A positive attitude won’t cure everything — but it certainly helps with a lot.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve and Kali tackle something every one of us deals with… setbacks. From rising bills and stormy commutes to lost clients and the end of relationships, life has a habit of sideswiping us when we least expect it. So what separates the people who spiral from those who bounce? According to Steve and Kali, it often comes down to one deceptively simple habit – asking yourself a better question.

Steve shares a real example from the business: a telemarketer called during a training day to say a council client was about to cancel three leadership programmes due to redundancies. The old Steve would have panicked. Instead, he asked himself “How can I improve the situation?”, fired off a quick email during his coffee break, and turned a potential loss into an ongoing conversation. That one question – asked in the right state – changed everything. They also dig into why negativity is the path of least resistance (thanks to our built-in negativity bias), why personal responsibility is the antidote to feeling at the mercy of external events, and how setbacks often become the launchpad for the next chapter – whether that’s a new course, a new job, or a fresh start.

This isn’t about slapping on a smile and pretending problems don’t exist. It’s about recognising what’s in your control, changing your state before you take action, and being honest enough to ask for help when you need it. If you’ve been sitting with a setback and waiting for things to improve on their own, this episode might be the nudge to pick a better question – and start moving.

In this episode, Steve and Kali discuss:

• The one question that can shift your state in the middle of a setback
• Why negativity takes zero effort – and positivity takes just a little more
• A real-world example of turning a client cancellation into an opportunity
• Why personal responsibility is empowering, not exhausting

You can’t always change the people around you – but you can change who you choose to be around.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve and Kali explore a question most of us never stop to ask: who are you spending your time with, and how is it shaping your energy? Steve shares a vivid story from returning to the UK after five weeks of NLP trainers’ training in Las Vegas – stepping onto an airport transfer bus and, for the first time, really noticing the low-level hum of grumbling he’d been deaf to his whole life. That contrast – five weeks of positivity followed by a wall of mumbling Brummies – became a turning point.

From there, they dig into how personal growth can sharpen your radar for the “mood hoovers” around you, why trying to change other people is a dead end, and how deliberately surrounding yourself with positive, solution-focused people quietly raises your own game. They also explore Paul McKenna’s advice about celebrating the success of others rather than knocking them – and how that simple shift lifts you just as much as them.

But this isn’t about toxic positivity. Steve and Kali draw a careful line: being around upbeat people isn’t about dependency or needing a support network to prop you up. It’s about putting your own mask on first, taking responsibility for your own energy, and then choosing to spend time with people who face problems with a “what can we do about it?” attitude rather than a sigh. If you’ve been tolerating energy-drainers at work or at home – or if you’ve never stopped to ask whether you’re the one lifting people up or pulling them down – this is ten minutes well spent.

In this episode, Steve and Kali discuss:

• Why personal development makes negativity harder to ignore
• The difference between needing a support network and choosing your circle
• How to respond to other people’s success (and why it matters for your energy)
• A simple question to ask yourself: am I the energiser or the drain?

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve and Kali challenge a powerful and increasingly common narrative… the idea that we are somehow broken and need fixing. From social media highlight reels to the medicalisation of normal human emotions, they explore how modern culture can subtly convince us that sadness, frustration, grief, or comparison mean something is wrong with us. Through personal stories and reflections – from bereavement to Instagram illusions – they unpack how easy it is to measure our everyday reality against someone else’s carefully edited moment and conclude that we’re falling short.

The message is both grounding and liberating... you are not broken. Feeling grief after loss is human. Feeling frustrated at injustice is human. Having a bad day while someone else posts champagne photos is human. Drawing on NLP and the Three Principles, Steve and Kali remind listeners that comparison is often the thief of joy, and that most of what we judge ourselves against is incomplete or filtered. If you’ve ever felt “less than” because of what you see online or believed you needed fixing simply for being human, this episode offers a reassuring reset – and an invitation to return to your authentic, already-whole self.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve and Kali explore a powerful question: is your career feeding your soul, or just filling up your schedule? They reflect on the familiar cycle of chasing the next promotion, ticking off the next goal, and constantly adding to the to-do list – only to arrive at a quiet sense of unfulfilment. Drawing on their own corporate and entrepreneurial experiences, they unpack the difference between busyness and meaning, values and validation, and why many of us never stop to ask why we’re climbing the ladder in the first place.

It’s practical and reflective, too. You’ll hear four coaching questions designed to help you pause and reassess: what would your ideal workday feel like? What would you miss if your job disappeared tomorrow – and what wouldn’t you? When did you last feel truly alive at work? And what are you tolerating that you’ve convinced yourself is “just normal”? If you’re feeling stretched, restless, or quietly questioning your direction, this episode offers a gentle reset – and a reminder that fulfilment doesn’t come from doing more, but from doing what truly aligns.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve and Kali unpack one of the most talked-about (and most misunderstood) ideas in modern psychology and coaching... The 3 Principles.

Steve takes on the challenge of explaining it simply, cutting through jargon to show how the 3 Principles describe the way we experience life from the inside out. Using everyday examples - mistaken identities, noisy cars, and instant reactions - they explore how our brains are constantly predicting reality, and how what we experience isn’t happening to us, but is being generated by us.

