Jealousy can show up in the smallest moments and suddenly take over your nervous system, your thoughts, and the way you relate to your partner.

In this episode, Rick and Lilian help you get clear on what your jealousy is actually trying to tell you and how to respond without turning it into a fight, a spiral, or a “prove it” dynamic.

You’ll leave with practical ways to calm yourself in the moment, start the conversation in a way your partner can actually hear, and make requests that build safety instead of control.

If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re overreacting, whether your partner is dismissing your feelings, or why certain situations hit you so hard, this episode gives you a grounded framework to understand what’s happening and what to do next.

Open relationships can work, and they can also create problems fast when couples rush in without clarity.

In this episode of Modern Couples: What Your Therapist Never Told You, Rick and Lilian talk through what it really means to “open up” and the questions that matter before anything changes.

They cover common motivations, what tends to go wrong when couples use non-monogamy as a fix for conflict, and how to set boundaries that protect the partnership.

The conversation also explores practical realities like rules around emotional connection, privacy, home logistics, jealousy, and sexual health.

Cheating is one of the most painful and confusing crises a couple can face. But suspicion and secrecy don’t always tell the whole story.

In this episode of Modern Couples: What Your Therapist Never Told You, Rick and Lilian break down the real signs of cheating, why partners become suspicious even when no betrayal has happened, and how infidelity affects relationships far beyond the act itself.

This conversation looks at cheating through a realistic clinical lens: what leads to it, how partners discover it, and what healing actually requires. Whether rebuilding trust or facing hard truths, couples have more options than they realize.

The holidays are supposed to bring joy, but for many couples, they bring tension instead. Deciding where to spend the holidays, whose traditions to follow, and how to manage family expectations can quickly turn into emotional minefields.

In this episode of Modern Couples: What Your Therapist Never Told You, Rick and Lilian explore why holiday planning often sparks conflict, how family dynamics shape these decisions, and what couples can do to set boundaries, blend traditions, and actually enjoy the season.

They also discuss tricky topics like divided families, politics at the dinner table, and the financial stress that can make the holidays feel more chaotic than cozy.

What really defines a toxic relationship?

Is it the yelling, the control, the quiet dismissals, or the moments that leave you doubting your own reality? In this episode, therapists Rick Miller and Lillian Borges dig deep into one of the most difficult subjects for any couple: the fine line between normal relationship conflict and the kind of emotional damage that chips away at your sense of self.

Rick and Lillian explore what “toxic” truly means, why some people can’t see their own harmful behavior, and how others end up shrinking themselves to survive in a painful dynamic. They unpack common patterns like gaslighting, power struggles, and codependence. There’s a world of difference between being human and being destructive, and recognizing that difference can be life-changing.

Whether you’re questioning your own relationship or simply curious about how toxicity takes hold, this conversation will help you understand what’s healthy, what’s not, and how to begin reclaiming your well-being.

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Trust is one of the most complex foundations of any relationship — and few topics spark as much tension as snooping and location sharing.

In this episode of Modern Couples: What Your Therapist Never Told You, Rick Miller and Lillian Borges unpack what’s really happening underneath these behaviors.

They explore why so many partners resort to snooping instead of communicating, how gender roles and past relationship wounds shape trust, and why transparency can make or break emotional safety.

Whether you’ve snooped, been snooped on, or just want to strengthen trust in your relationship, this episode is a candid conversation about the messy, very human side of modern love.

When you hear the term “ADHD,” what do you think about? Someone with a short attention span, who is forgetful, who can’t settle down? This neurological condition is difficult to live with—whether you’re the one experiencing it, or are in a relationship with someone who is.

ADHD is like other disorders in that the resulting behavior, while frustrating, is never intentional, so both partners need to educate themselves about it and learn to manage the disorder together. Because it can result in some level of chaos in the household, as deadlines are missed, bills are unpaid, social obligations are ignored, it’s important to approach it in collaboration and devise a plan that will place guardrails around its worst consequences.

Oh, and how ADHD manifests will be different for men and for women, so watch that; it’s easy to make assumptions about your partner based on how you perceive the problem.

There are medications and cognitive-behavioral strategies that can help, and your therapist—you are seeing a therapist, right?—can help determine what treatment modalities arebest for you.

Who hasn’t at one time or another referred to someone else as a narcissist? But really, the clinical version of narcissism is relatively rare… which doesn’t mean that many people don’t have narcissistic traits! Some are healthy and related to self-worth, but others are harmful—and completely invisible to the person exhibiting them.

If you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, you’re probably already struggling. Whether you stay in the relationship or leave depends on your circumstances; if you choose to stay, you will need to set consistent boundaries with them, but know you will never be able to “fix” who they are.

What you can do: you might explore how and why you were attracted to your partner, and work with a therapist to discover the best way to move forward, regardless of whether or not you choose to stay in the relationship.

What goes unspoken when separate bedrooms become the norm?

More couples are choosing to sleep in separate rooms, but what does that actually mean for their connection?

In this episode, we explore the emotional and relational layers behind this growing trend.

Is it a practical move toward better sleep, or a quiet signal of emotional withdrawal? The answer depends less on the arrangement itself and more on the communication surrounding it.

Do frequent fights mean you and your partner are incompatible?

Could fights actually be part of how some couples stay connected?

In this episode, therapists Rick Miller and Lillian Borges take a closer look at what conflict reveals about relationships. They explore why fighting isn’t always a red flag, how our upbringing and attachment styles shape the way we argue, and the difference between conflict that strengthens connection and patterns that erode trust.

Along the way, they challenge the idea that compatibility is about avoiding arguments altogether and instead show how the willingness to repair, regulate emotions, and stay present makes all the difference.