Mindset Unlimited: Tips, Tools, and Inspiration for Women in a Time of Change

Have you ever really wanted to do something yet kept not doing it?

The woman in this session came to me because she wanted to write a book and she couldn’t figure out why she wasn’t. All her natural obstacles were gone, and she had the perfect conditions for finally doing it: stable income, older kids, stuck at home… yet she still didn’t write. 

In this episode of Unlimited, we dig into what creates “stuck” and develop practical steps to taking action with added inspiration from a surprise visitor…

Some of what we engage in this episode include:

• Creating clarity to motivate action
• How we create obstacles to action
• Tapping into current habits to lean into new things
• Releasing control & attachment to outcome
• Developing self-trust through action
• Utilizing your stress response to get things done

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You can follow all the strategies but ultimately, success is multi-faceted and can only be defined by you. Yet authenticity is vulnerable and comes with greater risk, especially for people who are marginalized in our society. Stepping into greater alignment with your true self involves letting go of pieces of your life that you were previously defined by. It’s never comfortable, often messy, and there is no perfect – only progress. 

In this episode of the Unlimited Podcast I invited Ellie Dote to join me for a conversation exploring understanding and embracing your identity.

• Some of what we talk about in this episode include:
• Accepting yourself and owning your story
• Why we seek other people’s style and strategies
• Identifying YOUR success
• Knowing and honoring your values
• Celebrating yourself and others

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Toxic positivity is a hot topic right now because the growing awareness of its presence in the health and wellness industry. It’s used as a way to spoof life coaching in the media and I’ve even had someone at a networking event assume I’d agree that a positive attitude would cure illnesses such as Covid. (That’s a no BTW – less stress helps but it’s not a cure). Based on personal and professional experiences, I’ve come to believe that it is one of the biggest blocks to personal and societal progress.

In this episode of Unlimited, I’m diving into when positivity is toxic and what you can do about it.

Some of what I’ll cover in this episode include:

• What is toxic positivity and spiritual bypassing
• What causes toxic positivity
• What toxic positivity sounds like
• The importance of emotional intelligence and self-love
• What is healthy positivity

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LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:
Staged on Hulu
Toxic Positivity | The Psychology Group (article)
Spiritual Bypassing And How 'Wellness' Excuses Racism | ELLE Australia (article)
Stop It (video)
Toxic Positivity – Positively Living Podcasts
Episode 18 – What Do I Really Want?
Episode 11 - Relearning Self-Love
Episode 9 – Reflections and A Way Forward
Episode 10 – Change and Getting Comfortable in the Uncomfortable
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A single woman in her early 40’s who loves to sing, dance, craft, and cook was contemplating starting a business in performance until the Coronapocolypse began. She’s trying to use this time now for introspection and personal development while also balancing a fulfilling but low paying day job with paying student loans and renovating a house. 

She signed up for this session because she has a history of people pleasing and wanted support to learn how to identify her own wants and needs more quickly and develop new habits that allow self-love and success to thrive in her life.


In this episode of Unlimited, you’ll hear us journey through unlocking what’s kept her from what she really wants and a motivation to take action to achieve it.

Some of what we engage in this episode include:

• Motivation blocks
• Self-fulfilling prophecies
• Celebrating to build confidence
• Resisting more than “good enough”
• Building self-worth

This episode is for you if you’ve ever struggled to know what you really wanted beyond what people said you should do or things you were just good at.

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How much do you trust yourself to make decisions? Women especially are taught in both subtle and not so subtle ways not to trust ourselves. We are given messages over and over again that we don’t know enough, that we don’t do enough, that we aren’t enough. (Then, when we ARE true to ourselves, we’re told we’re “too much.”) This feeds a need to prove ourselves and to try to control other people’s behavior and emotions for us to be “okay.” The self-relationship is the cornerstone of all relationships and it is reflected powerfully by our children, if we’re willing to look and learn.

In this episode of the Unlimited Podcast I invited Shelly Robinson to join me for a conversation exploring the need for control and learning to trust ourselves.


