Miss Amanda Chen Show

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We’re now in Season 2 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about what masculinity means to them, gender expectations and how that affects how they interact with women.

This month we are taking a special focus on men's mental health, sponsored by Tethr, the world’s first online, peer-to-peer support community connecting men for open and honest conversations about life.

Masked Man #33 is the Masculine Man. He shares his transition from very rigid masculine views to finding balance with feminine energy. From past girlfriends, to watching himself on screen, he had to swallow his pride and ego, and seek help through therapy. I am so grateful to have this vulnerable conversation available for you to listen to today. I hope you enjoy the show.

Have your views about therapy changed since listening to this episode? I think the biggest takeaway from this chat was to realize that society changes all the time, but our way of thinking stays the same. And this is where the conflict comes.

Make sure to subscribe and if you’d like to be on the show or know of someone with a unique perspective, slide into my DMs at @missamandachen on Instagram and see you next Wednesday with more episodes of 100 Masked Men.

Hello and welcome back to another episode of the miss Amanda Chen show. This week I interviewed two anonymous men for the 100 Masked Men Series, and its really interesting just reflecting off your own interviews and seeing how you react to complete strangers, people I haven’t established a safe space with yet, and what resulted from that was what you could perceive as the confident Amanda with strong opinions. But now I’m taking the time to think about exactly WHY I reacted the way I did.

One thing I learned from the interviews this week is the idea of setting boundaries for the sake of others. Thinking you’re doing this for the betterment of others, to tell yourself that you are a good person, a man of integrity, who respects others.

Boundaries need to be personal, they have to be a reflection of your core values and beliefs. You can’t enforce boundaries on another person because it isn’t about them.

If you establish a positive relationship with boundaries that is an expression of your core values and beliefs, you will be more inclined to communicate that to everyone you encounter. It won’t be a defensive conversation anymore, but a welcoming one.

Make sure to subscribe to the show and I’ll see you next Wednesday with more episodes of the 100 Masked Men.

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We’re now in Season 2 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all around the world about gender roles, expectations from society and how that affects our self worth.

Lately I’ve been really curious about how men think, specifically about what they think about women. And the confusion that comes along in miscommunication. My thought is that we tend to be indirect in expressing ourselves with matters of the heart.

Masked Man #32 is the Five Date Guy. A very straight-laced, militant man who works a lot and does his best to give time, respect and energy to the women he engages in, he shares his 5 date rule with me. The idea is to learn more about each other over 5 dates before having sex. My question is, why is it all about the lead up to sex?

And how much can you learn about someone you're romantically involved in without sex? Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

I think these rules we place on dating say a lot more about the person putting in the rules than the person being tested. Although it doesn't feel that way. I've currently got a 3 month no sex rule with zero prospects on that front, but it's more for myself to give us the time to develop intimacy. Something I haven't spent nearly enough tie practicing. What are some rules you're implementing in your dating game today?

Make sure to subscribe and if you’d like to be on the show or know of someone with a unique perspective, slide into my DMs at missamandachen on Instagram and see you next Wednesday with more episodes of 100 Masked Men.

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We’re now in Season 2 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about what masculinity means to them, gender expectations and how that affects how they interact with women.

This week I spoke with a man who works in construction, what we'd consider one of the breeding grounds of toxic masculinity.

Masked Man #31 is the Guy Card. This concept comes out from working in a space dominated by traditionally masculine men in physical labour. Although there may be differences in ethnicity, status or otherwise, at least they share the guy card.

What I found the most interesting is how diplomatic guys can be about men acting inappropriately toward women. Like how do you keep it light, keep it friendly, yet also say what is and isn't okay? And the request for women to be more gentle and patient with them as they adjust with the change in power. I don't know man, there's just a bit too many requests for women in my opinion. Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

The Guy Card concept really makes me question, can I, as a woman, make an impact at all among men? Or can I only rely on other men to pave the way? And if not, can women be more patient with men as they continue to rise in their power? I don't know the answer, but I know that if we don't change anything, nothing's going to get better.

Make sure to subscribe and if you’d like to be on the show or know of someone with a unique perspective, slide into my DMs at missamandachen on Instagram and see you next Wednesday with more episodes of 100 Masked Men.

Welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show! If you've been following this podcast you know I have a series called the 100 Masked Men where I investigate how our sexuality affects our self worth through the interactions of others.

In today’s episode I’m going to talk about using your sexuality to cultivate self worth and put it into practice. Lean in to your authentic self and accept every part of it, not just the parts you think are strong. Self worth is about the lesson you can learn from the interactions of others. Not about what you can do as a way to prove yourself to others.

I'm about a third of the way there now and spoke about this subject as a special guest with Dwight Heck on his podcast, Give A Heck. We uncover a whole bunch of amazing things on this episode, from my origin story that got me to become who I am today, dealing with the expectations of what he calls The Committee of They, uncovering the gender divide put on to us from society and how that ultimately affects both how we identify ourselves and how we interact in relationships. If you haven't already, go check it out!

Connect with Dwight Heck!

Website: https://giveaheck.com/

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Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We’re now in Season 2 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all around the world about gender roles, expectations from society and how that affects our self worth.

