READ THIS WHEN YOU WANT TO GIVE UP

Life is messy and complicated, and we canall agree on that. It shows us both its brightest and hardest sides. Sometimesyou end up feeling like everything is completely wrong. You may start feelingdemotivated and unwell, and you may want to give up. It's in those moments of hardship,pain, and uncertainty where we have to take control of our lives. Be morepresent than ever, acknowledge your struggles, get proper help, and also askyour loved ones for support without shame. Giving up is not an option at all.Fight instead-no matter how many times you get knocked down keep fighting. Youowe it to yourself to keep pushing forward, even when it's incredibly hard andchallenging. When you feel bad, take just one moment at a time; don't think ofeverything in your agenda. Be self-compassionate instead of reprimandingyourself or being hard on yourself. Tell yourself: “Iam strong and I am bold. Don't ever question that.”

想放弃时读一读

生活是混乱复杂的，这点我们都同意。它向我们展示它最光明和最艰难的一面。有时你最终会觉得一切都完全错了。你可能开始感到失去动力、身体不适，你可能想放弃。正是在那些艰难、痛苦和不确定性的时刻，我们必须掌控自己的生活。比以往任何时候都更临在，承认你的挣扎，寻求适当的帮助，也毫无羞耻地向所爱之人寻求支持。放弃根本不是一个选项。相反，去战斗——无论被击倒多少次，都要继续战斗。你欠自己这份向前的推力，即使它异常艰难和充满挑战。当你感觉不好时，一次只把握一刻；不要想着议程上的一切。对自己慈悲，而不是责备自己或对自己苛刻。告诉自己：“我很坚强，我很勇敢。永远不要质疑这一点。”

Find your people

The one truth that we need to accept aboutlife is that even when you find ‘your people’, those people are not going tostay with you forever. Because sometimes you find those once-in-a-lifetimepeople — you know, the ones with rough edges and messysouls and the biggest heart you've ever seen. People who take your hand andhold it as tight as they can to remind you that they won't let go. People whocan make you come undone in every shade of the sun. People who mean it whenthey say that they’re here for you. Because sometimesyou can find those once-in-a-lifetime people — the oneswho make you laugh when you're in tears, and dance under the rain, the ones whofill your bucket with so much happiness that you don't know what to do with it — and yet they still leave. You still lose them. You still growapart. You still fall apart. You still move on without them. You still end upwalking on your path alone. Until you find new people. New once-in-a-lifetimeindividuals who will change you, love you, and tire your bones out with newadventures, and give you forever memories to take forward with you. That's justhow it is. Because life is constantly evolving, and people are never forever.Because even though we wish it didn't — 'your people’ often means ‘your people at thatmoment in your life' and nothing more. Nothing more.

寻找你的同类

我们需要接受的一个生命真相是：即使你找到了你的“同类”——那些人也不会永远陪着你。因为有时你会遇到那些一生难遇的人——你知道的，那些棱角分明、灵魂不羁、拥有你见过的最博大心灵的人。那些紧紧握住你的手，用力提醒你他们不会放手的人。那些能让你在阳光下每一寸光芒中都全然释放的人。那些说“我在这里支持你”时是真心实意的人。因为有时你能遇到那些一生难遇的人——那些让你在泪水中欢笑、在雨中跳舞的人，那些用那么多幸福填满你水桶以至于你不知如何是好的人——然而他们还是会离开。你还是会失去他们。你们还是会渐行渐远。你们还是会分崩离析。你还是会没有他们继续前行。你还是会独自走在你的路上。直到你找到新的人。新的、一生难遇的个体，他们将改变你、爱你，用新的冒险累垮你的筋骨，并给你可以带往未来的永恒记忆。事情就是这样。因为生命在不断演化，人永远不会永恒。因为尽管我们希望不是这样——“你的同类”往往意味着“你生命那个时刻的同类”，仅此而已。仅此而已。

Not Everyone Deserves a Front-Row Seatto Your Life.

You know that feeling when you sharesomething personal, and suddenly it feels like you handed someone ammunition?That's your intuition telling you that not everyone who asks deserves ananswer.

Some people collect your stories liketrading cards -- not because they care about your journey, but because they'rebuilding a case about who you are. They want to know your struggles so they canjudge your progress, your dreams so they can measure your failures, your fearsso they can use them against you when it's convenient.

It's hard to learn this lesson, especiallywhen you have a generous heart. You want to believe that openness createsconnection, that vulnerability builds trust. And sometimes it does — with the right people. But the wrong people? They'll take yourhonesty and turn it into gossip. They'll take your transparency and make ittheir entertainment.

