Emotional safety is the foundation of lasting intimacy and trust in marriage. In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we dive into what it really means to feel safe with your spouse, and being able to share thoughts, feelings, and vulnerabilities without fear of judgment or rejection.

We’ll explore the signs of emotional safety, the common behaviors that destroy it, and practical ways to create a safe space where both spouses feel understood, respected, and supported. From breaking patterns like criticism, stonewalling, or dishonesty, to building habits of empathy, validation, and open communication, this conversation will help you strengthen the bond in your marriage and deepen your connection.

If you want more trust, better conflict resolution, and deeper intimacy with your spouse, this episode is for you.

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Do You Love Me as Much as the Kids? A Conversation Every Couple Needs 

One of our friends recently asked his wife, “Do you love me as much as the kids?” and it sparked a powerful conversation about love, priorities, and intimacy in marriage. Many husbands have shared with us, through messages or emails, that sometimes they feel like they come after everything else, especially the kids. And yes, this can go both ways, of course.

Instead of quickly answering, “Of course not! Duh!”, take a moment to reflect on your own marriage. 

Does your spouse feel the need to ask this? Why? It’s not a bad question, it’s deeply important. When discussed in a loving, thoughtful way, it can strengthen connection, clarify needs, and prevent resentment.

In this episode, we dive into:

• Why husbands ask this question and what’s really underneath it
• How wives may unintentionally spark this concern
• How to balance parenting and marriage without guilt or competition
• Conversation questions that can transform your connection

Plus 5+ Questions Couples Can Ask Each Other on this episode:

1. When do you feel most loved and prioritized by me?
2. Do you ever feel like the kids come before you, and if so, what does that look like?
3. How can I reassure you that you’re my spouse first, even in busy seasons?
4. What would “balance” between marriage and kids look like in this season?
5. What’s one intentional or fun thing we could do this week to remind each other that our marriage comes first?

Tune in for honest, heartfelt advice that will inspire you to keep your marriage at the center of your life. 

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In this episode, we dive into a topic that’s often whispered about but rarely discussed openly—sexual intimacy aids and the powerful role they can play in relationships. Far from being just “toys,” these tools can help couples communicate better, deepen emotional connection, and reignite passion that may have faded into routine.

We explore ten key ways intimacy aids can strengthen partnerships—from boosting confidence and balancing different desire levels, to helping couples explore new sensations together and maintain intimacy as needs change over time. Along the way, we also answer some of the most common (and sometimes awkward) questions couples ask: Are intimacy aids only for couples with problems? How do we bring them up without embarrassment? Do they replace closeness, or can they actually bring us closer?

A couple of things that shifted our mindset on intimacy aids were setting two simple boundaries: “Does it bring us closer together?” and “Is it only used together?” Framing it this way helped us see these tools not as replacements for intimacy, but as bridges that deepen connection, playfulness, and trust.

Whether you’re in a brand-new relationship or decades into one, this conversation is all about breaking taboos, normalizing pleasure, and reminding couples that intimacy should be fun, evolving, and deeply connecting.

Check out our great vibrating ring and lubricant we discussed on this episode HERE.

Check out this great article "Can Using Sex Toys (intimacy aids) Really Make Your Marriage Happier?"

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When most people think about sexual libido, the first thought often goes straight to the physical aspect of things such as “Why doesn’t my spouse have any sex drive?” or “Something must be wrong with them physically.” But what if a spouses desire to be sexual (libido) really isn't physical, but is tied to how they feel emotionally connected?

In this episode of The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, Nick and Amy dive into the surprising reality that libido is not just about the physical desire, it’s more about being mentally and emotionally connected. They explore what really influences sexual desire in marriage, the misconceptions couples often have, and why understanding these underlying factors can completely shift the way you approach intimacy with your spouse.

You’ll learn:

• Why libido is is actually tied to how they feel emotionally, or the emotional connection.
• The mental and emotional factors that play a huge role in desire
• How stress, connection, and relationship dynamics can impact intimacy
• Ways to better understand your spouse’s needs and strengthen closeness

If you’ve ever wondered why your sex drive, or your spouse’s sexual desire doesn’t look the way you expect, this episode will give you clarity, encouragement, and practical insights to build a stronger, more connected marriage.

If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!

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In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we (Nick and Amy) dive into a common concern we hear from many husbands: “Intimate Time Feels Like a Moving Target!"

For some couples, intimacy seems to come with a long checklist such as chores finished, the house spotless, kids taken care of, emotional connection felt, and the right mood set... before intimate time is even an option. While those things can all be important, they can also leave one spouse feeling rejected, frustrated, or like intimacy is always out of reach.

We unpack why these expectations often develop, how they impact both spouses differently, and what couples can do to find a healthier balance. You’ll hear honest conversations about:

• Why the “checklist mentality” can create distance instead of connection
• Practical ways to lower unrealistic expectations while still honoring emotional and relational needs
• How to create an environment where both spouses feel valued and desired

Whether you’ve felt like intimacy is always “just out of reach” or you’re the one needing certain things in place before feeling ready, this episode will give you insight, encouragement, and tools to bring more connection and fulfillment into your marriage.

