Mindset By Dave Podcast

When it comes to behaviour change we often think a person has achieved the best result when they no longer do the behaviour they want to change.

This is fantastic when it comes to something like drug use, alcohol or even something as innocuous as biting your nails, but what if it's with something we want to learn to moderate rather than be all or nothing with?

I introduced the concept of the platinum award to my clients who struggled with binging. It is all about praising a behaviour that you "cut off mid flow" which essentially means once you realise you are doing it and it has a little momentum over you that you stop. Having a little food without it becoming a true binge. Or maybe a smoker who once they've lit up a cigarette instead of letting that lead the inevitable way they put it out instead.

This is harder in many ways than not doing the behaviour in the first place and leads ultimately to the ability to moderate.

Alex Harvey is one of the most inspiring people I have ever had the pleasure to meet.

14 months ago she joined me on the podcast with the message "I'm not dying from cancer, I'm living with it!" in an episode that to this day still inspires and moves many people.

On this episode I join her for what she describes as the "beginning of the end" as her cancer now becomes symptomatic and the end of her life has been moved up from years to weeks.

Far from a morbid episode this episode is a testament to Alex's joy of life, we talk about milking every drop of life out of the last 12 months and how there is always a choice on how we respond to even the worst of news.

Alex brings a perspective that very few will ever have but many can learn from and I will always be grateful for the time we got to share having this conversation.

Black & white thinking is where we think of something as being only ALL one way or another and it can be a way to miss out on the middle ground.

In this episode I delve into how "embracing the rainbow" of ideas in the middle could expand your chances for a happier, more successful life.

Ben Coomber is all about being AWESOME. He's and awesome business owner, an awesome coach and an awesome friend. But now he's about to embark on one of the biggest journeys... to be an awesome DAD!

Through his companies the BTN Academy and Awesome Supplements, along with his personal brand as an educator in nutrition, exercise and mindset Ben has one mission, to help people live an awesome life.

In this episode Ben discusses how careful planning and the deliberate execution of those plans form the central pillar of achieving all of this. He talks about his feelings as fatherhood rapidly approaches and even shares with us his personal mission statement verbatim.

Ever feel like you're either completely "on track" or catastrophically "off track"? And more importantly has this approach hampered your progress for years?

This constant see-saw leaves us vulnerable to destroyed momentum and ultimately leads very few people to any real results.

In this episode I discuss ways to flip the script on this mentality and harness the skill of moderation.

Ryan was a man with a chaotic life who was just focusing on trying to make the family business work as well as possible.

Then in a short space of time his entire world was rocked with his father's health taking a huge dive and his brother taking his own life.

In the wake of this and amidst learning to manage his own mental health, Ryan radically reshaped the family business into something that puts his staff's health (both physical AND mental) first!

We spend so much time looking for the new, but what do we already know that we just haven't implemented yet?

Sometimes the best answers are the ones we already know and we don't see them in our constant quest for the new solution.

Something that started out as a comment ended up being one of the most engaging discussions on my social media recently. Whether or not my posts should contain trigger warnings.

I personally think they should not and I have some very strong reasons for this. Listen if you want to find out.

Men are actively encouraged to open up and share about their mental health and are championed when they do so, but are women treated the same?

I thought they were until fellow podcaster Helen messaged me with part of her story. We then put this out to Instagram polls and my inbox was flooded with stories from women who had been treated as weak for sharing their mental health with people.

We get into our own personal experiences and a few of the other stories we have heard and discuss why we think this may be as well as covering a few other mental health issues.

It's the end of another year and that means it's time for a little reflection.

In this episode I do a mix of looking backwards and looking forwards. I summarise 2019 and discuss some of the big plans to help you master your mind in 2020!