Masks Off: Inner Freedom For People-Pleasers and Perfectionists

I had such an awesome conversation with Jessica Hiatt, a personal trainer and nutrition coach. Jessica is so much more than a personal trainer. She helps women to heal the mind and spirit as well. It is not often that you find a personal trainer that takes the approach to nurture the mind, body and spirit. In addition, Jessica was so vulnerable to share her story of being in a highly abusive relationship and how that relationship was the catalyst to her healing journey. We also talked about how the perfectionist pattern and self-sabotaging thoughts keep us from staying committed to ourselves. Honestly, we talked about so many things in this episode and it is packed with valuable information. 

“We don’t rise to our goals. We fall to the strength and comprehension of our system. We must clarify and strengthen our system through repetition. Sitting, waiting, and regretting is much harder than doing.” -Wes Watson 

About Jessica: 

I am a personal trainer and wellness coach for middle aged women who are done with the pain and struggle of yo-yo dieting and self sabotage. As a former victim of narcissistic abuse and at one time an unrecovered adult child of alcoholism, it has been a long journey of self discovery, subconscious reprogramming and integration of disciplined self love practices,  leading to this time of living out my purpose and sharing my story. 

Connect with Jessica: 

FB: Jessica Hiatt

IG and Tik Tok: @jessicalyntrainer

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Masks Off Instagram: @masksoffcommunity

Facebook: Kim.gross.104

Facebook Masks Off Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/masksoffcommunity

Masks Off email: [email protected]

YouTube:YouTube: https://youtube.com/channel/UCaWJfO7ZFd4aYBX3e-clj9Q

Spotify:  https://open.spotify.com/show/2Et9BMqdFriIQ9bUxcfQeg

Apple podcast:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/masks-off/id1513846583

Anchor:  https://anchor.fm/masksoff

Do you look outside of yourself to get feedback or validation that how you are showing up in the world is good or do you look inward and decide for yourself?  We all come into this world to be uniquely ourselves but we somewhere along the way lose sight of that and we wear masks to cover up our true selves. In this episode Kim has a conversation with guest Carrie Klwein Lawrence about the importance of letting go of the need to look outside of ourselves and that we hold the key to our happiness and well-being.

About Carrie: 

Carrie Klewin Lawrence (she/her) is a quirky, collaborative stage director focused on social change. Carrie is also a professor, personal branding coach, and mother of three, who enjoys lindy hop, traveling, and photography. As the author of Origin Story, Carrie weaves personal discovery storytelling into a journey of evolution and forward action, encouraging readers to reframe their(self) narrative.  Once, when she was ten-years-old, Carrie wrote a play called “Little Red Riding Hood Says NO to Smoking”. Rediscovering that play, and subsequently reframing her own personal narrative, was the inciting incident for Origin Story.

Connect with Carrie:

Linktree: https://linktr.ee/carrieklewin

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/carrieklaw

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carrieklewin/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carrieklewin/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@carrieklewinlawrence 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@carrieklewin

Connect with Kim Gross:

TikTok: @kimgross24

Masks Off Instagram: @masksoffcommunity

Facebook: Kim.gross.104

Facebook Masks Off Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/masksoffcommunity

Masks Off email: [email protected]

YouTube:YouTube: https://youtube.com/channel/UCaWJfO7ZFd4aYBX3e-clj9Q

Spotify:  https://open.spotify.com/show/2Et9BMqdFriIQ9bUxcfQeg

Apple podcast:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/masks-off/id1513846583

Anchor:  https://anchor.fm/masksoff

Do you ever feel like you attract people who mistreat you or abuse you? Do you feel like you don’t have the right to speak up and assert yourself with these people? Do you feel like you have to walk on eggshells just to make sure you don’t piss these people off? If you answered yes to any or all of these questions you probably know full well what it is like to be victimized. The truth is that we deserve to be happy and we have the right to speak up and break free from oppression and abuse. It is not an easy road but neither is being on your deathbed wishing that you stood up for yourself. To hear more about how codependents can break free from this cycle listen in.

