Mind & Muscle

Language is how we interpret and communicate everything. Every single sensory experience, emotion, memory, etc is only shareable and understandable with language. This can be our greatest freedom OR a huge limitation. We can use language to create clarity for ourselves and have honest experiences OR we can use it to manipulate ourselves as well as others around us.

How do YOU want to use language for your life experience?

Consider clarifying questions you can start asking others when you are devoted to understanding them rather than trying to use your own internal systems to fill in the blanks they've created by using verbal fluff.

- Book: Nonviolent Communication by Marshall B Rosenburg

- Podcast: The Witch Trials of J.K. Rowling with Megan Phelps-Roper

Language can and should be ever changing because language is how we are able to express our experiences here and we are continuously evolving and learning as a species. It makes sense then for our language and how we understand to also be evolving and expanding. When people tell us they want to have more language to represent THEIR gender identity, it is very limiting and disempowering to reject that. For all of us as a collective. It limits others and it limits ourselves as a whole. Expansion and options and freedom are VERY much rooted in language and how we express.

Join me in my fitness fantasy world, where we all take the necessary steps toward our goal in a perfect linear way...

In todays episode I talk about the patterns I see as a personal trainer AND experience myself as a fellow imperfect human. I talk about how we tend to be more reactive when it comes to health, rather than preventative or proactive. I map out what being proactive would look like in an ideal journey and how it's actually okay that it ISN'T perfect. No science in here today, we're just having an honet chat!

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Is your happiness conditional?

What happens when your partner behaves or communicates differently than how you want them to?

What happens when the weather doesn't go your way?

What happens when you get used to the job you were once so excited and grateful to have?

What happens when the vacation or the concert or the delicious meal is over?

What, realistically, is the probability that the moments in front of you are always going to match what you want?

Join me in answering these questions as I share MY personal journey with control and struggling to find ease with fulfillment. With years of practice (remember- the mind is like a muscle) I've been able to harness the beautiful, freeing gift of surrendering to the moments in front of me and it's something I hope everyone has the opportunity to explore.

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If you've heard of the Pomodoro Technique and find it valuable or interesting, you'll vibe with this episode! Today we're talking about the Add-On method when it comes to setting fitness parameters. MOST people will make the error of over-committing or believe they must be able to commit the way they used to be able to -- it doesn't work. I've seen and heard this story thousands of times. Whether you're a beginner to fitness or a seasoned veteran, give it a listen and try it out. It works for my fitness clients every time -- let me know when it works for you!

Studies mentioned in this episode:

Effects of physical activity recommendations on mindset, behavior and perceived health by Alia j Crum and Octaia H Zahrt

Knowledge of recommendations does not predict increased engagement in physical activity (Morrow et al., 2004).

Join Chelsy in an honest conversation about "sales" and how she went from being terrified of talking about her training services to confident, excited, eager. If you have a service you're genuineely proud of but have some mental barriers about telling others why you love what you do, this episode will uncover the barriers AND solutions that Chelsy has learned.

Here are some of the details covered in this episode:

POTENT QUESTIONS WHEN THINKING ABOUT SALES:

• What specifically do you feel when you have to "sell" or talk about your service?

• How do you WANT to feel when you sell?

• Why do people buy your service?

• Who do you love buying from? Why?

• If you knew every time you pitched to a prospective client that you'd feel relaxed and confident and excited to talk about how you could help and you'd most likely get the client, would you enjoy sales? Discern what you actually DON'T LIKE versus what you feel UNCOMFORTABLE doing.

Remember that you are ALSO a consumer of services. Understanding why *you* buy from others gives you direct access to why others might be buying from you or what others find compelling about you. Thinking about yourself as a consumer can be a great way to reframe into wondering how or why to get yourself to stand out for others.

Additionally, you probably sell other peoples' products and services without feeling "Salesy" - is this correct? You give links to foods all the time that benefit those food companies and you give raving reviews and urge clients to buy them because you KNOW it's helpful and you want to help. Why do you think it's so easy to talk up other peoples' services or comfy clothing brands or convenient foods BUT it's hard to speak enthusiastically about what YOU offer?

