Interesting Statistics about Anxiety in Children (5:00)  Differences between social anxiety and introverts (10:00)  Positive aspects of anxiety (26:00)  Doug's Favorite Definition of Anxiety (40:00)  Healthy Anxiety Management (43:30) 

Listener Question: Where is the line when you could speak up against your parents?  (17:00) 

Tony-What if one of the parents made mistakes and is no longer a safe harbor. what can we do now? (20:00)

Tom-childhood trauma. how does one determine which mode of therapy is appropriate for children when they are adults. (35:00)

Miranda-As grandmother. every other Sunday I need to see the one who is in contact with ex-daughter-law. i think children are having anxiety. (38:00)

Resources: Emotionally Focused Therapy:  Home Page - ICEEFTInternal Family Systems Model: What is Internal Family Systems? | IFS Institute

Doug shares prayer Ideas for Lent that you could do as a couple (5:20)  Fasting ideas as a couple (12:50)  Mortifications during Lent as a couple (20:00)   Things you could do extra during Lent as a couple (35:05)  Doug shares a letter from a couple that doesn't communicate that much. (40:50)

Listener Calls- Joe-Are you a fan of the Gottman method? Is this counseling method consistent with Catholic Theology. (10:45)

Marcy-When you are wrong admit it, and when you are right,  shutup. (32:00)

Our guest Fr. Robert Altier discusses on what God has joined together.  God chooses your spouse for you and brings the couple together. And the importance of prayer for the vocation for the person who you'll be married to.  Fr. Robert Altier explains what a sacramental marriage and where and where you can't get married.  Also he discusses annulments and a marriage covenant.  

Listener question:  Sharon-Wants to be in a sacramental marriage, but what's preventing them is the potential husband has a daughter that needs taken care of.   

Juanita-Wishes she was properly prepared for marriage and how can the Church make process botter?   

Fr. Robert Altier's marriage book:  https://sophiainstitute.com/product/gods-plan-for-your-marriage/

Previous shows with Fr. Robert Altier:  https://omny.fm/shows/marriage-unhindered/god-s-plan-for-your-marriage

https://omny.fm/shows/marriage-unhindered/gods-design-for-your-marriage

https://omny.fm/shows/marriage-unhindered/love-in-marriage

Are you a perfectionist? Are you married to a perfectionist? Is perfectionism ruining your marriage? Doug shares how perfectionism can harm marriages. He unpacks what perfectionism is and shares what perfectionism can lead to in marriage including: disappointment and frustration, pressure on others, criticism, stress and anxiety, difficulty to forgive, and focusing on the negative.

Doug shares what to do if you are a perfectionist and what to do if you are married to a perfectionist. He discusses the importance of developing virtues of long suffering, courage, and understanding.

Listener questions and comments:

• Mary - We've been having issues with our adult children. My husband is very critical, and when our children mess up, my husband takes it out on me. What should I do? I feel like I am always the bad guy.
• Juan - My 50-year marriage is going great. We met in the military. Our secret is that I pull rank all the time.
• Bobby - I think perfection should always be what we're striving for, under Jesus Christ.

 

Catholic Therapists

https://www.catholictherapists.com/

 

Catholic psychotherapy

https://catholicpsychotherapy.org/

How do you and your spouse handle conflict? Doug continues his discussion on the 5 different types of couples. He shares the difference in divorce rates between hostile and hostile detached couples and how establishing trust and respect are a major factor in this.

Doug unpacks an email from a woman who has a special needs child and is fearful of having more children. Doug shares the message of trust in the gospel of Matthew and encourages the listener to follow the teachings of the Catholic Church on openness to life. PLUS: The Friday Rant!

 

Listener questions and comments

• Juanita - I encourage NaPro technology for all couples.
• Denise - My husband gets into these times when he avoids conflict and gives the silent treatment, and then he'll snap out of it acting like nothing happened. What should I do?

Resources:

Rekindled Hearts

https://relevantradio.store/products/rekindled-hearts-book

 

Humanae Vitae

https://www.vatican.va/content/paul-vi/en/encyclicals/documents/hf_p-vi_enc_25071968_humanae-vitae.html

 

NaPro Technology

https://naprotechnology.com/

 

Catholic Therapists

https://www.catholictherapists.com/

Monica Hinderer joins Doug discussing how to identify and use your child’s primary love language to raise a great person. They discuss the 5 love languages: words of affirmation, physical touch, quality time, acts of service, and gifts.

