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  • BONUS: Season 4 Sneak Peek
    BONUS EPISODE ALERT! 
    In the season 4 sneak peek, the host, Kira explains why she decided to focus on all matters of the heart this season. She breaks down the analogy of heart surgery and why this is an important step in her quest of #OperationStepdad.
    In this season, friends at the table will answer the following questions:
    Who was your first love? 
    When was the first time you had your heart broken?
    Describe love
    What is intimacy?
    What's most important in sustaining a healthy relationship?
    You will not be disappointed in this season. We have some amazing topics to explore, hard questions to answer, and some deep soul searching requiring transparency. Are you ready? 
    Cheers to a successful season! But first, hold my martini.
    Song Credit: Dear Lisa by 1 A.M.
    Season 4, Episode 44
    Angel Number 444 is a message that you have nothing to fear in regards to your life, work and Divine life purpose. When you take positive action towards your highest intentions, aspirations and goals, the Universe works in your favour and helps you to establish solid foundations and advance you along your path. Know that the angels surround and support you, encouraging you to keep up the good work you have been doing. (Source: http://sacredscribesangelnumbers.blogspot.com/2011/09/angel-number-444.html)
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    27 min
  • Conscious Dating with PM Kester

    The Moms and Martinis podcast is a biweekly listen into the kitchen table talk between the host, Kira, and her friends. Kira, mom of four from Atlanta, Georgia, invites you to witness candid moments in her life, as she tries new things and goes new places, all while becoming a better person and mother and keeping her mental health in check.

    In this week’s episode, Kira is joined at the table with PM Kester, How To Take a Break Podcast, to discuss dating consciously. During their conversation, PM Kester shared about her marriage, divorce, and dating experience. In addition, she shared how therapy and extensive journey helped her and helped frame her journaling workbook. 

    Together, Kira and PM Kester reviewed the Conscious Dating - Red Flag Checklist and answered the following questions:

    • Projecting The Future
    • Do you find yourself participating in any of these behaviors?

      • Are You Talking Yourself Into A Relationship
      •   What do you do when you identify you are demonstrating these behaviors? 

        • Danger Signs
        • How do you take a break to reset if you identify these behaviors in a potential partner or within yourself?

          • Other Common Red Flags
          •  How do you address these things in a prospective relationship? 

            Are you willing to negotiate or wait for an individual to course-correct/change when demonstrating these behaviors?

            Lastly, they shared their non-negotiables, dating support system, and when one should not date. 

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            The hashtag for the podcast is #momsandmartinis and #momsandmartinispodcast

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            Connect with our Guest:

            Instagram: @pmkester

            https://linktr.ee/pmkester 

            https://www.pmkesterenterprisesllc.com/ 

            Order the journal here.

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            1 hr 32 min
          • Words from a Grieving Mother with Tamica

            The Moms and Martinis podcast is a biweekly listen into the kitchen table talk between the host, Kira, and her friends. Kira, mom of four, from Atlanta, Georgia, invites you to witness candid moments in her life, as she tries new things and go new places; all while becoming a better person and mother, and keeping her mental health in check.

            In this week’s episode, Kira is joined at the table with Tamica to discuss grieving the loss of a child. Tamica shares a bit about her childhood and how those life events impacted her. She tells about her abuse as a teenage mother, the relationship with her mother, and the relationship with her children. 

            Also during the conversation, Tamica recalls the moments before and after her six-year old son was hit and killed by a car when crossing a busy highway in Atlanta. Kira, Tamica's aunt, recants her memory of the events and the impact it had on her, and the family. Throughout the conversation share the different methods Tamica has used to cope with the grief and how she manages her emotions. She shares what good and bad days look like, what has been most difficult, and what has been surprisingly easy. 

            Tamica shares a little about her oldest son who is currently service a 20 years prison sentence and if she feel as though she loss her sons. Lastly, the pair discuss the challenges of raising black sons, what makes them proud to be mothers, and give advice to mother raising sons in less than ideal situations. 

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            Is there a topic you'd like covered on the podcast? Or, if you are have questions or would like to discuss podcast sponsorship, email us at [email protected].

