Mindset in Mayhem

Here’s the truth: I’ve never loved goals.

Too rigid.

Too boxy.

Too much pressure to “get it right.” And yet… without a destination, a map, or even the hint of a treasure, I end up going nowhere.

So how do you set goals when your rebel brain pushes back every time?

In this short episode, I share:

* The importance of direction

* Why minimum and maximum goals create freedom (and motivation) instead of resistance

* A simple way to break down resistance and move forward when you are unsure of the best step

This is for you if you’ve ever set a goal, abandoned it, or felt like a failure for changing direction.

Listen in. Show up. Do something small. Seriously with the right strategy, your rebel brain can work for you, not against you to keep moving toward your own version of treasure.

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This episode is a quick but powerful reminder that mindset and your thoughts are the ultimate bio hack. See, your thoughts not only create emotions, they create real responses in your body and life.

After looking at research, here’s what you need to know:

In this episode, you’ll learn:

* How different thoughts create different physiological responses in your body.

* Why the way you think about stress changes how your body reacts.

* How your beliefs about food and exercise literally influence your body chemistry.

* A reminder from research: your thoughts become your reality.

Tune in, notice your thoughts, and start consciously creating the body and life you want.

Resources mentioned:

Stress TED Talk: How to make stress your Friend | Kelly McGonigal

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RcGyVTAoXEU

Other podcasts:

Research mentioned from: Stanford University Alia Crum | Associate Professor of Psychology

Jo Fiddy and Carla Mardell live on opposite sides of the planet.Neither calls her birth country home anymore.

Both became mothers later in life. And both bring women are EFT Master Practitioners with a rare blend of knowledge, lived experience, and deep dives into life’s big transitions. Together they share their own journeys and a desire to vibe higher, overcome challenges, and create more bliss in this one precious life, no matter what gets thrown their way.

Tune in to hear how tapping has transformed their own lives by dissolving stuck stories, releasing old patterns, and bringing more focus, patience, presence, that has allowed them to have more ‘glitter’ - vitality, grounding, and growth.

Carla and Jo don’t just teach a tool or hold space, they embody it, showing up in life’s mayhem and reality with the energy of what is possible.

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Lisa’s in one corner of the world. Carla’s in the other.

We chit-chat starting with the relatable chaos of shouting “Fin!” to kids at the beach in Australia and why it's probably not a great idea.

Then we get to the good stuff (so hang in there)…

What happens when life or your actions rub you the wrong way.

It’s not pretty. The body tracks a tanty. Thoughts become doom spirals.You snap. You cringe. You regret.And instead of being that person you want to be, you’re caught in the cycle again.We’ve been there. More than once.And the worst part? It feels like it just happens to you. Like you don’t have a choice.But what if that friction is actually data - your body and emotions showing you something useful?

That’s what we explore: lived experience, research-backed approaches, and simple ways to notice the friction, learn from it, and respond differently.

Enjoy!

And because talking only goes so far, we floated the idea of the Beta Sand-in-Your-Knickers Journal Journey, a 6-day experiment where you get to journal, shake out the grit, and test what actually works in real life coming from Master’s research and our client work! To get more details subscribe below…

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EP 18 | The Gap Between Expectation and Reality

EP20 | When Thoughts Become Things, Awareness Is Everything

Do You Outsource Your Energy and Happiness?

I get it. I used to believe other people’s actions controlled how I felt.Praise and I was up. Criticism and I was down.“They did this, so I feel like this.”

That pattern runs deep. Families teach it. Schools reinforce it. Society echoes it. And marketing? It engineers it until it feels normal.

But here’s the truth: your happiness isn’t in someone else’s hands.Not your boss, your partner, your kids, or your friends.

Your only circle of control is you - your actions, your perspective, your perception of the world.

In this episode, we’ll explore:

* How to spot when you’re outsourcing your happiness

* Why the lens you view things through may be filtering events to make you unhappy

* A strategy to direct your energy so it doest drain you

* How to amplify and move towards more of what you desire by reclaiming your focus

* Real-life examples showing how two people can live the same event but walk away with completely different stories

This isn’t about ignoring frustration or pretending everything’s fine.It’s about adjusting your focus.

When you own your perspective and stop outsourcing your joy, you become luminous. Enlivened. Grounded and free.

Resources Mentioned:

YouTube channel: @mindsetinmayhem

EFT Tapping Sequence: When Your are Tired of Cooking Dinner Every night

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Carla Mardell is a EFT Master, growth mindset and emotional intelligence coach working with busy humans to reclaim their glow, flow and mojo.

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This isn’t just about 3am thoughts. It’s for the thoughts that create mayhem in your mind, the ones that send you into doom spirals. Because we all have those pesky thoughts that lead nowhere. Nada. Zero.

They drain our energy, keep us stuck and pull us down into worry. If your thoughts are loud and wiggly, this episode will help you evict them, and replace them with something that opens you to a map towards potential and possibility, while giving you back your energy.

