"Modern Relationships"

Tara Viswanathan (founder who recently sold her startup) and Alex Modon (startup founder) share their journey from a 15-minute Bumble date to marriage. They discuss Tara's systematic approach to dating (including analyzing 60 first dates), building a relationship while running startups, and their thoughts on balancing ambitious careers with starting a family. A rare glimpse into two founders making partnership work.

Modern Relationships is a podcast from Turpentine. Learn more: www.turpentine.co

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SPONSOR: Relationship Hero 

It’s an open secret in Silicon Valley that people are using relationship coaches. Sign up for 1-on-1 relationship coaching (from anywhere) at RelationshipHero.com/modern. Get $50 off your first session.

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FOLLOW ON X:

Tara - @TaraViswanathan

Alex - @alexmodon

Erik - @eriktorenberg

Turpentine - @turpentinemedia

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RECOMMENDED IN THIS EPISODE:

Books

The Defining Decade by Meg Jay: https://www.amazon.com/Defining-Decade-Your-Twenties-Matter/dp/0446561754

Never Split the Difference by Chris Voss: https://www.amazon.com/Never-Split-Difference-Negotiating-Depended/dp/0062407805

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TIMESTAMPS:

(00:00) Intro and Preview

(01:41) Tara's Unconventional Quest for "The One"

(05:19) Alex's Journey to Finding Love Unintentionally

(07:53) Tara's "Crazy" Playbook: Love Hacks and Radical Self-Improvement

(12:59) Lessons Learned from Countless "I Dos" (and "I Don'ts")

(14:14) Sponsor: Relationship Hero

(15:49) A Dynamic Approach to Partnership

(18:24) Considering Age Rate and Stage of Life

(19:35) Reclaiming Authentic Power in Love and Life

(23:36) Decoding Each Other's Communication Styles

(28:41) Integrating Family and Work Adventures

(32:50) A Shared Vision for Family and Career

(36:26) Future Family Plans: Adoption

(50:39) Hot Takes on Dating

(51:26) The Core of the Decision: Ask "What Feels Right"

(55:05) Protecting Your Relationship

(59:19) The Dream: An Integrated Life

(1:03:14) Wrap

Tara Viswanathan (founder who recently sold her startup) and Alex Modon (startup founder) share their journey from a 15-minute Bumble date to marriage. They discuss Tara's systematic approach to dating (including analyzing 60 first dates), building a relationship while running startups, and their thoughts on balancing ambitious careers with starting a family. A rare glimpse into two founders making partnership work.

Modern Relationships is a podcast from Turpentine. Learn more: www.turpentine.co

--

SPONSOR: Relationship Hero 

It’s an open secret in Silicon Valley that people are using relationship coaches. Sign up for 1-on-1 relationship coaching (from anywhere) at RelationshipHero.com/modern. Get $50 off your first session.

--

FOLLOW ON X:

Tara - @TaraViswanathan

Alex - @alexmodon

Erik - @eriktorenberg

Turpentine - @turpentinemedia

--

RECOMMENDED IN THIS EPISODE:

Books

The Defining Decade by Meg Jay: https://www.amazon.com/Defining-Decade-Your-Twenties-Matter/dp/0446561754

Never Split the Difference by Chris Voss: https://www.amazon.com/Never-Split-Difference-Negotiating-Depended/dp/0062407805

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TIMESTAMPS:

(00:00) Intro and Preview

(01:41) Tara's Unconventional Quest for "The One"

(05:19) Alex's Journey to Finding Love Unintentionally

(07:53) Tara's "Crazy" Playbook: Love Hacks and Radical Self-Improvement

(12:59) Lessons Learned from Countless "I Dos" (and "I Don'ts")

(14:14) Sponsor: Relationship Hero

(15:49) A Dynamic Approach to Partnership

(18:24) Considering Age Rate and Stage of Life

(19:35) Reclaiming Authentic Power in Love and Life

(23:36) Decoding Each Other's Communication Styles

(28:41) Integrating Family and Work Adventures

(32:50) A Shared Vision for Family and Career

(36:26) Future Family Plans: Adoption

(50:39) Hot Takes on Dating

(51:26) The Core of the Decision: Ask "What Feels Right"

(55:05) Protecting Your Relationship

(59:19) The Dream: An Integrated Life

(1:03:14) Wrap

Aike Ho (Partner, ACME Capital) and Camilla Hermann (entrepreneur) discuss "relationship yoga" - viewing intimate relationships as paths to growth through how we trigger each other. They explore how relationship patterns reveal unresolved aspects of ourselves and why finding a partner who's willing to evolve together matters more than matching a checklist of ideal traits.

