Moms and Martinis

In this week's episode, we get back to love and relationships with my special panel of guests; Kaci, Kay Kay, Mista Calhoun, and BJ. We discussed out interpretation to the song Take Care by The Dream. I immediately kicked things off with the important question asking what does it means to be taken care of? We also discussed that it means to be encompassed by love, and why some people fantasize the idea of being in a relationship without looking at the reality of the work it takes to maintain a healthy relationship. This topic was a great one with many varying opinions. 

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Kaci IG @ohthatskaci

Kay Kay IG @iamkaykay

Mista Calhoun IG @digitaldaronpodcast

BJ IG @thesubjectchange

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In this week's episode, I am joined by Mista Calhoun of the Digital Daron podcast. We discuss submission, headship, why most women are not submissive, how feminism has ruined order within the home, consent, and women doing what they are told. I also talk about my desire to fully submit to a head of household, and how my history of domestic violence has impact my willingness to do so. We also discuss the day I wore the infamous leggings out of the house to the store, despite him asking me not too! 

Mista Calhoun also gives us a crash course in Domestic Discipline and how it adds structure in a relationship. Is this the Christian way? We discuss the four D's of domestic discipline: dishonesty, disobedience, dangerous (behavior), and disrespect. How punishment is administered if the woman breaks the rules, including spanking, sitting in the corner, restricting electronic devices. Take some notes as we learn a few new terms: Domestic discipline of often abbreviated as DD. There is also CDD for Christian Domestic Discipline. Other terms include HOH, or head of household (the dominant man), and TiH, or taken in hand (the submissive woman).

TRIGGER WARNING: This is a clip from the audio diary I kept when I began the healing process after being assaulted by a drunken lover. The recording is of me on December 4, 2018. My emotions were all over the place. I was so confused and rambling; some of it doesn't even make sense. This is real, raw and filled with emotions. I can't make this shit up! There are so many layers in this clip. I was hurting from the abused I had experienced and baffled by the way the police handled the situation, allowing my abuser to be go without penalty. Nothing was done to the officer and I was left to pick up the pieces of my life. I just wanted to be heard and I still do. That is why I am dedicated to using my platform to shed light on domestic violence and abuse. We have to stop this!

You are NOT ALONE. 1 in 5 U.S. adults experiences mental illness. 1 in 25 U.S. adults experiences serious mental illness. 17% of youth (6-17) experience a mental health disorder.  In this episode, I talk about my mental health journey, my diagnosis of bipolar, depression, and anxiety. The African American community needs help and support to bring awareness to mental health. For more information visit https://www.nami.org/home. 

Need help? The NAMI HelpLine can be reached Monday through Friday, 10 am–6 pm, ET. 1-800-950-NAMI (6264) or [email protected]. 

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In this week's episode of Moms and Martinis, I talk about the new shift in the direction of the podcast and closing out season one. Most changes to come and I look forward to an amazing season two!

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Until next season. Okay. Bye!

In this week's episode of Moms and Martinis, Kaci, Kay Kay, Calhoun and I continue the conversation about setting the table. We discuss identifying the red flags before entering a relationship, dating a man with children, the differences between standards and preferences. We also discuss dating someone who was not what we considered to be the ideal mate and how the relationship worked. Calhoun gives the ladies tips on how to show effort in a relationship.

Despite the in-depth conversation, we are still left with so many questions. Do we blame society for the narrative that is being shared about the division between men and women? Is there a double standard for men and women? Are men judged by their money? Are women judged based on their sexual partners? Are plus-size women looked at as fetishes?

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Kay Kay @iamkaykayatl

Kaci @ohthatskaci

Mista Calhoun @digitaldaronpodcast

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