Mums F**king Matter

Today I'm sharing a solo episode about rest. Over the years as a human who listens(!), also as a coach and space holder, I've noticed many people have different opinions and feelings about 'rest'. These can be influenced by family and upbringing, culture and society, workplaces — and toxic cults to be honest...

'Rest' is such an interesting topic and I'm recording this episode slightly unwell, so it seemed fitting so record a short episode on what I've mostly been doing today.

In this episode I speak about:

• how do you feel about rest?!
• time off work and other people's attitudes
• burnout
• people pleasing
• stress levels in today's world
• rest as a fitness professional

Themes: rest, boundaries, nervous system

I mention my episode with Nicky Denson-Elliot (#102) and my episode with Roly (#107).

At the end, I share a poem of my own.

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Samantha Murrell is the Founder of Mothers' Hood. Samantha is leading a movement to disrupt the narratives around motherhood, work and ambition. Motherhood isn't the end of your career, it supercharges it.

Samantha supports executive women into and through the transition into motherhood, whether that's for the first or fifth time!) and as they return to work, ready to smash their next big career goals. She is also a podcast host, speaker and author (in waiting!).

*TRIGGER WARNING: From 52 minutes to 55 minutes Sam speaks about her struggles with postnatal anxiety.

In this episode we speak about:

• a bit about Samantha and the powerful coaching work she does working with career-led Mamas to help them learn their worth at work and at home
• how the second wave of feminism affected motherhood
• the narratives we have been fed and what is important to know as a working Mum in this day and age
• an awkward truth about school playground chats and social norms
• the intense Mum guilt Sam used to feel and how she managed and shifted that
• parenting and reparenting ourselves in the process
• my tender feelings about solo motherhood and why we NEED a village (and more preparation for parenthood)
• Sam's experience of *postnatal anxiety and the support her husband provided
• how workplaces MUST change and be more flexible to welcome all the amazing Mama minds having to leave work through no real choice of their own

Themes: motherhood, matrescence, careers and leadership, feminism, burnout, perinatal mental health

We mention Amy Taylor-Kabbaz (Episode #35 of MFM), Mel Robbins and Dr Sophie Brock (Episode #43 of MFM).

To learn more about Samantha see here on Instagram. And to find her website, click here.

At the end, I read a poem by Grace Gulley.

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Amanda Appiagyei is a Productivity Strategist* and home educating Mum of 3. She grew up in the UK but her and her family is now based in Rome, Italy.

She describes herself on her (gorgeous) website as a 'Routine loving, chaos-wrangling, business-owning, home-ed Mum of 3 — not working out at 4am'. — I love that!

Amanda and I connected back in 2021 and I love what she does so I'm glad to finally have a conversation for you to hear.

TRIGGER WARNING: From 31 minutes, 18 seconds to 31 minutes, 31 seconds Amanda speaks about early pregnancy loss aka miscarriage.

In this episode we speak about:

• a bit about Amanda and the work she does
• *how loaded the word 'productivity' can be — and what Amanda & I feel about it
• the nervous system and body literacy
• Amanda's experience of birth, matrescence and motherhood so far
• the 'Birth Time' film (released 2021)
• the beauty of a supportive relationship and how vital it is, as well as being SEEN in what you do and/or experience
• why Amanda and her husband chose to home educate and the benefits they've witnessed
• supporting stages of transition
• Amanda's 'Time Buckets' system (see more here)

Themes: home education, creativity, nervous system recovery, postnatal depression, pelvic girdle pain, matrescence, ADHD

We mention Episode #39 of MFM with Naomi Galliano, the 'Birth Time' film, and Episode #25 of MFM with Angela Sellar.

To learn more about Amanda see here on Instagram. And to find her website, click here.

At the end, I read a poem by Liezel Graham.

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Instead of a solo episode I wanted to share this episode, with my boyfriend Roly, where we reflect on our holiday and more.

If, like me, you've had a strained partner relationship in the past notice how well we get on and converse. (It's so lovely and I just adore what we have...)

In this episode we speak about:

• our holiday in North Devon
• how I got to learn more about myself and Roly whilst away
• the passing of Roly's dog, Pickle and what that means for us both
• Roly's support of my burlesque adventures — and why he is not threatened(!)
• leaving people's opinions out of your soul-led decisions
• Roly being a 'bonus Dad' and a bit about being a family of 3
• Doctor Who...

