Hello, and welcome to today's episode of mom's life made simple. I'm so excited that you are here and really. Excited and have prepared a lot to share today's episode with you. We are talking about what it means to create with God. And we're getting deep into this idea of spiritual creation. I actually recorded this podcast already. And when I finished, I was like, no, that isn't exactly what needs to be said in that podcast episode. And so I'm coming back and rerecording because I feel like the things that I have to share with you are so important and have been so. Really life-changing for me, it's changed the way that I think about what I can do in my life. And what's available to me and what is possible, for me as a person. And I want to capture the essence of that, of what spiritual creation can really mean for you. And so here I am recording this podcast again. 

Second time. Before we dive into today's show. Let's do the review of the week. This is by M Johns who says, as a mom of four kids, I am super excited to start listening to this podcast. I have listened to other podcasts that Chanel has done, and she has always been very interesting and educational. I can't wait to learn and find ways to make my life more simple. So thank you so much for that review. I appreciate it. I appreciate you for listening. Thank you for being here. If you haven't yet, please leave a rating and review. That helps me too. Get the podcast out so people can listen. And anytime that you like an episode, feel free to share it with your friends and let them know. So let's dive into today's content about spiritual creation. Now, when we think of creation, We think of the creator. God is the creator of the universe. He created everything that we see including ourselves, right? Including all the people. He is our creator, so it becomes very personal to know that he created us. And everything that will ever interact with. Every person and every thing that he. Was the creator of those things. So knowing that we are made from God that he is our creator and that we are his children, we then have that natural. Inherent ability in us to be creators and to want to create. And so, I'm going to read a quote. This is from Dieter F. UQ Dorf who says the desire to create is one of the deepest yearnings of the human soul. No matter our talents, education, backgrounds, or abilities, we each have an inherent wish to create something that did not exist before. Everyone can create you don't need money, position or influence in order to create something of substance or beauty creation brings deep satisfaction and fulfillment. That desire to create is a deep human need. I love that. And I think that that is because of who we are. We're children of God. He created, he is the creator. And so we then are creators. We are wanting to learn to be like him and to create like he does. So that's kind of what we're going to talk about today. How does he create. And how can we follow that pattern? 

 

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I have a great episode plan for you today. All about the gap and the gain. This concept will help you to see things more clearly. It will help you to find more joy in your life and it will help you to really be more successful in your goals. And I'll explain what I mean by that. As we get into this concept. Before we do. I want to share my top review of the week. And this comes from superfan C a F who says, can't wait to listen to these new podcasts. Always a pleasure to listen to Chanel's podcasts. Thank you so much super fan. I appreciate you being here. I appreciate everyone. Who's left ratings and reviews, and if you haven't, I would love for you to take the time to do so. It just takes a minute, but it really helps me out. So thank you so much for doing that. Now let's talk about the gap and the gain. This is a book that came out last year, but it's a concept that's been around for a while. I highly recommend this book. It's by Dr. Benjamin Hardy, and it comes from a concept from Dan Sullivan. Now, Dan Sullivan came up with this concept a long time ago when he was doing some coaching and he works with very successful entrepreneurs. 

He noticed a trend with them, and here's what he noticed, even though they were succeeding. Reading. They had a hard time really feeling that success and feeling good about the things that they were happening. That were happening in their businesses. Because they always wanted more. That sort of something we can relate to whether you're in business or not. Right. We always want more. There's this ideal out there, but an ideal is a moving target. So what that means is we kind of have a hazy picture in our mind of what success looks like. Oh, I'll be successful, you know, when this happens, whatever it is. But when we get there, often that ideal moves just a little farther away. It's like the horizon it's constantly out of reach. And as we move closer toward. That ideal. It keeps moving away. Keeps getting bigger. Now, Dan Sullivan realized this. And he came up with this concept of the gap and the gain, which is this. Where you are now to that ideal. When you look from where you are now to that ideal, you're always going to be in the gap. There will always be a gap. And if that's how you're trying to measure success, you will come up short every single time. So, what we need to do is we need to look backwards to where we started and measure backwards from where we started to where we are now. And when we do that, we will find ourselves in the gain. And being in the gain is the way that we feel happy. We feel more motivated. We feel more confident and it allows us to have future success because we're building on the success we've already had instead of feeling disappointed for the things that haven't happened yet. Okay. That's the basic concept of the gap and the gain.

 

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People say to me, I feel so overwhelmed. My to-do list is so long. I just have so many things to do. How can I do it all? And I love this question because the truth is we don't need to do it all at the end of the day.

We need to live more intentionally so that we know what really matters, what should be on the  to do list in the first place. And we're able to create the life that we want. So often I see women running around just feeling so busy, but not feeling productive, feeling like they are doing all the things for all the people.

And sometimes they're not even on the list. And of course that's overwhelming. Of course that's exhausting. Of course your to-do list feels like it never ends.