            The hashtag for the podcast is #momsandmartinis and #momsandmartinispodcast

            Make sure to follow us on social media:

            Twitter: @momsandmartinis

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            1 hr 42 min
          • Failing Upwards with Zee

            The Moms and Martinis podcast is a biweekly listen into the kitchen table talk between the host, Kira, and her friends. Kira, mom of four, from Atlanta, Georgia, invites you to witness candid moments in her life, as she tries new things and go new places; all while becoming a better person and mother, and keeping her mental health in check.

            In this week’s episode, Kira is joined at the table for some back porch pimping with Zee, owner of Black Taggs. Originally from North Carolina, but adopted as a Grady baby, this well known photographer and videographer is a force to be reckoned with. As a serial entrepreneur, he owns several businesses including The Vintage Game, offering veteran assistance ranging from mental health resources, home care, companionship and more. He also owns Cookie, Cakes, and Whipped Cream, providing you with all of your shea butter, sugar scrubs, and linen spray needs for both men and women. 

            Zee and I discussed some of the challenges of being the owner of multiple endeavors and why having competent, capable, and empowered business partners are the key to his success. He shares. how he consults aspiring entrepreneurs make their dreams a reality. We also talked about how him becoming a father made him a better businessman. Zee gets emotional as he talks about growing up in a juke joint with his grandmother and getting his hustle from. her. He takes a trip down memory lane recalling memories of his father and how he wishes he would have made amends with him before passing. We celebrate his son who graduated with two degrees in the middle of COVID despite the difficulties of raising a black male in today's climate. 


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            More about the guest:

            Facebook: @zillablakktaggs

            Instagram: @zilla6lakk

            Website: www.zillablakk.com 

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            1 hr 13 min
          • Creating Intimacy with Lotus and Chad
            The Moms and Martinis podcast is a biweekly listen into the kitchen table talk between Kira and her friends. Kira, mom of four from Atlanta, Georgia, invites you to witness candid moments in her life, as she tries new things and goes new places, all while becoming a better person and mother and keeping her mental health in check.
            In this week’s episode, Kira is joined at the table with Chad and Lotus, hosts of That's Deep Podcast, to discuss intimacy and how to balance nurturing your relationship while raising children (ages 2 to 17). Lotus and Chad share how they met (You can listen to the entire show on their platform called E2:In the dark alley?!). Chad shares how he identified a gem in a class of her own and knew he had to lock her down. Chad excitedly shares why Lotus upgraded him, and Lotus shares why she stopped playing hard to get and gave him a chance. They share how raising kids is hard and how spontaneity helps keep the love flowing and adds spice to the relationship. Lotus shares why it is important to learn what works best for them and why it is important not to compare your experience with your partner to previous partners. "Be your own goals" instead of trying to be Instagram #couplegoals.
            Chad heeds a warning to Kira that her lifestyle may not be conducive to being in a relationship. Kira shares why she is not committing to any one particular idea of love and a relationship.
            Lotus outlines intimacy as the alone time, great conversation, and mentally stimulate her. Chad outlines intimacy as being in close physical proximity, watching TV together. The couple share how sharing in the household and helping with the kids help create moments to focus on each other. Happy spouse, happy house.
            They discuss the four types of intimacy:
            Physical Intimacy: hugging, kissing, massages, sexual touch, cuddling, proximity
            Mental Intimacy: meaningful conversation, shared values, and interests
            Spiritual Intimacy: respect for each other's beliefs, shared purpose, nurtures each other inner peace
            Emotional Intimacy: affirming, caring, interested in each other feelings
            Episode Reference:
            Alyssa Marie, Wellness Inc., Types of Intimacy
            What is your turn-on trigger? The Game of Desire, Shan Boodram
            Where to find more information about That's Deep Podcast:
            Instagram: @thatsdeeppod
            Twitter: @thatsdeeppod
            Facebook: @thatsdeeppodcast
            Website: www.thatsdeeppodcast.com 
            YouTube: That's Deep Podcast
            Clubhouse: ThatsDeepPod
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            1 hr 19 min
          • Access Denied with Shereece

            The Moms and Martinis podcast is a biweekly listen into the kitchen table talk between the host, Kira, and her friends. Kira, mom of four from Atlanta, Georgia, invites you to witness candid moments in her life as she tries new things and goes to new places, all while becoming a better person and mother and keeping her mental health in check.

