Mums F**king Matter

In this episode I am talking to the gorgeous Hayley Borg, who is a friend of mine, a Feminine Embodiment Coach and a Mum to two boys based in Maidenhead, England.

In this episode we speak about:

• a bit about what Hayley does and her programme; 'Womanhood'
• reclaiming your inner authority after motherhood and the feminine archetypes
• nurturing healthy masculinity in the next generation
• the power of relationships to show us our truth (and where we're hiding it!)
• f**k the idea of being 'Super Mum' and how toxic it is
• the changing energies and seasons of our life as women
• welcoming play, pleasure and our body's responses
• getting to know all the facets of our fabulous selves
• the positive impact that feminine embodiment work can have on our intimate relationships

Themes: motherhood, matrescence, femininity, divorce, sex, healing

To learn more about Hayley see here on her website. And do connect with Hayley on Instagram.

We mention Regena Thomashauer and Audre Lorde.

At the end, I read a poem by Tanya Markul.

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In this episode I share my experience of learning and performing Burlesque, in London, with 'The Cheek Of It!' School of Burlesque and Cabaret. It's been incredible!

Zoe Charles, the founder of 'The Cheek Of It!' was my first guest for the podcast, and it's been amazing to dive into her world a bit more over the last couple of years that I've known her.

There are so many misconceptions about burlesque (which I may tackle in another episode) so I wanted to rerelease this episode to hopefully inspire you to do something truly for YOU!

It really is SO important to find something that we LOVE, as a Mum — something that lights us up — as well as being a Mama, partner, friend, etc.

In this episode I speak about:

• body confidence
• learning to be adored
• the sisterhood and community!
• using creativity to convey a message
• seeing REAL bodies moving in the flesh (compared to the fake and airbrushed)
• the art form of Burlesque; it's elegance and celebration
• an incident with(out) a nipple tassel
• performing in Soho in the midst of Pride month

Big thanks to my teachers Petis Pois and Ava Ventura! And Zoe at 'The Cheek Of It!'.

Themes: burlesque, female empowerment, postnatal mental health, healing from abuse,

At the end, I share a poem written by me.

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In this episode I welcome back to the podcast Becca Scott, who was also on episode #41.

Becca has been a Homeopath since 2009, a Reflexologist since 2001 and has added Accredited Divorce and Breakup Coaching in 2023. She specialises in Women's Health with a particular focus on gynaecological, auto-immune and hormone issues.

Becca is also mum and step mum to four wonderful teenage boys and a little girl.

TRIGGER WARNING: at 40 minutes 20 seconds to 42 minutes 20 seconds Becca talks about diabetic ketoacidosis.

In this episode we speak about:

• unpacking what may be going on to potentially save a relationship from divorce
• planning how to SAFELY leave a toxic partner
• the trauma that the divorce process can cause (and how it's not witnessed enough!)
• homeopathy/supplements to support you in times of stress
• preparing for court and the terrifying experience that it can be
• Katherine May's book 'Wintering' and how it depicts what I call survival mode
• the risk of health issues that can come from long-term stress/divorcing a toxic partner
• co-parenting, parallel parenting and counter parenting
• what 'reactive defence' is (— SO great to know about!)
• nervous system healing/regulation
• our exciting collaboration for Healing Space Online
• the power and beauty in learning burlesque and how it can help us reclaim our body
• how to look out for diabetic ketoacidosis

Themes: divorce, post separation abuse, perimenopause/hormonal health, the nervous system, stress, boundaries, parenting, PTSD, healing, diabetic ketoacidosis.

You can find the blogs that Becca speaks about HERE.

To learn more about Becca's Divorce Coaching see here on Becca's website. And connect with Becca here on Instagram.

We mention Steve Biddulph, Gabor Maté's work, Bessel van der Kolk's work.

At the end, I read a section from 'Wintering' by Katherine May.

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Are you playing small? Are you able to stand in your truth and be who you are in the world? If not, you deserve to! And this episode may help you with that.

This is one of my favourite topics — and most commonly talked about with my 1:1 coaching clients.

