We're All Insane

My Mom Held Me Hostage


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Stardyy grew up in a chaotic home where her dad was absent, and her mom became obsessively controlling — even stalking her and trapping her in her room until social services stepped in.

At 22, she moved to a new city hoping for a fresh start but ended up homeless multiple times, working in the sex trade and battling OCD and complex PTSD.


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00:00:00 What early signs of parental control can look like love or generosity?

00:00:41 How can material gifts secretly be a form of manipulation?

00:01:04 Why do some parents stop their kids from becoming independent?

00:01:24 How does growing up biracial influence identity and belonging?

00:02:06 What happens when a parent forbids sports, hobbies, and friendships?

00:02:53 What does it mean when parents sleep in separate rooms for years?

00:03:06 How does never hearing “I love you” shape emotional development?

00:03:43 What are the long-term effects of extreme helicopter parenting?

00:05:23 How can social isolation in childhood distort a sense of reality?

00:06:06 Why would a parent falsely claim their child has special needs?

00:07:17 What psychological damage comes from being turned against a parent?

00:08:21 How can manipulation escalate into false accusations and control?

00:09:53 What does custody manipulation look like in emotionally abusive homes?

00:11:07 How do abusers use dependence to maintain lifelong control?

00:13:16 Why do schools and counselors often overlook covert abuse?

00:14:33 What makes someone realize their “normal” childhood wasn’t normal?

00:16:10 How can strict parenting lead to social anxiety and fear of freedom?

00:18:30 What happens when friends or neighbors report abuse—and nothing changes?

00:20:23 How do abusers convince outsiders they’re the victim?

00:22:15 Why do children of controlling parents confuse protection with love?

00:24:18 What does public humiliation look like in coercive parent–child relationships?

00:27:31 How do peers react when they finally witness hidden family control?

00:31:01 What survival tactics help kids navigate psychological captivity?

00:36:13 Why do child-protection systems so often fail victims of covert abuse?

00:41:45 How does learned helplessness form in controlled children?

00:46:12 What happens psychologically after finally escaping a parent’s control?

00:49:58 Why do abusers keep stalking or harassing their victims even after separation?

00:54:36 How do trauma survivors rebuild trust and reclaim independence?

00:59:20 What lasting fears remain after being raised in isolation and control?

01:02:44 How can survivors of covert parental abuse find healing and identity again?


Topics: Childhood Trauma, Mental Health, OCD, PTSD, Parental Control, Emotional Abuse


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