Mastering Midlife Podcast

Walt Hampton is a leadership coach, consultant, best-selling author and outdoor enthusiast. Walt graduated from Cornell Law School and practiced law for over thirty years before transitioning to his current role as Founder and CEO of Summit Success International, a personal and professional development firm. Walt's experience as a single father and managing partner of a law firm inspired him to find balance in his life and create space for personal growth and wellness. He has taken that experience and transformed it into the work he does now as an author and leadership trainer. Walt's passions take him all over the world with his wife Ann, enjoying ultra-marathons, sailing and high altitude mountaineering.

Today, Walt joins me to discuss how he created balance between his personal interests and his work achievements. He shares his morning routine and why he believes carving out time for quiet and reflection is the key to more success in our work lives. He debunks the myth of the 'tireless entrepreneur' and shares his perspective on how to continue growing and creating, even in trying times. Walt discusses how his past experience as a top lawyer and single father inspired him to seek more balance in his life and why he thinks it is the key to true success. He also shares how accountability has been a crucial part of his journey and its role in fueling his passion for extreme sports.

"Our best ideas come to us in the shower. They come to us on a long run, on a walk on the beach, a walk in the woods. And yet so many of us keep our nose to the grindstone." - Walt Hampton

Today on Mastering Midlife:

• The need for rest days in sports training and business
• How cultivating a sense of curiosity allows us to create and discover more in our professional lives
• The power of using joy and play to battle workplace fatigue and overwhelm
• The danger of "smart person syndrome" and why it holds so many people back
• How creating space for yourself each day can create quantifiable ROI professionally
• How Walt's morning routine helps him stay focused and productive throughout the day
• What it means to be a highly compensating introvert
• Why momentum is more important than motivation when achieving your goals
• How staying connected to our humanity can bring joy, even during difficult times
• Why wellness is the cornerstone for everything in life
• How the inflection points in our lives transform our journeys
• The importance of having an accountability partner

Resources Mentioned:

• Book: Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking by Susan Cain
• Julia Cameron's Morning Pages
• Book: Finding Your Own North Star: Claiming the Life You Were Meant to Live by Martha Beck
• Tony Robbins Website

Connect with Walt Hampton:

• Walt Hampton Website
• Book: Journeys On The Edge: Living A Life That Matters by Walt Hampton
• Book: The Power Principles of Time Mastery: Do Less, Make More, Have Fun by Walt Hampton
• Summit Success Website
• Summit Success on Instagram
• Walt Hampton on LinkedIn
• Walt Hampton on Facebook
• Walt Hampton on Twitter

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What do you do when you are triggered, and you still need to be professional?

In this episode, I talk myself through 2 real time resentments so I can get to a more neutral state.

And none of is right. We may be closer or further from the truth… but in this day and age, if we don't want to cut people out of our lives, we have to learn to listen.

"For the best possible outcome, I need to do my own work before I address the issue." – Mark J. Silverman

• It's messy and hard to clean up a relationship when I'm charged
• There are three parts to clearing up a challenging relationship
  • Their Action (Theirs)
  • The Relationship (Ours)
  • My Charge (All Mine)
• Nothing anyone can say or do can "make" me feel anything. The "charge" is mine.
• Self Inquiry is the way out and back to relationship
  • Byron Katie: The Work
  • Ho'opono Pono
  • Freedom From Resentment Worksheet

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David Wood is the Founder of Focus, a coaching and leadership business that helps business owners double their revenue by allowing leaders to focus on less. The coaching strategy involves removing distractions, increasing leadership impact, and keeping an eye on the long-term goal. He is the author of Get Paid For Who You Are, where he teaches readers his 5-step approach to online business success. Before starting Focus, David was a Consulting Actuary for Fortune 100 companies, notably Sony Music, Exxon, and Procter & Gamble.