In this episode I speak about:

• spreading out in Savasana, taking up the space on your yoga mat — and beyond
• growing more comfortable in who you are
• from self-silencing to being calmly assertive
• knowing that anger is valid and natural, whatever your gender
• the beauty and wisdom in growing older
• over-apologising and you are not 'too much'

Themes: yoga, motherhood, mental health, parenting, matrescence

I mention Amy Taylor-Kabbaz.

At the end, I share a poem written by Nikita Gill.

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Lauren Seager-Smith became Chief Executive of The For Baby’s Sake Trust in May 2023, bringing expertise and experience in leading charities through growth and development, along with a track-record as a leading advocate for children’s rights and trauma-informed, whole-family approaches.

Lauren’s record of representing sensitive and complex needs of children and families to a public audience includes extensive media experience, including press, television and radio.

TRIGGER WARNING: At 4 minutes to 5 minutes Lauren speaks about the murder of baby Peter Connelly.

In this episode we speak about:

• Lauren's role and the work they do at FBS
• a bit about the founder, Stelio Stefanou and the why behind FBS
• breaking cycles of abuse by working with mums and dads
• how so much of real life can be covered up, to the detriment of so many
• some of the statistics: 1/5 children are impacted by domestic abuse and 30% of abuse cases begin in pregnancy, 1/5 couples break up by the baby's 1st birthday
• the parental relationship abuse spectrum (link to PDF below)
• Lauren's previous career experience and what's led her to this role
• the myth of the 'perfect Mum' and how damaging it is
• parenting and raising a mixed race family
• paradox, conflict and polarity on small and big scales

Themes: therapy, healing, abuse, childhood trauma, systemic inequality, mothering, parenting

At the end, I share a poem by Nikita Gill.

You can find out more about For Baby's Sake here on their website.

We mention Make Birth Better, Dr Chatterjee, Dr Gabor Maté, the UN and the parental relationship abuse spectrum.

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Children are not Tamagotchis. They won't just do and say what they're told. They are little humans with feelings and minds of their own.

Please note: I am not attempting to be a parenting coach. I am simply exposing what I feel passionate about and I know a lot of others will and do relate to.

In this episode I share my perspectives and approach to the (ridiculous) pressures we can feel as parents in this day and age, in the hope that it may bring you some relief (and a giggle or two).

In this episode I speak about:

• the pressure on Mums today
• the toxic expectations put upon parents and children
• why children's emotions matter too
• finding my truth and becoming the woman and MOTHER I want to be
• my approach to the things and people that may judge and push their opinions onto us
• why I said no to sleep training Matilda as a baby
• you're not wrong — and you're not failing as a Mum!
• maternal 'rage' and how I felt before I got therapy

Themes: parenting, motherhood, mental health, healing, matrescence

At the end, I share a poem written by Karen McMillan.

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Since 1999, Katie Thomas has been bringing the elegance of 1940s and 1950s lingerie to life through her brand, What Katie Did. She runs the business with her husband and daughter, balancing vintage glamour with a love of yoga, gardening, and life between Berkshire and Somerset.

I discovered Katie's work from doing Burlesque BUT it turned out that Katie and her husband (photographer for What Katie Did) had been doing my yoga class for years before I realised their other roles.

In this episode we speak about:

• a bit about Katie and her background that led her to 'What Katie Did'
• how clothes/the way you dress can make you FEEL
• the art of corsetry and choosing for your body type
• how Katie made her own clothes during pregnancy and the shock of her body changing
• adjusting to the changes that come with being a Mum; Matrescence
• 1950's style, bullet bras, Marilyn Monroe and more
• shapewear; girdles, corselette, waist cinchers, power mesh
• boobs and breast-feeding in my wedding dress
• wigs, wig-fitting — and how great they can look!!
• why corsets are not for partners but for ourselves

Themes: fashion, vintage lingerie, burlesque, matrescence, postnatal wellbeing, hyper-feminine style,

At the end, I share a poem by Nikita Gill.

You can find out more about Katie via her website www.whatkatiedid.com and/or find her here on Instagram.

We mention Bettie Page, Rosie the Riveter, Roland Mouret, Good Wood Revival, and Zoe Charles' TED Talk on Femininity.

