you! And don’t forget to leave us a review, it really helps us keep bringing you content that strengthens your marriage.

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