David joins me to discuss how our brain keeps telling us that we have all these problems and why there is truly nothing wrong, despite what we're telling ourselves. He shares how you can alter how your mind looks at bad news and teach it to see more 'rights' than 'wrongs'. He explains how his company helps business leaders have peace in their lives through tough conversations and describes how he guides his clients into having tough conversations and the steps he takes to address their personal problems. David also discusses some of the contents of his book and what readers can look forward to when they read it.

"The only thing that controls my happiness is what I'm believing about it." - David Wood

Today on Mastering Midlife:

• The challenges the pandemic has brought to David's clients.
• Our self-expectations and how it can affect our perception of reality.
• Why David believes the brain should be blamed for generating non-existing problems.
• What David means by "nothing is wrong whatsoever."
• How you can make the mind create more rights than wrongs.
• What it's like to change a client's mindset towards their personal problems.
• How David helps transform his clients' lives through self-vulnerability.
• How David walks his clients through difficult conversations.

Resources Mentioned:

• Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life by Byron Katie

Connect with David Wood:

• Focus
• LinkedIn
• Book: Get Paid For Who You Are
• Tough Conversations with David Wood podcast
• Focus Gift
• YouTube
• Instagram
• Twitter
• Extraordinary Facebook Page
• Play For Real Facebook Page

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We have gone through, and are going through a crisis. You may have been directly affected financially or physically. The impact may be devastating or mildly inconvenient. You still are left with making meaning of what has happened (is happening) and navigating next steps.

If we want to thrive (find resilience) we must find the seed of good in what is happening.

Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of equal or greater benefit." – Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich

"In my life, always, always, always, the seed of gold has been equivalent or even greater than the misfortune that happened." – Mark J. Silverman

Today on Mastering Midlife:

• Post-traumatic stress syndrome vs post-traumatic growth.
• We must find the seed of good to thrive.
• The trick is to find that seed of good faster.
• Martin Seligman – "Flourish"
• Napoleon Hill - "Think and Grow Rich"

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Meredith Bell is an author and leadership communications coach. She is the owner of Grow Strong Leaders, a company that enables leaders to be more engaging with their employees through practical communication skills. She is the author of the book Connect with Your Team: Mastering the Top 10 Communication Skills, where she writes about skills critical for effective team communication. Meredith is also the host of the Strong for Performance Podcast where she interviews industry experts about their experiences and the many lessons they learned that turned them into competent leaders.

Meredith joins me today to discuss why we have a large communication gap between leaders and their employees. She shares how high employee engagement is primarily correlated to business success and long-term profitability. She explains her work processes with companies and how she helps them build groups for the sole purpose of providing leadership feedback. She describes the best way leaders should respond to feedback and shares her perspective on one-to-one conversations between leaders and employees. Meredith also explains the importance of listening and why it's the most critical aspect of being a good leader.

"The most powerful thing a leader can do with feedback is sit down with those who gave it and share what they learned from it and what they're making a commitment to do." - Meredith Bell

Today on Mastering Midlife:

• The gaps in communication Meredith aims to address
• The correlation between profitability and employee engagement
• What Meredith discovered about employee engagement and the correct type of leadership and management
• How employee feedback can significantly reduce management blindspots
• What leaders can do when employees identify their strengths and weaknesses
• The best way leaders can change for the better concerning employee feedback
• What Meredith recommends when it comes to forming a team designed to provide management feedback
• Listening as a leadership skill and why it's a pillar
• Meredith's thoughts on one-on-one conversations between leader and employee
• Meredith's ideal customers and who can best utilize their tools and services

Connect with Meredith Bell:

• Grow Strong Leaders
• Strong for Performance Podcast
• Meredith Bell on LinkedIn
• Meredith Bell on Facebook
• Meredith Bell on Twitter
• Connect with Your Team: Mastering the Top 10 Communication Skills

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I have so many people in my life that I love. I respect. I care deeply about.

And disagree with on almost everything political or societal.

What I've learned is there is my reality, their reality, your reality, the guy down the street's reality…

And none of is right. We may be closer or further from the truth… but in this day and age, if we don't want to cut people out of our lives, we have to learn to listen.

