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What if your anxiety, perfectionism, people-pleasing, need for control, and relentless drive to achieve aren't just personality traits…but patterns you learned a long time ago to feel safe, accepted, and worthy? What if the very qualities that have made you so successful are now secretly sabotaging your life?

In this episode, I'm joined by renowned speaker, best-selling author, and podcast host Dr. Robyn Graham for a deeply personal conversation about high-functioning anxiety, childhood wounds, perfectionism, parenting triggers, faith, and why the peace you crave lies on the other side of forgiveness.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• Why the most successful, high-functioning women tend to feel so inadequate and afraid on the inside
• Why your children's perfectly normal behavior triggers you—and the key difference between being ‘childish’ and ‘child-like’
• How your unhealed wounds make you MORE reactive and controlling, interfere with your children's growth, and perpetuate intergenerational trauma
• Why getting help feels like admitting failure, how it’s NOT, and why it's so, so crucial
• The role of faith, prayer, therapy, and coaching in creating meaningful change
• How forgiveness, healthy boundaries, and honoring your parents can coexist
• And so much more

CONNECT WITH ROBYN GRAHAM:

Website: https://therobyngraham.com

Book: You, Me, and Anxiety: Take Action Over Anxiety to Enjoy Being You https://link.amazon/B0aPm0KrF 

Podcast: The Robyn Graham Show https://therobyngraham.com/podcast/

FOR SO MUCH MORE:

Take my FREE quiz to find out your default stress response: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/stress-response-podcast 

Grab my on-demand “Nervous System Fundamentals” masterclass to finally understand your brain and body like never before: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/fundamentals/  

Join my 6-week Moms Made New program so stress no longer sabotages you—or your relationships: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/mmn-waitlist 

Book a free consult with me: https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult 

HOMEWORK:

Make a list of your greatest strengths. Does each of those things feel like an innate talent, or a way you learned to earn worth and approval? Reach out to me via email or on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to share your thoughts. And don’t forget to share this episode with another busy mama who needs to hear it!

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next Tuesday at 5am Eastern to keep unpacking the hidden sources of stress stealing your time and joy.

Don't miss my powerful on-demand masterclass, "13 Things Nobody's Telling You About Your Nervous System," that dispels the common myths and misleading advice out there about capacity, emotional regulation, and so much more: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/13things/ 

Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to [email protected] and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE!

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What if things didn’t have to be so complicated? What if healthy living wasn’t about obsessing over numbers and trends, but giving yourself more grace? What if eating cookies didn’t wreck you with guilt and shame? What if feeling good in your body wasn’t about control, but about stewardship and joy?  

In this episode, I'm joined by Chelsea Blackbird, aka “The Christian Nutritionist”, for a refreshingly different conversation about health, nutrition, faith, and the pressure so many high-achieving women put on themselves to do everything RIGHT.

Chelsea is a Christian Health Practitioner, host of The Christian Health Club Podcast, and co-founder of The School of Christian Health & Nutrition. She is board-certified in applied quantum biology by the American Naturopathic Medical Certification Board. Chelsea bridges modern health science with a biblical worldview-helping women understand metabolism, energy, hormones, and healing through the lens of stewardship and faith. Chelsea is the creator of programs including Feast 2 Fast® and The Genesis Prescription®. 

If you're a high-achieving, overwhelmed mom who's tired of feeling like you're failing at taking care of yourself, this episode is for you.

You don't need another impractical list of health rules. You need permission to simplify, nourish yourself, and stop measuring your worth by how perfectly you follow a plan.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• Chelsea's three foundational health priorities for busy women
• Why conventional advice makes healthy habits SO difficult to maintain
• How to choose realistic health goals for your current season of motherhood
• What to do when your husband or kids aren't interested in eating healthier
• Why your body may need more nourishment instead of more restriction
• How health and appearance can become idols that distract us from what really matters most
• How to stop seeing your body as the enemy and treat it as the blessing it is
• And so much more

CONNECT WITH CHELSEA:

• Website: https://www.thechristiannutritionist.com/ 
• Podcast, The Christian Health Club: https://www.thechristiannutritionist.com/podcast-main

FOR SO MUCH MORE:

Take my FREE quiz to find out your default stress response: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/stress-response-podcast 

Grab my on-demand “Nervous System Fundamentals” masterclass to finally understand your brain and body like never before: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/fundamentals/  

Join my 6-week Moms Made New program so stress no longer sabotages you—or your relationships: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/mmn-waitlist 

Book a free consult with me: https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult 

HOMEWORK:

 What’s one new foundational habit you're going to adopt and at least one health "rule" you're going to STOP following so you can start giving yourself more grace to love and care for the body God gave you? Reach out to me via email or on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to share your thoughts. And don’t forget to share this episode with another busy mama who needs to hear it!

