This week on Dr. Judy WTF, we explore one of the most covert — and heartbreaking — forms of psychological harm: narcissistic abuse by proxy. Abuse doesn’t always end with separation. It often continues through friends, family, institutions — and even children — who may be unconsciously recruited to carry out the narcissist’s agenda of control and devaluation. Using the Be The Cause Nine-Panel Mind Map, we break down how trauma bonding, financial manipulation, and survival-based attachment can position children against a targeted parent — not out of malice, but out of fear and security needs. We also discuss the invisible grief of betrayal, and why true healing comes not from forcing others to “see the truth,” but from dignified disconnection, boundaries, and reclaiming your own narrative. You don’t heal by being chosen again.

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