Miss Amanda Chen Show

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. We’re now in Season 2 of the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about dating, sex, gender roles, and the meaning of masculinity.

True to the focus on transparency and having real and open conversations, what can be more open than someone engaged in polyamory? In definition, it’s the practice of, or desire for, intimate relationships with more than one partner, with the informed consent of all partners involved. With all my confusion around general consent for the practice of sex, I had to know how some people practice consensual non-monogamy.

Masked Man #26 is the Adventurous Man. He’s engaged with two partners that both have partners. And his role is being the one to take you on adventures with, and he’s fine playing that role, and doesn’t try to be anything more than that. Contrary to the typical masculine traits we’ve heard in earlier episodes on the man having to be everything for her, I can see why a lot of men wouldn’t be ok with this type of relationship. It’s allowing permission that you are actually not enough. Can we be ok with that? .

How opportunistic are we on trying to get the freedom to do anything, and how often are we confining ourselves to having to be everything? This was a fun chat on masculine and feminine energy and finding balance to understanding more about the “lifestyle” of polyamory and how much communication plays a role in helping rid ourselves of jealous, ego and feelings of making ourselves feel we are “enough” by the approval of others.

As always make sure to subscribe and if you’d like to be on the show or know of someone with a unique perspective, slide into my DMs at @missamandachen on Instagram and see you next Wednesday with more episodes of 100 Masked Men.

Welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show! Over the last three months I've dropped 25 interviews of the 100 Masked Men Series, where I anonymously interview men from all around the world about what masculinity means to them, how their sexuality affects their self worth, and how media and pop culture has shaped the gender roles we play in.

To sum up the first season, I was seeking anyone with a penis to get on the show. Friends, family, friends of friends, I was desperate for male voices. And all it nerves, or guilt for silencing men every chance I had, I was pretty sure no men would want to speak with me. Surprisingly, that wasn't the case at all, and in fact, I realized something about myself - I had set the bar so fucking low for men that I welcomed basically anything with arms wide open. And this is when I learned that I had also set the bar so low for myself, that I would have to tolerate shitty guys on the show as a way to appease my own feelings of being just as toxic to them as they have to me. And the biggest learning is that the world is not equal. And definitely genders are not equal. We can't just swap one for one and call it a day.

This week I'm opening up Season 2 with the second quarter of the 100 Masked Men Series, with full transparency. This time, we're going to find out how much do men actually know about themselves? We'll interview men that are fathers of daughters, that work with other men in men's groups, advocates for mental health for men, and just regular ass men trying to figure it all out.

Make sure to subscribe as I'll be coming hard with 2-3 interviews every Wednesday of the 100 Masked Men Series. Go to 100MaskedMen.com to learn more!

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen show! If you’ve been following this podcast, it’s been nearly 3 months and I’ve dropped 25 interviews of the 100 Masked Men Series, where I anonymously interview men from all around the world about how their sexuality affects their self worth and how media and pop culture has shaped the gender roles we play in.

When I first started this podcast I expected some friendly debate. I was a woman scorned and I had questions. I wanted answers. And I hoped that some of these men would speak on behalf of some other ghosted guys in my past and tell me what I always wanted to hear. That they were wrong, that I was right and that my feelings are valid and they’re so so sorry for undervaluing my worth. I wanted to restore my hope in men. I wanted to give them a chance to get involved in women's issues. I wanted them to openly and honestly about their feelings, why they do what they do, what their thought process is, and why we butt heads so badly.

During this time I’ve been getting really curious about linguistics and gender - how men talk to other men and how women talk to other women. And this is where things break down, we literally don’t know how to speak to the other, and so we might not speak at all. I learned that there’s a pecking order with men, who’s the lead and who follows. There’s a winner, there’s a loser. There are games, there are rules, there is a fuck ton of strategy. Girls? It’s about establishing relationships and intimacy. We don’t play sports or indulge in friendly competition with each other, we play house. We share stories. We play roles. Not responsibilities. And back in the day men enjoyed women because they knew who was boss, and women didn’t know better so they obliged to the subordinate role. Now in 2021, everything has shifted, and one thing’s for sure - we are all just really fucking confused.

As we close off this chapter I learned that courage and vulnerability best comes out when I express those characteristics myself. I didn’t expect to bring up rape and consent as much as I did in these conversations. And I didn’t expect not to bring up masturbation or sex toys as little as I did. I guess we all just had so many feelings we needed to get out first.

In these first 25 episodes we have real conversations with real people in real situations. Sometimes I can’t even listen to another famous podcast sponsored by a famous person interviewing another famous person in shameless self promotion with the smallest attempt to relate to “regular people.” I hope this raw, informative, expressive, emotional series touches you as much as it has touched me to host it.

