Melancholy Minutes

We know it when we feel it, and we mourn it when it happens to others. 

We have lost far too many people to it, but we also know we can be consumed by it at any point.

You know the feeling and what it means to us all.

You can also tell I've faced those demons multiple times.

Have you ever faced it yourself? What did you do to stay with us?

There old tale says you are the wolf you feed. Either the darkness or the light. However, the wolf we feed as people struggling with our mental health is the abnormal one. It is the wolf with social stigma and terrible perfectionism that is far from perfect.

We must watch what we obsess over and we must monitor our mob mentality.

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We are a part of a cancel culture. From false accusations to poor decisions being made for everyone to see, we do not have a leg to stand on when it comes to our mental health these days.

I am not immune to it as I have sinned many times.

This is where grace battles the roar of perfection. We want to boil out humanity in order to make this work, yet we cannot be humans without making mistakes and receiving grace because of it.

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I don't know about you, but the idea of having better health (both mentally and physically) stings the wallet far more than it stings the mind.

We have priced ourselves out of the healthcare market, now accepting that survival is the best track we can have in this world without losing our homes and our jobs.

These are not golden handcuffs but social loadstones. We aren't worthy enough, or are we?

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Are we responsible for our own issues when it comes to the stigma of mental health?

Are we shooting ourselves in the foot by striving for a perfection that will never come?

Does being a martyr contribute to your depression?

All this and more!

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When it comes to everything, make sure you are taking care of yourself first.

There is no reason to sacrifice everything in order to make someone else happy.

No matter what, it will never work out well if you don't give yourself some grace first.

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In our struggles to be perfect, we often will feel ashamed by others in the process. We will drag them down in order to hide our own failures. We will hope no one notices the pain and humiliation we feel as we must struggle more and more with our demons.

This is why it is important to give ourselves (and others) grace at this moment. We aren't perfect, and our mental health state shows us this.

Take a moment and be sure to give yourself leeway today.

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This society is built on redemption. It thrives on it.

Why must we give into the cancel culture and the mob that needs perfection to be the normal? Why do we tolerate people being thrown under the bus in order to satiate the masses?

We do this because we are afraid of our own mental health and our own shortcomings. We don't want people to know we are imperfect, so we bring down others to hide this fact.

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This means the advice you get from someone is never going to be free. There is always a cost in getting advice, much like there is always a cost in giving it. Be wary of those who offer advice when they are not asked for it as they are suffering from the perfectionist bug as much as you are.

I know, I have suffered from this often.

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In this world of free care, those services are never free. 

Much like social media, you are paying a price for them. You are also dealing with the social stigma in your group or your place of work because of this issue. This price is rarely discussed, but is often paid in anxiety and depression.

This is why it is so hard to go from zero to one when it comes to talking about your past.

Have you taken advantage of free care? What was your experience like?

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