More Than Motivation

Surprises teach us so much but are you ever really READY for them???

One of the first things I have realized after hearing my dad had cancer was that you cannot possible plan everything out as much as you thought. You will never be fully prepared. I have faith in a God and his love for us. I believe in an afterlife that is so much more powerful and joyful than the life we are all in right now. That does NOT make surprises easy. The FOUNDATION that you build before the surprises come, help to see growth happen in the midst of hardship, pain, and grief.

We create these "what if" stories. This post I wrote right after hearing my dads diagnosis and the mannyyyyy 2020 life surprises. This was just the beginning of growth in this season. 

Can we start to expect the surprises we all get excited for again? Are you expecting surprises, are you expecting God to use you? Start looking for them. Start searching for them. Start believing they will happen. Some of those surprises that we dream are actually blessings that you just cant see yet.

Come chat with me over on Instagram @Kelleyfit4freedom. I am ALWAYS just a message away if you want to talk it out my friend.

People will ask me, how do you just go with life’s twists and turns without slowing down? With every turn comes momentum. It pushes you to grow in new ways especially when it comes to relationships and human connection. You can learn from every single relationship you are in. I have been in abusive ones, toxic ones, really strong ones, fun ones, and they have all taught me something different. How can we transition from these hard turns into the single life? 

So in a season of singleness, what is the mindset I take on?

• I am free, I don’t have to ask for permission to do anything. Independence is my favorite word. 
• I get to feel lonely. Trust me, its HARD. As soon as negative thoughts start to creep in you have to sort them. Some of the most common...
  • "What if I stayed with him/her, THEN I could have kids right now and a house and my dream job."
  • "What am I doing wrong, why does no one like me?"
    • Are you loving and respecting yourself the way you want someone to love and care for you? That's step one. Check out this episode all about body image and self-worth
    • Step two, are you looking at a checklist for your man to follow?
  • "Should I just settle?" Nope. 
• I get to be gitty and excited and dream of the relationship I will have in the future when I am ready, when my heart is ready and when he is ready. Maybe that's next week maybe that's in 5 years. Who. Knows. I don’t and I am ok with that.

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*** by Mark Manson

A little bit of everything in this pep talk and tactical tips. Get ready for the tough love...

When you get lost in the woods, do you just sit down and say screw it hoping for your car to just show up spontaneously before sunset? Didn't think so. Why do we act like this in life? We sit and HOPE for change to happen and THAT is when we feel "lost."

Now, instead of just trying to sprint in any direction. Lets sit on it, look at the map and wait 24 hours to process whats next. This next step is a SINGLE step, not 25 steps. Movement builds momentum and that is when the motivation appears. Just move. The path with be discovered along the way.

Sit and think. What are my options? What looks the most realistic? What looks like the most scenic? It may not be the most direct path.
It will not always look glamorous. 
It WILL be worth it.

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First, reflection 2020 before you close those doors.

1. What were your 3 greatest wins in 2020
2. What were 5 lessons you want to take into 2021
3. What are 3 things you could have done better in 2020 that you may or may not focus on in the coming year.
4. What are 3 habits you want to leave behind in 2020?

 

Second, create a vision to see come to fruition in 2021 and many years to follow. A few things to think about when doing this.

- This is YOUR vision not pintrest's or your boyfriends/husbands/moms/friends
- Have your why as a foundation during this process
- Dont skim the surface. Make some of these really uncomfortable
- Make sure to combine, professional, personal, financial, phyical, etc.
- Pin point dates when possible/reasonable

 

POST this vision board for you to see every single day!

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Being a female in a male dominated area comes with obstacles. In today's episode we talk about how to navigate these obstacles with a positive mindset. These are just a few of the lessons I have learned while participating in male dominated  sports, career fields, college programs, and friend groups. 