Themes: holidays, motherhood, nature, burlesque, bonus parenting, Doctor Who

I mention Glennon Doyle and Abby Wambach, 'Psychopath Free' by Jackson McKenzie, episode #100 with Phoxy Qurvy and episode #56 with Roly.

To learn more about Roly and his work see here in Instagram or his Facebook page.

At the end, I share a poem of my own.

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For more insights and to contact me you can find me on Instagram, and/or on my website: www.lucywyldecoaching.com

Evie Squires is the Founder of 'Mother of All Jobs'. She works with a wide range of clients, from purpose-driven start-ups to household names, connecting them with brilliant parents who are looking for flexible and fulfilling careers.

Alongside Evie's agency and job board, she has built a community and created resources that empower parents to navigate work and family life with confidence. As a mum of two toddlers, Evie is passionate about reshaping the world of work so that parenthood is seen as a strength, not a setback.

WARNING: From 33 minutes and 20 seconds to 33 minutes and 55 seconds I speak about Father Christmas, so beware of listening around little ones.

In this episode we speak about:

• a bit about Evie and the work she does
• Evie's hobbies and her love of sport
• redundancy in early parenthood — and how common it is
• the juggles of work and parenting and the WHY behind Evie's work
• the significance of our EMOTIONAL CV* (see below)
• the invisible load we can hold as Mums and why flexible working — and more trusting of employees — can make such a difference
• Dads, paternity leave and the culture in some workplaces
• the lack of integrity we can experience when applying for work — and a shocking reply I had, saying I was too old for the role (ha, bullet dodged!)
• Evie's free templates and jobs board (see links below)

Themes: flexible working, redundancy, parenting, matrescence, recruitment

We mention *Shahroo Izadi and Alex Lloyd Hunter, co-founder of The Dad Shift.

To learn more about Evie see here on Instagram. And to find her website, click here.

At the end, I read a poem by Karen McMillan.

Did you enjoy this episode? If so, I would really appreciate it if you could please leave a review on the platform that you listen.

For more insights and to contact me you can find me on Instagram, and/or on my website: www.lucywyldecoaching.com.

I hope you find this short solo episode useful, interesting, and maybe amusing!

Feel free to email me with your 3 — or 6 — things also, at [email protected]

In this episode I speak about the below and more:

• 'complaining' and why it can sometimes be helpful to be honest and own how we feel
• spiritual bypassing and gaslighting (in the face of real and systemic issues)
• the places I 'go' to find hope, love and repair when I need it

Themes: matrescence, motherhood, healing, dance, nature

I mention my former coach Rebecca Antonucci.

At the end, I share a poem of my own.

Did you enjoy this episode? If so, I would really appreciate it if you could please leave a review on the platform that you listen.

For more insights and to contact me you can find me on Instagram, and/or on my website: www.lucywyldecoaching.com

Nicola Farndell supports professional midlife women to know the power of caring for themselves through and beyond menopause. She unwraps what healthy living really means to help women get in control of their health as early as possible so they can power through every season of their lives.

A certified health coach, qualified personal trainer and ex-corporate leader, Nicola combines her corporate experience with her own journey of living with mental and physical health challenges to support other women to build their own sustainable healthy habits and thrive.

Nicola is a Mum — she says "Mam" — of one daughter and lives in Gateshead, UK.

TRIGGER WARNING: At 20 minutes 35 seconds to 21 minutes we speak about early pregnancy loss (miscarriage) and birth trauma.

At 33 minutes 10 seconds to 35 minutes I speak about my traumatic birth experience having Matilda.

And at 1 hour 2 minutes 20 seconds to 1 hour 8 minutes Nicola talks about her birth experience involving Kielland's forceps.

In this episode we speak about:

• a bit about Nicola and what she does helping women
• the hobbies she is now pursuing and making time for
• her background and the WHY behind what Nicola does as a Mum and coach
• the raw realities of birth and motherhood that are rarely spoken about and why that can be damaging
• the emotions we can feel, but society is lame at realising and accepting
• Nicola's journey with nutrition and weight control and the influence (both we and society) has on our girls
• food, gut health and the minefield that the food industry is, particularly as a parent (as if we needed another challenge!)
• self-worth, boundaries aka loving limits
• Nicola's experience of birth trauma, birth injury and her recovery
• how we so desperately need more information around pregnancy, birth and beyond to better protect our physical and mental health

Themes: birth trauma, (peri)menopause, matrescence, mothering, nutrition, burlesque,

We mention Andrea Gibson, Jane Hardwicke Collings, Mel Robbins, Joe Wicks, Rebecca Antonucci, Rayne Bryant, Zoe Charles

To learn more about Nicola see here on Instagram. And here for her website; Life Now UK. And her podcast is 'Women's Health Unwrapped' so do look it up.