"We are told by society to pick a side, there is no room for nuance." – Mark J. Silverman

• We all can be "appalled" at what we are seeing, even when we are seeing different things.
• Political conversations can be a gateway to personal relations and understanding.
• Dialing in curiosity goes a long way
• Trusting the intention of the other person, even if you don't agree with the point of view
• Get comfortable with the grey areas. Your ego wont like it…but your relationship will.

Are you a busy, overwhelmed business leader?

Through my work as an author and executive coach, I've discovered the 10 lies we all tell ourselves that keep us away from true productivity and creativity.

If constant firefighting is part of your daily grind, I have a free gift for you. My "10 Uncomfortable Truths" about overwhelm, from "Only 10s, Confront Your To-Do List – Transform Your Life."

Go to www.markjsilverman.com, click on the red banner and receive your 10 videos (one minute, one per day) as well as the first chapter of the book.

While you are there, check out some of the other ways I may be able to help you on the journey.

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Sonali Batish is the founder of Cospan Consulting and host of My 2.0 podcast. Sonali started her company in 2020 with the goal of helping companies find growth through market-facing activities and scaling with efficiency. She is also passionate about empowering courageous choices for women in their careers, encouraging girls in S.T.E.M, and bridging the gap in the socio-economic space. Sonali went through a career transition in her 40s which inspired her to start her podcast where she strives to create a community of like-minded women who use storytelling to impart wisdom. In her spare time, Sonali enjoys powerlifting, juggling and spending time with her husband and three children.

Sonali joins me today to discuss why she is passionate about creating an inclusive environment for women in career transitions. She offers her perspective on the role of women in business and how being a mother has profoundly impacted her contributions. She shares why she believes it is crucial for women to have courage before anything else and the power of vulnerability when facing change. She also discusses some of the key factors that prohibit many women from taking chances in their careers and why building a community is an essential part of being more courageous.

"It's about being courageous; being confident that I'm going to get there and also working on my competence." - Sonali Batish

Today on Mastering Midlife:

• How Sonali's role as a mother has given her the tools for facing adversity in business
• Why it's been so liberating to let go of the idea of perfection
• How Sonali maneuvered through a major career change in her 40s and how it inspired her podcast
• Why choosing to be open and vulnerable with her children has had a positive impact on her growth and learning
• What vulnerability really is and how it can be a powerful tool in your career
• Why women are so intimidated by career transitions and the untruths they tell themselves about their own abilities
• The self-imposed barriers for women in their careers and what to do to move forward with courage and confidence
• The correlation between powerlifting and having courage in the workplace
• The importance of building a peer group of like-minded women

Connect with Sonali Batish:

• Cospan Consulting Website
• My 2.0 Podcast
• My 2.0 Podcast on LinkedIn
• My 2.0 Podcast on Instagram
• My 2.0 Podcast on Facebook
• Sonali Batish on LinkedIn

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300 Episodes of the Mastering Midlife Podcast and I realized something.

Everything I am. Everything I do. How I am in the world… is a direct result of becoming a father.

I am thrilled that you may want to listen. And… This episode is a direct conversations for my two sons.

My hope, is that if you are a parent, it resonates for you also.

Zack and Jake… this one is for you.

"We didn't even know how to put you in the car seat to bring you home, but we figured it out… and life was never ever the same." – Mark J. Silverman

Are you a busy, overwhelmed business leader?

Through my work as an author and executive coach, I've discovered the 10 lies we all tell ourselves that keep us away from true productivity and creativity.

If constant firefighting is part of your daily grind, I have a free gift for you. My "10 Uncomfortable Truths" about overwhelm, from "Only 10s, Confront Your To-Do List – Transform Your Life."

Go to www.markjsilverman.com, click on the red banner and receive your 10 videos (one minute, one per day) as well as the first chapter of the book.

While you are there, check out some of the other ways I may be able to help you on the journey.

