Moms and Martinis

The Moms and Martinis podcast is a biweekly listen into the kitchen table talk between the host, Kira, and her friends. Kira, mom of four, from Atlanta, Georgia, invites you to witness candid moments in her life, as she tries new things and go new places; all while becoming a better person and mother, and keeping her mental health in check.

In this week's episode, Kira is joined at the table with Katrina to discuss intimacy after experiencing sexual trauma. They discussed the psychological impacts of sexual trauma and how it caused them to push away from significant others, how they felt their body was not theirs, the distorting views of people and over-sexualizing intent, the impacts of rehearsing the abuse during intimacy and exhibiting anxiety symptoms, and how did they process the sexual trauma? They also discussed dating and relationship. They expressed how their trauma has impacted their willingness to explore new ways to be sexually intimate, the development of unhealthy sexual habits at a young age, reliving the traumatic experience if their significant other is forceful and how certain actions may stare them. Also, the ladies discussed how these experiences has impacted their mother-child relationship, if they found themselves being overly attached to your children, and provided advice to parents with a child that has experienced sexual trauma. 

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The hashtag for the podcast is #momsandmartinis and #momsandmartinispodcast

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The Moms and Martinis podcast is a biweekly listen into the kitchen table talk between the host, Kira, and her friends. Kira, mom of four, from Atlanta, Georgia, invites you to witness candid moments in her life, as she tries new things and go new places; all while becoming a better person and mother, and keeping her mental health in check.

In this week’s episode, Kira is joined at the table with Derrick Murphy, affectionately known as D. Murph, to discuss being raised by a teenage mother. Born to a young, 16 year old mother in Gary, Indiana, who dropped out of school for two years to care for him as he suffered crippling asthma for the first eight months of his life. He shared how his mother sacrificed a lot to help shape him and why introducing him to basketball made him a better man. D. Murph explained why some sons take on the role of being “the man of the house”.

Kira and Murphy discussed the differences between being a single mother versus a single parent and why a mother does not replace the role of an absent father. Murph explains how and why nurturing your son makes him a better man and better communicator.

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Where to find D. Murph:

Instagram: @ItsDMurph

Instagram: @Flagrant2pod_

Instagram: @WhyNotSports_

Website: https://dmurphspeaks.wordpress.com/

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Is there a topic you'd like covered on the podcast? Or, if you are have questions or would like to discuss podcast sponsorship, email us at [email protected].

The hashtag for the podcast is #momsandmartinis and #momsandmartinispodcast

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Twitter: @momsandmartinis

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The Moms and Martinis podcast is a biweekly listen into the kitchen table talk between Kira and her friends. Kira, mom of four from Atlanta, Georgia, invites you to witness candid moments in her life, as she tries new things and goes new places, all while becoming a better person and mother and keeping her mental health in check.

In this week’s episode, Kira is joined at the table with Annette Oltmans, Founder, Chairman of the Board of Directors, The M3ND Project. The M3ND Project seeks to educate, equip, and restore all those things impacted by Original and Double Abuse®. In this episode, Annette provides the history and mission of the organization and her history of abuse. Together they discuss stigmas of male abuse and take a deep dive into double and covert emotional abuse. Annette defines what covert emotional abuse is, how to identify behaviors associated with this type of abuse, what double abuse is, and how to stop it.

Kira and Annette also share tips to supporters of abuse victims and survivors when they are in the relationship and transitioning out of the relationship. Annette provides a high-level overview of the Healing Model of Compassion and the Accountability Model of Courage.

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Where to find more information about The M3ND Project:

Instagram: @themendproject

Twitter: @mend_project

Facebook: @themendproject

Website: www.themendproject.com

Email: [email protected] 

Become a Monthly Supporter:

If Moms and Martinis is a part of your day or week, and you love what we’re doing, please subscribe as a monthly listener. I’ve set up a link where you can quickly and easily support the show. The whole thing will take 60 seconds. Choose the pricing tier you wish to use. Current options are $0.99, $4.99, or $9.99. All of these will renew monthly automatically. Please visit https://anchor.fm/momsandmartinis/support and support us any way you can today.

