Mind Witchery

Feminist Leadership Coach and Mentor, Elijah Selby, joins me in a candid conversation on navigating the complexities of the coaching and marketing world. Through collaboration, trust, and shared responsibility, we can break free from conventional coaching and marketing norms that rely on the matrix of control, manipulation, and fear. Our collective growth and empowerment depends on meaningful transformation where vulnerability, curiosity, and mutual respect thrive.

Mentioned:

Elijah Shannon Selby is a Feminist Leadership Coach and Mentor and the host of Business as Activism Podcast. She works with people who want to make a difference in the world and understand that when they dismantle internalized paradigms of oppression, they are impacting external paradigms of oppression. You can find her on IG @elijahshannonselby or work with her one on one to disrupt the way you do business.

Adrienne Maree Brown Emergent Strategy: https://adriennemareebrown.net/book/emergent-strategy/

Make Magic:

To reshape the coaching and marketing world (and the world around us), we must unplug from the matrix. Empower yourself to discern authenticity and integrity. Challenge conventional narratives. And, embody your values to foster genuine, authentic connections.

Contrary to popular belief, being in the process of figuring things out yourself can make you an even more effective teacher or coach. Many assume that teaching implies mastery, but often it's those still navigating challenges who offer the most valuable insights. And by embracing your ongoing journey of growth, you gain a deeper understanding, connect more authentically with others, and continuously innovate.

Mentioned:

Emily Nagoski, Ph.D., author of Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life https://www.emilynagoski.com/

Make Magic:

Embrace your journey of growth and share it authentically with others. By teaching what you're still learning, you not only deepen your understanding but also foster meaningful connections and inspire continuous evolution.

As creative humans—entrepreneurs and leaders alike—we find ourselves coming around to the pressures of productivity again and again.

The more you progress in your career and express your talent, the more challenges you may encounter.

I hope today’s episode expands your thinking again and reminds you to embrace self-care, honor your creative instincts, and model a holistic approach to productivity for a more fulfilling and sustainable way of being.

Make Magic:

To honor our own creative journey and contribute to a sustainable, respectful way of being in this world, we must prioritize activities that nourish our creativity and well-being, trusting that productivity thrives in an environment of self-care and natural rhythms.

As growth-oriented individuals, you're here to heal, usher in better, and, just like plants need fertilizer and light, you need more support, time, space, rest, connection, and pleasure.

Embrace the idea that growth demands receiving more than giving, fostering a net gain in energy.

It's time to let yourself need more.

Mentioned:

Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle, by Amelia and Emily Nagoski https://www.burnoutbook.net/

Bestselling author and podcaster Gretchen Rubin: https://gretchenrubin.com/

Make Magic:

Allow yourself to need more. Take a moment to reflect on what you're craving—whether it's rest, connection, or support—and actively open up to receiving it.

As we usher in this new year, I want to explore trust.

It's a silent power—like the glowing embers of a fire.

And it's cultivated through action and experience.

Each experience, whether successful or challenging, contributes to the embers of trust.

May this spell light a spark in you, inspire you to embrace experiences, and take steps, no matter how small, towards building the trust that sustains you and propels your growth.

Mentioned:

Episode 139: A Spell for Making a Big Change https://www.nataliekmiller.com/mindwitchery/139

Make Magic:

Believing in our ability to grow through experiences, trusting in resilience, and embracing change incrementally are the sparks that feed our trust embers.

Real talk. Letting things be easy is actually incredibly hard.

Patriarchy, hustle culture, late stage capitalism.

All of these dominating systems benefit when

we act as though hard work and sacrifice

are the only ways we can prosper in the world.

Here’s a spell to help you build more ease into your life,

and to remind you how much you deserve it.

Mentioned:

timewitchery.com/planner, where you can get a Time Witchery anti-planner to help you be intentional about cultivating ease.

Make Magic:

In order to let things be easy for yourself,

you have to remind yourself of two things.

First, that ease is possible.

And second, allowing yourself ease

enables your generosity.

Brains are amazing things, and one of their most fascinating features

is the way their two halves process and evaluate the things we experience.

Left brain plans and analyzes, it develops systems and structures,

while right brain attunes to its surroundings and experiences

the here and now without trying to impose order on it.

They’re both vital to our experience of the world. And yet.

One of these approaches is very much favored

and encouraged by our dominating culture.

Let’s talk about why we need right brain magic,

and how to nurture its influence in our lives.

Mentioned:

timewitchery.com/planner, where you can get a Time Witchery anti-planner to help you invoke your right brain magic.

The Master and His Emissary: The Divided Brain and the Making of the Western World https://channelmcgilchrist.com/master-and-his-emissary/

Make Magic:

Right brain magic is nurtured and supported

when you find ways to help yourself

focus on presence over planning,

and responsiveness over pre-determination.

Creativity is hard AF, and sharing it with the world can be terrifying. That’s just one reason why I’m so in awe of my guest this week, Dr. Giavanni Washington. She had the passion and persistence to develop a stunning oracle deck that honors African Goddesses with photography of amazing black women. She’s here to talk about why she felt required to birth this project into the world, and how she sustained the belief in herself that was necessary to make it a reality.

Mentioned:

Dr. Giavanni Washington is the creator of the Black Goddess Within Oracle Deck, which is available to pre-order at https://www.drgiavanniwashington.com/deck. She is also an intuitive healer, mother, speaker, and spiritual guide. She holds a doctorate from UCLA’s Department of World Arts and Cultures and was recently selected for the California Creative Creative Corps Artist and Culture Bearer Fellowship by the California Arts Council.

The African Goddess Rising Oracle card deck by Abiola Abrams https://womanifesting.com/goddess-oracle-cards/

Make Magic:

So much of cultivating the courage to create is about honoring yourself and your vision. Allowing yourself to feel the desire for things that mainstream culture tells you aren’t appealing, and investing the time and energy that you and your creations truly deserve.

Creating a new thing can be pretty messy.

Learning how to do something requires us to start by

screwing up, making mistakes, and being kind of bad at it.

If you’ve developed an attachment to succeeding,

planning to be less than great at anything can sound like a nightmare.

Here’s a spell to help you embrace

the glorious imperfection of making something new.

Mentioned:

timewitchery.com/planner, where you can get a Time Witchery anti-planner to help you keep track of your experiments.

Make Magic:

To keep your perfectionism from overwhelming your creative impulse,

don’t think about it as doing a thing (which means doing it superbly).

Instead, try imagining yourself as a scientist,

and whatever endeavor you’re embarking on as a creative laboratory,

where success is all about gathering information

and learning by doing.

It has been a minute since I recorded a new spell,

but the break did exactly what I hoped it would.

It allowed my creative brain to rest and recharge,

and now it’s ready to share with you once more.

This spell will help you take the big idea you have in your head

and turn it, bit by bit, into real, sustainable, effective change.

Mentioned:

The Sunday Letter in which I discuss the decision to break my streak of publishing Mind Witchery episodes: https://view.flodesk.com/emails/65429f1de484ef9e19790990

timewitchery.com/planner, where you can get a Time Witchery anti-planner to help you revolutionize your definition of success.

Make Magic:

Big changes happen tiny step by tiny step.

Whenever change is impeded, it’s ALWAYS

because the step you think you need to make is Just. Too. Big.