Messy Family Podcast : Catholic Conversations on Marriage and Family

Social fragmentation, the break down of the family, isolation, and stress has wounded and broken many of us. Families need to be honest about their need for professional help - honest with themselves and with those around them. It is a sign of strength to admit weakness! Plus, there are burdens that parents simply cannot carry alone. Marriage counselors, child therapists, 12 Step groups, doctors, and support groups are all resources that families can and should take advantage of in order to function in a healthy, holy way. Counseling can offer hope, healing, and a path forward. Listen in as we discuss some of the challenges and obstacles, what to look for in a counselor as well as a note on therapy for children.

Kheriaty’s A Catholic Guide to Depression - https://amzn.to/2XAWqmF

Mike's interview with Dr. Kheriaty for EWTN: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8SIWlQ0ZUqY

Article on choosing a good therapist - https://www.catholiccounselors.com/choosing-a-therapist-a-guide-for-catholics/

Social fragmentation, the break down of the family, isolation, and stress has wounded and broken many of us. Families need to be honest about their need for professional help - honest with themselves and with those around them. It is a sign of strength to admit weakness! Plus, there are burdens that parents simply cannot carry alone. Marriage counselors, child therapists, 12 Step groups, doctors, and support groups are all resources that families can and should take advantage of in order to function in a healthy, holy way. Counseling can offer hope, healing, and a path forward. Listen in as we discuss some of the challenges and obstacles, what to look for in a counselor as well as a note on therapy for children.

Dr. Aaron Kheriaty's A Catholic Guide to Depression - https://amzn.to/2XAWqmF

Mike interview with Dr. Kheriaty for EWTN: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8SIWlQ0ZUqY

Article on choosing a good therapist - https://www.catholiccounselors.com/choosing-a-therapist-a-guide-for-catholics/

Parenting is a path to holiness, that is clear. Part of this growth in your holiness is taking on the responsibility for the formation of your children. It's hard to form people! But it is a job for unselfish, dedicated parents and no one can do it better than you can! In this podcast, we discuss principles that are important to keep in mind as we form our children. Ideas such as your children are not the center of your family, but part of a community; that you need to teach your children to give themselves away; that trust is earned and love requires boundaries. We pick a few other rules that we have found to be important in our parenting to pass on to you. Along with parenting philosophy will come some very practical insights also that will help you form your children and bring peace to your household.

Family Retreat Kit and Videos: https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/family-retreat-2019-3/

Related Episodes and Blog Post:

The Irreplaceable Role of Parents (episode): https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-079-the-irreplaceable-role-of-parents/

The Irreplaceable Role of Parents (blog post): https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/the-irreplaceable-role-of-parents/

Growing a Family Culture: https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-096-building-a-family-culture-part-1/

Parenting is a path to holiness, that is clear. Part of this growth in your holiness is taking on the responsibility for the formation of your children. It's hard to form people! But it is a job for unselfish, dedicated parents and no one can do it better than you can! In this podcast, we discuss principles that are important to keep in mind as we form our children. Ideas such as your children are not the center of your family, but part of a community; that you need to teach your children to give themselves away; that trust is earned and love requires boundaries. We pick a few other rules that we have found to be important in our parenting to pass on to you. Along with parenting philosophy will come some very practical insights also that will help you form your children and bring peace to your household.

Family Retreat Kit and Videos: https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/family-retreat-2019-3/

Related Episodes and Blog Post:

The Irreplaceable Role of Parents (episode): https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-079-the-irreplaceable-role-of-parents/

The Irreplaceable Role of Parents (blog post): https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/the-irreplaceable-role-of-parents/

Growing a Family Culture: https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-096-building-a-family-culture-part-1/

During our tour of Australia, we had the opportunity to meet many listeners and make some amazing new friends. One of our events was a day seminar for engaged and newly married couples with an Australian ministry - The Marriage Project. During the day, we had a time to take questions from the audience and we loved it! It was great to experience firsthand the desire that these couples had for intentional, authentic relationships with each other and with their greater community. We answered questions about blending families, challenge of children and marriage, discerning family size, and even our most important piece of advice to a newly married couple (that one was hard!). We hope you enjoy hearing us interacting with our listeners and hearing us really think on our feet!

Catholic Family Fests: https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/speaking/events/catholic-family-vacation/ for other events see: https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/speaking/events/

Family Retreat Box: https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/family-retreat-2019/

During our tour of Australia, we had the opportunity to meet many listeners and make some amazing new friends. One of our events was a day seminar for engaged and newly married couples with an Australian ministry - The Marriage Project. During the day, we had a time to take questions from the audience and we loved it! It was great to experience firsthand the desire that these couples had for intentional, authentic relationships with each other and with their greater community. We answered questions about blending families, challenge of children and marriage, discerning family size, and even our most important piece of advice to a newly married couple (that one was hard!). We hope you enjoy hearing us interacting with our listeners and hearing us really think on our feet!

