Mums F**king Matter

Jenny Evans is a Mother, investigative journalist and filmmaker. Following the investigation that became her memoir, ‘Don’t Let It Break You, Honey’ she retrained in law. Jenny has just secured her first legal position.

I connected with Jenny on Instagram after hearing about her book and I am incredibly grateful for Jenny and this powerful, moving and life-affirming conversation.

(Jenny has THE most wonderful laugh and is such brilliant and beautiful soul.)

We cover some very tender topics so please go carefully if you may be triggered and/or pay attention to the following.

TRIGGER WARNINGS:

1. we speak about sexual abuse, the justice system, Jenny's stillborn daughter
2. From 21 mins 50 secs to 22 mins 10 secs AND 23 mins to 25 mins 20 secs Jenny speaks about the death of her daughter, being stillborn
3. From 25 mins 40 secs to 31 mins 20 secs Jenny talks about unexplained infertility, IVF and the death of her daughter whilst in utero
4. From 32 mins 20 secs to 36 mins 30 secs I speak about being ostracised and sexual abuse

In this episode we speak about:

• Jenny's background, her book and why she wrote it
• the courage it took to write about what I call 'nasty people'
• speaking our truth, finding our tribe & shedding shame
• how shame is created and systems that are inherently shaming
• the death of Jenny's daughter, Lula* (please see trigger warnings above)
• navigating the grief realm and 'passive suicidality'
• the desire to have more babies — and the gaslighting of our big, primal feelings
• the process of writing the book with a lawyer and getting it published
• how the system of giving statements to the police needs to change and the horror of Jenny's story being leaked (from the police) to the press
• supportive publishers like Jemima Hunt at 'The Writers' Practice' and Emma Smith at 'Little Brown'
• why we talk and how it keeps us safe

Themes: sexual abuse, journalism, police scandal, misogyny, shame, grief, corruption

We mention Nick Davies, Evan Moloney, Maya Angelou, Richard Schwartz, Ana Forrest, Jemima Hunt and Emma Smith.

To learn more about Jenny see here on Instagram, her website, details of her book 'Don't Let It Break You, Honey', and her Substack.

At the end, I read a poem written by W.H. Auden.

Did you enjoy this episode? If so, I would really appreciate it if you could please leave a review on the platform that you listen.

For more insights and to contact me you can find me on Instagram, and/or on my website: www.lucywyldecoaching.com.

Today's solo episode is a topic close to my heart. Wouldn't life be a little bit easier if many people were better at listening and true, genuine apologies?! — I think so. Whether that be politicians, abusers... anyone really.

In this episode I speak about:

1. saying sorry too much
2. where apologies may be due or even needed (and it's ok to say that!)
3. where emotional intelligence, doing the work and owning our sh*t is helpful
4. why forgiveness isn't always the holy grail
5. handling criticism and tips to avoid/reduce defensiveness

Themes: apologies, relationships, forgiveness

I mention Harriet Lerner, Mark Groves, Terri Cole, my boyfriend Roly Starr.

At the end, I read a poem written by me.

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For more insights and to contact me you can find me on Instagram, and/or on my website: www.lucywyldecoaching.com

Francesca Blechner has over 25 years experience in the wellness industry. She supports high-achieving, purpose-driven leaders and visionaries to decode the patterns stored in their nervous systems shaping their health, energy, business and relationships.

Creator of the Nervous System Archetypes and The Body Wisdom Series, her work brings together body based coaching, nervous system alchemy, identity recalibration and business alignment.

Through Fran's approach, client's have healed and broken generational patterns, restored hormonal balance and long‑standing health issues, reconciled family dynamics, deepened romantic and professional relationships, unlocked their purpose, found the confidence to change careers from corporate to follow their soul medicine led work.

— I've known Fran for almost 20 years. Our relationship goes way back to being personal trainers in central London in the early 2000's and it's great to share this conversation with you.

In this episode we speak about:

1. what Fran does in her work as a 'Mind Body Alchemist'
2. Fran's experience of burnout and how it lead to her work with the nervous system
3. how capoeira practice can translate to everyday life
4. muscle testing, breath and discovering the overriding compensation patterns
5. a back injury in 2017 that was a BIG lesson for Fran
6. how nervous system health is foundational
7. my journey with burlesque and leaning more into my femininity
8. the shifts in awareness of/in Mothers over the last 20 years
9. getting back to basics for wellness and balance
10. at 1 hour 4 minutes Fran speaks a big truth about how breathwork and bodywork can be bastardised (I've witnessed this a lot)
11. performative wellness vs. embodied leaders

Themes: burnout, nervous system health, spirituality, burlesque, body literacy

We mention The Third Space Health Club, Transformational Breath and Liezel Graham.