Doug shares how children who feel safe and secure are less likely to develop depression and it makes them more likely to develop good relationships when they are adults. Knowing their love language help foster this safety and security.

 

Listener questions and comments:

• Gabriel – My 6-year-old child had leukemia, but it is now in remission. I don't know his love language. I'm separated from his mother. She's more dry, and I'm more loving. I don’t know how to punish him.
• Marie – The way my parents punished me as a child brought me a lot of shame, but I realized that Jesus was also treated bad and that helped me.
• Joleen – When my children were older, I struggled to discipline them so I would ask them what their punishment should be. Whatever they said was way more than what I would have them do.

Doug shares the couple’s quiz and unpacks 5 types of couples: conflict avoiders, validators, volatile, hostile, and hostile detached. Which one are you?

 

Listener questions and comments:

• Tony – I’ve been married for 36 years. I feel like I fit in all 5 categories.
• Michael – I have a friend whose spouse is unfaithful. What advice can I share with him?
• Raul – I have been married for 20 years. My wife has 3 children from a previous marriage. We have a special needs child. How can we achieve peace?
• Erica – I tend to be jealous and it causes a lot of arguments. How can I overcome this?
• Michael – I have been married for over 25 years. When there is disagreement with our child, my wife takes the child’s side and this upsets me internally. What should I do?

 

Resources:

Marriage Unhindered

https://www.marriageunhindered.com/

 

Happy Marriage for Life

https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/

 

Emotionally Focused Therapy

https://iceeft.com/what-is-eft/

Who wants to be a therapist? Doug unpacks two cases and asks listeners what advice they would give. Case 1: A young wife who complains constantly. Case 2: A husband who does not contribute financially to the household. Callers weigh in and Doug shares his advice.

Listener questions and comments:

• Michael – I have a similar approach to both studies. I would start by having both take assessment inventory and see how they line up.
• Elva – I have been married for 30 years and found myself in the same spot. I was patient, prayed and communicated my concerns. Some years went by and my husband now makes as much as or more than me.
• Mary – Case 1: I am in this situation. I hang out with good friends and family members who can help, but family can make it difficult.
• John – My former spouse was an extreme perfectionist. She was unfaithful and we divorced. I couldn’t do anything to fix this.
• Sam – For case 1, write 3 things you and your spouse did well and share each day. For case 2, my husband and I have been married for 6 years, and Dave Ramsey’s advice helped us with finances.
• Alex – What are your thoughts about discerning marriage with someone who has kids?

 

Resources:

Happy Marriage for Life

https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/

Dann Aungst joins Doug to discuss the problem with couples who view pornography together. They unpack statistics that point to the increase of women who view pornography and the high divorce rate associated with couples who view pornography together.

Doug and Dann also share what can be done to help someone who does not want to quit looking at pornography. They examine the emotional psychological chemical and spiritual elements of porn addiction.

 

Listener questions and comments:

• Joe – Who is the priest who helped these people out and what was the website? I haven't found a priest who fought for marriage like that.
• Patrick – Are 12 step programs helpful for pornography addiction?

 

Resources:

Road to Purity

https://roadtopurity.com/

Doug shares advice with a listener who just found out his wife is having an affair. He talks about how difficult the first conversation will be, but that through prayer and professional help, the marriage can still be saved.

Doug shares a story by Alice Von Hildebrand from her book By Love Refined. In this letter, Alice discusses table manners with her friend who is distraught over her husband’s eating habits. Alice talks about the differences between men and women and how these differences give us the opportunity for compromise. Happiness depends on recognizing the differences and adapting to show our love for one another.

Listener questions and comments:

• Joe - I just found out my wife has been having affair for the last three years. I haven't talked to her about it and she doesn't know that I know. What is your advice? (5:47)

Resources:

By Love Refined

https://sophiainstitute.com/product/by-love-refined/?srsltid=AfmBOor1NPi20B5Dg7_UNa1usDV3UApRUyhnPlK1-lzCJ18DjtdwwCa6

 

Rekindled Hearts

https://relevantradio.store/products/rekindled-hearts-book