Your life isn't a reality show. Yourbusiness isn't public property. Your growth isn't a spectator sport. You don'towe anyone a play-by-play of your healing, your relationships, your money, oryour next moves. Some chapters of your story are meant to be read by you alone,at least until you've finished writing them.

The people who truly love you don't needconstant updates to stay invested in your happiness. They don't fish forinformation or get offended when you keep certain things to yourself. Theyunderstand that privacy isn't secrecy—it's wisdom.

Keep your circle small and your businesssmaller. Share your joy, but guard your process. Celebrate your wins, butprotect your strategy. Let them wonder how you glow up so quietly. Mystery ismagnetic, and boundaries are beautiful.

The front row of your life should bereserved for people who cheer when you win, comfort you when you lose, andrespect you enough to let you control your own narrative.

并非每个人都配坐你生命的前排

你知道那种感觉吗？当你分享一些私事，突然感觉像递给了对方弹药？那是你的直觉在告诉你，并非每个询问的人都配得到一个答案。

有些人像收集交易卡一样收集你的故事——不是因为他们关心你的旅程，而是因为他们正在构建关于你是谁的案卷。他们想知道你的挣扎，以便评判你的进展。你的梦想，以便衡量你的失败。你的恐惧，以便在方便时用来对付你。

吸取这个教训很难，尤其当你有一颗慷慨的心时。你愿意相信坦诚能创造连接，脆弱能建立信任。有时确实如此——对合适的人来说。但错的人呢？他们会把你的诚实变成八卦。把你的透明变成他们的娱乐。

你的生活不是真人秀。你的私事不是公共财产。你的成长不是观赏性运动。你没有义务向任何人实时播报你的疗愈、你的关系、你的财务状况或你的下一步计划。你故事的某些章节注定只由你独自阅读，至少在完成撰写之前如此。

真正爱你的人不需要持续更新来保持对你幸福的投入。他们不会刺探信息，也不会因你有所保留而生气。他们明白隐私不是秘密——是智慧。

保持小圈子，更小的私事圈。分享你的喜悦，但守护你的过程。庆祝你的胜利，但保护你的策略。让他们好奇你是如何悄无声息地焕发光彩的。神秘是有磁性的，界限是美丽的。

你生命的前排应该留给那些你赢时欢呼、你输时安慰、并尊重你足以让你掌控自己叙事的人。

HOW I CHANGED MY LIFE

I started reading books and quotes thatinspired me to be better or that helped me learn new things. I started changingmy circle. I began spending more time with people who inspired me. People whoare kind. People who lift me higher — and people who Ican help lift too. I started spending more time alone working on myself ratherthan with people who drained or discouraged me. I began unfollowing everyoneonline who didn't bring me joy, inspiration, or growth. Instead, I followedpeople who I wanted to become more like and people who inspired me in some way.I changed my mind set on fitness and training from, 'I have to do this' to 'Iget to do this, and I genuinely love seeing how capable my body is. 'I startedlistening to my heart even when everyone around me had a different opinion. Ibegan believing in myself, no matter what.

我是如何改变生活的

我开始阅读那些激励我变得更好或帮助我学习新知识的书籍和语录。我开始改变我的圈子。我把更多时间花在那些激励我的人身上——善良的人，托举我的人，以及我能帮助托举的人。我开始花更多时间独处，专注自我提升，而不是与那些消耗我、打击我的人在一起。我开始取关网上所有不能带给我快乐、灵感或成长的人。取而代之，我关注那些我想成为的人，以及在某些方面能激励我的人。我改变了对于健身和训练的心态，从“我不得不做”转变为“我有幸能做，我真心热爱见证身体的潜能”。我开始听从内心，即使周围所有人都持不同意见。我开始相信自己，无论如何。

The Seasons of Life

I hope your life is filled with peace andjoy, the kind that makes you feel grounded no matter what season you're in. Ihope you wake up to mornings that remind you there's still goodness in theworld, and I hope you find comfort in the little things that make life worthholding onto. Even if you'll never figure everything out, I hope you get tobreathe in the middle of chaos, to smile even when life feels heavy, and tonotice the quiet beauty that sits in the background of your days. I hope youexperience joy as well. It doesn't always come in big celebrations. Sometimesit comes in soft laughter, in people who love you when you're at your lowest,in the simple awareness that you've made it through so much already. I alsohope that when sadness or grief visits your life, because they always do, youremember they never last forever. The weight might feel unbearable at first,and the nights might feel endless, but even the darkest clouds move eventually.Grief comes to teach us, not to stay. Sadness has its season, but it doesn'tdefine your whole story. Even in your hardest moments, I hope you can hold onto the truth that nothing in life is permanent -- not even pain. There willalways come a day when the heaviness eases, when the tears slow down, when you wakeup and realize you can breathe again without feeling crushed. Hold on to that.Let it remind you that your heart is built to heal, and that peace and joyalways find their way back to you, even after the storm.

