Meeting of Minds

In this episode I talk about the difference between courage and bravery, how they both show up in my life and how practising them, like practising any new skill, makes progress. It's tough but the truth is no-one is coming to rescue us, fix us or save us so if we want to experience life differently we have to show up in new ways and that usually takes courage. 

If anything in this episode stirs anything up for you that you want to talk about, please get in touch. Or just get in touch anyway. I'd love to hear from you.

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Original music: Jay Herbert and Alex Ware

It was my wedding anniversary recently and I was thinking about the years we have been together and my pattern of running away - from relationships, from jobs, from myself. In this episode I explore that pattern, where I think it has come from and how it is has played out over the years. It is an emotional one for me but I have left it as recorded, exactly as it happened. I hope you find this episode useful and/or helpful if you or someone you love has a similar pattern.

If anything in this episode stirs anything up for you that you want to talk about, please get in touch. Or just get in touch anyway. I'd love to hear from you.

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Production: Jay Herbert

Original music: Jay Herbert and Alex Ware

I have been through many transitions in my life - leaving home, qualifying as a solicitor, getting married, having children, leaving my career after my breakdown. They have mainly been messy and sometimes tough but they have made me who I am. The big question of Who am I? caused me a lot of angst a few years ago and was part of my biggest transformation so far. I talk about what transitions have been like for me and how I came to discover the answer to Who I am? It is still a work in progress but I am moving in a good direction. I hope what I talk about might help you, or someone you know, if you or they are in a similar place. 

If anything in this episode stirs anything up for you that you want to talk about, please get in touch. Or just get in touch anyway. I'd love to hear from you.

To get in touch:

Email: [email protected]

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Website: safeandsupported.co.uk

Production: Jay Herbert

Original music: Jay Herbert and Alex Ware

In this episode I talk about some of the labels I have discovered for myself over the last 4 years of my personal development. Some of them are labels that help me understand past behaviour patterns more, some of them are labels that go to the very core of who I am. I also touch on labels that relate to my children. Overall I find labels helpful as they help me understand but I also know that many don't like labels and I think that is mainly as a reaction to not wanting labels to the limit the possibilities of the person to whom the label is being applied. I wholeheartedly agree with that. I don't usually think of labels in that way but I am sensitive to other peoples feelings around them. What do you think?

As ever, if anything I say in this episode stirs anything up for you that you want to talk about, please get in touch. I'd love to hear from you.

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Website: safeandsupported.co.uk

Production: Jay Herbert

Original music: Jay Herbert and Alex Ware

COA is a thing! Did you know that? I didn't until 2016 when I was 47 and I am a COA. I am a Child Of an Alcoholic. I am an ACOA, an Adult Child Of an Alcoholic. Discovering this has been a huge part of my healing, and although it has been hard at times, I am so glad to have been on this journey. I talk about my childhood as a COA, how it affected me as an adult and how it still does to this day. Knowing about it has helped me understand myself more and make changes for better. It has been tough but worth it. If you are an ACOA know that it isn't just you and you are not alone.

As ever, if anything I say in this episode stirs anything up for you that you want to talk about, please get in touch. I'd love to hear from you.

To get in touch:

Email: [email protected]

Instagram @safeandsupportedcoaching

Website: safeandsupported.co.uk

Production: Jay Herbert

Original music: Jay Herbert and Alex Ware

Before I discovered I am a HSP I went through a period of 3 years or so unravelling the old version of myself and finding a new version. A big part of that journey was discovering the power of vulnerability, mainly powered by the work of Brené Brown. I talk about some of the people who have helped me along the way and although I don't actually name people, if you listen you know who you are. Thank you.

When I started to record I was going to talk about something different but this episode is what came out so I just rolled with it. It seemed like the right thing to do. My hope is that some of you listening to this episode will recognise some of what I am saying and know that it is not just you feeling that way. You are not alone. 

If anything I say in this episode stirs anything up for you that you want to talk about, please get in touch.  I'd really love to hear from you.

To get in touch:

Email: [email protected]

Instagram @safeandsupportedcoaching

Website: safeandsupported.co.uk

Production: Jay Herbert

Original music: Jay Herbert and Alex Ware

In this episode I'm talking about my discovery that I am a HSP, a highly sensitive person. After my breakdown in 2017 and 3 years of therapy I started to discover who I really am. Behind the mask and under the armour I discovered traits that led me to the realisation that I am a HSP. I am still learning about this trait that is believed to apply to approximately 1 in 5 people. It has helped me embrace the parts of me that had led the childhood me to believe that I was broken, defective in some way. I carried this belief with me until only a few years ago and that's a lot of years. Too many!

