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I've spent years studying stress, the nervous system, emotional regulation, and our default protective responses. I have trainings, certifications, coaching tools—and I help other women recognize these patterns in themselves every single week. But somehow, I didn't realize I was stuck in a freeze response.

In this deeply vulnerable episode, I'm taking you inside what this stress response has looked and felt like for me—and why it was SO difficult to recognize when I'm normally the high-achieving, dependable person who prioritizes everyone else and just keeps going.

The goal of understanding yourself isn't to become someone who never gets stressed. It's to recognize what's happening sooner, understand what your mind and body may be communicating, get the support you need, and stop making your struggle mean anything about how “good” you are. I’m still working through all this myself…pray for me. But a hard season is never the end of our story!

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• Freeze rarely looks like doing nothing
• Why high-functioning, people-pleasing women have an especially hard time recognizing the freeze response
• The biology behind simultaneously feeling physically exhausted and mentally activated
• Why uncertainty leaves us stuck in an endless holding pattern—and the counterintuitive solution to finally move forward long before external things get better
• Why a freeze response is NOT the time to “push through”
• Expertise and tools don’t make you immune to stress—why the person holding it together for everyone else needs outside support all the more

PRIOR EPISODES MENTIONED:

• Episode 53 – The Five Stress Responses Explained: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2471152/episodes/18778797 
• Episode 64 – To the Mom Who’s Holding It All: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2471152/episodes/19363710 

FOR SO MUCH MORE:

Take my FREE quiz to find out your default stress response: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/stress-response-podcast 

Grab my on-demand “Nervous System Fundamentals” masterclass to finally understand your brain and body like never before: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/fundamentals/  

Join my 6-week Moms Made New program so stress no longer sabotages you—or your relationships: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/mmn-waitlist 

Book a free consult with me: https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult 

HOMEWORK:

After hearing my experience, are you experiencing any signs of freeze or functional freeze? What do you notice about your body, your mind, your thoughts? What stress might you not have fully processed? How can you do that to “thaw” your nervous system back out? Reach out to me via email or on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to share your thoughts. And don’t forget to share this episode with another mama who needs to hear it!

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next Tuesday at 5am Eastern to keep unpacking the hidden sources of stress stealing your time and joy.

Don't miss my powerful on-demand masterclass, "13 Things Nobody's Telling You About Your Nervous System," that dispels the common myths and misleading advice out there about capacity, emotional regulation, and so much more: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/13things/ 

Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to [email protected] and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE!

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I got triggered. BIG TIME.

Last week my husband didn’t kiss me goodnight. The next morning, he left for work without kissing me goodbye. No fight. No argument. No obvious reason.

My brain immediately went to: “Why is he mad at me? What did I do wrong? Does he even love me? Is he going to leave?” Cue the tears, sadness, anger—and a HUGE feeling of rejection.

I grabbed my phone and recorded this episode because this seemingly tiny moment illustrates three huge truths:

1. It’s never about what someone did. It's what your brain decided it means about YOU.
2. You can know “the truth” and still get swept away by your nervous system’s wounds, triggers, and protective adaptations.
3. Until you know how to restore your own sense of safety and sufficiency, stress will just continue to sabotage you and your relationships.

In this raw, vulnerable episode, I'm taking you inside my own emotional trigger in real time to show you how differently I handle moments like this after years of getting to the root of my patterns, better understanding my nervous system, and learning to stop outsourcing my worth to other people's love and approval.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• Why seemingly tiny things can trigger disproportionately BIG emotions
• How childhood beliefs about earning love and belonging show up in random everyday moments as an adult
• Why intellectually knowing nothing’s wrong doesn't necessarily mean you FEEL safe
• What I now do instead of numbing or suppressing my emotions
• The crucial difference between asking for what you want and making someone else responsible for how you feel
• How unspoken quid-pro-quo expectations just breed resentment and conflict
• Why healing doesn’t mean you won’t get triggered anymore
• And more!

FOR SO MUCH MORE:

Take my FREE quiz to find out your default stress response: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/stress-response-podcast 

Grab my on-demand “Nervous System Fundamentals” masterclass to finally understand your brain and body like never before: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/fundamentals/  

Join my 6-week Moms Made New program so stress no longer sabotages you—or your relationships: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/mmn-waitlist 

Book a free consult with me: https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult 

HOMEWORK:

 Think about the last time you got triggered by someone else. Pause and get clear on the thought you had in between whatever they did and how it made you feel. How easy is it for you to change your thoughts? What underlying beliefs or nervous system patterning might be in the way? Reach out to me via email or on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to share your thoughts. And don’t forget to share this episode with another mama who needs to hear it!

