Mental Breakthrough

Qian Julie shares her story of being an undocumented child in New York City, her experience working her way up the corporate litigator ladder as an Asian American woman, and how a mentor encouraged her to write her book. This is an inspiring and powerful episode.

About Qian Julie:
Qian Julie Wang is a graduate of Yale Law School and Swarthmore College. Formerly a corporate litigator, she is now managing partner of a law firm dedicated to advocating for education and discrimination rights. Her first book, Beautiful Country, is a poignant and powerful literary memoir about her childhood years spent living undocumented in New York City. It will publish with Doubleday (US and Canada) and Viking (UK and Commonwealth) in September 2021. Her short writing has appeared in major publications such as the New York Times and the Washington Post. She lives in Brooklyn with her husband and their two rescue dogs, Salty and Peppers. 

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What happens if you discovered you had been living with childhood trauma at 27 years old? This is Yena's story, and she shares her experience of uncovering her childhood trauma and how she navigated her diagnosis of Complex PTSD.

She talks about her mental breakdown being the catalyst to her mental breakthrough and how her healing journey drove her to her purpose as a healer and trauma recovery coach.

About Yena:
Yena is a Certified Trauma Recovery Coach based in Seattle, WA. After leaving her career in management consulting and experiencing severe depression and anxiety, Yena learned that she had been living with Complex PTSD as a result of childhood trauma. This became the catalyst for her own trauma recovery journey to healing her mind, body, and spirit. Today, Yena brings her lived experience and trauma-informed expertise to help clients find safety, get unstuck and feel empowered to navigate their own healing journey. 

Get in Touch With Yena:
Website: yenahu.com

Social: Instagram and TikTok @yena_hu

Yena offers a one-on-one 12-week Holistic Trauma Recovery Coaching Program. To learn more, please visit her website at yenahu.com.

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In this episode, I share a story from a current chapter of my life. This is my love story of attracting a love that feels like home.

Before I share my story, I discuss the fear of worthiness, a belief I carried with me throughout my toxic relationship and even before. To attract a healthy love is to dismantle the belief that we are unworthy of healthy love.

The process of healing after heartbreak is the process of reclaiming the narrative of being worthy of all things good in life. We are worthy of having a life filled with peace, joy, and love. When we can believe these things about ourselves, we can then attract relationships that remind us we are worthy of everything we desire.

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In this episode I talk about my experience of growing up as an Asian American. There was a lot of shame, assimilating to whiteness, and also confusion of my identity.

It was a constant battle of not being asian enough or being too white. I never felt like I belonged anywhere until I met one of my best friends in 4th grade. This friendship gave me permission to accept myself in ways I couldn’t get to, alone.

Surrounding yourself with people who celebrate your multicultural background and love you because of it is so important in cultivating authenticity in this world.

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In this episode I tell you about a traumatic friend breakup I had the summer of 2019. My friendship with a best friend began to shift as I was choosing the path of healing, self-love, and growth in my single season. My friend began to side with my abuser and invalidate my experiences as a victim. I had to make one of the most difficult decisions in my life and let her go.

Friend breakups are harder than relationship breakups especially when you’re the one choosing to reject someone to protect your mental peace.

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In this episode, I tell my story about going to my friend’s wedding solo for the first time and how this was the start of me falling in love with myself.

Society pressures us to attach our worth outside of ourselves, which made me feel like I was more worthy when I was in a relationship, even though the relationship was toxic.

We are all capable of giving ourselves everything we wish someone else would give us. I hope this episode inspires you to fall in love with yourself.

Whether you’re single or in a relationship, you are still deserving of the love you give to others. Self-love is powerful, and we are all deserving of experiencing our shining light.

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This episode is to honor survivors of sexual assault and emotional abuse. My story can be triggering so listener discretion is advised.

In this episode, I share how I asked for help for the first time so I can quickly escape my abuser. I talk about how I became transparent about my truths for the first time with my mom, who rarely spoke about our emotions, and how this led to dismantling the toxic Asian culture of suppressing our feelings. I also go into heartfelt stories of temporarily moving in with friends after the breakup until I found a new place to live.

Asking for help and support from your loved ones is the bravest thing you can do.

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Lean In Poem:
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This episode is to honor survivors of sexual assault. My story can be triggering so listener discretion is advised.

In this episode, I share a story about the Karen of my life. She is a woman, in my ex’s inner circle, who chose to turn her back on me after I condemned her friend for sexually assaulting me. 

I talk about how silence and complicity keep the toxic culture alive of letting men get away with sexual assault. It is so important for women to support women, believe in women, and stand with women…the Karen of my life turned her back on me...she represents someone who contributes to the problem instead of the solution of misogyny, victim-blaming, and systemic racism.

With the recent events of Asian hate crimes and Evan Rachel Wood speaking up against her abuser, Marilyn Manson, I knew this was an important story to share, in hopes to help anyone going through this feel less alone.

If you have ever been victim-blamed or faced silence and complicity from the people in your life who knew your abuser, please know, you did nothing wrong, and you didn’t deserve it.

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Rise Up Poetry:
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This episode is to honor my favorite holiday, Valentine’s day!

After learning to love myself, post-heartbreak, I was finally able to invite the right kind of love into my life.

In this episode, I take you through the steps to move forward to your future self that is healing, glowing, and thriving.

This is your reminder that heartbreak lasts for a season.

Keep moving forward with curiosity to the potential of who you could be.

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What Goes Around Comes Around Poem:
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This episode is to honor victims of sexual assault and survivors of emotional and psychological abuse. My story can be triggering, so listener discretion is advised.

This episode is a continuation of my story from the aftermath condemning my partner’s best friend for sexually assaulting me (Episode 1-3).

I talk about how an inspiring pep talk with a dear friend empowered me to move forward by reminding me to dream of a better future without my partner. We often do not find people to hold space for us post-breakup. Many people project their fears of being alone onto us. What's important to remember is that those who go through a breakup or divorce should not be pitied. Rather they should be inspired and encouraged to move towards a life of new dreams and to reach their potential.

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Resilient Poem
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