To learn more about Fran see here on Instagram, LinkedIn, Youtube or here for her website.

At the end, I read a poem written by Liezel Graham.

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For more insights and to contact me you can find me on Instagram, and/or on my website: www.lucywyldecoaching.com.

Today's solo episode is about the 'little' things that can, with time and consistency have a big impact. Implementing (or sneaking in) these things can end up with a beautiful ripple effect.

In this episode I speak about:

1. overcoming some of my fears
2. working on our nervous system to help with boundaries
3. stepping into our feminine in small ways
4. gently reprogramming our conditioning and beliefs

Themes: upbringing, parenting, boundaries

I mention my boyfriend Roly, who you can find here on Instagram if you'd like.

At the end, I read a poem by Danielle Doby.

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For more insights and to contact me you can find me on Instagram, and/or on my website: www.lucywyldecoaching.com

Mike is a dear friend of mine and an amazing man, coach, father and husband. Listen to the episode for more information about Mike (beyond the titles and labels) but you can also find his website below.

TRIGGER WARNING: From 1 hour 8 minutes and 40 seconds to 1 hour 9 minutes and 10 seconds I speak about my experience of birth trauma.

In this episode we speak about:

1. a bit about Mike beyond the labels of name, job and relationship status
2. the (rare) skill of truly listening
3. Mike questions me about burlesque (which is an interesting flip)
4. knowing and owning our 'flaws' in a world that displays/values 'perfect'
5. who has inspired Mike — AND learning his own balance
6. Type A personality and 'productivity' bragging
7. how big a job parenting is (and my annoyance about it being under-appreciated)
8. the significance of the words we use
9. encouraging appreciation...

Themes: burlesque, listening, parenting, event training, self-development

We mention Ross Edgley and David Goggins.

To learn more about Mike see here on Instagram or here for his website: newhealthproject.co.uk

At the end, I read a poem written by Jessica Urlichs.

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For more insights and to contact me you can find me on Instagram, and/or on my website: www.lucywyldecoaching.com.

Here is a solo episode covering the basics of what Matrescence is (check out Episode #34 of my podcast for more about it and #35 for the interview with Amy Taylor-Kabbaz). I'm also sharing a little bit about where I'm at, in my 11 years of Motherhood — so far in my Matrescence.

In this episode I speak about:

1. yoga mudras (hand gestures) and what they can mean
2. matrescence; both our own and our Mothers' experiences
3. parenting today; the grief and growth
4. asking "How is your Matrescence?!"
5. witnessing my feelings and experiences as a Mum
6. being a speaker on Matrescence and Perinatal Wellbeing

Themes: matrescence, parenting, motherhood, patrescence

I mention Brené Brown, Amy Taylor-Kabbaz, Joeli Brearley of 'Pregnant Then Screwed', Lucy Jones and Claire Tonti.

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For more insights and to contact me you can find me on Instagram, and/or on my website: www.lucywyldecoaching.com

Dr Ellie Hambly is a Clinical Psychologist with over a decade of experience supporting families. Her work blends deep psychological expertise with a heartfelt belief: the way we parent has the power to shape not only our children’s lives, but the world.

Today, Ellie specialises in helping parents navigate the overwhelm of modern parenting. She understands the pressure to “do it all” and how easily that can lead to exhaustion and burnout. Her approach is holistic and compassionate. She supports parents to reconnect with their values, let go of unrealistic expectations, and create a life that feels more balanced, meaningful and sustainable.

Ellie lives in Kent with her husband, two children, and their spaniel. She loves family walks, reading with a cuppa, dinners with friends and family and absolutely adores her skiing holidays.

TRIGGER WARNINGS: From 34 minutes to 35 minutes I speak about sexual abuse recovery. From 40 minutes 10 seconds to 41 minutes 5 seconds AND from 43 minutes and 20 seconds to 45 minutes and 40 seconds Ellie speaks about her birth experiences.

PLEASE NOTE: At 31 minutes 15 seconds I have left a pause because I shared something with Ellie that I didn't wish to put out publicly but I wanted to leave in the reflection after my share.

In this episode we speak about:

1. a bit about Ellie, her hobbies and her specialism as a psychologist
2. studying Matrescence and how we/society really should revere Mothers more
3. body literacy, listening to the wisdom we hold, and the profound value in rest
4. how we're so often in a 'threat' response and what that can do to our brain and body
5. the necessity of processing trauma with time and space
6. what our children can teach us
7. the systemic f**kery we're dealing with and what isn't our fault
8. I have a BIG realisation at 52 minutes (and burst into tears)
9. hyper-independence and how detrimental it can be

Themes: motherhood, matrescence, parenting, relationships, body literacy, cycle awareness, trauma processing, birth, domestic abuse

We mention Amy Taylor-Kabbaz, Minna Dubin, Dr Sophie Brock, 'Body Full of Stars' by Molly Cary May, Cath Counihan, 'Period Power' by Maisie Hill and Dr Rebecca Moore of 'Make Birth Better'.