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next Tuesday at 5am Eastern to keep unpacking the hidden sources of stress stealing your time and joy.

Don't miss my powerful on-demand masterclass, "13 Things Nobody's Telling You About Your Nervous System," that dispels the common myths and misleading advice out there about capacity, emotional regulation, and so much more: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/13things/ 

Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to [email protected] and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE!

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You’re exhausted. Overwhelmed. Mentally overloaded. Emotionally depleted. And yet you keep showing up, working, parenting, problem solving, managing everyone's needs, and holding everything together. At what cost?!?!

In this eye-opening conversation, I'm joined by internationally renowned wellbeing expert Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith to talk about why rest feels so impossible for busy, high-achieving moms—and how to finally get the different types of restoration you need to actually enjoy your life.

Dr. Dalton-Smith is a board-certified internal medicine physician, best-selling author, in-demand speaker, and creator of the groundbreaking Seven Types of Rest® framework. What I love most? She's a fellow high achiever who openly admits that she used to think rest was for people who couldn't keep up.

By the end of this episode, you’ll have an arsenal of doable ways to take your “rest ethic” as seriously as your work ethic.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• You actually CAN pour from an empty cup…but at a price neither you nor your family should be willing to pay!
• How getting more rest DOESN’T require finding more time—and simple ways to build meaningful rest into your existing routines
• Why rest and escape are NOT the same thing
• Why identifying your biggest rest deficits matters, and where to start when you’re burned out
• How understanding your rest needs can improve communication and intimacy in marriage
• What the way YOU rest is teaching your children about how to care for themselves
• And so much more

AS MENTIONED:

• Episode 80 – Why You’re Always Tired: It’s NOT Just Sleep! https://www.buzzsprout.com/2471152/episodes/19939843 
• Get Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith’s books:
  • Sacred Rest: Recover Your Life, Renew Your Energy, Restore Your Sanity  https://amzn.to/4yGpCGa 
  • Being Fully Known: The Joyful Satisfaction of Beholding, Becoming, and Belonging https://amzn.to/4yYnQk9
• Take Dr. Dalton-Smith's Rest Deficit Assessment: https://www.restquiz.com 
• More about Dr. Dalton-Smith: https://IChooseMyBestLife.com

FOR SO MUCH MORE:

Take my FREE quiz to find out your default stress response: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/stress-response-podcast 

Grab my on-demand “Nervous System Fundamentals” masterclass to finally understand your brain and body like never before: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/fundamentals/  

Join my 6-week Moms Made New program so stress no longer sabotages you—or your relationships: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/mmn-waitlist 

Book a free consult with me: https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult 

HOMEWORK:

How are you going to get more rest in your life—and what kind(s) of rest are you most in need of? Reach out to me via email or on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to share your thoughts. And don’t forget to share this episode with another tired mama who needs to know that rest is about way more than just sleep!

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next Tuesday at 5am Eastern to keep unpacking the hidden sources of stress stealing your time and joy.

Don't miss my powerful on-demand masterclass, "13 Things Nobody's Telling You About Your Nervous System," that dispels the common myths and misleading advice out there about capacity, emotional regulation, and so much more: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/13things/ 

Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to [email protected] and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE!

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Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

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You go to bed tired. You wake up more tired. You push through another day of work, parenting, responsibilities, and everyone needing something from you thinking, “If I could just get a good night's sleep, I'd finally feel better.”

But what if sleep ISN’T the kind of rest you’re missing?

After sharing my own recent struggles with chronic stress, exhaustion, and an unexpected freeze response, I've been thinking a LOT about what our bodies actually need to recover from the demands of everyday life. I keep coming back to Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith’s powerful book on what really helps you feel rested and fulfilled.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• Exhaustion could be a telltale sign your nervous system is stuck in a freeze response
• Why sleep and rest are NOT the same thing
• The seven different kinds of rest you need—and which ones are the hardest for busy moms to get
• How to identify your own personal rest deficits
• And so much more

AS MENTIONED:

• Episode 79 – When Stress Gets the Best of You: Unpacking the Freeze Response: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2471152/episodes/19916478 
• Sacred Rest: Recover Your Life, Renew Your Energy, Restore Your Sanity by Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith: https://amzn.to/4yGpCGa 
• Dr. Dalton-Smith's Rest Deficit Assessment: https://www.restquiz.com 