            In this week’s episode, Kira is joined at the table with Shereece to discuss being a strong friend. Shereece explains why the importance of normalizing courting your friends and setting clear expectations about what you are looking for in a friendship and from that person. They also discussed why asking your friends for permission to dump before unloading new information on them emotionally. How do you want your friends to show up for you?

            Kira outlines the four levels as adapted from Waiting and Dating by Dr. Myles Monroe.

            • acquaintances: occasional contact with very general knowledge of each other; talk about general topics that won’t cause the person to feel threatened or that you are trying to pry; the lowest level of friendship
            • Casual friends: have common interests, activities, and concerns; meet more frequently than acquaintances and talk about common interests; praise and encourage each other in achievements and accomplishments; not serious about each other emotionally.
            • Close friends: mutual interests and life goals, handiwork mutually toward reaching those goals; often share similar values, ideals, and worldviews; “Most people never get this far in their relationships, and others jump straight from acquaintances to “intimate” because they do not know how to go through the friendship-building process.
            • Intimate friends: committed to the development of each others character; requires the freedom to be vulnerable, as well as correct each other; mutual responsibility of open honesty with discretion; committed to working with each other toward becoming better people
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              If Moms and Martinis is a part of your day or week, and you love what we’re doing, please subscribe as a monthly listener. I’ve set up a link where you can quickly and easily support the show. The whole thing will take 60 seconds. Choose the pricing tier you wish to use. Current options are $0.99, $4.99, or $9.99. All of these will renew monthly automatically. Please visit https://anchor.fm/momsandmartinis/support and support us any way you can today.

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              1 hr 43 min
            • Covert Emotional Abuse with Annette Oltmans, The M3ND Project

              The Moms and Martinis podcast is a biweekly listen into the kitchen table talk between Kira and her friends. Kira, mom of four from Atlanta, Georgia, invites you to witness candid moments in her life, as she tries new things and goes new places, all while becoming a better person and mother and keeping her mental health in check.

              In this week’s episode, Kira is joined at the table with Annette Oltmans, Founder, Chairman of the Board of Directors, The M3ND Project. The M3ND Project seeks to educate, equip, and restore all those things impacted by Original and Double Abuse®. In this episode, Annette provides the history and mission of the organization and her history of abuse. Together they discuss stigmas of male abuse and take a deep dive into double and covert emotional abuse. Annette defines what covert emotional abuse is, how to identify behaviors associated with this type of abuse, what double abuse is, and how to stop it.

              Kira and Annette also share tips to supporters of abuse victims and survivors when they are in the relationship and transitioning out of the relationship. Annette provides a high-level overview of the Healing Model of Compassion and the Accountability Model of Courage.

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              Where to find more information about The M3ND Project:

              Instagram: @themendproject

              Twitter: @mend_project

              Facebook: @themendproject

              Website: www.themendproject.com

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              If Moms and Martinis is a part of your day or week, and you love what we’re doing, please subscribe as a monthly listener. I’ve set up a link where you can quickly and easily support the show. The whole thing will take 60 seconds. Choose the pricing tier you wish to use. Current options are $0.99, $4.99, or $9.99. All of these will renew monthly automatically. Please visit https://anchor.fm/momsandmartinis/support and support us any way you can today.

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              Is there a topic you'd like covered on the podcast? Or, if you have questions or would like to discuss podcast sponsorship, email us at [email protected].

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              1 hr 21 min
            • Growing Up With Mom featuring D. Murph

              The Moms and Martinis podcast is a biweekly listen into the kitchen table talk between the host, Kira, and her friends. Kira, mom of four, from Atlanta, Georgia, invites you to witness candid moments in her life, as she tries new things and go new places; all while becoming a better person and mother, and keeping her mental health in check.

              In this week’s episode, Kira is joined at the table with Derrick Murphy, affectionately known as D. Murph, to discuss being raised by a teenage mother. Born to a young, 16 year old mother in Gary, Indiana, who dropped out of school for two years to care for him as he suffered crippling asthma for the first eight months of his life. He shared how his mother sacrificed a lot to help shape him and why introducing him to basketball made him a better man. D. Murph explained why some sons take on the role of being “the man of the house”.

              Kira and Murphy discussed the differences between being a single mother versus a single parent and why a mother does not replace the role of an absent father. Murph explains how and why nurturing your son makes him a better man and better communicator.