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next Tuesday at 5am Eastern to keep unpacking the hidden sources of stress stealing your time and joy.

Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to [email protected] and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE!

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Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

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A 1:1 coaching client recently said one of the most transformational parts of our work together is that I validated painful things she'd experienced that other people had minimized, dismissed, or told her to get over.

For years, when she expressed her feelings, needs, or struggles, people she loved responded by criticizing her for having a “victim mentality.” Now, having someone acknowledge her felt experience is what allowed her to STOP living like a victim.

Most people think “victim mentality” is complaining or blaming everyone else for their problems. In this episode, I reveal five much more sneaky ways it shows up.

In this episode, I’m unpacking the hidden ways victim mentality gets wired into your nervous system…and why trying to “get over it” is the surest way to stay stuck and disempowered.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• Why feeling validated is the first step to overcoming victimhood
• How being told your emotions or needs are wrong makes you disconnect from yourself
• Why incredibly capable, high achieving women often feel powerless underneath it all
• How victim mentality looks different depending on your default stress response
• Why acknowledging your pain is NOT about blaming anyone else
• How to move from helplessness toward greater agency, choice, and self-trust
• And more!

PRIOR EPISODES MENTIONED:

• Ep. 6: Martyr Mentality: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2471152/episodes/17083616
• Ep. 53: The Fight, Flight, & Freeze Stress Responses: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2471152/episodes/18778797
• Ep. 54: The Fawn & Fix Stress Responses: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2471152/episodes/18831735 

FOR SO MUCH MORE:

Take my FREE quiz to find out your default stress response: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/stress-response-podcast 

Grab my on-demand “Nervous System Fundamentals” masterclass to finally understand your brain and body like never before: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/fundamentals/  

Join my 6-week Moms Made New program so stress no longer sabotages you—or your relationships: https://momsmadenew.com  

Book a free consult with me: https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult 

HOMEWORK:

How much have you let victim mentality run your life? Which of the five ways has it tended to show up most for you? Reach out to me via email or on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to share your thoughts. And don’t forget to share this episode with another mama who needs to hear it!

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next Tuesday at 5am Eastern to keep unpacking the hidden sources of stress stealing your time and joy.

Don't miss my powerful on-demand masterclass, "13 Things Nobody's Telling You About Your Nervous System," that dispels the common myths and misleading advice out there about capacity, emotional regulation, and so much more: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/13things/ 

Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to [email protected] and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE!

CONNECT WITH AMBER: Website | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn 

Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

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Why do the towel on the floor, the shoes kicked off everywhere, your husband's plate left on the table, or your kid doing that annoying thing over and over make you snap? You can know it's no big deal while your body reacts completely the opposite.

In those moments, you typically decide THEY are the problem and exhaust yourself trying to get the chaos under control…or you make YOURSELF the problem and try to “just relax” and care less. What if neither blame nor shame is warranted?

In this episode, I'm taking you inside a ridiculous recent moment where I got triggered seeing my husband’s sunglasses out of place. The truth is, your reaction is never just about the present moment. It’s your nervous system patterns trying to protect you from something that feels unsafe.

Understanding these “protective adaptations” has completely changed the way I respond to clutter, stress, my husband, my kids—and myself. I may still get triggered, but how I HANDLE things is so, so much better than the past. I want that for you, too!

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• Why tiny, objectively harmless things can create surprisingly BIG reactions
• What hypervigilance is and how it can show up in everyday life
• What repeatedly getting triggered by the same kinds of things is actually telling you
• How understanding your unique stress response can transform the way you handle everyday stress
• The question to ask yourself the next time something seemingly insignificant makes you lose your cool
• And more!

FOR SO MUCH MORE:

Find out your default stress response with my FREE quiz: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/stress-response-podcast 

Sign up for my “Nervous System Fundamentals” masterclass to finally understand your brain and body like never before: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/fundamentals/  

Join the next round of my Moms Made New program so stress no longer sabotages you—or your relationships: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/mmn-waitlist 

Book a free consult with Dr. Amber 1:1: https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult 

HOMEWORK:

Recall a recent time you got triggered. Why did that person or thing bother you so much? What did your brain make it meant? What felt threatening about it? What’s the deeper fear your reaction was trying to protect you from? Reach out to me via email or on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to share your thoughts. And don’t forget to share this episode with another mama who needs to hear it!