FOR SO MUCH MORE:

Take my FREE quiz to find out your default stress response: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/stress-response-podcast 

Grab my on-demand “Nervous System Fundamentals” masterclass to finally understand your brain and body like never before: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/fundamentals/  

Join my 6-week Moms Made New program so stress no longer sabotages you—or your relationships: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/mmn-waitlist 

Book a free consult with me: https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult 

HOMEWORK:

Which of the seven types of rest are you not getting enough of? Reach out to me via email or on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to share your thoughts. And don’t forget to share this episode with another mama who needs to hear it!

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next Tuesday at 5am Eastern to hear my interview with renowned rest expert, Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith, on why it’s ESPECIALLY hard for busy moms to get enough rest—and how they can actually do so.

Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to [email protected] and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE!

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Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

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I've spent years studying stress, the nervous system, emotional regulation, and our default protective responses. I have trainings, certifications, coaching tools—and I help other women recognize these patterns in themselves every single week. But somehow, I didn't realize I was stuck in a freeze response.

In this deeply vulnerable episode, I'm taking you inside what this stress response has looked and felt like for me—and why it was SO difficult to recognize when I'm normally the high-achieving, dependable person who prioritizes everyone else and just keeps going.

The goal of understanding yourself isn't to become someone who never gets stressed. It's to recognize what's happening sooner, understand what your mind and body may be communicating, get the support you need, and stop making your struggle mean anything about how “good” you are. I’m still working through all this myself…pray for me. But a hard season is never the end of our story!

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• Freeze rarely looks like doing nothing
• Why high-functioning, people-pleasing women have an especially hard time recognizing the freeze response
• The biology behind simultaneously feeling physically exhausted and mentally activated
• Why uncertainty leaves us stuck in an endless holding pattern—and the counterintuitive solution to finally move forward long before external things get better
• Why a freeze response is NOT the time to “push through”
• Expertise and tools don’t make you immune to stress—why the person holding it together for everyone else needs outside support all the more

PRIOR EPISODES MENTIONED:

• Episode 53 – The Five Stress Responses Explained: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2471152/episodes/18778797 
• Episode 64 – To the Mom Who’s Holding It All: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2471152/episodes/19363710 

FOR SO MUCH MORE:

Take my FREE quiz to find out your default stress response: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/stress-response-podcast 

Grab my on-demand “Nervous System Fundamentals” masterclass to finally understand your brain and body like never before: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/fundamentals/  

Join my 6-week Moms Made New program so stress no longer sabotages you—or your relationships: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/mmn-waitlist 

Book a free consult with me: https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult 

HOMEWORK:

After hearing my experience, are you experiencing any signs of freeze or functional freeze? What do you notice about your body, your mind, your thoughts? What stress might you not have fully processed? How can you do that to “thaw” your nervous system back out? Reach out to me via email or on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to share your thoughts. And don’t forget to share this episode with another mama who needs to hear it!

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next Tuesday at 5am Eastern to keep unpacking the hidden sources of stress stealing your time and joy.

Don't miss my powerful on-demand masterclass, "13 Things Nobody's Telling You About Your Nervous System," that dispels the common myths and misleading advice out there about capacity, emotional regulation, and so much more: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/13things/ 

Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to [email protected] and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE!

CONNECT WITH AMBER: Website | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn 

Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

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I got triggered. BIG TIME.

Last week my husband didn’t kiss me goodnight. The next morning, he left for work without kissing me goodbye. No fight. No argument. No obvious reason.

My brain immediately went to: “Why is he mad at me? What did I do wrong? Does he even love me? Is he going to leave?” Cue the tears, sadness, anger—and a HUGE feeling of rejection.

I grabbed my phone and recorded this episode because this seemingly tiny moment illustrates three huge truths:

1. It’s never about what someone did. It's what your brain decided it means about YOU.
2. You can know “the truth” and still get swept away by your nervous system’s wounds, triggers, and protective adaptations.
3. Until you know how to restore your own sense of safety and sufficiency, stress will just continue to sabotage you and your relationships.