生命的四季

愿你的生命充满平和与喜悦，那种无论身处何种季节都能让你感到扎根的安宁。愿你醒来时的每一个清晨都提醒你世间仍有美好，愿你在那些让生命值得坚守的点滴小事中找到慰藉。即使你永远无法参透一切，愿你在混乱中仍能呼吸，在生活沉重时依然微笑，并留意到日常背景中静谧的美好。也愿你体验喜悦。它并不总是盛大的庆典，有时它藏在轻柔的笑声里，藏在当你跌入谷底时依然爱你的人中间，藏在你已熬过诸多苦难这一简单认知里。我还希望，当悲伤或哀伤造访你的生活时（因为它们总会来），你能记住它们永不永恒。起初重量或许难以承受，长夜或许仿佛无尽，但即便是最黑暗的乌云终将移动。悲伤是为教导我们而来，而非为了停留。悲伤自有其季候，但它定义不了你整个故事。即便在最艰难的时刻，我也希望你紧握这个真相：生命中没有什么是永恒的——痛苦也是。总有一天，沉重会减轻，泪水会止歇，你会在某天醒来，发现自己能再次自由呼吸而不再感到窒息。握住这一点。让它提醒你，你的心天生具有愈合的能力，平和与喜悦终将回到你身边，即便风暴之后。

Isn’t it weird howyou can experience situations throughout your life that are so heartbreaking orstressful that you can't ever imagine being okay again? Then a few weeks,months, or even years later, you notice that the days go by without thinkingabout those times. You can laugh, you can smile, you can go about your day andrealize that you're so much stronger and happier than you thought you could beever again. Those bad times might always be in your mind, in your memory, or inyour heart, but somehow you feel at peace with your past; and the memories thatcome back don’t punch you in the heart like they usedto. You realize that you are, in fact, as strong as everyone was saying youwere at the time and that you would, in fact, get through what you wentthrough. Isn’t it amazing how much we can change, howmuch we can learn, and how much we can grow?

成长

你是否也曾觉得不可思议？生命中那些令人心碎或压力山大的时刻，沉重到你无法想象自己还能再次好起来。然而几周、几个月，甚至几年后，你突然发现日子照常流逝，你不再时时想起那些过往。你可以开怀大笑，可以微笑面对，可以在日常中发现自己比想象中更加坚强和快乐。那些糟糕的时光或许仍留在脑海、记忆或心底，但你却与过去达成了和解；回忆袭来时，它们不再像从前那样狠狠击中你的心脏。你终于意识到，你确实如旁人当初所言那般坚强，你也的确熬过了那些以为熬不过去的日子。我们能改变多少、学会多少、成长多少，这难道不是最神奇的事情吗？

When the late Nadine Stair of Louisville,Kentucky, was 85 years old, she was asked what she would do if she had her lifeto live over again.

"I'd make more mistakes nexttime," she said. "I'd relax. I would limber up. I would be sillier thanI have been on this trip. I would take fewer things seriously. I would takemore chances. I would climb more mountains and swim more rivers. I would eatmore ice cream and less beans. I would perhaps have more actual troubles, butI'd have fewer imaginary ones."

"You see, I'm one of those people wholive sensibly and sanely hour after hour, day after day. Oh, I've had mymoments, and if I had to do it over again, I'd have more of them. In fact, I'dtry to have nothing else. Just moments, one after another, instead of living somany years ahead of each day. I've been one of those persons who never goesanywhere without a thermometer, a hot water bottle, and a raincoat. If I had todo it over again, I would travel lighter than I have.

"If I had my life to live over, Iwould start barefoot earlier in the spring and stay that way later in the fall.I would go to more dances. I would ride more merry-go-rounds and I would pickmore daisies."