 

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woo-woo.  Maybe you've heard stuff about law of attraction; maybe you feel uncomfortable with this idea of manifestation. I actually prefer to call it spiritual creation, which to me basically means creating the life that you want, creating things in your mind before they happen physically in your life.

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Welcome to mom's life made simple the podcast for moms who want to go from chaos to calm from overwhelmed, to organize and to find balance between family responsibilities and personal growth. I'm your host Chanel Neilson. Let's make mom life simple. 

Hey guys. Thanks so much for being here. I have my friend Monica Tanner with us today. Monica. Thanks for being with us. 

So happy to be here. 

Yeah. Monica is amazing. She is a mom of four and she hosts on the brighter side marriage for entrepreneurs podcast. She is really an advocate for having a strong marriage. And so Monica, tell us a little bit more about yourself and what.

Yeah.

So like you said, I am the mom boss of four amazing little humans that I love. I raised them together with my hunky husband who we've been married 20 years this year. So crazy to think that we have spent two decades of our life. We're almost to the point where we've been together longer than we were apart.

Right. So, you know, getting into those really fun years our kids three of the four of them are teenagers. So we've got a lot of hormones, a lot of staff, a lot of, but it is a lot of fun. So fun getting to know. The kids at those ages. So and I have my first senior who's graduating this year too. So that's really exciting.

I feel like there's two big times in your life that nobody prepares you for, like nobody prepares you for becoming a mom like that, that transition, that emotional transition. And then I feel like I'm on the other end of it now where like one of them's about to leave my home and like, I don't know.

It's going to be like, I'm probably going to be super depressed on the couch for at least two weeks. People say, so you know, that's, that's where we're at. 

Yeah. Okay. Well, you guys are just like a year behind us. We've been married 21 years and our oldest left last year. So. 

So I'm going to lean on you for 

Yes. I was going to say, give me a call when things get hard. It, it is a transition for sure, but I love I love seeing you, you know, going through that and your family, and then also just how you've really prioritized marriage and been able to, you know, make them.

Your business and this passion that you have for both your husband and marriage in general, into, into what you do. So I love it. I've been asking all my guests the same question, and I want to ask you this question, which is how do you make mom life? So.

Yeah.

So I love this question because it is both simple and very complicated at the same time. It's like a layered answer, but how do I. Mom life simple. And that is the, I take myself off the hook for all of the complicated things about being a mom. And I simply prioritize my marriage because ultimately I feel like the key.

Best resource gift blueprint that I can give my children when they leave my home. Like we just talked about is this idea that all things can be. Healed and solved and created and become whole in a healthy thriving marriage. And so I really, my biggest advice to parents is yes, you know, you want to learn how to be a good mom.

You want to do all of those things, but the absolute best thing you can do for your kids is prioritize your marriage relationship because then, you know, I hear. All the time when my kids don't like a rule or, you know, whatever, I'm like, Oh, you get, you know, when you have a family and a household, like you get to decide how that works for you.

Right. And it's like, kind of, it's not that flippant of an answer because it really is true. Like, it really is true that no matter what we do as parents, our kids, aren't going to like something, right. They're going to be wounded or, you know, traumatized in some way somehow by. Experience in their upbringing growing up.

That's part of it, that's the whole point. Right? And so, but they get to, you know, they get to find a partner and create a life, start creating their own children. And in that prof process, they get to heal. They get to fix things. They get to

Welcome to MOMS life made simple the podcast for moms who want to go from chaos to calm from overwhelmed, to organize and to find balance between family responsibilities and personal growth. I'm your host Chanelle Neilson. Let's make mom life simple. 

Hey, you guys welcome to the mom's life made simple podcast. I'm so glad you're here. And I am here today with Stacy Julian, Stacy. Thanks for being with us. 

Oh, my goodness. Thanks for asking me so 

Yes, I am so excited to spend time with you and to chat you guys, Stacy is so much fun. We have podcasted together on her podcast. Be exactly enough time podcasts.

And Stacy is just someone who I admire, who puts so much good stuff out into the world. Stacy is a mom of five kids and just like me, she has four boys and one girl. 

Mm. 

And Stacy, tell us just a little bit more about yourself.

Well, thank you. First of all. So I I'm a grandma, so let's add one beautiful granddaughter to that list of four boys and a girl. So I've been, I've worked in the memory, keeping space Chanel and listeners for many, many, many years. And so my passions lie. With photos and stories and family history.

I love how those things come together. And I think for me, they have always sort of, sort of that focus and, and the opportunity I've had to teach that to others has really helped me stay present in my life. And so Yeah.

so I love pictures and stories, and especially now as I get older, I love pictures and stories of ancestors.

So. 

Yeah. Okay. That's so cool. And I love that you have done that and worked in that space and helped and taught others how to do those things. I know that's been part of the focus of your work. Okay, so good. And how old is your granddaughter?

