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What if the problem isn't your schedule or to-do list, but what you believe about stress? In this episode, I share an interview where I explain the four biggest misconceptions moms have about stress and why understanding your nervous system is the missing piece other personal development advice overlooks.

You'll learn why stress isn't actually the enemy, how childhood experiences shape your automatic reactions today, how your emotional regulation impacts your entire family, and how to stop waiting for your circumstances to change before you can finally feel calm.

If you're a high-achieving, perfectionist, people-pleasing mom who feels like she's carrying the weight of everyone else's needs, this conversation will completely change how you think about stress—and yourself.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• Why stress is a normal, protective function of your brain—not a sign that something is wrong with you
• Procrastination and overwhelm are an emotional regulation problem, not a time-management problem
• How to stop making stress mean you're failing
• You don't need to eliminate stress; you need to understand how your brain and body respond to it
• Practical first steps to becoming calmer, more resilient, and more emotionally connected

AS MENTIONED:

• FREE Quiz to find out your default stress response: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/stress-response-podcast
• The Happy Mom ProtocolTM: why moms’ happiness is non-negotiable and 6 simple habits proven to make you happier FAST: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/happy/ 

FOR SO MUCH MORE:

Join the next round of Moms Made NewTM so stress no longer sabotages you—or your relationships: https://momsmadenew.com 

Book a free consult with Dr. Amber 1:1: https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult

HOMEWORK:

Take a current stressful situation and brain dump the thoughts you’re having about it. How does it make you feel in your body? How are you naturally inclined to handle this kind of moment? Has that approach helped you in the past, or just made everything worse? Reach out to me via email or on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to share your thoughts. 

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next Tuesday at 5am Eastern to keep unpacking the hidden sources of stress stealing your time and joy.

Don't miss my powerful on-demand masterclass, "13 Things Nobody's Telling You About Your Nervous System," that dispels the common myths and misleading advice out there about capacity, emotional regulation, and so much more: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/13things/ 

Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to [email protected] and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE!

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What if the way you phrase your goals and intentions is precisely what makes them feel farther away than ever? In this episode, I unpack how the typical words you use around your goals end up keeping you stuck and frustrated.

Drawing on neuroscience, psychology, and nervous system research, I share one of the simplest yet most powerful brain hacks you can use to stop self-sabotage and finally start achieving the life you want.

If you've been feeling frustrated by your lack of progress, discouraged at your lack of motivation, and overwhelmed by the gap between where you are and where you want to be, then implement this simple science-backed strategy immediately for an instant mindset shift.

This episode will fundamentally change the way you think about goals—and yourself!

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• How your nervous system responds to the language you use
• Why “I’m going to…” reinforces procrastination
• How confirmation and disconfirmation bias shape your brain’s decisions
• The difference between future-focused and identity-focused goals
• A simple mindset shift that makes taking action feel easier
• The easiest way to build momentum starting today

OTHER MUST-LISTEN EPISODES:

• Where Your Inner Critic Really Came From (Ep. 63): https://www.buzzsprout.com/2471152/episodes/19269205
• 11 Things Not to Say to Your Kids (and Why) (Ep. 65): https://www.buzzsprout.com/2471152/episodes/19376456 
• Your Body Will Never Change from a Place of Shame: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2471152/episodes/18653954
• The Neuroscience of Staying Stuck (Ep. 44): https://www.buzzsprout.com/2471152/episodes/18459613 

FOR SO MUCH MORE:

• Join the next round of Moms Made NewTM so stress no longer sabotages you—or your relationships: https://momsmadenew.com 
• Book a free consult with Dr. Amber 1:1: https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult

HOMEWORK:

Reach out to me via email or on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to let me know how you’re going to use this advice to reframe one of your goals. 

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next Tuesday at 5am Eastern to keep unpacking the hidden sources of stress stealing your time and joy.

Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to [email protected] and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE!

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Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

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Stress isn't your enemy, but misunderstanding it might be. If you've ever wondered why you overreact, shut down, snap at your kids, struggle to relax, or feel like you're constantly living in survival mode, this episode is for you.

I share 10 life-changing truths about stress that EVERY mom needs to understand. Drawing from neuroscience, psychology, attachment theory, and trauma-informed coaching, I explain why stress doesn’t mean anything is wrong; it means you need better tools to work with (instead of against) your nervous system.

Whether you're navigating burnout, parenting challenges, marriage struggles, anxiety, or simply feeling overwhelmed by everyday life, this episode will completely change the way you think about stress. Be sure to share it with every mom you know!