You’ll learn:

* Why revisiting the past is an energy drain

* How future thinking doesn’t have to mean anxiety or stress

* The difference between catastrophising and intentional thinking

* The single and simple thought change that flips the stories you tell yourself

* How to prepare yourself for a better outcome

Plus, I’ll give you a sneak peek into my new course, The Uncertainty Detox | a 5-day toolbox to help you move from catastrophising to calm capacity using emotionally intelligent strategies and EFT.

Links + Resources

* Join the waitlist for The Uncertainty Detox: a toolbox to manage change

https://www.mindsetinmayhem.com/uncertainty

* Listen to Podcast Episode 22 | Thoughts Become Things, Awareness Is Everything

* Connect with me on Instagram: @mindfulnessinmayhem

We want the that thing.We want the benefits that come with the thing.

But we just don’t want to do the work.

We don’t want to feel uncomfortable. We don’t want to be a beginner. We don’t want to sweat. We don’t want to flex. We don’t want to use the time.

We don’t want to learn new systems and processes.

In this episode, we explore the aspect of willingness, how it spans the gap between wanting and doing, initiating the ‘doing’ and why creating the ‘willingness’ actually moves you toward what you want in life.

* Why wanting is easy, and safe, but doesn’t create change

* How willingness is the real game-changer, starting with honesty and self-compassion

* The art of taking action, even when you’re not motivated, inspired, or perfect

* Why building around your life, not what someone else thinks you should, is the key to sustainable change

* How choosing short-term discomfort can lead to long-term joy

This isn’t about discipline or perfection. It’s about showing up in your messy, human, imperfect life, and building momentum.

One honest, real choice at a time.

EFT YoutubeTapping Resources:

Dissolve Procrastination and Gain Motivation

How many times was I told about awareness before I actually got it.

Thats because no-one made it easy. And trust me it is.

You’ve done way harder things.

So why is awareness actually awesomeness, well you can’t change what you’re not aware of.

Those thoughts running in the background? They’re quietly shaping your reality, your relationships, your energy. Once You’re aware of them, then you get choose which thoughts stay and which thoughts go!

When you learn to notice instead of just react, you create choice. And with choice comes quite some freedom.

Because once you see the thought, you can choose differently.

We’ll talk about:

* How unconscious patterns shape your day-to-day reality

* The difference between noticing a thought and being ruled by it

* Why awareness is the first step before any change can happen

* Thoughts and self talk creates omore of the same and we can rewire that affecting us at a cellular level

* Questions to redirect and bring awareness to patterned behaviour that is creating mayhem in your world

Every 10th episode is about ‘a modality I have tried so you don’t have too’, and this isn’t a modality, it’s a powerfully transformative life skill - awareness.

To notice what’s really going on in your head, without judgment. Because the moment you shine light on those hidden thoughts, you open up space for freedom, calm, and new possibilities.

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We’ve all heard the mantra: slow down, savor the moment, live slowly.It sounds beautiful. But what if the way “slow living” is being sold is actually making you feel more guilt, anxiety, and less calm?

In this episode, I’m flipping the script on slow living.

I’ll take you inside:

* Why the Instagram version of slow mornings and curated rituals doesn’t fit real life (and how that gap between expectation and reality is where stress sneaks in).

* My own story of living both extremes, the days of yoga and sunshine rituals in Bangkok expat life vs. the messy, rushed mornings of motherhood and real life.

* What regulation actually looks like: not perfection, not one pace, but presence and choice.

Think Bruce Lee’s wisdom: Be like water.Fast. Slow. Still. Flowing. Adapting to what life actually asks of you.

And if life feels like it’s rushing faster than your nervous system can keep up, I’ve created something that can help — The 5-Day Uncertainty Detox.

https://www.mindsetinmayhem.com/uncertainty

It’s simple, powerful, and designed for real life. You’ll find all the details in the show notes.

Press play. Let’s unhook from the “shoulds” of slow living and find your real rhythm.

X Carla

Resource Links From The Podcast

Join the 5 Day Uncertainty Detox here or access to waitlist: https://www.mindsetinmayhem.com/uncertainty

Mindset and Mayhems EFT YouTube channel with EFT Tutorials: https://www.youtube.com/@MindsetInMayhem

Mindset in Mayhem The Podcast: Episode 18 | The Gap Between Expectation & Reality

There’s a Byron Katie quote I love: “When you argue with reality, you lose - only 100% of the time.”And it’s true every single time.But here’s what most people miss: the argument with reality isn’t just out loud, it’s in your head.

Every time you think, “This should’ve gone differently” or “They shouldn’t do this,” you’re in that invisible tug-of-war with what is not. And the currency you pay in? Emotion and energy.

There is no bigger time suck!

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

* Why every negative emotion comes from the gap between expectation and reality

* How invisible rules and “should” thinking create unnecessary suffering

* The sneaky ways we buffer and run from emotions and why it never works

* The 4 choices you always have when reality doesn’t match your expectations

* In this episode, I’ll show you why emotions aren’t the enemy—they’re indicators. You’ll learn how to stop arguing with reality and start reclaiming energy and peace through awareness, compassion, and practical tools you can use right now.

This isn’t about giving up or settling. It’s about stepping into agency and using your incredible creative mind to make deliberate choices, so you can stop leaking energy into arguments you can’t win.

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https://www.mindsetinmayhem.com/sayno

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