Let me know which episodes you resonated with the best, and which ones you liked the least. And if you’re interested in being interviewed, go to 100maskedmen.com and fill out the questionnaire. Make sure to subscribe and I’ll see you next Wednesday with some more episodes of the 100 Masked Men. Amanda out.

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen show! If you’ve been following this podcast, it’s been nearly 3 months and I’ve just wrapped up the first season of the 100 Masked Men Series, with 25 interviews of anonymous men from all around the world talking about what masculinity means, and how that affects how they interact with women.

I know you’ve all been waiting for this episode. I can’t let the first season go without talking about something that I’m actually an expert on - sex toys and masturbation. I am actually really surprised that most of the conversations I’ve had with these anonymous men ended up being way more emotionally charged around fear of disappointment rather than a desire to connect and garner more intimacy through sex.

This week I interviewed three men in hopes of breaking barriers of what we're allowed to talk to one another about our sex. The awkward stuff that really turns us on that we might be too afraid to admit. For fear that people might look at us differently. From someone that was in the sex toy industry 10 years ago when the world was still way too timid to talk about masturbation, let me be the first to tell you it's not worth holding this stuff in. We shouldn't all be into the same type of sex and I'm worried that we're all striving for that. Stay unique, stay weird, stay you. Here's a little summary of insights I got from these three brave men this week and a little bit of an introduction to how I look at sex and sex toys. I hope you enjoy it.

Make sure to subscribe and I’ll see you next Wednesday with more episodes of the 100 Masked Men. Amanda out!

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. I’ve got some new episodes for the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all around the world about how gender roles, sexuality, and our self worth are all intertwined in the relationships we have with others.

This week, I wrap up the first quarter of men with a special focus on my favourite topic - taboos with sex! We get up close and intimate with what some of us are hiding behind closed doors that we’re too afraid to publicly share.

Masked Man #25 and our final episode of this season is the Naked Man. He shares his story of entering the nudist and swinger community with his partner, that he actually feels more natural naked than he does clothed. Listen to this if you want some real experiences and reflections on nudist resorts and swingers clubs, and how contrary it may be to how society portrays them. We have a heated discussion on how society tends to over sexualize us while we’re clothed and shame us for natural things like having sex or being naked.

What I found most interesting is hearing about some people try swinging as a way to ‘take one for the team’ for the sake of making their partner happy. How important is it to keep our partner sexually satisfied, and how do we do this in a safe way? We tackle this thought and how we might be able to have more sex, better sex, and improve our relationships overall. We can have it all. At least, I believe we can. I hope you enjoy the show.

Well, that wraps up the first quarter of guys in the 100 Masked Men Series. And what a way to send off - can we talk about improving our relationships please? I feel like having these open and honest conversations will most likely result in better sex, and isn’t that what we all want? I was so intrigued by this conversation and I hope you enjoyed it just as much. Who were your favourite men so far? Who were your least favourite? Who’s missing that needs to be on the show? Let me know as we prepare for Season 2.

As always make sure to subscribe and if you’d like to be on the show or know of someone with a unique perspective, slide into my DMs at @missamandachen on Instagram and see you next Wednesday with more episodes of 100 Masked Men.

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. I’ve got some new episodes for the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about dating, sex, gender roles, and the meaning of masculinity.

The internet is a wonderful thing, loaded with more than enough information and the ability to connect with anyone in the world. And here I found myself with a gay man who writes in the woman’s voice for erotica novels and I needed to learn more.

Masked Man #24 is the Erotica Writer. We talk about the cliches we always see in erotica novels, that there’s a rich attractive man that somehow takes interest in this lowly woman who obviously works for him. And how this titillating content can bleed into our own desires for relationships in real life. Does it need to feel like a romcom to be worthwhile, or are we doomed to always be wanting to live out someone else’s sexual desire?

It makes me wonder, how much do I really know about what I’m attracted to, versus what I’ve been trained to think I’m attracted to? And even though we may think there’s every type of porn available on the Internet, maybe it’s not as accessible as we think. I hope you enjoy the show.

Ok yes, we all know there’s more to relationships than just sex, but with all the focus on how attracted we are to our partners, how much is it really about that connection than it is just checking off the box we set for our sexual fantasies? And to take this even further, are we being set up to all think the same one type is the one and only type we should all be attracted to? What does that say about us if we’re not attracted to the standard society has set up for us? This has been an exciting conversation and I hope you enjoyed it as well.

As always make sure to subscribe and if you’d like to be on the show or know of someone with a unique perspective, slide into my DMs at @missamandachen on Instagram and see you next Wednesday with more episodes of 100 Masked Men.

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. I’ve got some new episodes for the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about dating, sex, gender roles, and the meaning of masculinity.