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• What’s really happening when something triggers a stress response
• Why traditional stress-management techniques and even therapy don't address the root problem
• The three different kinds of stress affecting your nervous system
• Why you cannot think your way out of stress
• How chronic cortisol changes your brain and body
• And SO MUCH MORE

AS MENTIONED:

• DON’T MISS my “13 Things NOBODY Is Telling You About Your Nervous System” masterclass: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/13things/  (after July 9, 2026? Email me to buy the recording)
• FREE QUIZ to find out your default stress response: https://solutionsforsimplicity.myflodesk.com/stress-response-podcast

OTHER MUST-LISTEN EPISODES:

• Why You Can’t Relax (Ep. 66)
• 4 Attachment Styles Every Mom Must Know (Ep. 47)
• The 5 “F” Responses, Part I (Ep. 53)
• The 5 “F” Responses, Part II (Ep. 54)

FOR SO MUCH MORE:

Join the next round of Moms Made NewTM so stress no longer sabotages you—or your relationships: https://momsmadenew.com 

Book a free consult with Dr. Amber 1:1: https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult

HOMEWORK:

Reach out to me via email or on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to tell me which of these 11 things spoke to you the most. 

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next Tuesday at 5am Eastern to keep unpacking the hidden sources of stress stealing your time and joy.

Don't miss my powerful on-demand masterclass, "13 Things Nobody's Telling You About Your Nervous System," that dispels the common myths and misleading advice out there about capacity, emotional regulation, and so much more: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/13things/ 

Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to [email protected] and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE!

CONNECT WITH AMBER: Website | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn 

Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

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If you've ever sat down to relax only to feel guilty, restless, anxious, or immediately overwhelmed by everything you "should" be doing instead, this episode explains why.

In this powerful masterclass, I reveal the latest neuroscience behind why so many ambitious, perfectionistic women struggle to rest. You'll discover how childhood experiences, cultural conditioning, high-functioning anxiety, and nervous system patterning can actually make rest feel unsafe—even when your body desperately needs it.

You'll also learn practical, research-backed strategies for calming your nervous system, overcoming guilt, creating healthy boundaries, and finally experiencing the kind of deep, restorative rest that improves your relationships, productivity, emotional regulation, and overall wellbeing.

If you've ever thought, "I don't know how to relax," "I can't sit still," or "I'll rest when everything is done," this episode will completely change the way you think about rest.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• Rest isn't difficult because you're lazy, but because your nervous system learned that slowing down isn't safe
• Why so many high-achieving women become physiologically addicted to stress, making calm feel uncomfortable—or even threatening—instead of peaceful
• How toxic productivity culture glorifies hustle and makes rest feel selfish instead of necessary
• How rest is what gives you capacity to be productive in the first place
• 11 practical ways to build more rest into your life
• And so much more

AS MENTIONED:

• Register for my “13 Things NOBODY Is Telling You About Your Nervous System” masterclass: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/13things/
• Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith: Sacred Rest

FOR SO MUCH MORE:

Join the next round of Moms Made NewTM so stress no longer sabotages you—or your relationships: https://momsmadenew.com 

Book a free consult with Dr. Amber 1:1: https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult

HOMEWORK:

Which of the reasons why rest feels impossible applies to you? Reach out to me via email or on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to share your thoughts on this episode. 

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next Tuesday at 5am Eastern to keep unpacking the hidden sources of stress stealing your time and joy.

Don't miss my powerful on-demand masterclass, "13 Things Nobody's Telling You About Your Nervous System," that dispels the common myths and misleading advice out there about capacity, emotional regulation, and so much more: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/13things/ 

Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to [email protected] and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE!

CONNECT WITH AMBER: Website | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn 

Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

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What you say to your kids matters—way more than you might realize. Several seemingly harmless words have the potential to do a LOT of damage under the surface. In fact, some of the most common parenting phrases quietly wound a child in ways you probably never intended. (Even if you’ve never said these things to your kids, there’s a good chance you’ve suffered the invisible effects of your parents saying them to you.)

In this eye-opening episode, I share 11 things I never say to my kids, the neuroscience-backed reasons why, and what to say instead. I reveal how everyday language can either strengthen a child’s self-worth, or unintentionally reinforce shame, people-pleasing, perfectionism, and emotional suppression. This isn’t about perfect parenting; it’s about consciously understanding that your words and tone become the foundation of their entire future.