Okay. So my granddaughter?

is Okay. And we going to have to like figure it out in my brain. She's 18 months. She's probably more like 20 months. All of a 

Oh, that's so fun. Okay. Very 

so awesome. 

Yeah. That's fun. I look forward to that stage of life. That's exciting. So, all right. Well, we are going to dive in and ask the question that I'm asking. All of these amazing moms that I'm bringing on here is how do you make mom lifestyle?

I will tell you how I try to make mom life simple. And I will say that I am an amazing mom about half the time, and then the other half of the time, I'm probably a hot mess, but, but one of the things that has helped me be an amazing mom, and this is going to just sound totally goofy, but little mini clipboards.

Okay. And I, and I even have some to show. To show if you happen to be watching this on YouTube, but if you're just listening, you guys, this is a little six by nine, like from staples, nothing special clipboard. And then of course, because I'm a little crafty, I like make it cute on the back and I spray paint the friends. And then I just create on my computer a list that is pretty specific to what I need. To simplify. Okay. So backup lots of years when I had those four boys in different schools going different directions, and I created a morning clipboard. I'm a big morning person than you. And I talked about that Chanel.

And what I don't like to do in the morning is say, Did you pack your lunch? Did you make your bed? Did you put this away? Did you get, you know, your permission slip, all of this stuff. And so I created a morning clipboard for each of my children, and there were some standard things on there. Like I expect you to make her bed and I expect you to brush your teeth and eat breakfast and pack your lunch.

And then if there were specific things based on the sport they were playing or piano lessons after school or whatever it was, I would add it. So in my home for many years, you didn't get an allowance, but I paid you a dollar a day for a completed clipboard. And what I like about that is then in the morning, I was saying, did you do your. 'cause then that covers all of it, all the things that were on the clipboard. And I never made it a huge deal if they didn't, becaus

Welcome to mom's life made simple the podcast for moms who want to go from chaos to calm from overwhelmed, to organize and to find balance between family responsibilities and personal growth. I'm your host Chanelle Neilson. Let's make mom life simple. 

Hey, you guys welcome to the podcast. I'm excited to be here today with Darla trendler Darla. Thanks so much for being here.

Oh, thanks Chanel. I am so happy to be here. 

Darla and I go way back to back when I had. My previous podcast, we did a mastermind together and Darla has been going strong with her podcast. For many years. I'm thinking it must be close to five years now. How long have you 

Actually it'll be four years. It's almost four years. 

okay about.

it's been about four since I started working on things, but yeah, not quite there, but close. 

Okay, four years. And she is the host of the spiritually minded women podcast, which is a fantastic podcast. She's a mom of four kids and she's just, you will learn so much from her today. She's someone that I have learned a lot from and really admire. So Darla to start off, I'd love for you just to give a brief intro and tell us a little bit more about yourself.

Okay, well, I am an Arizona and I was born here. I moved away when I was a kid and begged my husband to come back and we've lived here for 22 years in the valley and I love it here. I love I'm looking out my window right now and see my orange tree and it's 81 degrees in December. So I love living in Arizona.

I'm kind of a desert person and I have four kids. Two of them are out of the house. They're are 22 and 19. Well, 20, his birthday is like this week. So 22 and 20. And then I have two teenagers at home that are both in high school. They are 14 and 17. So I'm kind of like on that phase of motherhood where I'm learning how to navigate with a young adult children and teenagers.

And, you know, looking ahead that in a few years, there's not going to be any kids living in our home anymore. And I don't think motherhood ever ends. And so. We're kind of looking forward to a new phase of being parents. I'm married to my husband, Tim. We've been married for 24 years. We own a car dealership and I podcast at spirituality women.

I love it. I just love connecting with other women and talking about important things in deep things and sharing other women's stories. So that's what I do. 

Oh, I love it so much. I think that's so fun. And Arizona is a good place. It's a little hot, but but it's fantastic in the 

Well, we endure those summers because then we have eight months of beautiful weather. So. 

Yes. Yes, it is nice in the winter, for sure. So, okay. Well, I'm excited today to learn from some of your wisdom, and I think it's awesome that you are getting to this next phase of motherhood, right? Where your kids are a little bit older. So I think there's a lot that you can teach us having gone through the, the young phase of motherhood and now entering this phase.

So what we're going to talk about today is just one simple thing, which is how do you make mom life since.

Okay. I had to really think about this question and think, you know, what, what is something that I really do to make it simple because it's not always simple. It's, you know, I was talking to my husband this morning about, you know, how hard it is to like, Let your kids do things and teach them how to be independent and teach them things that when it's so much easier to do it yourself, that doesn't really simplify your life.

But the thing that I kind of landed on that has been a practice of mine for several years is when I start to feel that overwhelm. And like I have a million things to do and a million places to be, and all these demands on my time. Is to just take a step back and think what's essential right now. And I got this from, if you've ever read the book, essential ism by Greg McKeown.

I have read that book like four times. I love it. So many of the principles in that book, but this is probably