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next Tuesday at 5am Eastern to keep unpacking the hidden sources of stress stealing your time and joy.

Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to [email protected] and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE!

CONNECT WITH AMBER: Website | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn 

Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

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What if exhaustion, overwhelm, people-pleasing, guilt, and emotional reactivity aren't really about what's happening in your life today...but from emotional clutter you accumulated years ago? 

Clutter isn’t just the stuff piled on your counter, shoved into closets, or preventing you from parking in your garage. There’s another, more serious type of clutter that desperately needs to be let go: unprocessed experiences, responsibility for other people's feelings, and old belief systems about what emotions are/not acceptable. Unlike the junk drawer, you can't declutter your emotions by simply throwing uncomfortable feelings away.

In this episode, I walk you through a powerful process for examining your own emotional history so you can learn to remain safe, grounded, loving, and present without immediately fixing, appeasing, apologizing, dissociating, or shutting down.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• Why feeling bad about feeling bad creates even more suffering
• How your childhood shaped what emotions you can tolerate today
• Why someone else's anger, sadness, or disappointment can feel physically threatening
• Why emotional health does NOT mean feeling happy all the time
• How to begin naming, validating, feeling, and processing emotions you've been avoiding
• And more!

FOR SO MUCH MORE:

Find out your default stress response with my FREE quiz: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/stress-response-podcast 

Sign up for my “Nervous System 101” masterclass to finally understand your brain and body like never before: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/ns101/ 

Join the next round of my Moms Made New program so stress no longer sabotages you—or your relationships: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/mmn-waitlist 

Book a free consult with Dr. Amber 1:1: https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult

HOMEWORK:

Set aside to write out your personal answers to the questions posed in this episode. For example, what messages did you hear in your childhood home surrounding emotions? How did your parents handle theirs? What did you subconsciously learn to believe about expressing negative emotions? What emotional experiences may your body have yet to fully process through? Reach out to me via email or on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to share your thoughts. And don’t forget to share this episode with another mama who needs to hear it!

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next Tuesday at 5am Eastern to keep unpacking the hidden sources of stress stealing your time and joy.

Don't miss my powerful on-demand masterclass, "13 Things Nobody's Telling You About Your Nervous System," that dispels the common myths and misleading advice out there about capacity, emotional regulation, and so much more: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/13things/ 

Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to [email protected] and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE!

CONNECT WITH AMBER: Website | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn 

Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

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If you’re an overwhelmed mom who can’t seem to get the shoes on the floor, piles of paper, and messy counters (let alone the people responsible for them) under control, this episode will completely change how you think about home organization. 

I'm joined by professional organizer and life coach Tracy Hoth for a refreshingly different conversation about clutter, decluttering, organization, perfectionism, procrastination, and the mindset underneath it all.

Contrary to what you think, clutter isn't evidence that you're lazy, incapable, or failing. Tracy and I talk about why even incredibly high-achieving women struggle to get—and stay—organized, the crucial difference between a skill gap and a mindset gap, and how to overcome the negative thoughts that keep you stuck no matter what home organization system you try. 

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• Why overwhelmed moms accumulate so much clutter (and the resentment that accompanies it)
• The surprisingly simple definition of what it actually means to be organized
• Where to start decluttering when everything feels overwhelming
• Why perfectionists often struggle with home organization the most
• When organization crosses the line from helpful into controlling
• How organization can support more rest, peace, and presence
• Why getting organized isn't ultimately about having a perfect house—it's about creating a life that supports what matters most 
• And more!

AS MENTIONED:

Grab Tracy’s 15-Minute Decluttering Challenge: https://simplysquaredaway.com/declutter

Connect with Tracy

• Website https://simplysquaredaway.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tracyhoth
• The Organized Coach podcast: https://pod.link/1687840766

FOR SO MUCH MORE:

Find out your default stress response with my FREE quiz: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/stress-response-podcast 

Sign up for my “Nervous System 101” masterclass to finally understand your brain and body like never before: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/ns101/ 

Join the next round of my Moms Made New so stress no longer sabotages you—or your relationships: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/mmn-waitlist 

Book a free consult with Dr. Amber 1:1: https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult

HOMEWORK:

Send me an email or tag me on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to share a picture of the most cluttered space stressing you out these days. Don’t forget to share this episode with another mama who needs to hear it!