Catholic Family Fests: https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/speaking/events/catholic-family-vacation/

Summer Family Retreat Box: https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/summer-family-retreat-box/

“The family is indeed more than any other social reality, the place where an individual can exist ‘for himself’ through the sincere gift of self…it is the ‘sanctuary of life’”

~ St. John Paul II, Letter to Families, #11

This episode is our first LIVE podcast, recorded during our Australian Tour in May 2019.  During this tour, we presented a seminar sponsored by our good friends (Australians, read “mates!” ) at the Marriage Project.  In this talk we examined the question “What is the nature of family?” Society cannot define was this nature is, because society did not give family its nature. Family has a given meaning all its own. According to St. John Paul II, a family is a community of life whose mission it is to guard, reveal and communicate love. It is a man and woman bound together in a life long commitment whose love is fruitful.   Therefore, our understanding of marriage must be seen within the context of family, since not only do we all come from a family, but we are made for family.

Survey about future membership site: https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/membership/

Join our newsletter (don’t miss out): https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/join/

 

"The family is indeed more than any other social reality, the place where an individual can exist 'for himself' through the sincere gift of self...it is the 'sanctuary of life'"

~ St. John Paul II, Letter to Families, #11

This episode is our first LIVE podcast, recorded during our Australian Tour in May 2019. During this tour, we presented a seminar sponsored by our good friends (Australians, read "mates!" ) at the Marriage Project. In this talk we examined the question "What is the nature of family?" Society cannot define was this nature is, because society did not give family its nature. Family has a given meaning all its own. According to St. John Paul II, a family is a community of life whose mission it is to guard, reveal and communicate love. It is a man and woman bound together in a life long commitment whose love is fruitful. Therefore, our understanding of marriage must be seen within the context of family, since not only do we all come from a family, but we are made for family.

• Survey about future membership site: https://messyfamilypro.wpengine.com/membership/
• Join our newsletter (don't miss out):https://messyfamilyproject.org/contact-us-legacy/subscribe

High emotions and the advent of adolescence seem to go hand in hand.  Instead of getting caught up into our children’s emotion and the drama that may ensue, parents need to truly be “the adult in the room” and be an example of how to deal with strong feelings in a appropriate way.  To do this, we parents need to be self-aware and conscious of our own woundedness and need for healing. Only then can we be an example to our children and a source of hope sending the message that they CAN overcome.  We need to empathize with our child and empower them to master their emotions while using their intellect and will to act, thus integrating all their faculties to act virtuously. It's hard for parents to teach pre-teens and teens how to handle drama, but this is the job of hard-working, devoted parents!

Survey about future membership site: https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/membership/

Join our newsletter (don’t miss out): https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/join/

Cana 90 meditations (Lent & Easter seasons): https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/tag/cana90/   

Schedule for MFP events in Australia: https://www.facebook.com/757182281305801/posts/845469395810422?sfns=mo

Additional resources for this episode:

Dr. Brene Brown on empathy https://youtu.be/1Evwgu369Jw

More from Brene Brown Daring Greatly https://amzn.to/2XRd2C8 and Power of Vulnerability https://amzn.to/2WgmlLI

Teaching your child self-control: https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-090-teaching-children-self-control/

Raising confident kids who aren’t full of themselves: https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-043-raising-confident-kids-who-arent-full-of-themselves/

Discipling and Disciplining Our Teenagers: https://www.messyfamilyproject.org/mp-064-discipling-and-disciplining-our-teenagers-pt-1/

"Are you the adult you want your child to become?" ~ Dr. Brene Brown

High emotions and the advent of adolescence seem to go hand in hand. Instead of getting caught up into our children's emotion and the drama that may ensue, parents need to truly be "the adult in the room" and be an example of how to deal with strong feelings in a appropriate way. To do this, we parents need to be self-aware and conscious of our own woundedness and need for healing. Only then can we be an example to our children and a source of hope sending the message that they CAN overcome. We need to empathize with our child and empower them to master their emotions while using their intellect and will to act, thus integrating all their faculties to act virtuously. It's hard for parents to teach pre-teens and teens how to handle drama, but this is the job of hard-working, devoted parents!

• Survey about future membership site: https://messyfamilyproject.org/community
• Join our newsletter (don't miss out):https://messyfamilyproject.org/contact-us-legacy/subscribe
• Cana 90 meditations (Lent & Easter seasons):https://messyfamilyproject.org/cana90
• Schedule for MFP events in Australia: https://www.facebook.com/757182281305801/posts/845469395810422?sfns=mo

Additional resources for this episode:

• Dr. Brene Brown on empathy https://youtu.be/1Evwgu369Jw
• More from Brene Brown Daring Greatly https://amzn.to/2XRd2C8 and Power of Vulnerability https://amzn.to/2WgmlLI
• Teaching Your Child Self-control:https://messyfamilyproject.org/collections/podcast/mp-090-teaching-your-children-self-control
• Raising Confident Kids Who Aren't Full of Themselves: https://messyfamilyproject.org/collections/podcast/mp-043-raising-confident-kids-who-aren-t-full-of-themselves
• Discipling and Disciplining Our Teenagers: https://messyfamilyproject.org/collections/podcast/mp-064-discipling-and-disciplining-our-teenagers-part-1