I am amazed that I have discovered that I am HSP at a time when I am embracing a new work life as a coach that enables me to use my HSP traits in a positive way. The universe is very definitely showing me the way. I now know much better what I need to do to look after myself, so I am able to use my gifts. Self-care is a must for us HSPs.

I love to hear from you. To get in touch:

Email: [email protected]

Instagram @safeandsupportedcoaching

Website: safeandsupported.co.uk

Production: Jay Herbert

Original music: Jay Herbert and Alex Ware

In this episode I'm talking about role models in my life, or rather the lack of them. It started from a comment I made on a friend's Instagram post about not really knowing men and I realised I don't really know women either which made me then realise I didn't have anyone to look up to growing up as a role model for the person I wanted to be. Being proud of myself and my work was certainly something i didn't see modelled in a way that was meaningful to me and pride is something I am now learning about as I work more on my current projects and in my new business. It is totally new to me to feel proud about what I am doing. I also didn't have role models for relationships, managing conflict and following my own path and that is something I am still learning. Every day is a school day! I really appreciate the role models I have now and it's never too late.

I love to hear from you. To get in touch:

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Website: safeandsupported.co.uk

Production: Jay Herbert

Original music: Jay Herbert and Alex Ware

Series 2 is here and this episode is an account of my personal takeaways from creating Series 1. Series 2 is going to be much more of me talking about my life lessons, things that interest me and sharing things I think might be useful. It is a struggle for me to be this open about my experiences but it is something i want to share and I want to feel more comfortable sharing so I'm pulling on my courage pants and going for it. There is some annoying clicking throughout this recording which I'm really sorry about but I felt to rerecord would lose some of the spontaneity. 

I was inspired to record this episode by Gina Isabella Simone (@gina_isabella_simone) and Charlotte Hughes (@littlelotteclothes) and by the work of Colleen Perry (@ImpactedByAlcoholism), Josh Connolly (@josh_ffw) and NACOA (@nacoauk). Those handles are all Instagram and thank you to all of you. 

I love to hear from you. To get in touch:

Email: [email protected]

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Website: safeandsupported.co.uk

Production: Jay Herbert

Original music: Jay Herbert and Alex Ware

For this last episode of series 1 I am rounding up the rest of the advice sent to me that the senders would give their 20 something self. My aim with this series was to provide some normality to the experience of the 20s as it’s a tough decade. I wanted to show that there is no right or wrong way, it’s easy to get bogged down in what you think you should be doing rather than what you want although most people don’t even know what they want. And that is ok. It’s about trying things out for size to see what fits best. Luisa and I have done 4 episodes on travel, gut instinct, relationships and money as these were clear themes that came out from the comments sent to me. There were also a lot of other random comments and one of those was from someone who said they wished they’d taken notice of the words in the Baz Luhrman song Everybody’s Free (most people know it as the sunscreen song). So what I have decided to do is go through the words of the song piece by piece and at appropriate times add in other related advice that I received. I thought this sounded like a fun thing and I hope you enjoy it.

I have really enjoyed putting these 14 episodes together for Series 1. First of all a huge thanks to Jay who produced this series for me. Without him it would not have sounded anywhere as good as it does. Thanks also to Jay and Alex who wrote the intro music for me which I love. I feel very lucky to have had their support. A massive thank you to Luisa who has been on 5 of the episodes with me and we had such a good time recording together. I’m crossing my fingers and my toes that she’ll come back again next series.

Thank you to you, you lovely listeners for spending some time with me in your ears listening to my new podcast. At a time when we are so busy and free time is rare I appreciate you spending some of it listening to this podcast. Thank you.

I’m taking a break for a little while to decide what direction to take the podcast in series 2. If you have any episodes you’ve really liked or subjects you’d like to see covered or have any other things you’d like to share with me about the podcast then please get in touch. You can find me on IG @safeandsupportedcoaching, on my website at safeandsupported.co.uk or you can email me at [email protected].

If you haven’t done already, please subscribe to the podcast if you listen on one of the platforms so you don’t miss the start of series 2.

To get in touch:

Email: [email protected]

Instagram: @safeandsupportedcoaching

Website: safeandsupported.co.uk

Production: Jay Herbert

Original music: Jay Herbert and Alex Ware