Modern Relationships is a podcast from Turpentine. Learn more: www.turpentine.co

--

SPONSOR: Relationship Hero 

It’s an open secret in Silicon Valley that people are using relationship coaches. Sign up for 1-on-1 relationship coaching (from anywhere) at RelationshipHero.com/modern. Get $50 off your first session.

--

FOLLOW ON X:

Aike - @aikeho

Camilla - @CamillaFHermann

Erik - @eriktorenberg

Turpentine - @turpentinemedia

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LINKS

TIMESTAMPS:

(00:00) Intro and Preview

(01:33) What is Relationship Yoga?

(02:22) Relationship as a Canvas for Wholeness

(04:54) Triggers and the Opportunity for Healing

(08:40) Observing and Processing Triggers

(09:38) The Role of Past Experiences

(10:51) Holding Space & Interlocking Patterns

(11:32) Using the Enneagram

(12:56) Example of Reactivity and Softness

(14:00) Reparenting & the Little Ones

(15:39) Interlocking Triggers & Internal Family Systems (IFS)

(16:39) Working with Internal Parts

(20:07) Free Will & Running Patterns

(21:00) Growth, Ego Death & Commitment in Relationships

(23:11) Seeing With Fresh Eyes

(23:16) Sponsor: Relationship Hero

(24:59) The Art of Loving & Unconditional Acceptance

(28:30) Reflections on Being Single

(34:50) Challenges & Bouncing Back

(39:44) Patterns Want to be Liberated

(42:34) Causes of Struggle in Relationships

(55:57) Tension of Triggers and Attraction

(1:00:04) Advice For Making It Fantastic

(1:02:04) Connection: Spark, Attraction, Intimacy

(1:05:23) Wrap

Aike Ho (Partner, ACME Capital) and Camilla Hermann (entrepreneur) discuss "relationship yoga" - viewing intimate relationships as paths to growth through how we trigger each other. They explore how relationship patterns reveal unresolved aspects of ourselves and why finding a partner who's willing to evolve together matters more than matching a checklist of ideal traits.

Modern Relationships is a podcast from Turpentine. Learn more: www.turpentine.co

--

SPONSOR: Relationship Hero 

It’s an open secret in Silicon Valley that people are using relationship coaches. Sign up for 1-on-1 relationship coaching (from anywhere) at RelationshipHero.com/modern. Get $50 off your first session.

--

FOLLOW ON X:

Aike - @aikeho

Camilla - @CamillaFHermann

Erik - @eriktorenberg

Turpentine - @turpentinemedia

--

LINKS

TIMESTAMPS:

(00:00) Intro and Preview

(01:33) What is Relationship Yoga?

(02:22) Relationship as a Canvas for Wholeness

(04:54) Triggers and the Opportunity for Healing

(08:40) Observing and Processing Triggers

(09:38) The Role of Past Experiences

(10:51) Holding Space & Interlocking Patterns

(11:32) Using the Enneagram

(12:56) Example of Reactivity and Softness

(14:00) Reparenting & the Little Ones

(15:39) Interlocking Triggers & Internal Family Systems (IFS)