Connect with Kim:

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimgross24

Masks Off Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/masksoffcommunity/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kim.gross.104

Facebook Masks Off Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/masksoffcommunity

Masks Off email: [email protected]

YouTube:YouTube: https://youtube.com/channel/UCaWJfO7ZFd4aYBX3e-clj9Q

Spotify:  https://open.spotify.com/show/2Et9BMqdFriIQ9bUxcfQeg

Apple podcast:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/masks-off/id1513846583

Anchor:  https://anchor.fm/masksoff

In this conversation Kim talks with guest Ekua Walker about the importance of helping our children to trust their inner knowing. So often, as children we received messages that what we thought, felt or did was wrong or bad. From this we developed a sense that we should not trust ourselves and thus began listening to others to tell us how to live our lives.  This leads to lacking confidence and trust in ourselves. Through Ekua’s BE CALM process she guides parents to show up in a way that parents can connect rather than correct.

My quote is "I am fearfully and wonderfully made.  Your workmanship is marvelous-how well I know it." Psalm 139:13-14

About Ekua:

As a Child Development Nurse Practitioner diagnosing and treating children with developmental delays/mental health challenges, parent coach, wife and mother, it has been Ekua Walker's great passion to support parents in understanding their children and knowing what to do in the toughest of moments.  Trained at Stanford University and UCSF, Ekua brings together her expertise in child development and health behavior with the practical reality of daily life with young children into the BE CALM Parenting system.  BE CALM Parenting strategies help parents find the CALM and JOY in parenting they have always desired.  Learn more through her website www.BeCalmParenting.com and podcast- Moms Changing The World where she is a Chief Encouragement Officer, available on all podcast catchers www.Momschangingtheworld.org.

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In this episode Kim and guest Deb Blum share their journeys of how they went from their prison to paradise and what it took to get there. They both share how they built a tool box which helped them along their journeys. Both Kim and Deb share that they could not have gotten to where they are now without their tool boxes. They also share with us what is possible in paradise when you do the inner work. It is possible to have more enriching relationships with friends, significant others and your children. When you do the inner work there is the possibility for more freedom and joy. To hear more of what Kim and Deb shared take a listen.

About Deb Blum:

Deb Blum is a Soul Guide and the founder of The Whole Soul Way. The Whole Soul Way is a guided, self-paced online course and program that provides women with a step-by-step process that allows them to incrementally unhook from fear, social pressure, and expectations from themselves and others. This repeatable process reveals their most healed, whole, and truest selves, thus allowing them to show up more fully, which leads them to feel deeply fulfilled in their life and relationships. Ultimately, they’ll cultivate that deep emotional connection to themselves and others they've always longed for.

Deb loves to dive deep into shadow work, inner child healing, self-love, nervous system regulation, authenticity, spirituality, and conscious living. Deb is a recent empty nester with 19- and 20-year-old boys and lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her husband of 21 years.

Connect with Deb:

Website: https://www.thewholesoulway.com/

Free Gift - Shadow Work Starter Kit: https://www.thewholesoulway.com/for-you

Social Media Links:

https://www.tiktok.com/@deb.blum

https://www.facebook.com/groups/ageawesomely

https://www.facebook.com/DebBlumOfficial/

https://www.youtube.com/debblumnow

https://www.instagram.com/debblum/

Connect with Kim:

TikTok: @kimgross24

Masks Off Instagram: @masksoffcommunity

Facebook: Kim.gross.104

Facebook Masks Off Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/masksoffcommunity

Masks Off email: [email protected]

YouTube:YouTube: https://youtube.com/channel/UCaWJfO7ZFd4aYBX3e-clj9Q

Spotify:  https://open.spotify.com/show/2Et9BMqdFriIQ9bUxcfQeg

Apple podcast:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/masks-off/id1513846583

Anchor:  https://anchor.fm/masksoff

Do you feel like your life is like living on a hamster wheel? Do you feel like you are living a pattern and not a life? In this episode Kim and guest Whitney Baker, talk about the importance of living life fully each day and in the everyday moments. Rather than wishing for some external event or person making you feel alive, you find ways to feel alive from the inside so that you are living life more fully and authentically. To receive some easy and accessible tools to start shifting your life listen to this episode.