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I have begun to teach BURLESQUE!! This episode is a bit of an 'announcement', about what I have moved into doing, alongside my 1:1 coaching work. After doing a degree in Dance with Performing Arts over 20 years ago I am delighted to now be teaching burlesque, as a form of empowerment and healing for women and Mothers.

PLEASE NOTE: At 23 minutes 30 seconds to 27 minutes and 20 seconds I speak about 'pussy' and more, so beware who you're listening around.

In this episode, I speak on:

• the power of being in circle/a safe space with other women to heal the witch wound
• the clothing and 'kit' involved in burlesque that you can use
• how FEELING good and in greater connection with your body can positively impact so many areas of life
• knowing more about where burlesque comes from and what 'persona' you may wish to play
• female body parts and the names for the parts of our genitalia (believe it or not, MANY women — and men — don't know)
• paying tribute to who and what we have learned from — and trusting the process to arrive where I have now
• a bit about the classic burlesque moves, poses and working with or without a mirror
• listening to your body, it's wants and desires... will YOU join us?

Themes: burlesque, women's circles, healing, the witch wound, sensuality, dance

At the end I share a poem written by Matilda, my daughter.

I mention Zoe Charles and her TED Talk on Femininity, Diane Purkiss and Seed Talks, Anna Lou Walker and her book 'The Little Book of Vaginas', Emily Nagoski and her book 'Come As You Are', Regena Thomashauer and her book 'Pussy: A Reclamation'.

I speak about Episode #3 of my podcast 'Knowing Your Body Better and Why It Matters; Sex, Instincts and More'.

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Libby Chow is the mother of two spirited, loving teenagers and is married to her longtime partner. They live on Wurundjeri Country in Melbourne, Australia.

A seasoned video and film creator, Libby brings over two decades of experience to her work. In 2015, she founded her production company, Bee Here Productions, and went on to direct the acclaimed short documentary Giving Voice to Menopause (2021), which premiered at the New York Female Voices Rock Festival. Her most recent film, The Kids Play, screened at the 2024 Melbourne Documentary Festival and received both the Best Social Documentary and Audience Award at the 2024 Doc Screenings International Film Festival in Europe.

Libby is an absolute Goddess and it was such a pleasure to meet her (virtually) on this call and record our conversation for you to hear.

TRIGGER WARNING: We touch on hypnobirthing, early pregnancy loss (aka miscarriage) and birth trauma.

In this episode we speak about:

• Libby's experiences as a woman and mother so far and learning about her body
• understanding what it is to be a woman
• a bit about Libby's birth experiences
• menstrual cycle awareness
• Libby's work as a videographer and the feature documentary she is making about Matrescence with Amy Taylor-Kabbaz and Claire Tonti
• knowing and loving ourselves deeply — especially to prevent domestic abuse
• pausing to question "who am I?"
• the power of language
• sharing — and taking in — women's stories to balance things out more(!)

Themes: menstrual cycle awareness, matrescence, birth, film-making, self-care, domestic abuse,

At the end, I share a beautiful poem recently written by Libby herself.

You can find out more about Libby via her website and/or find her here on Instagram.

We mention Red School run by Alexandra Pope and Sjanie Hugo Wurlitzer, 'This Period In My Life' by Saskia Boujo, Claire Tonti, Gladys Kangau's work in Kenya on Period Poverty, Margaret Atwood, and Eli Pol of The Sane Mama.

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I find people can so often write themselves off as if they're on the decline, even in their 40's. I wanted to record this episode to invite you to question where you take on such ideas from and how changing those ideas may be useful — or even life-changing.

In this episode, I speak on:

• how we might feel about our age and growing older and why
• society's pressures and expectations
• the benefit of keeping the ego in check
• how it's possible to look after ourselves into later life
• the importance of learning about our nervous system
• 'elders' not always being older than us
• the female archetypes
• derogatory terms we can choose to see differently
• other cultures may be/feel different... ?

Themes: health, ageing, menopause, exercise, feminine archetypes

At the end, I share a poem written by Tanya Markul.

I mention Jane Harwicke Collings, Mark Twain, Socrates, Queer Eye.

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