1. Know that there WILL be differences, you will be judged, pushed buck, & challenged.

2.  Don’t use being a female to your advantage unless you want others to use you being a female to your disadvantage.

3. Remember that not all your coworkers who are men look down to you.

4. You will NEED atleast one female friend to talk about emotions, frustrations, and actually connect. MEN DO NOT WANT TO but that does not mean that you have to hold everything in. 

 

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat."

- Theodore Roosevelt

In this conversation Jale shares with us what God has taught her in this season of life. She is a Christ believer, a wife, fur mama, and nanny. She breaks down this chat into three areas of life which can be difficult to navigate in hard seasons especially the holidays.

1. Slowing down

The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry - John Mark Comer

“Infinite desire - finite soul = restlessness” 

2. Identifying gratitude

Take time each day to reflect and write down 3 things you’re grateful for.

Want a FREE gratitude journal template? Click here for one I made with YOU in mind!

3. Managing stress/anxiety

Anxious for Nothing: Finding Calm in a Chaotic World - Max Lucado

"The presence of anxiety is unavoidable, but the prison of anxiety is optional"

 

You can find Jale on Instagram @JaleTalbert

You can find me, Corinne Kelley on Instagram @kelleyfit4freedom

It's easy to feel guilt and shame after a holiday weekend when we are off our normal routines, eating habits, and workout schedule.   You don’t need to toss left overs or desserts and "restart Monday morning". WHAT?! Shocked? Ya, I was too when I  realize this last year. You can enjoy the sweets still this week and not feel like trash.   

1. You don't need to do it all at once, it does not have to be all or nothing this holiday season
2. 1. When you eliminate everything, this is when binges happen on the weekend and during the holiday celebrations
   1. Water
   2. Going for walks
   3. Veggies first
3. Focus on the basics
   1. How?! Remember and know your why. Treat your body like a temple, a canvas, a precious gift
4. Reframe your journey's definition

Looking for a FREE JOURNAL to write your gratitudes, affirmations, and vision every morning? Click here

Come hangout with me on Instagram @kelleyfit4freedomI would love to know what hit home with you in today's conversation my friend!

Today's conversation was filled with so much energy because this powerhouse of a woman has ran multiple marathons and ultras with a smile on her face throughout the process. She says her story and reason behind each race was different.

First of all, what does it even mean to be a "runner?" This is the first question that Kate answers for us. You may not think you look like a runner or are capable of becoming one but until you start to try and find your why, you cannot say you "can't" or "won't" be a runner.

My question was what does it look like to run a 50 mile race?! Kate blows my mind with her response because it was NOT what you would expect. You may think training for 50 miles would look boring and dreadful. That is NOT her response!

Kate ends our chat explaining how she wants to be the woman in the nursing home doing pushups. MY KIND OF GAL! LETS GOOOO!

You can find Kate on IG @kateshros or on her podcast Be Bright 

You will NEVER feel "ready" but you can still be ready NOW.

1. Set goals that are detailed and specific with who, what, where, when, why and how.

2. Know what you will do not IF you fail but rather WHEN you fail. Those what if stories in our head need a new perspective. Let's chat about those in today's episode.

3. Visualize yourself achieving that thing you don't feel ready for.

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More on the topic "Fear of Failure"
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Let be give you a little pep talk to get that booty moving and commit to the goal someone has talked you out of too many times. You are not NATURALLY good at anything but somehow you got really good at walking on your two feet. How? Practice and a whole lot of support.

There are THREE tips that will get you to achieve your goal.

1. Tune out the negative voices that talk you out of your goals every single time.

2. Be willing to make sacrifices. Know your why and have your skin in the game (buy your race ticket, invest in a course/training program, money is something you won't want to waste and throw to the curb).

3. Journal the process, it is the only way to remember just how far you have come! This will make it easier to identify when you hit a goal whether big or small and then you can celebrate the process! If you don't celebrate your wins, burnout is inevitable. Check out this episode for more on this topic.

 

I would love to hear about your big goals going into the holidays and through the new year! Send me a DM and  let me know you listened to this episode. I may just have a surprise for you!!!