At the end, I read a poem written by Nikita Gill.

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Because I teach movement classes, people often talk about getting 'old', injuries and making out that it's downhill from here. And I find myself saying "please don't write yourself off...".

So I wanted to share my feelings and perspectives on growing older. — I'd love to know how you feel too. Why not email me at [email protected]?

In this episode I speak about:

• how do you feel about growing older?
• society's labels
• looking after ourselves; with massage, nutrition, easing stress and more
• midlife awakening not crisis
• synaptic pruning (so good to learn about this!)
• finding what LIGHTS you up
• Sagescence — becoming a sage/a wise woman (see more in the link below)

Themes: ageing, sagescence, motherhood, boundaries, wellbeing, burlesque

I mention Jane Hardwicke-Collings and Sagescence, Regena Thomashauer and her book 'Pussy; A Reclamation', Episode #18 of my podcast about healing my gut/skin, Talia B's incredible massage therapy, Episode #98 with Minna Dubin about Mum Rage, and Episode #25 with Angela Sellar about Style and Make Up.

At the end, I share a poem by Danielle Doby.

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Nicky is a serial entrepreneur, founder of The Wilder Collective, host of the Women’s Business podcast, and Mum of two children. 

Everything Nicky does is about lifting the voices of female founders, and she is here to empower her community of women to break down conventional norms and become free to explore the lives and careers they want — that bit WILDER.

Through her podcast, public speaking and writing Nicky loves to explore the topic of learnt sexism — our inherent and programmed self-hatred and limiting beliefs. Learnt sexism doesn’t sound like hate — it sounds like: ‘I’m not ready.’ ‘She’s too much.’ or ‘I could never.’ Those are the beliefs she is ready to dismantle so that women can support each other, AND own their power.

(I connected with Nicky on Instagram and invited her on because, as you can probably tell, she totally speaks my language!)

TRIGGER WARNING: From 45 minutes 20 seconds to 48 minutes and 20 seconds, Nicky speaks about having a difficult pregnancy, birth and their recovery.

In this episode we speak about:

• a bit about Nicky and what she does
• how multifaceted we are as women/people
• the mother load that can often seem invisible to some
• the Barbie movie and our favourite moments in the film (not the monologue)
• hobbies that nourish us, whatever age we are
• advocating for our kids
• Nicky's beautiful WHY behind 'The Wilder Ones'
• learnt sexism against other women and the harm it can cause
• changing her name back to use her birth name and the feelings and discussions around this
• Nicky's experience of pregnancy, birth and early motherhood (see trigger warning at the top)

Themes: anger, burlesque, feminism, creativity, matrescence, the sister wound, birth trauma

We mention Ana Forrest, Minna Dubin, Gabor Maté, Greta Gerwig and Zoe Charles.

To learn more about Nicky see here on Instagram. And here for her website; The Wilder Collective. And her podcast is 'Women's Business' so do look it up.

At the end, I read a poem written by Donna Ashworth.

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If I were to ask you "what makes you you?" what would you say? Would you have to pause and think or would you know immediately and share, somewhat proudly?

It is incredibly common for women and Mothers to forget or let go of the big things (and the little things) that make us who we are; to please others, to cope with parenting more easily, or we can simply 'chameleonise' for survival reasons...

Right?! — Because of course NOT fitting in used to be a case of life or death so on some level we 'remember' that and therefore we make do with our soul being starved in big or small ways.

I invite you to think about who YOU are, away from the different hats you wear for/with other people. It's more important than you might think.

In this episode I speak about:

• listening to your body's instincts
• boundaries
• remembering and rekindling our love for things
• how knowing our preferences in all the ways can help us really own who we are more and therefore perhaps avoid people who try to cuss (or control) our opinions

Themes: mental health, self-worth, personal growth, healing, preventing abuse

At the end, I share a quote from Dr Seuss.

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For more insights and to contact me you can find me on Instagram, and/or on my website: www.lucywyldecoaching.com