Mind the Dash

There is still a lot of processing going on. On today's episode, Gabby shares some of her recollections of some of the funny events that went on at her dads funeral. She dissects some of the components of humor and comedy. As usual there are many reminders to infuse mindfulness and awareness into lives, especially those difficult "setbacks" that we experience in the face of a loss of a loved one. Using humor to reframe some of those setbacks is much like the draw back of the bow and arrow, it actually furthers your potential and reach. 

Take aways:

Laughter does good like a medicine.

Humor= laughing in the face of pain

Comedy= tragedy + time

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 Takeaways:

1. Mindfulness is focusing on what is happening now- focus on the present moment.

2. Ask yourself, is your mind FULL or are you being MINDFUL

3. Try one of these practices to calm large emotions:

Hand to heart breathing: Place one hand on heart, one on the belly, focus of the movement of breath through the body.

Imagine a "Happy Place" or happy memory and bring in all 5 senses.

Cookie Breathing: Inhale (smell the cookie) exhale (blow to cool the cookies)

4. Schedule self care in your calendar- set reminders on your phone

5. Allow yourself to feel hard emotions

6. Remember, Mindfulness is not a "FIX" for problems, mindfulness is the work of accepting what is.

Workbooks can be ordered on Amazon or found at your public library:

What to Do When You Worry Too Much: A Kid's Guide to Overcoming Anxiety by Dawn Huebner

You will love to meet Marla Beech. She is a self- connection coach, creator of Hunkeedori connection, and host for "Overburdened No More" podcast. She teaches tools to connect to yourself, your life, and your time. 

Today, Gabby and Marla will share some of their journey with journaling.  Several different types of journaling practices will be discussed. You will be encouraged to practice self love and start your own journaling practice. Some benefits of journaling are:

 process personal reflections

capture daily memories

set intentions for your day

have a treasured keep sake for your loved ones

Here's a list of journaling prompts to get you started!

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Some takeaway's from todays episode:

1. Journaling can slow down the thought process so I can be mindful.

2. Allowing self care is a win for everyone! You can go from. "how do you need me?!?" to "How do I use who I am, to give them what they need." If we can love our self with self care, we can give more of our self better, not just our time.

3. You can "see" what your thinking when you write it down.

4. Shifts happen. You will need to reconnect with your self through different seasons, trust the process. Lean into what you feel pulls you.

5. Build an ultimate source of encouragement by a strong connection with G-d and scripture.

This is a fun and messy conversation. Hear a great reconnection from old friends and they share about their personal experience of the journey of parenting. This Family Pastor, Chris McCarthy, is a director of NextGen Ministries and serves at John Wesley Methodist Church in Houston, Texas. He shares some insight on the current trends that he sees in parenting. Many of the ideas discussed, like what our children think, how we encourage their growth, and a parental desire to be a role model in their life also mirror one of the High Performance Habits outlined in the book High Performance Habits from Brendon Burchard. To gain influence with others, (1) teach them how to think about themselves, others, and the world; (2) challenge them to develop their character, connections, and contributions; and (3) role model the val- ues you wish to see them embody. 

Some highlights:

1. The struggle makes the butterfly beautiful and strong.

2. Ask yourself, are you living on a fishing vessel, or a luxury cruise? Are you serving or do you expect to be served?

3. When we want to influence kids-Remember, we are raising them for something. We all have a purpose.

4. It's important to balance purpose with grace.

5. We are all different, treat each child and each other as their own individual.

6. We have a choice to parent in mindful mode vs. reaction mode.

7. There are ~936 weeks from birth to age 18 (graduation)

8. 3 questions that kids today are asking- Am I valuable?, Am I capable?, Do I belong?

We must define our terms! Sometimes it not only knowing what something is but identifying what it is not. This new definition was helpful in the reflection in the evolution of my parenting journey and will be helpful for our journey with mindfulness in our lives. 

I hope you enjoy it!

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Living mindfully is a journey! There is no you  have "now arrived to the destination" because each new moment unfolds to the next opportunity to win that moment for mindfulness. You will hear Gabby and Brenda discuss regulating kids emotions and our emotions, using emotions as a guide to evaluate thoughts, and hear an inspiring story of coming back home to self.

Brenda Winkle is a mindset empowerment coach and an energy healer based in the Portland, Oregon area. Her mission is simple; to help people feel better!

Reducing stress, reclaiming time, increasing energy, and releasing guilt. Letting go of patterns that aren't helping you, and identifying and saying YES to the things that matter most to you. She helps people identify and shift thinking that holds them back.

She says, "You have something special that the world needs. The best way to heal the world is to help one person at a time find their purpose, their passion and peace."

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You will definitely want to take notes on several ways to help the mind focus and help shift into the high flying vibes in life you want.  Gabby Interviews Mesha McKittick, the founder and CEO of My Friend Mesha and fellow podcaster of Mindset Check! You will hear about creating a proof list of photos and complements to lift you up when you are down and so many more.

Takeaway's:

1.We have a responsibility of how we show up.

2.Mindfulness is creating space in your mind.

3.We have more power than we think we do, we just have to recognize it.

4. Pay attention to your source of "magic".

5. Dance with the dash

6.Give people the benefit of doubt and know that they probably have not gone through anything hard yet.

to find out more about Mesha visit http://www.myfriendmesha.com/about-mesha

or IG @myfriendmesha

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This is a book review that highlights some of the take a ways from the D.E.A.R. Summer (drop everything and read) summer book club. This book outlines the gift of consciousness in our life. Consciousness = Choice. Gabby introduces you to Dr Edith Eva Egar and shares her thoughts on Dr. Egers story and triumph. There is a quick introduction to the therapy tools for choosing to transform painful past experiences into a powerful gift. Compassion, humor, optimism, intuition, curiosity, and self expression. It's a choice. 

This is a great conversation on what is the purpose of all the hard stuff anyway. It turns out YES! there is a reason, to develop our character. 

Gabby and Ryan discuss some of the experiences that have shaped their lives and share the process and lessons learned. Here is Dr. Adamczyk profile on Psychology today

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/ryan-robert-adamczyk-charlotte-nc/439038#endorsements

Dr Adamczyk articles at the Jung Centre for applied studies

https://appliedjung.com/peter-pan-complex/