Today, Dr. Kim is joined by his bride, Mrs. Nancy, to talk about the freedom that comes from allowing yourself, your spouse, and your marriage to have a bad day without making it something bigger than it is. They share how they navigate the hard days, avoid the spiral of negative thoughts, and bounce back with grace and compassion toward one another. Your marriage is a gift—be encouraged to let bad days simply be days without letting them erode your view of your marriage.

Episode Highlights:

Everyone has bad days.

Early warning signs that you're starting to spiral.

The danger of turning your spouse into your opponent.

The Lord has seen you through bad days in the past, be encouraged He can do it again this time.

The powerful role grace plays when your spouse has little to give.

See how our marriages are the textbooks for our children to learn from for their future marriages.

Quotes from this Episode:

When I try to force something and Nancy isn't ready, it's not going to go well.

In everything you have to realize you're still on the same team. So, how can you help your spouse?

The problem is the opponent. Satan rejoices when we are fighting, when we are angry with one another. -Mrs. Nancy

Satan hates marriage. He hates christian marriages. He loves to destroy them.

Every marriage can be a witness for the Lord.

Being a role model for your kids, being the text book on marriage that your children need is a huge responsibility.

Sometimes you have to dig down deep and find that love for your spouse. You don't have to feel it all the time, but remember that it's there. - Mrs. Nancy

Once I learned to get past myself and get past my pride, and start giving you grace, it was a great feeling. -Mrs. Nancy

Be vulnerable enough to say "I don't have much to give." Then as a spouse, "what can I do to help you." Just that is a step forward in growing your marriage.

Take whatever is bothering you and give it to the Lord. As a christian you are forgiven anyway! - Mrs. Nancy

Worrying about your marriage shows you care about it. Showing up for counseling means you care about your marriage.

Don't compare your marriage to someone else's by what they post on Facebook.

Time to Talk About It:

1. How are we viewing our marriage right now?
2. Think about the last time we had a "bad day" in our marriage. What helped us move past it, and how can we remember to do that again next time?
3. What helps each of us reset after a hard moment or a tense day—space, reassurance, prayer, a conversation, or something else?
4. What is one simple way we could extend more grace to each other the next time one of us is having a bad day?

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