Mind Witchery

Let’s be real, I could have called this episode

A Spell for Getting Your SELVES Together.

Because we all contain multitudes,

and all those parts of us have their own

perspectives and priorities.

No decision, no approach, no tactic,

is going to be effective unless we learn

to love and appreciate what all those parts are trying to say.

Mentioned:

No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model, by Dr. Richard Schwartz

Make Magic:

This spell isn’t for self-domination.

It’s for selves understanding.

For choosing objectives and methods

that are whole self honoring. 

Transcript: A Spell for Getting Yourself Together

Your inner critic has been trained by society 

to blame every problem on some failing of the individual. 

The explanations it can imagine are All Your Fault.

This spell will help you turn the critic’s question on its head,

and think about what you need

rather than what you’re doing wrong.

Make Magic:
Your inner critic takes such a narrow view of every situation.

It cuts right down to “what’s wrong with me?”

When that voice is yelling for the mic,

it’s time to open up the inquiry.

Look at all the things that might be wrong,

and what resources could help you show up the way you want to.

Transcript: A Spell for Neutralizing The Inner Critic

I’m having a practice-what-I-preach moment, giving myself permission to rest when I need it, like we all, inevitably, do. So I’m resharing one of the first-ever spells from the early days of Mind Witchery, which has been so helpful for me, and feels particularly resonant in this moment.

Mentioned: 
Kristin Neff’s self-compassion work. Check out her incredibly resourceful website, which has all kinds of information and even a quiz where you can evaluate your level of self-compassion.

Make Magic:
Do something nice for yourself! If you wanted to treat a friend, what would you do? Write her a sweet card? Send him flowers? Encourage them to take the afternoon off and get a facial? Do that for YOU.

Transcript: Again, A Spell for Self-Kindness

This lunation is asking you to stand up for what you deserve.

It's not going to be handed to you.

You MUST choose to have faith in yourself

and believe that you deserve this.

We’ll get into why and how to do that with Leslie Tagorda,

astrologer, world-improving brand strategist, mama, musician,

and delightful multiplex being. I can’t wait for you to hear it!

Mentioned: 

You can find Leslie Tagorda on her website at NewMoonCreative.co, on Instagram @newmooncreativeco, and on her podcast at starpowered.com.

timewitchery.com/planner, where you can get a Time Witchery anti-planner to help you revolutionize your definition of success.

Rooms on Fire by the magnificent Stevie Nicks.

Make Magic:

As you are regenerating, as you are emerging,

as you are standing up and speaking out for what you believe in,

what is enabling your openness to that bigger, wider world?

And what, if anything, is inhibiting that openness? 

Transcript: Taurus New Moon / Sagittarius Full Moon feat. Leslie Tagorda

What does success mean to you? Like, you personally?

The dominant culture sure knows what IT wants you to strive for.

Money, titles, bigger houses, and more stuff to put in them.

But, if you’re here, you’ve started to realize your search

for those things supports the system way more than

it serves you or the communities you want to lift up.

Mentioned: 

timewitchery.com/planner, where you can get a Time Witchery anti-planner to help you revolutionize your definition of success.

Make Magic:

Give yourself time to explore the feelings that come up

when you ask yourself how success should feel.

Let your imaginative right brain fully inhabit those desired feelings,

and just see what images and sensations come up for you.

Transcript: A Spell for Revolutionary Success

Last week, I talked about Evolutionary Discomfort.

Choosing the discomfort of change and growth

over the discomfort of settling.

So often, this requires us to leave behind

jobs, relationships, and associations

that don’t support our values.

This spell will help you decide if it’s time to go

in a self-honoring, self-loving way.

Mentioned: 

Mind Witchery 112: A Spell for Evolutionary Discomfort

Stephen Karpman’s Drama Triangle

The Empowerment Dynamic

Make Magic:

When you speak the words “I’m unwilling,” how does that feel in your body?

If the line you’re drawing feels right in your breath, in your posture,

that’s a good way to know that you’re making the decision to leave

in integrity with your self and your values.

Transcript: A Spell for Leaving With Integrity

Okay, love. Today's incantation might make you more uncomfortable than usual. It will challenge you to be real about your discomfort, and how you choose to experience it. I'm sorry, but I'm not sorry. I believe this world needs you at your most fully expressed, at your most free to grow. I hope today's spell helps you to honor that version of you.

Make Magic:
Evolutionary discomfort is choosing the discomfort of expressing yourself, rather than impressing that discomfort by pretending to be someone you’re not. I can be dangerous. It requires you to be courageous. But the alternative, holding that hurt and frustration inside? That’s incredibly destructive. 

Transcript: A Spell for Evolutionary Discomfort

Do we want to be people who take responsibility? Of course!

And/but, dysfunctional, oppressive systems RELY ON US

to feel personally responsibility for fixing systemic bullshit.

It is WAY past time for us to stop beating ourselves up

for our inability to solve problems

that are sooo much bigger than us as individuals.

Mentioned:

Brigid Schulte’s book Overwhelmed: Work, Love, And Play When No One Has The Time

Money mindset mentor and author Denise Duffield-Thomas.

Roxane Gay’s book of essays, Bad Feminist.

The Health at Every Size® Principles

An article about Tuca and Bertie Season 3 Episode 2, “The Pain Garden.”

Make Magic:

Oppressive systems pretend to love disruptive, creative expression.

But what they really prefer is that you keep your head down

and work to maintain the status quo.

The next time you’re wondering why you can’t figure things out,

think about the systems around you, and how WE, collectively,

can work on making them better.

Transcript: A Spell for Releasing Self-Blame

Eclipses loom LARGE on the astrological calendar,

and we’ve got a solar AND lunar eclipse coming up in the next few weeks.

If that sounds scary, I’ve got the best news for you!

We’ve got Corina Dross, one of my favorite new voices in astrology,

here to help us look past the stereotypes around eclipses

and embrace the opportunity they present for change and growth.

Mentioned:

Corina Dross is a consulting astrologer, artist, writer, and teacher. Corina sees clients all over the world and has taught astrology for over a decade, including as a regular guest instructor for the Portland School of Astrology. https://pdxastro.org/

Follow Corina on Instagram @corinadross and sign up for their newsletter at www.flaxandgold.com to be the first to hear their about upcoming oracle deck.

Cauldron is my evolutionary, feminist blend of group, 1:1, and self-coaching. https://mindwitchery.com/cauldron

Make Magic:

As you tackle hard things during this eclipse season, ask yourself.

What is it that helps you move into a place of readiness for truth and healing?

What readies you, helps you feel motivated, but also safe enough to take that courageous journey?

Offer yourself the kind of comfort you might not have received in the past,

but have always, always deserved.

Transcript: Aries and Scorpio Eclipses 2023 feat. Corina Dross

Expectations are a weight that is ultimately limiting.

The pressure to achieve a specific result

breeds anxiety, and generally just fucks us over creatively.

This spell will help you free your creative impulses

by letting go of narrowly defined outcomes.

Mentioned:

Carol Dweck’s very insightful book Mindset: The New Psychology of Success.

Join Crucible, a supportive container to help you turn your idea into action! https://timewitchery.com/crucible

Make Magic:

Specific expectations fuck us over because we’re too smart for them.

On some level, we understand that reality is fundamentally co-creative,

and we can’t possibly know what's going to happen.

So what happens if you decide to embrace that uncertainty,

instead of getting all bound up in trying to defy it?

Transcript: A Spell for Freedom From Expectation