About Whitney:

Whitney Baker founded her company, Electric Ideas, with a mission of lighting women up with a new sense of possibility. Through workshops and other program offerings, she helps women around the globe connect with their inner knowing and move past feeling stuck. Whitney also hosts the globally ranked Electric Ideas podcast, where she discusses ideas and practices to help women come home to themselves and live with greater intention.

Whitney knows what it’s like to leave behind one version of yourself for another and feel caught in between identities, wondering if you will ever really feel like yourself again. In a former life, Whitney was a journalist turned global marketing agency creative, who up-ended it all to stay at home with her kids. During that transition, she felt isolated and anxious that she was losing footing in the professional world. She feared squandering her hard-earned degrees and professional status, and struggled to navigate this murky identity shift. Electric Ideas was born from a place of great healing and hope that other women won’t suffer in the same way.

Connect with Whitney:

email: [email protected];

Instagram: @whitneywoman;

website: myelectricideas.com

Connect with Kim Gross:

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimgross24

Masks Off Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/masksoffcommunity/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kim.gross.104

Facebook Masks Off Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/masksoffcommunity

Masks Off email: [email protected]

YouTube:YouTube: https://youtube.com/channel/UCaWJfO7ZFd4aYBX3e-clj9Q

Spotify:  https://open.spotify.com/show/2Et9BMqdFriIQ9bUxcfQeg

Apple podcast:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/masks-off/id1513846583

Anchor:  https://anchor.fm/masksoff

In this episode Carrie shares her experience and wisdom on the benefit of being your most authentic self in your relationship with yourself and loved ones. Way too often most of us don’t speak up about what we truly want, need and desire in our relationships and half the time we don’t even know what we want. But if we are aware that we are not fulfilled in our intimate relationships, we most likely are too afraid to speak up and communicate what we really want. Life is too short to live in fear of speaking up and being our true authentic selves.

“Every relationship is as unique as you are.”

About Carrie:

International Best-Selling Author, Intuitive and Conscious Relationship Coach, Carrie Jeroslow, teaches people the tools to relate consciously to themselves and others. She believes that when we learn and accept who we truly are, we are able to be more authentic in our relationships with others. This authenticity brings an unparalleled sense of joyfulness and fulfillment to our lives as a whole.

In 2022, she began her podcast, Relationship Diversity Podcast, where she aims to explore, question, and celebrate all aspects of relationship structure diversity from soloamory to monogamy to polyamory, and everything in between. This is an inclusive space, giving people the permission to design their unique relationships from the knowledge and acceptance of their unique selves.

She has been seen on NBC, PBS, The CW, featured in Forbes, Thrive Global, Winston Salem Journal, Prevention and Newsweek, and has been interviewed by Marianne Williamson, Go All In TV, The ListTV, and many others to discuss the ideas in her coaching, as well as in her first book, Why Do They Always Break Up with Me? 

Connect with Carrie:

https://www.carriejeroslow.com

https://www.relationshipdiversitypodcast.com

IG: https://www.instagram.com/carrie_jeroslow_author_coach/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@carriejeroslow?lang=en

Do you let your life experiences define who you are or do you look at your life experiences as an opportunity to grow and evolve? In this episode Kim and Deborah Corbin talk about the importance of taking every experience in life and growing from them rather than being a victim to circumstances. If you truly want to create the life that you desire, then one of the important steps is to take radical self-responsibility for how you show up in life. Life is full of painful experiences and if we want to suffer less in this life then we must learn to alchemize these painful situations while being gentle and compassionate with ourselves. To hear more insights on this topic tune in.

“Your life experiences do not have to define you, rather you have the power to allow them to REFINE YOU.” Deborah Corbin

About Deborah:

I began my career in education and spent many years teaching in early childhood and elementary school and eventually landed at the college level. In addition I spent many years leading Professional Development seminars for educators with the charge of bringing research concerning "best practices" in educational settings. Essentially turning theory into real quality learning opportunities in the classroom. The focus was always on bringing the highest caliber teaching to educational practices in order to ensure meaningful learning for students.

