Healing from Mother Wounds with Crystal R. Currie

In this episode of the Reconnection Rescue Podcast, host Brittney Scott interviews licensed clinician Crystal R. Curry. Crystal shares her deeply personal journey of estrangement from her mother, the emotional impact of her mother missing significant events like her wedding, and how childhood trauma influenced her adult relationships. Through therapy, Crystal discovered her own patterns and began the process of healing. This episode delves into the complexities of mother-daughter relationships, cycles of emotional neglect, and finding joy in new, healthy relationships. Crystal offers insights and encouragement for others dealing with similar issues, emphasizing the importance of self-love and doing the hard work necessary for healing.

Key Takeaways:

- Crystal's experience of her mother's broken promises and disappearances, culminating in her absence at Crystal's wedding

- The patterns of dysfunctional relationships and people-pleasing behaviors Crystal adopted as a result of her childhood trauma

- The crucial role of therapy in helping Crystal understand and heal from her "mother wound"

- The generational nature of these relational dynamics, and Crystal's commitment to creating a different story for her own children

- The value of finding supportive communities and cultivating meaningful relationships to fill the void left by an absent parent

Connect with Brittney:

• Instagram: @theBrittneyScott
• Website: www.brittneymscott.com
• Consultation to work with Brittney

As a licensed clinician and founder of Compass Life Skills & Counseling, Crystal makes daily impact in the lives of individuals through her various platforms, such Cycle Breakers Conference, Cycle Breakers Collective, and Healing the Inner Child Retreat. Crystal is a thought leader in the fields of trauma, aiding individuals in deconstructing toxic cycles and establishing healthy family patterns. Crystal’s expertise in addressing the lingering impacts of trans-generational trauma was birthed from gut-wrenching personal experiences. Her research and therapy experience spans over a decade, from working in detention centers, overseeing residential treatment programs, and collaborating with community organizations for family reunification. She has served on featured platforms such as The HuffPost, The National Association of Public Defense, Women’s Magazine and the International Congress on Interpersonal Rejection & Acceptance. When Crystal is not teaching nationally or abroad, she is spending time with her husband, Donald and children, Alaina and Andrew.

Connect with Crystal:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/crystalrcurrie/

Website: https://www.crystalcurrie.com/

00:00 Introduction and Heartbreak

00:32 Welcome to the Reconnection Rescue Podcast

00:50 Meet Crystal R. Curry

01:25 The Estrangement Decision

02:43 Wedding Day Disappointment

04:13 A Mother's Absence

06:34 Reconnecting After the Wedding

08:14 Patterns of Broken Promises

12:11 Growing Up with a Young Mother

14:06 Dysfunctional Relationships

15:28 Therapy and Self-Realization

18:29 Understanding Abandonment

20:07 Understanding Fear of Abandonment

20:56 Crystal's Childhood Struggles

23:34 The Silent Treatment and Isolation

26:40 Therapy and Healing

29:04 Breaking Generational Cycles

31:11 Motherhood Jealousy and Compassion

37:25 Encouragement for Healing

39:30 Conclusion and Contact Information

In this episode of the Mother Daughter Relationship Show: Reconnection Rescue Podcast, host Brittney Scott delves into the powerful topic of transforming your inner critic into an inner cheerleader. She guides you through the process of identifying the voices that belong to you and those that belong to your mother, and provides strategies to replace the critical thoughts with empowering, supportive ones.