REFRAMING SALES:

Can you reframe or reassociate the word "sales'' with giving love or something more empowering and aligned with the impact you actually have? You offer something invaluable and you are SO smart. You are an expert at what you do, especially compared to the people seeking your help. So are you really SELLING or are you HELPING?

The sales conversation or pitch is where your support and love and passion starts. It's where you demonstrate how much you believe in your service/degree/knowledge/results and prove that you can AND WANT to help.

Sales calls or pitches are your first opportunity to coach or facilitate help.

Go into sales with curiosity and/or value.

CURIOSITY: If you're speaking to individuals or perhaps pitching on social media, get curious and ask questions. What do you genuinely want to know about the people you can help? Help them discover more about themselves by giving them questions to answer and think critically about while you gather information and learn more about what their pain points are, what they desire, fear, and want.

VALUE: If you're speaking to an individual or on social media, provide value and impact to show that you want to help. You can also do this when you're "selling" by having answers to questions you're asking. For example, when I'm on a sales call during my launches, I ask women what exactly would they want to achieve in their three months with me? What are they hoping to get or solve or learn? If someone says she desperately wants to be able to hike with her friends without being insecure and without as much knee pain, I might map out a potential solution right there on the phone with her, I might say, "Wow yes, I would love for you to be able to do that and if you are really ready to show up for yourself here, we could strengthen the muscles that support your knees and work up you cardiovascular strength so you can have more confidence hiking." I might even add specifically what kinds of movements we could try to strengthen those muscles.

DISEMPOWERING FRAMES:

• Imposter syndrome/Insecurity - "I'm not ready/smart enough" "Other people do it better than me"

• Guilty conscience - "I don't deserve their money/time"

• Doubting others/making assumptions - "They can't afford it" "They cant do this"

• Beta/follower mindset - "I need you" instead of "you need me"

EMPOWERING FRAMES:

• Money is energy - "I'm condensing my entire life's work/studies/learning curve into __ amount of time for you"

• Life supports that which supports life - "I'm about to change their life!"

• Your certainty in yourself, your science, and in them overcomes their doubt

• HILA = High intention, low attachment - if someone isn't ready to commit, you can always ask follow up questions to genuinely try and understand what their objections were (was it money, time, fear, lack of clarity, etc?) Once you know, you can make adjustments later on for others OR handle the objections and follow up.

• Alpha/leader mindset - "I'm a problem finder & solver, not a product pusher & problem creator"

Join your host, Chelsy Barber, for an honest Q &A style chat about some of the most common fitness questions she gets as a certified personal trainer with nearly a decade of experience. Here are all the questions answered today: **CORRECTION IN THIS EPISODE: Early on when talking about static vs dynamic stretching, I said to hold a static stretch for 30-60 MINUTES -- I meant to say 30-60 SECONDS.

• How important is stretching or warming up REALLY? And what kind of warm up do I personally recommend?
• Can you choose where you lose fat? Spot reduction?
• What's better: cardio or strength training
• What equipment is necessary to get results?
• What are the best exercises?
• How do you know if you're exercising at the right intensity?
• How do I know if I'm doing an exercise correctly?
• Will I get bulky as a woman if I lift weights?

Have other questions you'd love answers to? Come find Chelsy on Instagram (@trainwithchelsy) and ask her! She'll include it in the next Q & A show.

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IS THIS THING ON?! Eeeee! Welcome to my newest endeavor - one I'm SO thrilled to be diving into with you. I have been racking my mind for months about how to continue sharing my expertise *without* the constraints of Instagram and blogging and creating exclusive services. While I do love training people privately in a 1:1 container as well as running my course, The Mental Health Reset, I am also beyond ready to share publicly and make what I love to teach more accessible.

This episode goes over a quick little "about me" with a focus on my certicifactions, education, and life story. I'll create another episode talking about motherhood and love and what I envision for my future.

You can expect the bulk of these episodes to have a MINDSET or a FITNESS focus, with some episodes sprinkled in that are more on the personal side.

Get cozied up and enjoy!