Stay Connected:

Is there a topic you'd like covered on the podcast? Or, if you have questions or would like to discuss podcast sponsorship, email us at [email protected].

The hashtag for the podcast is #momsandmartinis and #momsandmartinispodcast

Make sure to follow us on social media:

Twitter: @momsandmartinis

Facebook: @momsandmartinis

Instagram: @momsandmartinispod

The Moms and Martinis podcast is a biweekly listen into the kitchen table talk between the host, Kira, and her friends. Kira, mom of four from Atlanta, Georgia, invites you to witness candid moments in her life as she tries new things and goes to new places, all while becoming a better person and mother and keeping her mental health in check.

In this week’s episode, Kira is joined at the table with Shereece to discuss being a strong friend. Shereece explains why the importance of normalizing courting your friends and setting clear expectations about what you are looking for in a friendship and from that person. They also discussed why asking your friends for permission to dump before unloading new information on them emotionally. How do you want your friends to show up for you?

Kira outlines the four levels as adapted from Waiting and Dating by Dr. Myles Monroe.

acquaintances: occasional contact with very general knowledge of each other; talk about general topics that won’t cause the person to feel threatened or that you are trying to pry; the lowest level of friendship

Casual friends: have common interests, activities, and concerns; meet more frequently than acquaintances and talk about common interests; praise and encourage each other in achievements and accomplishments; not serious about each other emotionally.

Close friends: mutual interests and life goals, handiwork mutually toward reaching those goals; often share similar values, ideals, and worldviews; “Most people never get this far in their relationships, and others jump straight from acquaintances to “intimate” because they do not know how to go through the friendship-building process.

Intimate friends: committed to the development of each others character; requires the freedom to be vulnerable, as well as correct each other; mutual responsibility of open honesty with discretion; committed to working with each other toward becoming better people

Become a Monthly Supporter:

If Moms and Martinis is a part of your day or week, and you love what we’re doing, please subscribe as a monthly listener. I’ve set up a link where you can quickly and easily support the show. The whole thing will take 60 seconds. Choose the pricing tier you wish to use. Current options are $0.99, $4.99, or $9.99. All of these will renew monthly automatically. Please visit https://anchor.fm/momsandmartinis/support and support us any way you can today.

Stay Connected:

Is there a topic you'd like covered on the podcast? Or, if you have questions or would like to discuss podcast sponsorship, email us at [email protected].

The hashtag for the podcast is #momsandmartinis and #momsandmartinispodcast

Make sure to follow us on social media:

Twitter: @momsandmartinis

Facebook: @momsandmartinis

Instagram: @momsandmartinispod

The Moms and Martinis podcast is a biweekly listen into the kitchen table talk between the host, Kira, and her friends. Kira, mom of four, from Atlanta, Georgia, invites you to witness candid moments in her life, as she tries new things and go new places; all while becoming a better person and mother, and keeping her mental health in check.

In this week’s episode, Kira is joined at the table for some back porch pimping with Zee, owner of Black Taggs. Originally from North Carolina, but adopted as a Grady baby, this well known photographer and videographer is a force to be reckoned with. As a serial entrepreneur, he owns several businesses including The Vintage Game, offering veteran assistance ranging from mental health resources, home care, companionship and more. He also owns Cookie, Cakes, and Whipped Cream, providing you with all of your shea butter, sugar scrubs, and linen spray needs for both men and women. 

Zee and I discussed some of the challenges of being the owner of multiple endeavors and why having competent, capable, and empowered business partners are the key to his success. He shares. how he consults aspiring entrepreneurs make their dreams a reality. We also talked about how him becoming a father made him a better businessman. Zee gets emotional as he talks about growing up in a juke joint with his grandmother and getting his hustle from. her. He takes a trip down memory lane recalling memories of his father and how he wishes he would have made amends with him before passing. We celebrate his son who graduated with two degrees in the middle of COVID despite the difficulties of raising a black male in today's climate. 

