Mid-Life Mayhem; A guide to functioning in your 40's & beyond

This Episode is the second part on the subject of lying to ourselves; during this episode we dive deeper into our illusions, no one really knowing what they are doing, how to live in a space of non judgement while also having firm boundaries and what I learned from past personal and business relationships coming to an end.

What we consume can consume us - especially during a pandemic

On: No one knowing what the f*ck they are doing - 26:00 - 26:09

On: Micro and Macro - it’s all the same, we idealize what’s not there - 28:15 - 29:13

On: Once the illusion bubble bursts - 30:42 - 31:35

On: Being aware but maintaining stagnation - 31:36 - 32:23 or 8:49 - 9:35

On: Being judgemental while trying to love and accept everyone unconditionally 33:25 - 34:05  

On: How to not get caught up in it - 35:10 - 36:06 

On: lessons learned - 42:10 - 43:12

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In part 2 of Kayla's interview (check out episode #3 for part 1) we continue our chat about her path of self-discovery and dive deeper into how it has effected her current choices.

On:  Being able to pivot when new information comes to light, leading you into a much better place 1:39- 2:21

On: Sticking something out forever because you committed to it 4:45 - 5:44 

On: “They” is really us - when we are concerned about what people think it’s our own judgement and projection - Katie’s background on making precarious choices 7:50 -11:05

On: Commitment and walking away when you have anxiety 12:19- 13:08

On: Doing what you want and developing natural tendencies in children 15:55 - 17:06

On: Making the leap to starting her own business 18:01 - 18:50

On: People pleasing - am I pleasing someone else or am I pleasing myself? 35:00 - 38:00

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This is a two part episode featuring Kayla O'Brien. Kayla has been a long time client, friend & colleague and she shares her incredibly moving and RAW story about her path of awakening, struggles with anxiety since childhood and her journey of self-discovery.

This two part episode dives into family dynamics and the impact of mental illness on the whole family. Take a listen to part 1 and stay tuned for part 2 next week!

On: Introduction to the episode 8:29 - 9:18

On: First brush with anxiety 9:20 - 10:04

On: What waking up means to her 10:42 - 11:10

On: Her lightbulb moment 11:48 - 12:58

On: Not being a victim of her circumstances 25:14 - 26:09

On: Unpacking the past **Mention of Integrate Wellness Center 39:28 - 43:53

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This episode discusses the lies we tell ourselves and sell ourselves when we want to keep an illusion or dream alive.

Background:This episode was recorded during Katie’s 8-week trip to Michigan where she was staying in a small cottage on a lake in a middle-of-nowhere town with her Mother. This time was really about reconnecting with herself after an intense year (pandemic obviously) discovering co-dependent patterns that started with her relationship with her Mother, going through a break up with her fiance and restructuring her business to be entirely virtual.

On: Do you want the thing or the dream/illusion? -7:15 - 8:05 

On: Wanting the thing so badly we ignore every red flag  9:20-9:45

On: The lies we tell ourselves when we want a dream too badly 10:40 - 11:03

On: Inspiration from Shift 110 about learning to become aware of what you are consuming: 12:46 - 14:46

**Reference to balancing/balances & PSYCH-K: The process Katie used to re-program her subconscious when it came to anxiety about change & creating new habits

On: What comes out when we stop lying to ourselves  15:26 - 15:42

On: Clearing the space so you can choose new things  16:33 - 16:55 

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We all have anxious friends and family members, some of whom tend to emotionally spin out frequently. It's really easy to get caught up in the heightened emotion and on today's episode we are going to discuss the spin out and tips for how to help someone when they are spinning out.

Show Notes:

1st basic rule of the spinout - 2:00 - 3:30

Until someone is calm they won’t be able to see things in a different way - explain how the brain and nervous system work 

2nd rule 3:45 - 4:37

Distract them - when you feed a story it grows, is this a story you want to continue to grow? If no, distract them and direct them away from it. If they do want to vent, limit the venting session. 

3rd rule - 5:40 - 7:00

With people who are starting to wake up…helping them identify and wake up to the fact that they are operating under narratives. 

On: “People can’t change” -  8:26 - 8:40

On: Wanting to rescue/save others: 8:28 - 11:02 and 

On: Core Beliefs: 11:00-11:53 - The beliefs we hold about what it means to be human and life and alive are our anchors. The anchors bring us back to our center. That’s how we gut check and fact check our egos. 

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