In this raw, vulnerable episode, I'm taking you inside my own emotional trigger in real time to show you how differently I handle moments like this after years of getting to the root of my patterns, better understanding my nervous system, and learning to stop outsourcing my worth to other people's love and approval.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• Why seemingly tiny things can trigger disproportionately BIG emotions
• How childhood beliefs about earning love and belonging show up in random everyday moments as an adult
• Why intellectually knowing nothing’s wrong doesn't necessarily mean you FEEL safe
• What I now do instead of numbing or suppressing my emotions
• The crucial difference between asking for what you want and making someone else responsible for how you feel
• How unspoken quid-pro-quo expectations just breed resentment and conflict
• Why healing doesn’t mean you won’t get triggered anymore
• And more!

FOR SO MUCH MORE:

Take my FREE quiz to find out your default stress response: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/stress-response-podcast 

Grab my on-demand “Nervous System Fundamentals” masterclass to finally understand your brain and body like never before: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/fundamentals/  

Join my 6-week Moms Made New program so stress no longer sabotages you—or your relationships: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/mmn-waitlist 

Book a free consult with me: https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult 

HOMEWORK:

 Think about the last time you got triggered by someone else. Pause and get clear on the thought you had in between whatever they did and how it made you feel. How easy is it for you to change your thoughts? What underlying beliefs or nervous system patterning might be in the way? Reach out to me via email or on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to share your thoughts. And don’t forget to share this episode with another mama who needs to hear it!

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next Tuesday at 5am Eastern to keep unpacking the hidden sources of stress stealing your time and joy.

Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to [email protected] and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE!

CONNECT WITH AMBER: Website | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn 

Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

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A 1:1 coaching client recently said one of the most transformational parts of our work together is that I validated painful things she'd experienced that other people had minimized, dismissed, or told her to get over.

For years, when she expressed her feelings, needs, or struggles, people she loved responded by criticizing her for having a “victim mentality.” Now, having someone acknowledge her felt experience is what allowed her to STOP living like a victim.

Most people think “victim mentality” is complaining or blaming everyone else for their problems. In this episode, I reveal five much more sneaky ways it shows up.

In this episode, I’m unpacking the hidden ways victim mentality gets wired into your nervous system…and why trying to “get over it” is the surest way to stay stuck and disempowered.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• Why feeling validated is the first step to overcoming victimhood
• How being told your emotions or needs are wrong makes you disconnect from yourself
• Why incredibly capable, high achieving women often feel powerless underneath it all
• How victim mentality looks different depending on your default stress response
• Why acknowledging your pain is NOT about blaming anyone else
• How to move from helplessness toward greater agency, choice, and self-trust
• And more!

PRIOR EPISODES MENTIONED:

• Ep. 6: Martyr Mentality: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2471152/episodes/17083616
• Ep. 53: The Fight, Flight, & Freeze Stress Responses: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2471152/episodes/18778797
• Ep. 54: The Fawn & Fix Stress Responses: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2471152/episodes/18831735 

FOR SO MUCH MORE:

Take my FREE quiz to find out your default stress response: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/stress-response-podcast 

Grab my on-demand “Nervous System Fundamentals” masterclass to finally understand your brain and body like never before: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/fundamentals/  

Join my 6-week Moms Made New program so stress no longer sabotages you—or your relationships: https://momsmadenew.com  

Book a free consult with me: https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult 

HOMEWORK:

How much have you let victim mentality run your life? Which of the five ways has it tended to show up most for you? Reach out to me via email or on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to share your thoughts. And don’t forget to share this episode with another mama who needs to hear it!

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next Tuesday at 5am Eastern to keep unpacking the hidden sources of stress stealing your time and joy.

Don't miss my powerful on-demand masterclass, "13 Things Nobody's Telling You About Your Nervous System," that dispels the common myths and misleading advice out there about capacity, emotional regulation, and so much more: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/13things/ 

Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to [email protected] and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE!

CONNECT WITH AMBER: Website | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn 

Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

Send us Fan Mail

Why do the towel on the floor, the shoes kicked off everywhere, your husband's plate left on the table, or your kid doing that annoying thing over and over make you snap? You can know it's no big deal while your body reacts completely the opposite.

In those moments, you typically decide THEY are the problem and exhaust yourself trying to get the chaos under control…or you make YOURSELF the problem and try to “just relax” and care less. What if neither blame nor shame is warranted?

In this episode, I'm taking you inside a ridiculous recent moment where I got triggered seeing my husband’s sunglasses out of place. The truth is, your reaction is never just about the present moment. It’s your nervous system patterns trying to protect you from something that feels unsafe.

Understanding these “protective adaptations” has completely changed the way I respond to clutter, stress, my husband, my kids—and myself. I may still get triggered, but how I HANDLE things is so, so much better than the past. I want that for you, too!