(16:39) Working with Internal Parts

(20:07) Free Will & Running Patterns

(21:00) Growth, Ego Death & Commitment in Relationships

(23:11) Seeing With Fresh Eyes

(23:16) Sponsor: Relationship Hero

(24:59) The Art of Loving & Unconditional Acceptance

(28:30) Reflections on Being Single

(34:50) Challenges & Bouncing Back

(39:44) Patterns Want to be Liberated

(42:34) Causes of Struggle in Relationships

(55:57) Tension of Triggers and Attraction

(1:00:04) Advice For Making It Fantastic

(1:02:04) Connection: Spark, Attraction, Intimacy

(1:05:23) Wrap

Aike Ho (Partner, ACME Capital) and Camilla Hermann (entrepreneur) discuss "relationship yoga" - viewing intimate relationships as paths to growth through how we trigger each other. They explore how relationship patterns reveal unresolved aspects of ourselves and why finding a partner who's willing to evolve together matters more than matching a checklist of ideal traits.

Modern Relationships is a podcast from Turpentine. Learn more: www.turpentine.co

--

SPONSOR: Relationship Hero 

It’s an open secret in Silicon Valley that people are using relationship coaches. Sign up for 1-on-1 relationship coaching (from anywhere) at RelationshipHero.com/modern. Get $50 off your first session.

--

FOLLOW ON X:

Aike - @aikeho

Camilla - @CamillaFHermann

Erik - @eriktorenberg

Turpentine - @turpentinemedia

--

LINKS

TIMESTAMPS:

(00:00) Intro and Preview

(01:33) What is Relationship Yoga?

(02:22) Relationship as a Canvas for Wholeness

(04:54) Triggers and the Opportunity for Healing

(08:40) Observing and Processing Triggers

(09:38) The Role of Past Experiences

(10:51) Holding Space & Interlocking Patterns

(11:32) Using the Enneagram

(12:56) Example of Reactivity and Softness

(14:00) Reparenting & the Little Ones

(15:39) Interlocking Triggers & Internal Family Systems (IFS)

(16:39) Working with Internal Parts

(20:07) Free Will & Running Patterns

(21:00) Growth, Ego Death & Commitment in Relationships

(23:11) Seeing With Fresh Eyes

(23:16) Sponsor: Relationship Hero

(24:59) The Art of Loving & Unconditional Acceptance

(28:30) Reflections on Being Single

(34:50) Challenges & Bouncing Back

(39:44) Patterns Want to be Liberated

(42:34) Causes of Struggle in Relationships

(55:57) Tension of Triggers and Attraction

(1:00:04) Advice For Making It Fantastic

(1:02:04) Connection: Spark, Attraction, Intimacy

(1:05:23) Wrap

Liv Boeree (former poker champion, host of the Win-Win podcast) and Igor Kurganov (poker pro, co-founder of Raising for Effective Giving) have been together for 10 years. They're masters of creative conflict, inventors of the "hiss method," and champions of rational decision-making in relationships. In this candid episode, they share their unconventional wisdom and strategies for building lasting partnerships.

Modern Relationships is a podcast from Turpentine. Learn more: www.turpentine.co

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SPONSOR: Relationship Hero 

It’s an open secret in Silicon Valley that people are using relationship coaches. Sign up for 1-on-1 relationship coaching (from anywhere) at RelationshipHero.com/modern. Get $50 off your first session.

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Follow on X:

Liv - @Liv_Boeree

Igor - @IgorKurganov

Erik - @eriktorenberg

Turpentine - @turpentinemedia

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Links:

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Timestamps:

(00:00) Intro and Preview

(02:21) How Liv and Igor Met

(06:04) Advice on Finding a Partner

(09:13) Friend Zone and Attraction

(13:02) Evolving Preferences

(15:03) Sponsor: Relationship Hero

(18:57) "Dumbbell Theory"

(25:43) The "Hiss" Signal

(27:53) Communication and Directness

(29:43) Relationship Rituals

(31:11) Variety and Self-Actualization

(33:16) The Passion Trap

(36:16) Thoughts on Children

(45:07) Longevity and Evolution

(47:57) Early Relationship Patterns

(50:17) Tone Policing

(51:47) Empowering Each Other

(53:34) Love Enables Choice

(57:16) Igor's Greatest Gift

(1:04:03) Identifying the Wrong Match

(1:06:14) The Future of Their Relationship

(1:07:54) Wrap