Become a Monthly Supporter:

If Moms and Martinis is a part of your day or week, and you love what we’re doing, please subscribe as a monthly listener. I’ve set up a link where you can quickly and easily support the show. The whole thing will take 60 seconds. Choose the pricing tier you wish to use. Current options are $0.99, $4.99, or $9.99. All of these will renew monthly automatically. Please visit https://anchor.fm/momsandmartinis/support and support us, any way you can, today.

Stay Connected:

Is there a topic you'd like covered on the podcast? Or, if you are have questions or would like to discuss podcast sponsorship, email us at [email protected].

The hashtag for the podcast is #momsandmartinis and #momsandmartinispodcast

Make sure to follow us on social media:

Twitter: @momsandmartinis

Facebook: @momsandmartinis

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More about the guest:

Facebook: @zillablakktaggs

Instagram: @zilla6lakk

Website: www.zillablakk.com

The Moms and Martinis podcast is a biweekly listen into the kitchen table talk between the host, Kira, and her friends. Kira, mom of four, from Atlanta, Georgia, invites you to witness candid moments in her life, as she tries new things and go new places; all while becoming a better person and mother, and keeping her mental health in check.

In this week’s episode, Kira is joined at the table with Tamica to discuss grieving the loss of a child. Tamica shares a bit about her childhood and how those life events impacted her. She tells about her abuse as a teenage mother, the relationship with her mother, and the relationship with her children. 

Also during the conversation, Tamica recalls the moments before and after her six-year old son was hit and killed by a car when crossing a busy highway in Atlanta. Kira, Tamica's aunt, recants her memory of the events and the impact it had on her, and the family. Throughout the conversation share the different methods Tamica has used to cope with the grief and how she manages her emotions. She shares what good and bad days look like, what has been most difficult, and what has been surprisingly easy. 

Tamica shares a little about her oldest son who is currently service a 20 years prison sentence and if she feel as though she loss her sons. Lastly, the pair discuss the challenges of raising black sons, what makes them proud to be mothers, and give advice to mother raising sons in less than ideal situations. 

Stay Connected:

Is there a topic you'd like covered on the podcast? Or, if you are have questions or would like to discuss podcast sponsorship, email us at [email protected].

The hashtag for the podcast is #momsandmartinis and #momsandmartinispodcast

Make sure to follow us on social media:

Twitter: @momsandmartinis

Facebook: @momsandmartinis

Instagram: @momsandmartinispod

The Moms and Martinis podcast is a biweekly listen into the kitchen table talk between the host, Kira, and her friends. Kira, mom of four from Atlanta, Georgia, invites you to witness candid moments in her life, as she tries new things and goes new places, all while becoming a better person and mother and keeping her mental health in check.

In this week’s episode, Kira is joined at the table with PM Kester, How To Take a Break Podcast, to discuss dating consciously. During their conversation, PM Kester shared about her marriage, divorce, and dating experience. In addition, she shared how therapy and extensive journey helped her and helped frame her journaling workbook. 

Together, Kira and PM Kester reviewed the Conscious Dating - Red Flag Checklist and answered the following questions:

Projecting The Future

Do you find yourself participating in any of these behaviors?

Are You Talking Yourself Into A Relationship

  What do you do when you identify you are demonstrating these behaviors? 

Danger Signs

How do you take a break to reset if you identify these behaviors in a potential partner or within yourself?

Other Common Red Flags

 How do you address these things in a prospective relationship? 

Are you willing to negotiate or wait for an individual to course-correct/change when demonstrating these behaviors?

Lastly, they shared their non-negotiables, dating support system, and when one should not date. 

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Is there a topic you'd like covered on the podcast? Or, if you have questions or would like to discuss podcast sponsorship, email us at [email protected].

The hashtag for the podcast is #momsandmartinis and #momsandmartinispodcast

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Connect with our Guest:

Instagram: @pmkester

https://linktr.ee/pmkester 

https://www.pmkesterenterprisesllc.com/ 

Order the journal here.