Key Takeaways:

- Understand the concept of the "mother wound" and how it can lead to an inner critic that may not be your own voice

- Identify common forms of an inner critic, such as "should" statements, feelings of not being enough, and negative body image thoughts

- Learn how to separate your own inner critic from the voices that belong to your mother

- Create affirmations to replace your mother's critical thoughts with self-empowering statements

- Discover ways to nurture your inner child and develop a more supportive, cheerleader-like inner voice

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• Instagram: @theBrittneyScott
• Website: www.brittneymscott.com
• Consultation to work with Brittney

Healing from the Mother Wound: A Journey with Diamond Williamson

In this episode of the Reconnection Rescue Podcast, Brittney Scott interviews Diamonde Williamson, a creative head at Deep Fillers Club and author of 'Deeply Personal: Notes from Facing My Mother Wound.' Diamond shares her journey of dealing with a painful mother-daughter relationship, including experiences of sexual assault, and the struggle of going no contact with her mother for her own healing. They discuss the importance of listening to one's inner child, establishing boundaries, and finding joy and purpose in life beyond past trauma. The conversation also touches on the significance of supportive relationships, notably Diamonde's partner, and the transformative power of art and writing in her healing process. Through her story, we explore the complexities of family relationships, the impact of secrets and avoidance, and the importance of honoring our inner child. This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating the complexities of estrangement or seeking to break the cycle of generational trauma.

Key Takeaways:

- The turning point that led Diamond to go no contact with her mother and aunt, and the overwhelming emotions she had to process

- How her inner child's anger and sadness guided her towards healing and set boundaries

- The role of Diamond's supportive partner in providing a safe space for her to express herself and work through her feelings

- The challenges of finding community and support when you've experienced such deep loneliness

- Diamond's journey of redefining success and learning to listen to her body's needs

- The importance of honesty, authenticity, and creating a life you're proud of, even when it means cutting ties with family

Connect with Brittney:

• Instagram and Threads: @theBrittneyScott
• Website: www.brittneymscott.com
• Consultation to work with Brittney

Connect with Diamonde:

• Her Book
• Her Instagram
• Email Her

Diamonde Williamson is the Head Creative at Deep Feelers Club, a creative arts company

specializing in publishing, art and gathering community. Previously, she led third & wonder

production house, a video production company with notable clientele like: The Oprah

Winfrey Network, Google, Warner Bros., Essence, and more.

Most recently, Diamonde published her second book, Deeply Personal: Notes from Facing

My Mother Wound, featuring memoiric notes from a very transformational time in her life,

the moment she came to accept the truth about her childhood, and her mother.

Diamonde’s mission is to create art, books and community that center honesty, vulnerability

and healing.

00:00 Trigger Warning and Introduction

00:19 The Impact of Painful Experiences

00:42 Mother's Choices and Their Consequences

01:15 The Role of a Safe Relationship

01:25 Welcome to the Reconnection Rescue Podcast

01:43 Introducing Diamond Williamson

03:43 Diamond's Journey to Estrangement

05:13 Inner Child's Voice and Anger

06:07 Facing Emotions and Going No Contact

07:10 Family's Reaction to Confrontation

08:42 The Source of Pain and Regret

14:15 Mothering Without Being Mothered

15:20 The Healing Power of Love and Art

24:59 The Role of a Supportive Partner

27:25 Navigating Family Relationships

27:58 The Struggle with Parental Reconciliation

29:28 Building Trust in a New Relationship

30:56 Understanding Personal Needs

34:01 The Decision to Go No Contact

38:07 Secrets and Their Impact

41:30 Choosing Self-Preservation

51:38 Embracing Present and Future

53:48 Conclusion and Reflections

Navigating Painful Mother-Daughter Dynamics: Ivy's Story

In this episode of the Reconnection Rescue Podcast for mothers and daughters, host Brittney Scott interviews Ivy, the eldest daughter of immigrant parents from Mexico. As a public defender, wife, and mother to a young son, Ivy shares her experiences dealing with a difficult relationship with her mom, especially after the birth of her child. She discusses cultural influences, the emotional support she lacked growing up, and the turning point when her husband stepped in during a confrontation with her mom. Ivy opens up about the ongoing challenges and her efforts to break generational cycles by parenting her son differently. She also reflects on why she chooses not to estrange from her mom, despite the pain, and emphasizes the importance of seeking help and setting boundaries. This episode aims to provide different perspectives on mother-daughter relationships and offer hope for healing.