Some of what we talk about in this episode include:

• Disrupting patterns of being
• Releasing labels and behavior as a basis for worth
• Creating space to make decisions from love
• The importance of building our own resilience
• Being aware of what you’re focusing on 
• Nurturing relationships with kids or anyone starts with knowing yourself

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LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
Why Our Collective Obsession with Productivity Keeps Us from Rest – The Notable Woman Podcast
Kintsugi – The centuries old Japanese art of repairing broken pottery and transforming it into a new work of art with gold [video]
How to Break the Nightly Cycle Of Mom Shame

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This gifted intuitive is tired of just “getting by” in a job she doesn’t feel spiritually or emotionally fulfilled by. She recently became certified as a crystal practitioner and is working toward a tarot certification and wants to start a business but struggles to believe she really can. As a recovering alcoholic she’s done a lot of self-work in recovery as well as around a traumatic past. Her hope from this session was to uncover and explore what attitudes/beliefs were holding her back and get some clarity on how to move forward with confidence.

In this episode of Unlimited, we uncovered the inner critic message guarding her comfort-zone, shifted the relationship, and identified a new belief plus action to help reinforce the shift.

Some of what we engage in this episode include:

• How much knowledge is enough
• Releasing control and trusting the process
• Fears in being visible
• Navigating judgment and self-doubt
• Inner critic going above and beyond in ways that are no longer helpful
• A belief that connects to some tangible action

 This episode is especially for you if your desire to play big is butting up against your need to feel safe.

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Married, mom of a 3 year old, wants to make a career shift but is feeling stuck as to how. She had a near death experience after her son’s birth that rearranged her priorities and inspired the non-profit she started. She has a PhD in virology and is working on her Masters in Public Health but has been struggling to land a position that fits the work she wants to do. Her hope from this session was to have a little bit more clarity and an idea for a path forward.

In this episode of Unlimited, we discovered that she’d subconsciously disqualified her true passion, so we assessed the “dream” and realigned her energy to the work she really wants to do, creating clear next steps to make it a reality.

Some of what we engage in this episode include:

• What stops you from seeing your next steps
• Shifting the work has to be hard mindset
• Staying centered in what you have control over
• Finding a focus to energize you
• Overcoming money baggage
• Valuing your time and your gifts

This episode is especially for you if you’ve ever felt stuck pursing a decent job so you can pursue your dream later.

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We are right between winter and spring equinox, which is a time for preparing seeds to plant for the year. The next few coaching sessions I’m sharing in the next few weeks all centered around finding not only clarity to take action but uncovering the hidden blocks to confidence that were ultimately preventing that clarity. Ultimately this is a deeply personal process (as you’ll see in the coaching episodes) but there are some concepts that can help you engage your own process. 

In this episode of Unlimited, I’m diving into how to plant the seeds to take confident action. 

Some of what I’ll cover in this episode include:

• Overcoming the blocks of fear
• Tapping into your best self
• How to see yourself more clearly
• Pausing to process
• Gut vs Intuition
• Navigating Self Doubt

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LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:
Life is a Joke. 199 Life Lessons (with punch lines) by The Javna Brothers
In and Of Itself by Derek DelGaudio on Hulu

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Multi-passionate entrepreneur and married mom of 2 wants to create a new branch of her business but is lost in the weeds of how. A self-identified “ideas person” she’s been stuck in analysis paralysis for months now.  She signed up for this session because she was longing for someone to just tell her the “right way” even though she knows there isn’t really a “right way.”

In this episode of Unlimited, we dig in to understand the block and use that knowledge to help her create a plan that applies her strengths to overcome her obstacles.

Some of what we engage in this episode include:

• Shiny object syndrome
• Connecting your head and your heart
• How to create a sense of stability when starting something new
• Finding YOUR next right step
• Building confidence

This episode is especially for you if you’ve ever been stuck in analysis paralysis when trying to figure out the next best step to move you forward.


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What is coaching? It’s a question I get asked a lot and I talk about it in episode #1 but it’s one thing to talk about and another thing to experience. So, I put out an invitation to participate in a recorded coaching session to share with you and received a number of applications. Today’s episode of Unlimited is the first of those sessions.


In this episode of Unlimited, I share a coaching session I did with an artist, community activist, entrepreneur, and soon to be divorced mom of a teenager. She signed up for this session because she wanted clarity on her next career steps after running for a local political office as well as experiencing a variety of shifts in her life over the past several years.


Some of what we engage in this episode include:

• Clarifying success
• Fear of failure – especially wasting time and money
• Money mindset
• Finding focus as a multi-passionate person
• Creating confidence when doing something new
• Pursuing goals without attachment to outcome

This episode is especially for you if you’re a multi-passionate person who wants to choose your own schedule and make a living doing work that matters but you worry you’ll pick the wrong path and waste time and money on something that won’t work out.


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