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              If Moms and Martinis is a part of your day or week, and you love what we’re doing, please subscribe as a monthly listener. I’ve set up a link where you can quickly and easily support the show. The whole thing will take 60 seconds. Choose the pricing tier you wish to use. Current options are $0.99, $4.99, or $9.99. All of these will renew monthly automatically. Please visit https://anchor.fm/momsandmartinis/support and support us, any way you can, today.

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              Where to find D. Murph:

              Instagram: @ItsDMurph

              Instagram: @Flagrant2pod_

              Instagram: @WhyNotSports_

              Website: https://dmurphspeaks.wordpress.com/

              Stay Connected:

              Is there a topic you'd like covered on the podcast? Or, if you are have questions or would like to discuss podcast sponsorship, email us at [email protected].

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              Make sure to follow us on social media:

              Twitter: @momsandmartinis

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              1 hr 18 min
            • Intimacy After Sexual Trauma with Katrina

              The Moms and Martinis podcast is a biweekly listen into the kitchen table talk between the host, Kira, and her friends. Kira, mom of four, from Atlanta, Georgia, invites you to witness candid moments in her life, as she tries new things and go new places; all while becoming a better person and mother, and keeping her mental health in check.

              In this week's episode, Kira is joined at the table with Katrina to discuss intimacy after experiencing sexual trauma. They discussed the psychological impacts of sexual trauma and how it caused them to push away from significant others, how they felt their body was not theirs, the distorting views of people and over-sexualizing intent, the impacts of rehearsing the abuse during intimacy and exhibiting anxiety symptoms, and how did they process the sexual trauma? They also discussed dating and relationship. They expressed how their trauma has impacted their willingness to explore new ways to be sexually intimate, the development of unhealthy sexual habits at a young age, reliving the traumatic experience if their significant other is forceful and how certain actions may stare them. Also, the ladies discussed how these experiences has impacted their mother-child relationship, if they found themselves being overly attached to your children, and provided advice to parents with a child that has experienced sexual trauma. 

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              Is there a topic you'd like covered on the podcast? Or, if you are have questions or would like to discuss podcast sponsorship, email us at [email protected].

              The hashtag for the podcast is #momsandmartinis and #momsandmartinispodcast

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              1 hr 12 min
            • Mind Your Business with Dem Chakras

              The Moms and Martinis podcast is a biweekly listen into the kitchen table talk between the host, Kira, and her friends. Kira, mom of four, from Atlanta, Georgia, invites you to witness candid moments in her life, as she tries new things and go new places; all while becoming a better person and mother, and keeping her mental health in check.

              In this week’s episode, Kira is joined at the table with Christian of Dem Chakras podcast to discuss the art of minding your business. Using the analogy of a traffic light, they discuss when to stop, when to slow down, and when to move full speed ahead. They also defined self-care and implementing healthy boundaries. Christian shares how she began her spiritual path and the shadow work she completed to realign herself when you felt lost. Christian challenges us all to examine if we truly like ourselves, identify what makes us uncomfortable, define our healthy boundaries, and examine if we are on brand. They also discuss the importance of mentors, gathering feedback, the importance of the root chakra, why it stabilizes everything you do, and why you should NOT gift people your business.

              Here are a few questions to ponder:

              What are the signs that you need to stop to recalibrate to become balanced and realigned?

              When should you slow down to take inventory of things in your life to determine what's next?

              How can one tell if they are in full alignment and living purposefully?


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              Where to Find Dem Chakras:

              Instagram:

              @demchakras

              @demchakrasllc

              www.flow.page.com/demchakras/

              https://www.demchakras.com

              You can find Dem Chakras Podcast is available on all listening platforms.

              Stay Connected:

              Is there a topic you'd like covered on the podcast? Or, if you are have questions or would like to discuss podcast sponsorship, email us at [email protected].

              The hashtag for the podcast is #momsandmartinis and #momsandmartinispodcast

              Make sure to follow us on social media:

              Twitter: @momsandmartinis

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              1 hr 46 min

            About Moms and Martinis

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            Moms and Martinis welcomes you into the kitchen table talk I share with my friends. We discuss our past and how it has shaped us into who we are today. How life impacts us mentally, physically,…