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This is the first episode in our Self Care Series where we’ll share valuable insights and practical tips to help you on your self-care journey.

Mayra Gonzalez, Counsellor, Yoga Instructor and Mental Health Advocate helps us learn how to recognize warning signs of domestic violence, manage stress and build resilience. She delves into the transformative power of empathy and the importance of being sensitive to others' pain. Drawing on her expertise and lived experience, she shares insights on how counseling can facilitate healing and growth and then caps it up with 2 grounding exercises that can help you deal with anxiety and stress.

From practical self-care tips to navigating through challenging emotions, this episode offers invaluable guidance on fostering healthy connections, prioritizing mental well-being, and unlocking the potential for profound personal transformation. Tune in to gain a fresh perspective on empathy, counseling, and self-care, and empower yourself with tools to navigate life's challenges with resilience and compassion.

References in this episode
The Body Keeps the Score
Mayra Gonzalez on LinkedIn

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In this episode we discuss how each of us, whether in family or community, can empower women facing abuse or a difficult situation. We discuss five ways to help - empathy, active listening, connecting with resources, challenging harmful attitudes, and volunteering with organizations. We also provide practical examples of how we can empower women that we know are in a difficult situation. 

Key points:

The power of support in empowering women 

Practical ways we can all make a difference in empowering women in difficult situations

Why your voice matters

References in this episode
A Letter to My Darling Husband

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On this episode, we discuss a topic that is both important and relevant - why women in abusive or difficult situations need to be empowered even when not able to leave. We acknowledge that leaving an abusive or difficult situation is not always an option and discuss some of the factors that make a woman stay. Our mission is to raise awareness, provide resources, and offer support to those who may be struggling.

Key points:

Why leaving an abusive or difficult situation may not always be possible

Some Statistics on domestic violence and the prevalence of abusive situations

Why Messy Can’t Stop Her is focusing on empowering women who are in abusive or difficult situations that they can't leave

References in this episode
Most Common, Least Believed: Emotional Abuse, Signs, Impact and How to Help
A Letter to My Darling Husband

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Have you ever felt like "people like you should not be talking?"

In this episode, we address the common feeling of self-doubt and imposter syndrome that often hold individuals back from pursuing their passions and share tips and strategies for overcoming these obstacles.

We explore the power of creative expression to overcome self-doubt and highlight the different forms of creative expression that can be used to leave a lasting impact on the world.  We also provide examples of women who overcame difficult situations in their own lives by growing and focusing on their creative abilities.

 By the end of this episode, you will be inspired to find and pursue your passions, even in the face of difficult circumstances so that you can use your unique talents and perspectives to leave a lasting impact on the world.

References in this episode
A Letter to My Darling Husband
A New Documentary Explores the Origins of My Life, Mary J. Blige’s Most Personal Album 

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What is your legacy? What will you be remembered for? What are you remembered for everywhere you've been? Why do I need a legacy? What is the benefit of living a life with legacy in mind?

In this episode, we discuss the meaning of legacy, why it's important to leave a legacy and how it makes a difference to how we live our lives.

At the end of this episode, you will learn 8 things you can do to live a life of legacy even when dealing with challenges.

References in this episode
Dr. Ken Druck
Messy Can't Stop Her Sisterhood

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How do you stay focused on the positive when you are in a negative situation that you can't get out of? What did the women of previous generations do to thrive when they were stuck with jerks?

In this episode, we discuss why mind health is a game changer for your wellbeing and success in life.

At the end of this episode, you will learn 6 tips that you can practice to help you stay positively focused when the situation around you is negative.

References in this episode
The Battlefield of the Mind by Joyce Meyer
The New Codependency by Melody Beattie
The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian
Walk at Home by Leslie Sansone

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What do you do when your best laid plans fall apart because of unforeseen challenges?

What do you do when you face a difficult situation that seems to stretch till there's no end in sight?

In this first episode of 2023,  I share 6 things I learnt from successful women and my recent challenges with Covid and other struggles,

At the end of this episode, you'll see how you can apply each of them to your unique situation when hard things happen, and you'll be reminded that hard times happen to all of us and we cannot be deterred from living a life of value.

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I did it with fear. I did it with trepidation. I did it with courage. But, I couldn't have done it without you.

So, am taking a break to bring you new things. It's a break for new ways of connecting with you.

Take good care and see you in 2023!

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An update on Nicole's Domestic Violence Story which was an interview with her sister as part of a campaign to stop her murderer from being granted parole.

Every action counts. Little drops make an ocean.

Thank you.

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In this multidirectional episode, Dr. Azumah shares how the fiery flames of a burning car taught her empathy and made her a better doctor. She also explains the impact of racism on how a person of colour experiences impostor syndrome and why empowering black and brown girls should be prioritized. In addition, she described the role of where one lives in a person’s life outcomes.

Nuggets of wisdom in this episode

It's good to plan, but it's also good to be flexible in life 

We've experienced a lot of prejudice and racism, and empowering girls that look like us is a way of transferring the hurt, the pain

Prophylactically empowering young black girls, young brown girls will help them be confident and increase their trajectory for success

It's hard for your brain to release creativity if you are scared that you’re not supposed to be in that space

There's no race better than your race

There's a correlation between confidence and performance

There's a role for non black people to be allies because allies help create equity

References in this episode

Bria Gadsden

Your body language may shape who you are 

Martin Luther King Jr’s Letter from a Birmingham Jail where he talked about the guilt of the silent majority

To learn more about Dr. Ebere Azumah’s work and connect with her, visit Love Your Menses and Azumah Solutions.

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