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next Tuesday at 5am Eastern to keep unpacking the hidden sources of stress stealing your time and joy.

Don't miss my powerful on-demand masterclass, "13 Things Nobody's Telling You About Your Nervous System," that dispels the common myths and misleading advice out there about capacity, emotional regulation, and so much more: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/13things/ 

Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to [email protected] and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE!

CONNECT WITH AMBER: Website | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn 

Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

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Why is your once-sweet child pulling away, rebelling against your rules, and acting like someone you barely recognize—at the exact midlife moment you’re asking, "Who even am I anymore?" There’s a connection: you’re both going through individuation—the normal psychological process of developing your own distinct identity. 

In this episode, I break down the multiple life stages where individuation naturally occurs and underscore 10 huge takeaways that normalize why it feels sooooo threatening to your nervous system.

Individuation doesn’t mean you’ve done anything wrong; nor does it have to sever your connection with those you love. Your teenager is simply asking, “Who am I apart from my parents?” Meanwhile you're being invited to (re)discover who YOU are apart from what you do who everyone else has always needed you to be. 

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• Why your toddler or teenager pulling away is actually a GOOD thing
• Why parent-child conflict can actually signal healthy development
• How secure attachment helps children become more independent 
• How your default stress response affects the way your nervous system gets triggered by your teen’s individuation
• Why people-pleasing women experience midlife differentiation especially intensely
• And more!

AS MENTIONED:

• Find out your default stress response with my FREE quiz: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/stress-response-podcast 
• Episode 47: The 4 Attachment Styles Every Mom Must Know: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2471152/episodes/18536271 

FOR SO MUCH MORE:

Sign up for my “Nervous System 101” masterclass to finally understand your brain and body like never before: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/ns101/ 

Join the next round of my Moms Made New so stress no longer sabotages you—or your relationships: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/mmn-waitlist 

Book a free consult with Dr. Amber 1:1: https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult

HOMEWORK:

What if your child's job isn't to become the person you think they should be, but to discover the person they actually are? What if that’s now finally your job, too? Who are you…really? Reach out to me via email or on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to share your thoughts. And don’t forget to share this episode with another mama who needs to hear it!

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next Tuesday at 5am Eastern to keep unpacking the hidden sources of stress stealing your time and joy.

Don't miss my powerful on-demand masterclass, "13 Things Nobody's Telling You About Your Nervous System," that dispels the common myths and misleading advice out there about capacity, emotional regulation, and so much more: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/13things/ 

Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to [email protected] and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE!

CONNECT WITH AMBER: Website | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn 

Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

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What really happens inside life coaching? Is it worth the investment? And does it truly change things for the better? In today's special episode, my former client Lauren Schneider speaks candidly about the transformation she experienced after working with me 1:1 for a year.

As a busy working mom of two young boys, Lauren thought she just needed help with productivity and time management. What she didn't expect was how deeply childhood experiences, nervous system patterns, people-pleasing, anxiety, body image, and self-worth were shaping every area of her life. You’ll be AMAZED to hear how much changed because she invested in herself through life coaching.

Lauren especially opens up about:

• Why she originally hesitated to invest in coaching
• How coaching differed from the counseling and online courses she’d tried in the past
• How she went from chronic anxiety to successfully coming OFF her anxiety medication, as well as from not running in 14 years to qualifying for the London Marathon!!!
• The nervous system tools that made so much difference she still uses every week 
• How making time for herself paid huge “dividends” for her marriage and motherhood
• What her husband, coworkers, and family have had to say about it all 
• And MORE! 

If today's conversation resonates with you, I'd LOVE to support you, too. Just book your free 60-minute consult here: https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult

FOR SO MUCH MORE:

Find out your default stress response with my FREE quiz: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/stress-response-podcast 

Sign up for my “Nervous System 101” masterclass to finally understand your brain and body like never before: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/ns101/ 

Join the next round of my Moms Made New so stress no longer sabotages you—or your relationships: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/mmn-waitlist 

Book a free consult with Dr. Amber 1:1: https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult

HOMEWORK:

Brain dump all of the things weighing you down right now—all the things you wish were different about your life. What hopes or fears come up when you think about working with a life coach? Why? Reach out to me via email or on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to share your thoughts. And don’t forget to share this episode with another mama who needs to hear it!

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next Tuesday at 5am Eastern to keep unpacking the hidden sources of stress stealing your time and joy.

