Mile Marker Miracles

When I think about grief, of course I (especially given my circumstances) first think about the loss of a loved one through death. I would imagine that is what most people initially think of when they talk about grief.

However, grief at its core is “the response to loss”. We began last episode talking about that a little with Petra, and this episode is chock FULL of such incredible wisdom surrounding this in my conversation with my friend Sarah.

In this episode, we discuss…⁠

• How Sarah navigated a canceled wedding and celebrations amidst the pandemic⁠

Sarah is someone I’ve always known to bring such insight and authenticity to everything she does, and this conversation is no different! If you have experienced the loss of a life milestone, struggle with bitterness, are curious to hear about grief from a non-death perspective, or relate to any of the things above, this is the episode to listen to.⁠

Also, connect with Sarah for an incredible friendship and beautiful food! @sarahlindsaypogue

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If you want an episode that covers almost every aspect of grief… we’ve got you covered. My conversation with Petra is one that still has me processing, and I’m sure it’ll do the same for you. What I love about this episode is that we talk about what grief looks like when you lose a loved one and also what grief looks like in transition and unmet expectations.

Our conversation topics include:

• Processing guilt in grief and exchanging grief with conviction

Petra brings so much wisdom and insight that I have a feeling will touch on something that each of us are thinking about and processing through. So much of this conversation just feels relevant and important. My tip would be to have a notepad ready to go as you listen to write down what she shares, or to pause the episode momentarily and process through your own thoughts about it all.

Connect with Petra on IG, Facebook, and Twitter at @petrafwscott.

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This episode is one that I walked away from thinking “that was just incredible” and “I wish we could’ve talked longer”, and I have a feeling you’ll think the same. Jon Lash is someone who consistently brings powerful wisdom in a way that also carries such empathy and warmth. ⁠ ⁠ In this episode, he shares the incredible legacy that his dad left behind, one that we all can learn from, as well as some of the lessons he has learned while walking through grief. A few things we discuss are...⁠

- how God works all things for good even a changed timeline and confusing disappointments⁠

- how we can maintain a sense of hope that isn’t false or overly positive (even if you're an optimist)⁠

- how to be appropriately intrusive with people who are grieving⁠

- how to deal with anger and regret⁠

- how to hold deep hope even through our darkness⁠ ⁠

My pro tip is to have a pen and paper or a note in your phone ready because, as per usual, Jon leaves us in this episode with so many pieces of invaluable wisdom… plus he prophesies and possibly manifests a new family tradition for the Lash generations to come.⁠ ⁠ Be friends with Jon and keep up with his amazing church at @greenhousesfl⁠ on Instagram and www.GreenhouseSFL.org.⁠

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Candyce is someone who has always inspired me ever since I was a young girl, and in the last year she has also been someone who has openly and honestly shared of her grief journey since losing her mom 30 years ago. I cannot wait for you all to be able to gleam from her insight.

In this episode, we talk about so many important things relating to grief. We talk about what biblical lamenting looks like for us today, how to routinely do a grief inventory, how to be in community well with someone who is grieving, how God can be a mother to the motherless, and so much more. 

Candyce doesn’t just share about these topics straight up, but also with some beautiful authenticity and passionate care. It’s such a beautiful balance that I know you’ll feel inspired and encouraged by.

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If you thought one Melissa was enough, well then get ready… because in this episode, there’s two of us.

But for real, Melissa Moskowitz Goldsmith is someone who never ceases to speak wisdom in a way that is equal parts honest, challenging, and full of love, and she does just that in this conversation. 

She openly shares about losing her husband Jhan in a sudden accident, what was most (and least!) helpful for those around her to do and say, how she continues to grieve while walking in the joy of marrying Steve, why grief is like a game of ping pong, and much more. Plus, what she says in the last five minutes still has me shaken in the best way. I have an inkling that you’ll feel the same. 

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It's safe to say that one of my favorite topics to talk about it is my mom. You might think "well, of course, because she's your mom!"... and that's true. I love talking about her because I just adore her and we had such a close relationship.

However, it's also because she was incredibly wise, loving, and encouraging, and always carried a high level of discernment that makes my life (and I know many others' lives also) that much better. Whether you knew her personally or are getting to know her through this podcast, there are many lessons that can be learned through her life and legacy. I promise you that you'll grow and be shaped for the better just by listening.

Some of the questions I received that I talk about in this episode are:

- What traditions did your mom start or make meaningful that you want to carry on?

- Was your mom silly with you guys or was she more the serious mom type?

- What are some of your favorite memories with your mom?

- How did your mom become a believer?

- Does your mom have siblings

- What was Linda’s favorite vacation you took as a family? Why was it her favorite?

- What was your mom like when she was a kid?

- Where do you think her unbridled hospitality and care for others came from?

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So many of you had questions about coping skills and how I've learned to cope through grief... so I put together a whole Q&A episode answering these questions. I feel it important to say, and I disclose this during the episode, that there is no one way to grieve and a way of coping that works for someone may not be helpful for someone else. I am sharing what I've gathered in the last ten months in hopes it'll be helpful or encouraging for you as well.

Some of the questions I talk about in this episode are:

- How do you stay connected to your feelings in grief, when all you want to do is shut off from feeling?

- What are ideas to celebrate mile markers of your loved one's life to keep their memory alive?

- Is the topic of death something you avoid talking about it are you more open to it?

- What coping skills have you used in past crises that were/are helping through this loss? Have you used any new coping skills?

- Does it help you to make reels and connect with others through social media/podcast?

- What is the best way to cope?

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Do you have a friend who is walking through grief that you want to support? Or maybe are you grieving yourself and want to help the people around you best support you? I received some incredible questions asking what the best ways are to help a friend in their grief, and I share my thoughts on all of them.

The questions I answer in this episode are:

- How do you practically give grace to people who don't understand your grief?

- If you haven't seen a friend in a while and they talk with you "as if everything is normal," does that super bother you, or is it refreshing?

- How would you suggest someone should act with someone who is grieving who doesn’t want to talk about the loved one they lossed?

- How is it to “share grief” while living with your dad and Josh

- How does Josh understand/process the loss of your mom? How does that impact you?

- How relationship between family members has grown since

- If I have a friend whose parent passed away before I met them and they don’t talk about them much, should I try to foster more conversations about their parent? How do I bring that up? 

- How can we practically support you, when we hear people saying harmful things?

- Do you enjoy it when someone brings up a memory of your mom, or does it upset you? 

- Is it awkward for you in conversation if the person doesn't ask about your mom?

- Does it help or hurt when others speak about your mom?

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I have received the most important and thoughtful questions throughout the last nine months about grief and loss. I hope that what I’ve learned and processed through can help you in your grief journey or as you support your friends through their grief.

The questions I answer in this episode are:

- How do you do your best to work and live your life still as you grieve?

- How do you hold both happy moments and very sad ones at the same time?

- Has reflecting on your mom and walking through grief affected your productivity in work / every day life?

- Is there a time of day that the grief hits worse?

- What do you do on days when you feel like you can’t do anything because of grief?

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Do you have questions about grief and loss? Well there's a very high chance that I'll answer your question (or one just like it) in these next few episodes!

A few of the questions that I answer in this episode are:

What are your thoughts on the phrase “grief is not linear”

How has your language changed when talking about your mom, and how have you dealt with the challenge of changing your speech? 

Through all of the pain, has there been any particular way you’ve found that brings peace or joy?

Are you scared of forgetting certain things about her? 

How do you preserve her memory?

Do you relate to the classic 5 stages of grief when you reflect on your loss? 

Do you find you are better at communicating with other people who have experienced loss?

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