在肯塔基州路易斯维尔，有位已故的老人，她叫Nadine Stair ，在她85岁高龄的时候，有人问她，如果她再有一次生命的话，她会做些什么。

“下次我犯的错误会更多，”她回答到。“我应该会很放松；我会把身子锻炼得很柔软；我应该会比现在还傻；我会更加温和地处理问题；我会抓住更多的机会；我会爬很多高山，游更多的河流；我会吃很多的冰激凌，少吃点大豆；也许，我会碰到很多的现实生活中的麻烦事，但是，一些想象中的麻烦事将不会更多了。”

“你也知道，我是那种每一秒都活得很理性的人。哦，我度过了生命中的光阴，如果再让我过一次的话，我将会拥有更多的时间。可事实上，除了这些我一无所有。只是几多片刻，一个接一个地，并不是在每天前已经生活了很多年。如果他们不带寒暑表，不带热水壶，不带一件雨衣的话，他们就不会去任何地方，我以前曾经就是这幅样子。但是，如果我可以再走一次人生的话，我就会轻装上阵，旅行得更远。

“如果我再有一次生命的话，我就会从早春赤脚到深秋，我会多跳几次舞，我会多骑几次旋转木马，还有，我会多采些雏菊花……”

Red: There's not a day goes by I don't feelregret. Not because I'm in here, or because you think I should. I look back onthe way I was then, a young, stupid kid who committed that terrible crime. Iwant to talk to him. I want to try and talk some sense to him; tell him the waythings are. But I can’t. That kid's long gone, and thisold man is all that's left. I got to live with that. Rehabilitated? It's just abullshit word. So, you go on and stamp your form, sonny, and stop wasting mytime. Because to tell you the truth, I don't give a shit.

我无时无刻不对自己的所作所为深感内疚,这不是因为我在这里(监狱)，也不是讨好你们(假释官)。回首曾经走过的弯路，我多么想对那个犯下重罪的愚蠢的年轻人说些什么，告诉他我现在的感受，告诉他还可以有其他的方式解决问题。可是，我做不到了。那个年轻人早已淹没在岁月的长河里，只留下一个老人孤独地面对过去。重新做人？骗人罢了!孩子，别再浪费我的时间了，盖你的章吧，说实话，我不在乎。

一切刚开始

We’re JustBeginning

“We are reading the first verse of thefirst chapter of a book whose pages are infinite...”

I do not know who wrote those words, but Ihave always liked them as a reminder that the future can be anything we want tomake it. We can take the mysterious, hazy future and carve out of it anythingthat we can imagine, just as a sculptor carves a statue from a shapeless stone.

We are all in the position of the farmer.If we plant a good seed, we reap a good harvest. If our seed is poor and fullof weeds, we reap a useless crop. If we plant nothing at all, we harvestnothing at all.

I want the future to be better than thepast. I don’t want it contaminated by the mistakes anderrors with which history is filled. We should all be concerned about thefuture because that is where we will spend the remainder of our lives.

The past is gone and static. Nothing we cando will change it. The future is before us and dynamic. Everything we do willaffect it. Each day brings with it new frontiers, in our homes and in ourbusiness, if we only recognize them. We are just at the beginning of theprogress in every field of human endeavor.

“我们正在读一本书的第一章第一行，这本书的页数是无限的……”

我不知道是谁写的，可我很喜欢这句话，它提醒我们未来是由自己创造的。我们可以把神秘、不可知的未来塑造成我们想象中的任何模样，犹如雕刻家将未成形的石头刻成雕像。

我们每个人都像是农夫。洒下良种将有丰收，播下劣种或生满野草便将毁去收成。没有耕耘则会一无所获。

我希望未来比过去更加美好，希望未来不会沾染历史的错误与过失。我们都应举目向前，因我们的余生要用未来书写。

往昔已逝，静如止水；我们无法再作改变。而前方的未来正生机勃勃；我们所做的每一件事都将会影响着它。只要我们认识到这些，无论是在家中还是在工作上，每天我们的面前都会展现出新的天地。在人类致力开拓的每一片领域上，我们正站在进步的起跑点。

The day is cold, and dark, and dreary.; 

It rains, and the wind is never weary. 

The vine still clings to the molderingwall, 

But at every gust the dead leavesfall, 

And the day is dark and dreary. 

My life is cold and dark and dreary. 

It rains and the wind is never weary. 

My thought still clings to the molderingpast, 

But the hopes of youth fall thick in theblast, 

And the days are dark and dreary. 

Be still, sad heart! And ceaserepining; 

Behind the clouds is the sun still shining. 

Thy fate is the common fate of all, 

Into each life some rain must fall, 

Some days must be dark and dreary. 

天冷、阴暗、沉闷； 

下着雨，风也刮个不停； 

藤还攀附着颓垣残壁， 

每来一阵狂风，枯叶附落纷纷，

天真是阴暗而沉闷。

我的生活寒冷、阴郁、沉闷；

下着雨，风也刮个不停；

我的思想还纠缠着消逝的往事，

大风里，我的青春希望相继熄灭，

天真是阴暗而沉闷。

安静吧，忧伤的心！别再悔恨；

乌云后面太阳依然辉煌灿烂；

你命运和大家的一样，

每个人一生都得逢上阴雨，

有些日子必然阴暗而沉闷