Key Takeaways:

- Ivy's relationship with her mother began to deteriorate after the birth of her son and a postpartum struggle 

- She describes the delicate balancing act of maintaining a superficial relationship to avoid her mother's wrath

- Ivy highlights the cultural and generational dynamics at play, tracing her mother's own upbringing and lack of emotional support

- She is intentionally breaking the cycle with her own son, focusing on validating his emotions and providing the nurturing she never received

- Despite the pain, Ivy has chosen not to cut ties with her mother, fearing the repercussions of estrangement

This raw and honest conversation offers valuable insights into the complexities of mother-daughter relationships. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding and find solace in the fact that you are not alone on your healing journey.

Connect with Brittney:

• Instagram: @theBrittneyScott
• Website: www.brittneymscott.com
• Consultation to work with Brittney

00:00 Introduction to Boundaries

00:22 Welcome to the Reconnection Rescue Podcast

00:39 Meet Ivy: A Daughter's Story

02:25 The Breaking Point: Postpartum Struggles

04:35 Husband's Intervention and Cultural Dynamics

06:24 Current Relationship Dynamics with Mom

10:41 Childhood Reflections and Emotional Needs

14:02 Cultural and Generational Influences

21:39 Hopes for Change and Personal Growth

23:09 Choosing Connection Over Estrangement

27:05 Navigating Guilt and Anxiety

29:13 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

Navigating the Six Stages of Mother-Daughter Relationships

In this episode of the Reconnection Rescue Podcast hosted by Brittney Scott, listeners explore the dynamics of mother-daughter relationships through six distinct stages: birth to adolescence, adolescence to young adult, young adult to marriage and family, marriage and family to midlife, midlife, and end of life.

Brittney emphasizes the importance of adapting parenting styles to meet the evolving needs of daughters at each stage, fostering a supportive and collaborative relationship. Highlighting the concept of the 'rubber band' metaphor, she underscores the critical need for mothers to provide a stable and trusted presence while allowing their daughters appropriate independence.

The episode also addresses recognizing and healing 'mother wounds' that may have impacted the relationship, encouraging listeners to reflect on past experiences for personal growth and improved connections.

Connect with Brittney:

• Instagram: @theBrittneyScott
• Website: www.brittneymscott.com
• Consultation to work with Brittney

00:00 Introduction: The Challenge of Controlling Adult Daughters

00:36 Welcome to Reconnection Rescue Podcast

00:50 Understanding the Six Stages of Mother-Daughter Relationships

02:33 Stage 1: Birth to Adolescence

04:05 Stage 2: Adolescence to Young Adult

11:20 Stage 3: Young Adult

14:18 Stage 4: Marriage and Motherhood

15:25 Stage 5: Midlife Friendship

16:02 Stage 6: Caring for an Aging Mother

16:15 Reflecting on Mother-Daughter Relationships

19:23 Healing the Mother Wound

21:37 Conclusion: Thank You for Listening

The Importance of Knowing Your Generational Story for Healing Mother Wounds

In this episode of the Reconnection Rescue Podcast, hosted by Brittney Scott, the focus is on understanding the importance of knowing the stories of the women who came before you to heal mother wounds. Brittney delves into why understanding your family history is crucial for breaking generational cycles, gaining a deeper understanding of yourself, and viewing your mother and grandmother as whole, multi-dimensional persons. Through exploring these stories, you can better identify and change harmful patterns, set healthier boundaries, and improve your relationships. Brittney also offers practical advice on how to gather and process these stories, even if your mother is not willing or able to participate.

