Mental State: Straight talk about all things mental health and more

Pets can be our greatest attachment teachers. Mary asks her friend Jacqueline to share her story of the recent loss of her dear cat Millie, her companion of 17 years. Listen to us talk about the importance of the companionship of pets, how our attachment style influences how we are with our pets, and the grief that comes with pet loss. Pets can be our ultimate attachment teachers.

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Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.

Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Are You Terrified of Ending Up Alone? We explore the fears around a future of loneliness and what you can do to move towards partnership. Mary shares how having brothers helped her feel more secure in relationships and Jacqueline talks about her own fears about ending up alone.

Book Recommendation:

No One Tells You This Glynnis MacNicol

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Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.

Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Mary discusses love languages and break down how they work within the framework of attachment styles.

Take the love languages quiz here : https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language

Get the 5 Love Languages book:

https://www.amazon.com/Love-Languages-Secret-that-Lasts/dp/080241270X

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Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy 

Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.

Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Mary invites her friend Jacqueline to discuss codependency and attachment. In this case, attachment means becoming overly involved with a troubled, needy, or dependent person. Codependence can also mean a lack of open and direct communication, trust in one's self, and the inability to set realistic expectations. Get the low-down on what codependency looks and sounds like, where it comes from (hint: your family relationships), and steps you can take to set yourself free. 

Books:

Codependent No More - Melody Beattie

Facing Codependence - Pia Mellody

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Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy 

Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.

Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

There is a stigma around being single, especially for women of all ages. We grew up with the societal, and quite possibly familial, expectations of pairing up and reproducing before a certain age. Mary discuss singlehood through the attachment lens and what it really means to be single.

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Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy 

Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.

Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Mary is no stranger to the world of self-help, especially when it comes to reading books and taking courses. Mary invites her friend Jacqueline to talk about her years of self-help experiences including taking the course on finding "The One." Relying on self-help can be a reflection of your attachment style and we break down how your attachment style relates to self-help and why it can over-promise and under-deliver.

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Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy 

Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.

Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Mary talks with her friend Jacqueline about how dating apps can play into your attachment style. They give helpful tips on how not to get stuck in the dating app trap and how to shift your energy towards a more positive dating outcome.

DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities. 

Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy 

Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.

Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

The dreaded dating apps - love them or leave them, they are here to stay. Mary talks with her friend Jacqueline about dating apps and how to make them work for you.

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Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy 

Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.

Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

What happens when your soulmate becomes your soul crusher?  Mary invites her friend Jaqueline on the show to talk about the feelings underneath meeting your soulmate and when the relationship turns confusing. Mary shares her own experiences with soul mates turned deadbeats. Learn how this dance can start feeling very disorganized.

DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities. 

Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy 

Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.

Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Mary invites her friend Jacqueline to the show to help her break down their favorite attachment style - disorganized attachment style. Disorganized attachment is characterized by a lack of a consistent pattern of behavior when it comes to attachment. Individuals with disorganized attachment may seem to want to be close to others, but then become anxious, avoidant, or even fearful in certain situations. 

Pulling from their own life experiences with this attachment style Jacqueline and Mary normalize the confusing emotional push/pull of this attachment style. 

DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities. 

Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy 

Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and couples counseling. With the belief that healthy relationships are based on secure attachment, Mary helps clients identify, explore, and repair insecure attachment patterns, create meaningful connections, and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Mary integrates her formal training of several modalities - Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, Advanced Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Somatic therapy - to effectively guide her clients to places of healing. Mary also holds space for deeper exploration of non-ordinary states of consciousness utilizing the power of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy to heal trauma. Find out more about Mary and how she works at marybtherapy.com.

Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. This podcast does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.