To learn more about Ellie see here on Instagram. For more about what Ellie mentioned, her '28 Days of Gentle Support' click here for her website, and Ellie's Substack is 'Where the F* is the Village?'.

At the end, I read a poem written by Ellie herself.

Did you enjoy this episode? If so, I would really appreciate it if you could please leave a review on the platform that you listen.

For more insights and to contact me you can find me on Instagram, and/or on my website: www.lucywyldecoaching.com.

Welcome to Series 2 of Mums F**king Matter!

It feels so good to be back in this space.

Today I'm sharing a short episode with a bit of an update and asking you some questions to reflect on...

TRIGGER WARNING: From 4 minutes to 5 minutes 45 seconds I talk about grief (the death of my boyfriends Dad).

In this episode I speak about:

1. Christmas and how it can feel as a solo parent
2. training more in teaching burlesque
3. grief and the recent loss of my partners Dad
4. why I don't watch the news
5. the effect of connection & good souls in difficult times
6. my burlesque offerings in Reading; classes, courses and a show on May 3rd
7. how I enjoy Substack (find me at substack.com/lucywyldecoaching)
8. how do you feel about birthdays?

Themes: grief, burlesque, growth, birthdays

I mention Exhale Healthy Coffee, Zoe Charles and Brené Brown.

Did you enjoy this episode? If so, I would really appreciate it if you could please leave a review on the platform that you listen.

For more insights and to contact me you can find me on Instagram, and/or on my website: www.lucywyldecoaching.com

This is my last podcast for a while! Not only because it's the end of 2025 but I am taking a pause and will be back with Series 2 of 'Mums F**king Matter' next year.

THANK YOU for listening! Truly. Thank you. PLEASE share the podcast and/or write a review.

Sending love to you all over the festive period and wishing you a positive and peaceful 2026!

TRIGGER WARNING: From 16 minutes and 33 seconds to 17 minutes and 25 seconds (plus the poem to close) I speak about the passing of Ruth Perry.

In this episode I speak about:

• how are YOU feeling?
• a gentle reflection on 2025 (and an invitation for you to also)
• what I'm feeling gratitude for
• what I'm feeling some grief/tenderness over
• the struggles of being a small business owner
• why our TRUTH matters — and working on ourselves

Themes: spirituality, burlesque, motherhood, entrepreneurship

I mention the late Ruth Perry and Mark Groves.

At the end, I share a poem of my own about the passing of Ruth Perry.

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For more insights and to contact me you can find me on Instagram, and/or on my website: www.lucywyldecoaching.com

Samantha Nolan-Smith is the founder of The School Of Visibility, an online education platform that has supported students across the globe to find their voice and be seen for the change they’re creating in the world. 

With a background in law, social justice, and Indigenous policy in Australia, Samantha brings over 20 years of experience supporting leaders and changemakers to show up with confidence and clarity. She also draws on two decades of expertise in personal development — combining mindset work, somatic practices, and leadership coaching — to help people step into their full presence. 

Samantha is passionate about amplifying diverse voices and believes that when people find the courage to share their stories, they create ripples of change that can transform communities and industries worldwide.

Samantha is also a Mother to two children, a wife and she is based in Canberra, Australia. I adore the work Samantha does and this conversation was so delightful and filled with so much passion, from each of us.

TRIGGER WARNING: At 43 minutes 30 seconds to 44 minutes Samantha mentions someone talking of suicidal ideation.

In this episode we speak about:

• a bit about Samantha and why she came to the work she does
• the profound importance of visibility on a large scale, and why
• our/society's appreciation (or lack thereof) of Mothers and nature
• allowing emotions and being a deep feeler
• motherhood, chronic illness and how the working world needs to change!
• the complexity of post abuse recovery as a Mother
• how healing burlesque can be
• Samantha's AMAZING writing about Mothers that went viral (shared HERE)
• Samantha's difficulty in pregnancy to then speaking up for herself later on
• the 'shoulds' about always being grateful in Motherhood (can all f**k off)
• and so much more brilliant stuff...!

Themes: motherhood, chronic illness, domestic abuse recovery, burlesque

We mention Amy Taylor-Kabbaz, Cath Counihan and Sophie Brock.

To learn more about Samantha see here on Instagram. And to learn more about her and her work on her website, click here: theschoolofvisibility.com

At the end, I read a quote by Margaret Cho.

Did you enjoy this episode? If so, I would really appreciate it if you could please leave a review on the platform that you listen.

For more insights and to contact me you can find me on Instagram, and/or on my website: www.lucywyldecoaching.com.