If you've ever wondered how to raise emotionally healthy, confident, and resilient kids without passing on your own wounds, this episode is for you.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• How your voice becomes your child’s inner voice
• Why shame is soooo damaging to identity
• Why children should never feel responsible for adult emotions
• Which phrases teach a child to suppress their emotions, mask their true selves, and equate their worth with their achievements
• All kinds of better ways to respond to your kids to help them cultivate the critical emotional skills they need for life 

AS MENTIONED:

• Brene Brown: The Gifts of Imperfect Parenting
• Dr. Becky Kennedy: Good Inside

FOR SO MUCH MORE:

Join the next round of Moms Made NewTM so stress no longer sabotages you—or your relationships: https://momsmadenew.com 

Book a free consult with Dr. Amber 1:1: https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult

HOMEWORK:

Reach out to me via email to share your thoughts on this episode. 

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next Tuesday at 5am Eastern to keep unpacking the hidden sources of stress stealing your time and joy.

Don't miss my powerful on-demand masterclass, "13 Things Nobody's Telling You About Your Nervous System," that dispels the common myths and misleading advice out there about capacity, emotional regulation, and so much more: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/13things/ 

Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to [email protected] and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE!

CONNECT WITH AMBER: Website | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn 

Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

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A message straight from my heart for whoever needs to hear it: Don’t be afraid. You are not alone. Hope is here. It's time to heal.

FOR SO MUCH MORE:

Book a free consult with Dr. Amber 1:1: https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult

HOMEWORK:

Reach out to me via email or on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to share your thoughts on this episode. 

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next episode to keep unpacking the hidden sources of stress stealing your time and joy.

Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to [email protected] and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE!

CONNECT WITH AMBER: Website | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn 

Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

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If you constantly overthink, criticize yourself, replay conversations in your head, or have a harsh inner critic that won’t quit…this episode is for you.

In today’s powerful conversation, I dive into the psychology and neuroscience of the inner critic — including where negative self-talk comes from, why high-achieving perfectionist women struggle with it so intensely, and how your childhood experiences shaped the way you speak to yourself today. The great news? Thanks to neuroplasticity, you can change! Words are SO powerful so we’ve got to be careful what we think and say. It’s never too late to harness the power of positive words, speak more kindly to yourself, and silence your inner critic for good.

Note: This is an especially important conversation for moms who want to break generational cycles and raise emotionally healthy kids!

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• Why perfectionists and people-pleasers often have harsher self-talk.
• Your inner critic isn’t random. It’s the voice that was drilled into you by the way others spoke to you.
• Negative self-talk is a protective adaptation—not a flaw, and definitely not the truth.
• Watch your mouth: Your children are constantly absorbing not only what you say to them, but what you say about yourself. 
• The hidden impact of tone, silence, and emotional invalidation.

FOR SO MUCH MORE:

Join the next round of Moms Made NewTM so stress no longer sabotages you—or your relationships: https://momsmadenew.com 

Book a free consult with Dr. Amber 1:1: https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult

HOMEWORK:

Observe your thoughts throughout the day to assess whether they tend to be more positive or negative. See if you can identify whose voice your inner critic sounds like. Reach out to me via email to share your thoughts on this episode. 

 COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next Tuesday at 5am Eastern to hear the 10 things I never say to my kids (and, knowing the power of words, highly recommend you don’t either).

Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to [email protected] and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE!

CONNECT WITH AMBER: Website | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn 

Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

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You know better but the stress from long, exhausting days as a busy mom still makes you turn to food for comfort. This episode will help you finally understand why no weight loss program or strategy has worked: because it hasn’t begun to get at the nervous system roots of your bingeing and emotional eating.

In this deeply honest and hope-filled conversation, guest expert Denise Jelinek and I unpack the REAL root causes of stress eating, perfectionism, overwhelm, and nervous system dysregulation in motherhood. We explore why so many high-achieving women feel stuck in cycles of people-pleasing, overworking, burnout, shame, and self-neglect that lead them to binge or buffer with food or alcohol—even when they desperately want to change.

This episode goes far beyond diet, calories, exercise, or “just being more disciplined.” Instead, it reveals how your nervous system, childhood conditioning, chronic stress, and subconscious survival patterns are driving the habits you wish you could break. With Denise’s wisdom, you finally can.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• Why stress eating is NOT a discipline problem 
• The surprising reason high-achieving women often struggle most with emotional eating
• What “chaos eating” is and how to identify your own hidden food triggers
• The connection between nervous system regulation, emotional healing, and sustainable weight loss  and why calm can actually feel unsafe for perfectionist, anxious moms
• What it looks like to heal your relationship with food from the inside out so you can finally have peace in your everyday life

FOR SO MUCH MORE:

Check out all Denise has to offer: 

• Weight Loss with the Holy Spirit podcast: https://weightlosswiththeholyspirit.com/podcast/ 
• Weight Loss with the Holy Spirit program: https://weightlosswiththeholyspirit.com/
• Follow Denise on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/catholicweightloss/ 

Join the next round of Moms Made NewTM so stress no longer sabotages you—or your relationships: https://momsmadenew.com 

Book a free consult with Dr. Amber 1:1: https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult

HOMEWORK:

Reach out to me via email or DM me on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to share your thoughts on this episode. 

