Season 1 Episode 17: The Mysterious Motive
In this episode I take another break from the timeline details to explore MOTIVE and EFFORT
Motive is the elusive WHY - the question I keep getting asked, ad nauseam, by the royal EVERYONE
Why did my ExHusband go through so much effort to make me appear to be mentally deranged and dangerous???
Why did my ExHusband claim that the only way to salvage our marriage was MY RESPONSIBILITY and the only way I could have saved my marriage was to check myself into a mental hospital and STAY THERE???
Why would my ExHusband poison my food and drink for no less than 5 years??
Why did my ExHusband LIE to the family court system about the reason for the divorce??
Why did my ExHusband tell the family court system that I was perfectly capable of working a minimum wage job to avoid paying me any type of spousal support when he was begging my family friends to help make me realize that I NEEDED HELP and encouragement to check myself into a mental hospital??
Why did my ExHusband tell my therapist that he was still my husband and request her help to “turn me around” a month after he filed for divorce before my EXHusband rejected my request for spousal support??
Why did my ExHusband make a gigantic mess out of - what should have been - a very simple divorce process???
WHY IS EVERYONE ASKING ME WHAT MY EX HUSBAND'S MOTIVATIONS ARE & WERE???? WHY ISN’T ANYONE ASKING HIM???
I hate the question WHY because the answer to it - the WHY - nothing makes sense from my point of view
My ExHusband is the ONLY PERSON WHO CAN ANSWER THE QUESTION and my Ex Husband’s point of view is elusive, always changing, dishonest and quite possibly - DRUG FUELD
One year ago the Why’s I was asking myself are much different than the why’s I’m asking myself today and the answer to any and all Why’s is more baffling than ever
Among the list of possible motivations are:
Financial Gain - my Ex husband’s inheritance from his grandmother?
Financial Gain - my Ex husband’s payout from the 3M earplug settlement for military veterans?
Financial Gain - Did my Ex husband take out a Life Insurance Policy in my name? Which is actually basic bitch of all spousal murder plots
Financial Gain - Was my Ex husband hiding the majority of his CASH HEAVY earnings during the entire 9 year marriage?
Personal Motivation - Did my Ex husband hate marry me?? Like a hate f#@$ but worse??
Personal Motivation - My Ex husband’s midlife crisis that’s playing out on his public social media complete with Manson Family cult of 20 something’s, RAVE culture, Meth Addiction, and his 40-year old allegiance to Nazi White Power and the Juggalo’s?
Personal Motivation - The only value my Ex husband found in me was the financial support I provided to him for 8 years of our marriage?
Personal Motivation - The loveless and sexless marriage that my Ex husband blamed entirely on me?
Personal Motivation - My Ex Husband got a twenty-something pregnant?
Personal Motivation - My Ex Husband engaged in an extramarital affair with my EX BFF?
Personal Motivation - My Ex Husband’s RAMPANT Cheating for over 12 years?
Personal Motivation - My Ex Husband’s affair with his friends’ new wife?
FRAUD - My Ex Husband’s tax fraud and evasion that he’s trying to blame on me when I have ZERO INVOLVEMENT IN HIS BUSINESS???
FRAUD - Identity theft or the sale of an identity - Like MINE - my EX Husband sold my identity on the dark web???
FRAUD - My Ex Husband was involved in a Medical Records Fraud scheme for insurance reasons and used my ExBFF (the therapist) to help him manipulate the MENTAL HEALTH SYSTEM
These aforementioned are some of the things I explore in the episode………and I’m still nowhere closer to answering WHY
The truth is my Ex Husband has put forth an astonishing amount of effort to manipulate others, lie and commit crimes, attempt to murder me, slander my name, leave me homeless, ruin all of my familial connections, ruin all my friendships, bankrupt me, leave me homeless, and MAKE HIMSELF THE VICTIM.
And my Ex Husband has achieved the MAJORITY OF THE THINGS HE SET OUT TO DO - my Ex Husband’s only failure was extinguishing the life from my body
One other thing I explore in this episode is my spouse’s drug use and addiction, not just during our 9 year marriage but the new addictions that are obviously present after the date of our separation
I also explain why, looking back, exploring and analyzing the nuances of my Ex Husband’s behavior over the years, is still very important to me - it can’t answer the WHY but it sure can help me understand HOW I willingly entered into a relationship with a possible Narcissist and Sociopath and HOW I can avoid doing it again EVER. PERIOD.
Be Careful Who You Trust With Your Life - It Might Cost You Exactly That - Thank you so much for listening XOXO Launa
Link to Episode Webpage - Season 1 Episode 18 Webpage
Links to Topics Discussed in the Episode
- Healthline Article about rising Kratom use health risks
- Article about how-often Life-Insurance is a motive for murder
- Article with CDC report about Female Homicide Victim Statistics
- VPC Article 9 out of 10 Women Murdered are killed by someone they know
- Article about Kratom addiction
- Veterans Guide article about 3M earplug lawsuit
Website and Social Media Links
- Link to Podcast Website
- Link to Midlife Misery Supporter’s Club
- BlueSky Profile
- Flashes Profile
- TikTok Profile
The story as told in the Podcast and Website is based on my understanding and perspective, it should not be interpreted as factual claims about any individual or entity without further verification. The names and places have been changed or left cryptic to protect the accused. My name has also been changed to protect myself from my ex as he continues to drag out the divorce process - a divorce he filed for - in court
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