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• Why tiny, objectively harmless things can create surprisingly BIG reactions
• What hypervigilance is and how it can show up in everyday life
• What repeatedly getting triggered by the same kinds of things is actually telling you
• How understanding your unique stress response can transform the way you handle everyday stress
• The question to ask yourself the next time something seemingly insignificant makes you lose your cool
• And more!

FOR SO MUCH MORE:

Find out your default stress response with my FREE quiz: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/stress-response-podcast 

Sign up for my “Nervous System Fundamentals” masterclass to finally understand your brain and body like never before: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/fundamentals/  

Join the next round of my Moms Made New program so stress no longer sabotages you—or your relationships: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/mmn-waitlist 

Book a free consult with Dr. Amber 1:1: https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult 

HOMEWORK:

Recall a recent time you got triggered. Why did that person or thing bother you so much? What did your brain make it meant? What felt threatening about it? What’s the deeper fear your reaction was trying to protect you from? Reach out to me via email or on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to share your thoughts. And don’t forget to share this episode with another mama who needs to hear it!

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next Tuesday at 5am Eastern to keep unpacking the hidden sources of stress stealing your time and joy.

Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to [email protected] and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE!

CONNECT WITH AMBER: Website | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn 

Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

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What if exhaustion, overwhelm, people-pleasing, guilt, and emotional reactivity aren't really about what's happening in your life today...but from emotional clutter you accumulated years ago? 

Clutter isn’t just the stuff piled on your counter, shoved into closets, or preventing you from parking in your garage. There’s another, more serious type of clutter that desperately needs to be let go: unprocessed experiences, responsibility for other people's feelings, and old belief systems about what emotions are/not acceptable. Unlike the junk drawer, you can't declutter your emotions by simply throwing uncomfortable feelings away.

In this episode, I walk you through a powerful process for examining your own emotional history so you can learn to remain safe, grounded, loving, and present without immediately fixing, appeasing, apologizing, dissociating, or shutting down.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• Why feeling bad about feeling bad creates even more suffering
• How your childhood shaped what emotions you can tolerate today
• Why someone else's anger, sadness, or disappointment can feel physically threatening
• Why emotional health does NOT mean feeling happy all the time
• How to begin naming, validating, feeling, and processing emotions you've been avoiding
• And more!

FOR SO MUCH MORE:

Find out your default stress response with my FREE quiz: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/stress-response-podcast 

Sign up for my “Nervous System 101” masterclass to finally understand your brain and body like never before: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/ns101/ 

Join the next round of my Moms Made New program so stress no longer sabotages you—or your relationships: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/mmn-waitlist 

Book a free consult with Dr. Amber 1:1: https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult

HOMEWORK:

Set aside to write out your personal answers to the questions posed in this episode. For example, what messages did you hear in your childhood home surrounding emotions? How did your parents handle theirs? What did you subconsciously learn to believe about expressing negative emotions? What emotional experiences may your body have yet to fully process through? Reach out to me via email or on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to share your thoughts. And don’t forget to share this episode with another mama who needs to hear it!

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next Tuesday at 5am Eastern to keep unpacking the hidden sources of stress stealing your time and joy.

Don't miss my powerful on-demand masterclass, "13 Things Nobody's Telling You About Your Nervous System," that dispels the common myths and misleading advice out there about capacity, emotional regulation, and so much more: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/13things/ 

Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to [email protected] and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE!

CONNECT WITH AMBER: Website | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn 

Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

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If you’re an overwhelmed mom who can’t seem to get the shoes on the floor, piles of paper, and messy counters (let alone the people responsible for them) under control, this episode will completely change how you think about home organization. 

I'm joined by professional organizer and life coach Tracy Hoth for a refreshingly different conversation about clutter, decluttering, organization, perfectionism, procrastination, and the mindset underneath it all.

Contrary to what you think, clutter isn't evidence that you're lazy, incapable, or failing. Tracy and I talk about why even incredibly high-achieving women struggle to get—and stay—organized, the crucial difference between a skill gap and a mindset gap, and how to overcome the negative thoughts that keep you stuck no matter what home organization system you try. 

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• Why overwhelmed moms accumulate so much clutter (and the resentment that accompanies it)
• The surprisingly simple definition of what it actually means to be organized
• Where to start decluttering when everything feels overwhelming
• Why perfectionists often struggle with home organization the most
• When organization crosses the line from helpful into controlling
• How organization can support more rest, peace, and presence
• Why getting organized isn't ultimately about having a perfect house—it's about creating a life that supports what matters most 
• And more!

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