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next Tuesday at 5am Eastern to keep unpacking the hidden sources of stress stealing your time and joy.

Don't miss my powerful on-demand masterclass, "13 Things Nobody's Telling You About Your Nervous System," that dispels the common myths and misleading advice out there about capacity, emotional regulation, and so much more: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/13things/ 

Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to [email protected] and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE!

CONNECT WITH AMBER: Website | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn 

Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

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You’re overwhelmed, exhausted, and constantly stressed…but if you don’t carry the load, who will? It’s HEAVY. And yet so many moms refuse to let themselves be supported in the way that actually matters.

After 6+ years of coaching (coupled with my own dark past), I’ve seen what happens when moms wish things were easier but never take meaningful action to get help to make them better. In this episode, I offer solidarity with all the hardworking moms who have built their identity around being the strong, responsible one that fulfills everyone else’s needs. I then share the hard-to-hear truth that trying to DIY only increases your frustration—to the great detriment of your marriage and motherhood. There’s such a better way! 

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• The real problem isn’t your to-do list; it’s the belief that you have to carry the weight of it all alone.
• Burnout happens when your identity gets tied to what you do for everyone else.
• Stress builds not because life is hard, but because you’re unsupported—and the fastest, most effective way to fix that.
• Most “self-care” is a just a superficial band-aid that never addresses the root issue.
• Why trying to get your partner to pitch in and lighten the load of your overwhelm often creates more conflict, not less.
• Plus the top SEVEN excuses moms give for refusing support!

FOR SO MUCH MORE:

Relevant past episodes on how your capacity varies predictably with your body's natural energy rhythms: 

• Why Everything Always Feels SO Hard: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2471152/episodes/17148493
• 3 Things You Need MORE than Time: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2471152/episodes/17193724

Join the next round of Moms Made NewTM so stress no longer sabotages you—or your relationships: https://momsmadenew.com 

Book a free consult with Dr. Amber 1:1: https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult)

HOMEWORK:

Brainstorm the specific things you would like more help with, then reach out to me via email or DM me on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity to explore what getting that support would look and feel like. 

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next Tuesday at 5am Eastern for a powerful interview revealing the real reason your weight loss and diet efforts always fail.

Don't miss my powerful on-demand masterclass, "13 Things Nobody's Telling You About Your Nervous System," that dispels the common myths and misleading advice out there about capacity, emotional regulation, and so much more: https://solutionsforsimplicity.thrivecart.com/13things/ 

Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to [email protected] and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE!

CONNECT WITH AMBER: Website | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn 

Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

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Far too many women (especially eldest daughters) are wrestling with the aftermath of parentification, which occurs when children have to grow up too soon because of the physical absence or emotional neglect of their caregivers. In this episode, I unpack the many circumstances that can lead to parentification, the deep wounds it creates, and why it’s so damaging for your later relationships (namely marriage and parenting).

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• What parentification is, the various ways in which it occurs, and why 
• The long-term psychological harm children suffer when forced into roles they’re not developmentally ready for
• The difference between instrumental and emotional parentification—and which is more damaging
• How even unintentional parentification can cause inter-generational damage
• Adult signs & symptoms that you may have been parentified so you can work to heal and break the vicious cycle

FOR SO MUCH MORE:

Relevant past episodes on attachment styles:

·      4 Attachment Styles Every Mom Must Know: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2471152/episodes/18536271

·      3 Keys to Secure Attachment: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2471152/episodes/18563959

·      The REAL Reason You’re Triggered by Your Husband & Kids: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2471152/episodes/19087521

Join the next round of Moms Made NewTM so stress no longer sabotages you—or your relationships: https://momsmadenew.com 

Book a free consult with Dr. Amber 1:1: https://tidycal.com/solutionsforsimplicity/free-consult)

HOMEWORK:

Take a deep breath and reaffirm: I am safe. I am enough. If this episode resonated with you, share your thoughts with me via email through the link in the show notes or DM me on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity. 

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next Tuesday at 5am Eastern to keep unpacking the hidden sources of stress stealing your time and joy.

Loving this podcast? Please help it get found by more listeners by taking quick minute to leave a rating & review in Apple Podcasts. Take a screenshot of your text review before you submit it, then email that to [email protected] and I'll send you my powerful Happy Mom Protocol™ (a $297 value) FOR FREE!

CONNECT WITH AMBER: Website | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn 

Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.