If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!

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"What We Feed Grows, And What We Starve Dies" - This is one of our favorite quotes from our good friends Greg and Julie Gorman with Married For A Purpose. We love this quote because it is so powerful and true! In marriage, our thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes act like seeds, what we feed our thoughts grows stronger (good or bad), what we starve our thoughts dies. 

Your thoughts truly shape what your marriage will be, what you focus on grows, and what you ignore fades. In this episode of The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we dive into the powerful idea that your attitude can make or break your relationship.

If you constantly tell yourself you don’t like sex or or the things your spouse does, and only focus on the negatives in your marriage, those feelings only grow stronger. But when you starve negative thoughts and intentionally nurture positive ones, your connection, intimacy, and joy can flourish.

Tune in to learn how small shifts in your attitude can create big changes in your marriage.. helping you reconnect, laugh more, and build the kind of intimacy that lasts a lifetime.

If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!

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This episode is intended for couples in a healthy relationship who are looking to create better sexual balance in their marriage.

Sexual intimacy is a very important aspect of a healthy and thriving marriage. However, many if not most couples find themselves in a dynamic where one spouse has a higher sex drive than the other. This is completely normal, as no two people have the exact same libido.

The problem arises when (in a healthy marriage) the lower-desire spouse, often unintentionally, takes control over the couple’s sex life by determining "if" and "when" intimacy happens. 

This imbalance can lead to frustration, resentment, and emotional disconnection. The key to overcoming this challenge is understanding the dynamics at play and working together to find a balance that satisfies both spouses.

If this is what it feels like in your marriage, you are not alone!

• A study published in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy found that 80% of couples report having mismatched sex drives at some point in their relationship.
• According to the Kinsey Institute, 60–80% of married individuals say they wish their spouse wanted sex more often.
• A survey from the Marriage Foundation discovered that couples who have sex at least once a week are three times more likely to report being “very happy” in their marriage compared to those who have sex less frequently.
• A report in Archives of Sexual Behavior noted that lack of sexual intimacy is one of the top reasons for marital dissatisfaction and divorce. 

In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we are joined by Austin Ellis, a licensed sex therapist, who addresses one of the most common issues in marriage: finding sexual balance when you and your spouse have completely different sex drives, and how to create a balance that works for both of you.

We asked Austin a few questions in this episode:

What if a spouse wants it daily and the other spouse wants it monthly?

What do you do if you cannot find a balance? 

Is sex really a need in marriage?

What does healthy rejection look like? 

Join us for this incredible episode, where you’ll not only understand why this happens but, more importantly, learn how to find a balance that you can both be happy with, so you can enjoy a thriving marriage. This might be the most important episode that completely changes your marriage!

If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!

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One of the most common things we hear from couples is that their marriage isn't fun, flirty or passionate anymore, and that they just feel like roommates. 

Marriage doesn’t have to be all serious, it CAN be fun, flirty, and full of laughter! In this episode of The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we explore how playfulness and connection can deepen your intimacy and strengthen your marriage.

We’re joined by Elaine (LMFT) and Abe Romero, experts in relationships and marriages, who share practical tips on how to flirt, laugh, and truly connect with your spouse, even in the midst of life’s chaos. From playful communication to reigniting chemistry, this conversation is packed with actionable advice to bring joy, fun, and closeness back into your relationship.

If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!

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Many of us grew up learning about sex through a worldly lens, leaving us with feelings of guilt, shame, or discomfort around sexual intimacy. But the truth is: sex is a beautiful, natural expression of connection. It’s a way for couples to be truly vulnerable with one another, like no other relationship allows.

In this episode of The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we dive into the powerful truth that you can be both spiritual and sexual, and that the two are deeply intertwined. Couples who embrace their sexual connection often experience a profound spiritual bond, creating intimacy that transcends the physical.

We’re joined by world-renowned marriage coaches and instructors, Greg and Julie Gorman of Married For A Purpose. Many of you may know them as the incredible facilitators from our Intimacy and Adventure Retreats. Together, we explore how to nurture your sexual and spiritual connection, overcome shame, and create the most fulfilling intimacy of your life.

If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!

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Your first thought may be "what mistakes could happen after making love?"

What happens after sexual intimacy can be just as important as the intimate moment itself. Yet many couples unknowingly make mistakes that can lead to disconnection, hurt feelings, or missed opportunities for deeper connection.

In this episode, Nick and Amy share the six most common mistakes couples make after being intimate and the reasons why. You’ll learn how to turn those tender post intimacy moments into a time of connection, reassurance, and closeness.

If you want to strengthen your relationship and make every intimate moment count, this is an episode you won’t want to miss.

If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!

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