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In honor of Father’s Day, I invited my husband, David, onto the podcast for a candid and unscripted conversation about what it was really like for us to survive the loss of our stillborn twins—and what that journey looked like for our marriage, for each of us as individuals, and for the family we were trying to hold together.
We didn’t prep. We didn’t rehearse. He didn’t even really know what I was going to ask.
It’s been 25 years since that loss, but the impact is still so present. And while we grieved so differently—and often didn’t understand each other in those early days—we both agree on this: it changed everything.
David shares what he remembers from that heartbreaking day, how he coped (or didn’t), and what it felt like to try and support me through something he couldn’t fix. I open up about the bitterness, the guilt, and the distance that threatened to swallow our marriage whole. We talk about the things we never said back then. And we’re finally saying them now.
This episode isn’t polished. It’s real. It’s raw. It’s the stuff you rarely hear dads talk about.
And if you’re a loss mom wondering how your partner is coping… or struggling to connect with them through your own grief… or even just holding onto hope that your relationship can survive this—please listen.
You're not alone in how hard this is.
What You'll Hear in This Episode:
- The moment David found out our babies had died
- Why we grieved so differently—and how that caused tension
- What no one told us about the isolation after loss
- How David’s medical background shaped the way he processed grief
- Why I judged his grief (and why he felt helpless to comfort mine)
- The one thing that kept our marriage from falling apart
- How long it really took before I felt even a little okay
- What support looked like when it wasn't working
The 3-Day Experience for Moms After Baby Loss is a live workshop for moms who are grieving their baby. Over three days together, we look at how you're really doing, what this loss has touched in your life, and what to actually do when the guilt spiral starts. You'll get the live sessions, the recordings to keep, and a workbook to go with it. $27. Find it at navigatingbabyloss.com/workshop.
Download my FREE "Guilt and Grief Release Journal" at navigatingbabyloss.com/journal
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