Don't miss my powerful on-demand masterclass, "13 Things Nobody's Telling You About Your Nervous System," that dispels the common myths and misleading advice out there about capacity, emotional regulation, and so much more: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/13things/ 

Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to [email protected] and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE!

CONNECT WITH AMBER: Website | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn 

Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

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Ever said "yes" when you desperately wanted to say "no"? Changed who you were just to fit in? Stayed silent when someone crossed your boundaries because speaking up felt too terrifying?

In today's deeply personal episode, I'm sharing some of the most unhinged things I used to do as a people pleaser—including stories I've never told publicly before. I now know that none of these behaviors were personality flaws; they were protective nervous system adaptations.

Through my examples, you'll learn why people pleasing isn't just “being nice". It’s the telltale sign of a fawn response—a subconscious survival strategy developed in childhood to maintain safety, approval, and connection.

If you've ever struggled with perfectionism, overfunctioning, conflict avoidance, weak boundaries, or constantly putting everyone else's needs ahead of your own, I hope this episode helps you finally understand why. I’m proof that healing is SO possible!

If you're ready to stop people pleasing and start living as your authentic self, be sure to sign up for a free consult call below.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• Why people pleasing isn’t a personality trait; it’s a default stress response 
• How people pleasing can show up in marriage, parenting, friendships, and work 
• The hidden cost of always striving to make everyone else happy 
• Why boundaries feel so threatening for recovering people pleasers 
• How people pleasing and overfunctioning actually grow out of fear, not generosity 
• And more!

AS MENTIONED:

• Find out your default stress response with my FREE quiz: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/stress-response-podcast 
• Episode 53: The 5 Stress Responses, Part I: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2471152/episodes/18778797 
• Episode 54: The 5 Stress Responses, Part II: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2471152/episodes/18831735 
• Episode 47: The 4 Attachment Styles Every Mom Must Know: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2471152/episodes/18536271 

FOR SO MUCH MORE:

Sign up for my “Nervous System 101” masterclass to finally understand your brain and body like never before: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/ns101/ 

Join the next round of my Moms Made New so stress no longer sabotages you—or your relationships: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/mmn-waitlist 

Book a free consult with Dr. Amber 1:1: https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult

HOMEWORK:

Reach out to me via email or on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to share the craziest thing YOU’VE ever done as a people pleaser. And don’t forget to share this episode with another mama who needs to hear it!

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next Tuesday at 5am Eastern to keep unpacking the hidden sources of stress stealing your time and joy.

Don't miss my powerful on-demand masterclass, "13 Things Nobody's Telling You About Your Nervous System," that dispels the common myths and misleading advice out there about capacity, emotional regulation, and so much more: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/13things/ 

Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to [email protected] and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE!

CONNECT WITH AMBER: Website | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn 

Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

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Feeding kids is expensive, time consuming, and more often than not they don’t want to eat what you worked so hard to make. In this episode, I sit down with Katie Kimball of Raising Healthy Families to get her best advice for making meals and cooking with kids way less stressful. Especially if you’ve got a picky eater, you can’t afford to miss this!

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• How busy, cash-strapped moms can feed their family in a more healthy and connected way while minimizing stress 
• Practical ways to end mealtime battles and picky eater problems
• How to get kids not just involved but LOVING to cook—and to choose healthy, nutritious food over junk “snakes”
• What to do when you & your spouse disagree about kids’ diet and eating habits
• Easy things to feed your family, even when you don’t have much brain space, let alone physical energy, to plan ahead
• And more!

AS MENTIONED:

• Take the Picky Eating Challenge: https://sl290.isrefer.com/go/nomore/dramber/ 
• Preorder The Picky Eater Playbook: Stress-Free Strategies to Jumpstart Healthy Eating in Kids: https://amzn.to/4h4CAb7  
• Check out Katie’s website: https://sl290.isrefer.com/go/RHF/dramber/ 
• Listen to Katie’s Healthy Parenting Handbook Podcast: https://sl290.isrefer.com/go/podcast/dramber/ 
• Follow Katie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisinghealthyfamilies/ 

FOR SO MUCH MORE:

• Sign up for my powerful new masterclass, "Finally Understanding Yourself: The Missing Manual for Your Brain & Body," to learn how your nervous system secretly shapes EVERYTHING about your life: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/ns101/
• Find out your default stress response with my FREE quiz: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/stress-response-podcast
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