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On April 8, a Nigerian gospel singer died from the effects of domestic violence and it begs the same old, same old question “Why didn’t she leave?” With stories, videos and Bible verses, JKO discusses the impact of domestic violence and reminds us as individuals, work supervisors and most especially the Church, that we play a role in getting her to leave before she’s killed emotionally, financially or worst of all, physically. 

If you’ve ever wondered what to do to help someone you know experiencing abuse, please listen and share this episode with your friends, family and network. Please review this episode and help get the word out. No woman deserves to be “loved” to death. 

References in this episode

Healing from Domestic Violence: Debbie Di Verde on the role of creativity, community and the Church in her healing journey

Osinachi Nwachukwu brutalized by husband before her death — Singer alleges

Ekwueme - Prospa Ochimana feat. Osinachi Nwachukwu (Live Ministration) with subtitles

Broken Heart Syndrome

Google search result for "how to help my friend who is in an abusive relationship"

Mark 2: 3-5 TLB

Susan Still's Story on Oprah Winfrey Show in May 2007

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The loss of a child can turn a marriage and family on its head and scatter their well arranged lives. For Jessica Janzen and her beau, Hot Ronnie, the choice to bring the joy out of the pain of losing their six month old son, Lewiston, has turned grief on its head. Jessica shares how her choice to be resilient and vulnerable has opened the door to a life of abundance where the Love for Lewiston Foundation is changing the landscape of Spinal Muscular Atrophy in the province of Alberta (Canada) and leaving a legacy of joy in every life touched. 

Jessica reminds us to not wait to lose a life before we start living the life we have.

You can read Jessica’s story of how the nudges led her to Hot Ronnie and the Love for Lewiston Foundation in her 2020 book, Bring The Joy.

To attend the Love for Lewiston Foundation’s biggest annual fundraiser, get your ticket at Lewiston’s 6th Birthday Party. If you’re too far from Calgary, you can support with a donation or by purchasing Lewiston Label merchandise.

To learn more about Jessica’s work, visit https://jessicajanzen.ca/home/.

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References in this episode

Inside the Mind of a Master Procrastinator

Rick Warren

Levi Lusko

Chad Veach

Stephen Furtick

EtchedYYC

Canadian Mental Health Association (CMHA Annual Candlelight Vigils for those bereaved by Suicide, Homicide and the death of a child

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I wonder how many of us lose our person and feel we have nothing to offer the world just because we fell in love... Debbie Di Verde tells us how creativity, community and the Church helped her recover from the toxic effects of a relationship that led to the loss of her children and almost the loss of her life’s value.

Debbie has starred in various stage productions including a role in Steel Magnolias as Truvy. She also has various film credits and published works under her belt. In her day job, she teaches Writing and Communication at National Louis University .

To participate in Debbie’s Writing for Healing Program, you can DM her on Instagram @debbiediverde.

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Social Media is one of those spaces where vulnerability can be a challenge. Some of us are quick to share our vacation pictures and start a discussion about them on Facebook but find it very hard to share our struggles or even our new business. We do our best to carefully curate our persona so that we fit in. And because we are not a celebrity sharing their diagnosis or loss, we think no one will care about our own.

This episode helps us see that every time we truly show up, we are vulnerable. It also encourages us to be vulnerable anyway because that’s when we know that we are not alone and that’s also when we remind others that they’re not alone. 

Thank you so much for listening! 

References in this episode

2 Corinthians 4:8-9, MSG

Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill

Bob Proctor

Les Brown

Brene Brown

MacDonalds

Cathy Heller

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“You always have to make it all about you.” She had heard it once too many and this time, instead of allowing it to break her down, she leveraged that trigger and squared her shoulders to start the #selflove merchandise line. In this episode of Messy Can’t Stop Her, Tiphany Kane, the Heck Yes! coach is no stranger to challenging life circumstances but her ability to turn every hurdle into an opportunity for growth makes her a study in resilience. On this episode, Tiphany shares her journey from a life of subserviency and toxicity to a life of radical audacity.

In addition to coaching, Tiphany is the host of Radical Audacity in Love and Life, co-host of Mastering the Podcaster Mindset and co-founder of KaSa Media Productions. 

You can find Tiphany on: 

Instagram @tiphanykane

Podcasts at Radical Audacity in Love and Life and Mastering the Podcaster Mindset (All podcast platforms)

Purchase of course it's all about me #selflove merchandise

Join her membership on www.tiphanykane.com

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References in this episode

 Brene Brown’s Braving the Wilderness

Glennon Doyle’s We Can Do Hard Things podcast episode on Quitting: When is it time to let something or someone go?