In this episode, Kira talks with Jarratt about their dating experiences. Kira shared how sliding into Jarratt's DM turned into them exploring if they were compatible. Kira shared how she quickly moves between relationships and has learned to slow down to assess if her potential mate is the right fit. Jarratt shared that he made sure his ex was in a good head and heart space before moving on. Jarratt shared the silver lining of dating during the pandemic and how it removed some of the pressures of dating in person. Finally, the two answered the tricky question of who should decide to end a dating situation when it's clear one is unable or unwilling to provide what the other needs. Kira questions her willingness to fight for a relationship and stick through tough times. 

Jarratt and Kira discuss their experience dating each other. Jarratt shared how it was refreshing to lay the cards on the table; yet, the straightforwardness and Kira's assertive approach can turn off the other person if they are not ready or moving at a similar pace. Kira admits that she quickly detaches from people and situations and moves on quickly, can perceive as cold and distant. Jarratt shares how his 'cheat codes' and Kira's 'blueprint' accompanied with their need to fix others, ultimately sabotages their desires for meaningful mutual relationships. Jarratt encourages Kira to exercise patience and provides wise and insightful feedback as she continues accepting applications for #OperationStepdad. 

Guest: Jarratt, It's About Damn Time Podcast

Song Credit: Love 'Em All by K. Michelle

This episode is sponsored by Raw Truth: Stories of Female Infidelity

For more information: https://linktr.ee/Rebecca.rawtruth

Website: www.rawtruthstoriesoffemaleinfidelity.com

Email [email protected]

In the season four premiere, Kira is joined at the kitchen table with BJ to discuss her readiness for love, dissecting where her blockage lies, the risks of dating, properly preparing for a healthy relationship, and the long-term work needed sustain the relationship. The two explore the interesting dynamics of the heart and mind versus wants and desires. Using the analogy of heart surgery, BJ begins with a pre-op assessment to determine if Kira's perceived need and self-identified symptoms are truly the issues and if surgery is warranted. Next, BJ explains how social spaces often serve as a Heart Health WebMD, causing many to misdiagnose themselves, derailing preparing healing and growth in spaces. Therefore, one may develop identify red flags, which are actually a sign that one may need to develop a more sensibility to emotions perceived as a threat when it is an invitation for healthier communication. 

BJ explains how years of malpractice through self-medicating could pose an obstacle when assessing if your new potential primary care provider (partner) new methods and prescriptions towards healing are accurate or worth exploring. The two discuss tips for successful dating and the importance of deep conversations when courting. BJ also elaborates on his side of the analogy covered on his show, Who Gets Love, if it is fair to disqualify a potential partner because of their weaknesses. He also asks if we are giving the other person credit for their efforts. The two covered this and so much more. Tune in and find out if you are emotionally healthy enough to enter into a relationship?

Guest: BJ, Creative Director/CEO, Host, Who Gets Love Podcast

Song Credit: Girl Like Me by Jazmine Sullivan featuring H.E.R.

This episode is sponsored by Raw Truth: Stories of Female Infidelity

For more information: https://linktr.ee/Rebecca.rawtruth

Website: www.rawtruthstoriesoffemaleinfidelity.com

Email [email protected]

BONUS EPISODE ALERT! 

In the season 4 sneak peek, the host, Kira explains why she decided to focus on all matters of the heart this season. She breaks down the analogy of heart surgery and why this is an important step in her quest of #OperationStepdad.

In this season, friends at the table will answer the following questions:

Who was your first love? 

When was the first time you had your heart broken?

Describe love

What is intimacy?

What's most important in sustaining a healthy relationship?

You will not be disappointed in this season. We have some amazing topics to explore, hard questions to answer, and some deep soul searching requiring transparency. Are you ready? 

Cheers to a successful season! But first, hold my martini.

Song Credit: Dear Lisa by 1 A.M.

Season 4, Episode 44

Angel Number 444 is a message that you have nothing to fear in regards to your life, work and Divine life purpose. When you take positive action towards your highest intentions, aspirations and goals, the Universe works in your favour and helps you to establish solid foundations and advance you along your path. Know that the angels surround and support you, encouraging you to keep up the good work you have been doing. (Source: http://sacredscribesangelnumbers.blogspot.com/2011/09/angel-number-444.html)