The internet is a wonderful thing, loaded with more than enough information and the ability to connect with anyone in the world. And here I found myself with a gay man who writes in the woman’s voice for erotica novels and I needed to learn more.

Masked Man #24 is the Erotica Writer. We talk about the cliches we always see in erotica novels, that there’s a rich attractive man that somehow takes interest in this lowly woman who obviously works for him. And how this titillating content can bleed into our own desires for relationships in real life. Does it need to feel like a romcom to be worthwhile, or are we doomed to always be wanting to live out someone else’s sexual desire?

It makes me wonder, how much do I really know about what I’m attracted to, versus what I’ve been trained to think I’m attracted to? And even though we may think there’s every type of porn available on the Internet, maybe it’s not as accessible as we think. I hope you enjoy the show.

Ok yes, we all know there’s more to relationships than just sex, but with all the focus on how attracted we are to our partners, how much is it really about that connection than it is just checking off the box we set for our sexual fantasies? And to take this even further, are we being set up to all think the same one type is the one and only type we should all be attracted to? What does that say about us if we’re not attracted to the standard society has set up for us? This has been an exciting conversation and I hope you enjoyed it as well.

As always make sure to subscribe and if you’d like to be on the show or know of someone with a unique perspective, slide into my DMs at @missamandachen on Instagram and see you next Wednesday with more episodes of 100 Masked Men.

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. I’ve got some new episodes for the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about dating, sex, gender roles, and the meaning of masculinity.

This week, these guys get real intimate with their sexual kinks as we break barriers to what most men say are off bounds when it comes to sex talk.

Masked Man #23 is the Masked Caller. One of the very few guys that really focus on listening to women, he often has phone sex with platonic female friends. He has a curiosity to learn more about people’s sexual desires, and says this type of conversation is off bounds when it comes to his male colleagues.

But there are consequences to being a rare breed - this man shares his disappointment with romantic relationships that involve damaged women projecting their past experiences onto him. And the unfairness of having to undergo undeserved punishment from the actions of other men in her life. Well I guess in this story we can really say, “not all men.”

Here’s a rare story of the guy that never gets a break because so many of us are hurting and used to hurting back. I am definitely guilty of bad decisions in my own relationships and I honestly am still struggling on not putting all men in the same bucket. But I do like the idea of breaking barriers when it comes to sharing porn, talking about masturbation and having phone sex. What do we think guys, can we open up this conversation with people we’re not actually having sex with?

As always make sure to subscribe and if you’d like to be on the show or know of someone with a unique perspective, slide into my DMs at @missamandachen on Instagram and see you next Wednesday with more episodes of 100 Masked Men.

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. I’ve got some new episodes for the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about dating, sex, gender roles, and the meaning of masculinity.

This week, these guys get real intimate with their sexual kinks as we break barriers to what most men say are off bounds when it comes to sex talk.

Masked Man #23 is the Masked Caller. One of the very few guys that really focus on listening to women, he often has phone sex with platonic female friends. He has a curiosity to learn more about people’s sexual desires, and says this type of conversation is off bounds when it comes to his male colleagues.

But there are consequences to being a rare breed - this man shares his disappointment with romantic relationships that involve damaged women projecting their past experiences onto him. And the unfairness of having to undergo undeserved punishment from the actions of other men in her life. Well I guess in this story we can really say, “not all men.”

Here’s a rare story of the guy that never gets a break because so many of us are hurting and used to hurting back. I am definitely guilty of bad decisions in my own relationships and I honestly am still struggling on not putting all men in the same bucket. But I do like the idea of breaking barriers when it comes to sharing porn, talking about masturbation and having phone sex. What do we think guys, can we open up this conversation with people we’re not actually having sex with?

As always make sure to subscribe and if you’d like to be on the show or know of someone with a unique perspective, slide into my DMs at @missamandachen on Instagram and see you next Wednesday with more episodes of 100 Masked Men.

Hello and welcome back to the Miss Amanda Chen Show. I’ve got some new episodes for the 100 Masked Men series, where I anonymously interview different men from all walks of life about how gender stereotypes contribute to our values of self worth and self identity.

If you listened to the last episode on the pressure to follow the status quo, we dig even deeper in this conversation with an actor that puts on multiple masks for a living. Masked Man #22 is the Unbroken Man. He shares his story about the journey in finding his true purpose, letting go of the expectations of others, and how acting was always with him, all he had to do was find it within himself.

We get into some interesting conversation about the roles women and men play in his life based on their expectations for him, and how he navigates around the definition of what it means to be a “good man” - is there only one type of good man? Let’s get into it. I hope you enjoy the show.

As always make sure to subscribe and if you’d like to be on the show or know of someone with a unique perspective, slide into my DMs at @missamandachen on Instagram and see you next Wednesday with more episodes of 100 Masked Men.