Dear Simone Biles, I Have a Terrible Thing To Admit

Charles Dickens’ Oliver Twist

Gaslighting

 

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In this Women's History Month, I identify a stumbling block that stops many of us from stepping up to share our goodness with the world. Using lessons from the Japanese art form of Kintsugi, I encourage my sisters to recognize the beauty that lies within our imperfections.
 
This episode reminds us that whether positive or negative, we have to agree with our critics and cheerleaders for their words to make impact. It is also a reminder for us to choose the role we will play in the lives of our fellow women, will we be their uppers or downers?
 
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References in this episode
Kintsugi and the Art of Repair: Life is what makes us

Emotional and Spiritual Healing: Shwanda Onwuachi on coming through the darkness of sexual molestation into the light of love for self and others

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Sexually molested at the age of five, Shwanda Ifeoma Onwuachi battled the effects of that trauma till adulthood by hating men and doing everything to make sure she never had to rely on them. Then, she had an encounter that changed her life.

In this episode, Shwanda shares how despite the failings of men and women in her life, she learnt to love in words and deeds by self-love, talk therapy and minding the business that minds her.

Shwanda’s story will make you cry, make you laugh and make you know that no matter the darkness of the darkness, light always wins. 

You can follow Shwanda on Facebook @rshawanda and Instagram @shwandaonwuachi.

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References in this episode

Bob Marley’s No Woman, No Cry

Ephesians 4:23

Total Praise by Richard Smallwood Lyrics

New Light Christian Center Church

Wahala
 

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Pat Backley is a living example of the saying “Age is a matter of the mind. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter”. At 70, Pat began her dream career and is now enjoying a fabulous life. Pandemic boredom unlocked her creativity and she wrote her first novel within three weeks in the 2020 lockdown. This unleashed the deluge of stories hidden in her life experiences. Four books later, including her memoirs, Pat says she’s going to write till she dies and not soon because, she’s got many stories to tell. 

Pat’s story is an encouragement to us all to learn to listen to our hearts, so that we don’t miss the opportunities right inside in our hands.  

Pat’s first Book, Daisy and her sequel, The Second Daisy were selected for promotion during the 2022 Black History Month by Overdrive and Barnes and Noble.

For more information about Pat and links to all her books, visit www.patbackley.com. You can also follow her on Instagram, Facebook and Clubhouse @patbackley.

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References in this episode

https://www.advanced.style/

https://www.nycitywoman.com/ari-cohen-photographing-the-stylish-elderly/
 

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It’s Black History Month and on this episode, I will be sharing a bit of my experience as a Black person living in Canada. I talk about some of the challenges I’ve had and also the role of allies in stemming the tide of anti-Black racism that seems to be entrenched in our systems and interactions. I’ve faced walls of silence and awkward questions, but I’ve also encountered wonderful support from White allies and indigenous Blacks. Yes, there’s been sadness but there’s also been the joy of experiencing the goodness of humans, both Black and White. 

This episode is an encouragement to my Black sisters to keep showing up despite the hard road we journey, and to my White sisters to keep walking alongside us as we navigate the minefields of racism.

Check the references in the episode transcript to see some of the research on systemic racism in Canada and its impact on child welfare reporting and the education of Black children, especially boys. 

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References in this episode

Canadian Education Is Steeped in Anti-Black Racism

Black Boys Across the African Diaspora: Child Welfare Considerations and Practice Implications, a study by Chantille Davis, MSW (November 2021)

Five charts that show what systemic racism looks like in Canada

Psalm 139:14

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The behaviour of a senior colleague at work was meant to mess her up, ended up propelling her onto a career path doing what she loves. On this episode of Messy Can’t Stop Her, Neema Black, founder of the 90 Days to Wellness Healthy Eating Plan and host of the Harmonious Living podcast tells us how the challenges of life pivoted her into purpose. Neema helps her clients integrate holistic wellness practices into their lifestyle so that they can live healthy and balanced lives.

Neema’s story is an example of how our being willing to bend can help us bloom in situations that are meant to break us. 

For more information on the "90 Days to Wellness Plant-Based Eating Program" mentioned in this episode, visit her Harmonic Soul Wellness website. 

Listen and subscribe to Neema’s podcast at Harmonious Living

Join Neema’s Facebook group at Harmonious Living and Eating 

Follow Neema on Instagram @neema_singsand Clubhouse @neemab127

Visit Neema’s Arbonne website to order clean, vegan, cruelty-free, gluten-free nutritional supplements and health and beauty products.

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References in this episode

I Corinthians 6:19

Mel Robbins ON: Why You Can’t Stop Procrastinating & How to Eliminate Self-Doubt in 5 Seconds 

Ecclesiastes 4:9

Psalm 68:6

Why Mirror Work Will Change Your Life - Lisa Nichols

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