Lately I’ve been really curious about gender and linguistics, so today’s episode is all about the art of communication, and specifically, how to effectively give and receive rejection.

Masked Man #30 is the Master of Mirrors. I spoke to a professional that helps people communicate better, and learned that the main fear in public speaking has to do with the fear of how others will perceive them. I think it’s interesting that we’re more afraid about what people will think about what we’re saying, than what we’re actually saying. And also, how much of this is cultural? Are we more or less vocal depending on our cultural background? Let's get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

Do you change how you communicate with certain people or do you believe you should say things the same way regardless of who you’re speaking with? I sit on the latter end, and I don’t know, I’m feeling a little conflicted today but I still believe we need to push a little more from the interactions we have with each other. What do you think?

Make sure to subscribe and if you’d like to be on the show or know of someone with a unique perspective, slide into my DMs at missamandachen on Instagram and see you next Wednesday with more episodes of 100 Masked Men.

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We’re now in Season 2 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about what masculinity means to them, and how that affects our self worth. This week I spoke with a male coach who runs mens groups and was curious to learn more about a space dedicated to male vulnerability. Masked Man #29 is the Masked Traveller. He’s been all around the world, but most consistently in Bali and Korea, where he was named Mayor of the Town in a space full of wanderers. Here we speak about gender roles and open up an interesting idea that the fear of being weak is probably more commonly felt than the desire to be strong. We get into a very interesting conversation about power, and the idea of men being the ones in charge, but for the purpose of making women happy. Let’s get into it. I hope you enjoy the show. I think the idea that people say they don’t know what they want because they don’t feel safe in asking for it was really interesting. Do you agree with this idea, that without permission to speak, we’ll just shut off? I still can’t believe how much men thought it was absolutely insane to tell a woman about their troubles. Like that would be the craziest idea. Make sure to subscribe and if you’d like to be on the show or know of someone with a unique perspective, slide into my DMs at missamandachen on Instagram and see you next Wednesday with more episodes of 100 Masked Men. 

Hello and welcome back to another episode of the Miss Amanda Chen Show. It's Valentine's Day and I'm in a little town in Mexico as I record this. I've fried my laptop and so this is completely unedited, authentically me.

We just opened up Season 2 focusing on full transparency this week, with three interviews of men sharing their open and honest thoughts on relationships. So I guess it's my turn to share my thoughts, where I'm coming from and how I'm looking at relationships now.

As someone who has spent the last year "pivoting" during the pandemic, I swallowed my ego, focused on myself, and here I am in a small town in Mexico sharing male vulnerability for you today. What began as the only way for me to make a change with my hateful habits with men to feeling compassion and a desire to learn more about gender linguistics, Valentine's Day feels very different now.

Without any sex toys, without dating apps to validate that I'm still a catch, and without the availability of dick at aarm's reach, I am overflowing with love and desire for myself. I never knew I could possess this much love for myself, this much respect for myself, this much compassion for myself as I do today. And whoever finds themselves in my presence is going to be really fucking lucky to love me just as much as I love myself.

Happy Valentine's Day, I love you. And as always, make sure to subscribe and I'll see you next Wednesday with more episodes of the 100 Masked Men.

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We’re now in Season 2 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about dating, sex, gender roles, and the meaning of masculinity.

This week, we’re opening up Season 2 speaking to three guys for the first time, getting as real as possible, and get them to share their past, present and future when it comes to dating and relationships.

Masked Man #27 is the Mr Transparency.

As always make sure to subscribe and if you’d like to be on the show or know of someone with a unique perspective, slide into my DMs at @missamandachen on Instagram and see you next Wednesday with more episodes of 100 Masked Men. Visit 100MaskedMen.com to fill out a questionnaire to be on the show!

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We’re now in Season 2 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about dating, sex, gender roles, and the meaning of masculinity.

This week, we’re opening up Season 2 with full transparency. I speak to three guys for the first time, getting as real as possible, and get them to share their past, present and future when it comes to dating and relationships.

Masked Man #28 is the Sex Decoder. I had to speak to a tech developer to get his first-hand perspective on dating apps. Do they really work? Or are we preparing ourselves for a generation of romantic disaster? I appreciate his logical approach to communication and he brings up the importance of providing both positive and negative feedback on sexual performance. For both partners.

And the best part of this honest conversation is his resistance to get deep too fast. There’s a fear of getting too attached too fast and “wasting” all this time with the wrong person. But I wonder, does it also stop us from getting that deep emotional connection we all want so badly? Let’s get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

Do we dare speak ill about our partners and their sexual performance? I know for a fact a lot of women come to me complaining about the sex they’re having, and act completely different in front of their partners. From a female perspective, we don’t like fighting, it’s the opposite of intimacy, so we’d do almost anything to avoid it. But I’m not afraid to say what’s up, although I know I could be a bit nicer in my delivery. What are your thoughts?

As always make sure to subscribe and if you’d like to be on the show or know of someone with a unique perspective, slide into my DMs at missamandachen on Instagram and see you next Wednesday with more episodes of 100 Masked Men.