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Jeff Hoffman is an award-winning entrepreneur, the CEO of several startups including Priceline and Booking.com, a motivational speaker and producer. Jeff is best known for his many business achievements, but his most impactful work is done as CEO of Driving Force Enterprises, performing philanthropic work worldwide. After years of achieving commercial success, Jeff felt ready to leave the hustle and grind behind in favor of using the skills and resources he had accumulated to give back. He now travels worldwide teaching innovation strategies to small businesses and entrepreneurs. He is also a frequent keynote speaker and a featured business expert in publications such as The Wall Street Journal and Forbes.

On today's show, Jeff shares how he went from growing up with a single mom to becoming the mastermind entrepreneur behind many successful startups. He shares stories of encounters he's had over the years that influenced his mindset and inspired him to start giving back. Jeff offers some advice about entrepreneurship and how to be successful without sacrificing your happiness and relationships. We also discuss how traveling and working worldwide led him to realize that people everywhere want the same things and inspired him to be a catalyst for change in small and underserved communities.

"Entrepreneurship is not a job. It's a mindset." - Jeff Hoffman

Today on Mastering Midlife:

• How his humble upbringing inspired him to find creative ways to travel and engage with the world
• Why it's imperative to go beyond your local community to experience new places and cultures
• The power of living your life for today, not tomorrow
• How a conversation with the Dalai Lama inspired him to begin working with underserved youth
• His philosophy about business, financial achievement and the vicious cycle so many get caught in
• Vital experiences he's had that created a profound impact on his life choices
• Why striving for more financial success doesn't appeal to Jeff and how he quit when he felt ready to give back
• The positive change that his humanitarian and philanthropic work has brought to his life and why leaving an impact is more important than accumulating wealth.
• Why trying and failing is just as important as being successful

Resources Mentioned:

• A Series of Talks by Jeff Hoffman

Connect with Jeff Hoffman:

• Jeff Hoffman Website
• World Youth Horizons
• Jeff Hoffman on LinkedIn
• Jeff Hoffman on Instagram
• Jeff Hoffman on Facebook
• Jeff Hoffman on Twitter

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Valari Jackson is a speaker, life coach, business strategy advisor, and the founder of Fierce Focus Strategies, a company that provides professional coaching to business owners as well as individuals who are looking to take control of their life and move forward from where they are. Valari is also a Myers-Briggs Certified Practitioner, and she works with large organizations in improving communication, collaboration, and understanding. She says she works best during one-on-one coaching sessions as she digs deep into her client's persona and provides individualized ways to help them.

Valari joins me today to share how she found her passion for helping others get the best version of themselves. She discusses what her career was like before she became a life coach and the moment that made her pursue this type of career. Valari also explains the difference between self-esteem and self-worth and why setbacks and procrastination are part of the growth process.

"Procrastination is merely the pursuit of perfection. Once we let go of that, we can move forward." - Valari Jackson

Today on Mastering Midlife:

• What she has to offer her customers and audience.
• Why it's important to know what you're pretending not to know.
• Defining the difference between self-esteem and self-value.
• My self-reflection regarding what society told me as a child.
• What the last four years of Valari's life looked like.
• How a bracelet helped change her mindset to what it is today.
• Helping clients switch from beating themselves up to knowing their value.
• Viewing setbacks as opportunities to correct your path.

Valari Jackson's Words of Wisdom:

• People show up in your life to support and confirm that you're on the right track.
• Don't be afraid to make a mistake. Just move, and life will take care of the rest.

Resources Mentioned:

• Book: Fierce Conversations by Susan Scott

Connect with Valari Jackson:

• Fierce Focus Strategies
• LinkedIn
• Phone: (202) 920-7299

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Thanks for tuning into today's episode of the Mastering Midlife Podcast: How to Thrive When the World Asks the Most of You with Mark Silverman. If you enjoyed this episode, subscribe to the show on Apple Podcasts and leave us a review.

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