Currently I am leading the way in the personal development space as a leadership and transformational specialist. I am dedicated to charting a path as a change agent and thought-leader. I subscribe to and teach others how to take radical responsibility for their lives in order to excel in both their personal life and business. I am here to support big visionaries, change-agents and those with big global movements as their mission. My chief definite aim is to help people align with their true purpose and rise to a level of excellence in service in their chosen domain. I am the founder of several methodologies that support leading people to embodying their highest-self  in excellence and where true leadership is born.

Connect with Deborah:

https://www.facebook.com/danncorbin, www.deborahcorbin.com. https://www.facebook.com/groups/excelfromwithin/

Connect with Kim Gross:

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimgross24

Masks Off Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/masksoffcommunity/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kim.gross.104

Facebook Masks Off Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/masksoffcommunity

Masks Off email: [email protected]

YouTube:YouTube: https://youtube.com/channel/UCaWJfO7ZFd4aYBX3e-clj9Q

Spotify:  https://open.spotify.com/show/2Et9BMqdFriIQ9bUxcfQeg

Apple podcast:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/masks-off/id1513846583

Anchor:  https://anchor.fm/masksoff

In this episode Kim and guest, Petra Brunnbaurer, talk about the importance of cultivating practices that help your mental, physical and emotional well-being. There is so much pressure in society to live a certain way and to be a certain way and most of us lose our sense of who we really are. Most of us lose our connection to our true essence. In this episode you can hear about the importance of returning home to your true self and some practical ways to do that.

Trauma creates change you don’t choose. Healing is about creating change you do choose. – Michelle Rosenthal

About Petra:

Petra Brunnbauer moved to France with her husband in 2017 to pursue their goal of working online and traveling Europe. 2018 turned out to be a very tough year. Petra experienced several personal losses, which affected her greatly and she first thought about the idea of creating a wellness platform. In 2019, the Jōrni was born, a comprehensive wellness platform with a blog and a podcast. Petra currently works in France as a wellbeing coach and yoga teacher, while developing the Jōrni. She is also a grad student at the University of Wolverhampton, studying to become a psychologist.

Connect with Petra:

https://www.facebook.com/thejorni

https://www.instagram.com/thejorni

https://thejorni.com

https://bio.thejorni.com

[email protected]

Connect with Kim Gross:

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimgross24

Masks Off Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/masksoffcommunity/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kim.gross.104

Facebook Masks Off Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/masksoffcommunity

Masks Off email: [email protected]

YouTube:YouTube: https://youtube.com/channel/UCaWJfO7ZFd4aYBX3e-clj9Q

Spotify:  https://open.spotify.com/show/2Et9BMqdFriIQ9bUxcfQeg

Apple podcast:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/masks-off/id1513846583

Anchor:  https://anchor.fm/masksoff

Are you living your life according to what other people expect of you? Do you say yes to people because you are afraid to say no? Do you live in fear of being rejected or abandoned so you just do what others expect of you? Do you try to perform or perfect so that you will receive validation from others? If you answered yes to any or all of these questions then you probably struggle with the people-pleaser and perfectionist pattern. If you want to know how to unhook from these patterns so that you can live your life for yourself and be more authentic, then take a listen to this episode. Do you want support right away? Go to www.kimgrosscoaching.com and book a call with me.

Connect with Kim Gross:

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimgross24

Masks Off Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/masksoffcommunity/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kim.gross.104

Facebook Masks Off Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/masksoffcommunity

Masks Off email: [email protected]

YouTube:YouTube: https://youtube.com/channel/UCaWJfO7ZFd4aYBX3e-clj9Q

Spotify:  https://open.spotify.com/show/2Et9BMqdFriIQ9bUxcfQeg

Apple podcast:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/masks-off/id1513846583

Anchor:  https://anchor.fm/masksoff