00:00 Introduction to Reconnection Rescue Podcast

00:17 The Importance of Knowing Your Story

00:55 Understanding the Mother Wound

01:17 Three Key Reasons to Know Your Story

02:30 Healing Through Generational Awareness

03:44 Practical Steps to Break Cycles

09:26 Exploring Emotional Patterns

13:14 Connecting to Your Lineage

18:11 Seeing Mothers as Whole Persons

20:20 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

23:15 Conclusion and Thank You

Reconnection Rescue: Healing Through Somatic Bodywork

In this episode of the Reconnection Rescue Podcast, host Brittney Scott guides listeners through somatic bodywork exercises aimed at improving the mind-body connection and reducing the nervous system's fight-or-flight response. The episode includes progressive muscle relaxation and two types of breath work - diaphragmatic breathing and box breathing. These techniques help listeners recognize when they are truly safe and manage triggers from past trauma or anxiety, ultimately enhancing their mental and physical well-being.

00:00 Introduction to Reconnection Rescue Podcast

00:14 The Importance of Bodywork

01:58 Understanding the Nervous System

03:26 Progressive Muscle Relaxation Exercise

12:06 Breath Work Techniques

18:09 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Healing the Mother-Daughter Relationship: Identifying the Breaking Point and Effective Communication

In this episode of the Reconnection Rescue Podcast, Brittney Scott guides mothers and daughters through the process of healing strained relationships. Brittney emphasizes the importance of identifying the key event that caused pain in the relationship and encourages reflective thinking to understand ongoing issues. She introduces the concept of 'true seeking' and offers a step-by-step communication exercise designed to help both parties feel heard and supported. The episode aims to foster better understanding, accountability, and emotional expression to mend and strengthen mother-daughter bonds.

00:00 Welcome to Reconnection Rescue

00:18 Identifying the Mother Wound

00:40 Processing the Painful Event

01:16 Understanding Relationship Dynamics

03:14 Communication Breakdown

03:40 Truth Seeking in Conversations

05:32 Listening to Each Other's Experiences

09:20 Action Steps for Better Communication

13:09 Creating a Supportive Communication Style

14:54 Conclusion and Call to Action

Understanding and Healing the Mother Wound

In this episode of the Reconnection Rescue Podcast, hosted by Brittney Scott, the focus is on understanding the 'mother wound'—a term used to describe the pain and trauma women carry through their maternal lineage. Brittney explains how this attachment trauma affects daughters when they lack emotional support from their mothers, often reversing the caregiver roles. She also discusses how these childhood experiences influence adult relationships and behaviors such as self-esteem issues, anxiety, and perfectionism. Brittney emphasizes the importance of identifying personal needs and re-learning how to get them met, and provides insights into starting the healing journey. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their needs, boundaries, and the emotional dynamics with their mothers to pave the way for better relationships and personal well-being.

00:00 Introduction to Reconnection Rescue Podcast

00:23 Understanding the Mother Wound

01:22 Emotional Support and Attachment Trauma

02:56 Impact of Mother Wound on Adult Life

04:04 Unlearning and Relearning Behaviors

07:12 Identifying and Voicing Your Needs

10:39 Mapping Your Lineage and Healing

12:32 Personalizing Your Healing Journey

Intro to Mother-Daughter Relationships and Healing

In the inaugural episode of the Reconnection Rescue Podcast: The Mother Daughter Relationship Show, host Brittney Scott introduces herself and her qualifications in psychology and clinical mental health counseling. She explains how her journey into addressing mother wounds and mother-daughter relationships began. Brittney discusses the three main approaches to healing these relationships: joint healing with the mother, individual healing while maintaining a relationship, and healing through estrangement. She emphasizes the importance of understanding and addressing mother wounds for healthier adult relationships and advocates for supportive communities for women. Brittney also shares personal anecdotes and random facts to help listeners get to know her better.

00:00 Welcome to Reconnection Rescue

00:14 Meet Your Host: Brittney Scott

00:26 Understanding Mother Wounds

00:43 The Journey to Specialization

02:32 Approaches to Healing Mother Wounds

03:30 Different Paths to Healing

06:12 The Importance of Boundaries

09:10 A Message for Mothers

11:47 Personal Insights and Fun Facts

13:01 Looking Ahead