The real power comes in the implications. As Steve explains, once you gain an embodied understanding that feelings, reactions, and stress are created internally, life naturally begins to settle.

You become calmer, less hooked by the past, less anxious about the future, and more able to respond as your true self rather than from habit or ego.

If you’re curious about why insight can be more powerful than techniques, how peace of mind emerges without effort, and why the 3 Principles quietly transform how people relate to themselves and others, this episode is a clear and welcoming starting point. Have a watch and see what shifts when you realise the projector has always been inside you.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve and Kali tackle one of the questions they’re asked most often… what actually is NLP? Rather than a textbook definition, they offer a refreshingly human explanation – think of NLP as a user manual for your brain. Using simple metaphors (apps, habits, and updates), they break down Neuro-Linguistic Programming into how we think, how we talk to ourselves and others, and the unconscious patterns that quietly run our day-to-day lives. Along the way, they unpack neuroplasticity, self-talk, and why the questions you ask yourself matter just as much as the statements you make.

It’s practical and immediately usable. You’ll hear everyday examples of shifting inner dialogue, reframing situations with better questions, and using language to create positive expectation - in yourself, at work, and in the people around you.

The episode also gives a glimpse into the coaching and change techniques within NLP, including how deeply held limiting beliefs can be softened or removed far more quickly than most people expect.

Curious about how small changes in language can create big changes in confidence, performance, and wellbeing? This is a perfect place to start - press play and try one simple reframe today.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve sits down with Jonathan “JP” Peach for a deeply personal conversation about creating a heart’s desire - not in the fluffy, vision-board sense, but in the gritty, real-life way that emerges when you’ve been cracked open a bit. JP traces his journey from corporate retail to six months off with depression and anxiety, the “shorts and flip-flops” reset, and the unexpected mentors who nudged him toward coaching.

You’ll hear how he discovered a clear purpose - to inspire and energise people to be the most brilliant version of themselves - and why owning that purpose changed not just his work, but his entire way of moving through the world.

It becomes wonderfully practical, too. JP shares the timeline exercise he uses with clients to spot the patterns in what truly lights them up, how to notice when your wisdom (not your ego) is nudging you toward change, and why you don’t need to blow up your life to take the next step toward the work you’re meant for.

If you’re feeling stuck, restless, or caught between “this pays the bills” and “there must be more than this,” this episode is an invitation to pause, look under the surface, and tune back into what floats your boat. Press play - your future self might thank you.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Kali chats with leadership coach Jonathan “JP” Peach about the hidden constraints of conventional coaching models like GROW. They unpack why a rigid, destination-driven approach can quietly narrow insight, create “performance of coaching” box-ticking, and pull attention away from the human in front of you.

JP contrasts that with a Three Principles way of working that feels more like a dance than a checklist: deeper presence, truer curiosity, and space for the coachee’s own insight to emerge.

Expect frank talk on goals vs. being, process vs. presence, and why the richest breakthroughs often show up when you stop trying to force an outcome.

It’s practical, too. You’ll hear how to loosen your grip on structure without losing professionalism, how to get under the hood rather than polish surface problems, and how to choose (or become) a coach who’s fluent in multiple modalities so sessions feel freer, fuller, and more human.

Want coaching that shifts identity, not just action lists? Press play and try JP’s simple tell next time you’re stuck… drop the model for a minute, get genuinely curious, and see what insight appears when you stop steering.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve Kay sits down with leadership coach Jonathan “JP” Peach for a candid debrief on how the Three Principles has added to his coaching, and his life. JP traces his shift from technique-heavy, surface-level problem-solving to an inside-out, embodied understanding – reconnecting with his “true self”. They dig into why insight beats intellect, how real coaching helps clients drop beneath goals and tactics to what’s actually driving them, and why calm, clarity and confidence follow when you stop outsourcing your state to the future. Expect pub-born honesty, coaching-room stories, and a provocative question… are you solving the right problem, or just rearranging deckchairs?

It all lands practically, too. JP shares the knock-on effects he’s seeing – less anxiety, fewer limiting beliefs, bolder proposals, more authentic keynotes, and clients who say “I didn’t expect we’d go there… but that’s exactly what I needed.”

If you want coaching that sparks genuine insight (not a to-do list), or you’re curious how becoming more you can make work easier, this conversation is a nudge to go deeper. Hit play and test it this week… drop below the “what should I do?” to “who am I being?” – and watch the solutions surface on their own.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Kali interviews leadership expert Jonathan Peach to demystify imposter syndrome - which, spoiler, isn’t a medical syndrome at all but a learned story our brain tells to keep us safe. They link it to psychological safety at work, explain why “I’ll get found out” is a protective prediction (not a prophecy), and unpack the neuroscience: your brain is a prediction machine that believes what you rehearse. Expect fresh takes on change (“we don’t like how things are, and we don’t like change either”), why silence in meetings often masks fear, and how belonging flips performance from guarded to generous.

Then it turns practical. Jonathan shares a simple playbook: journal to spot patterns and pre-write how you want to respond next time; rehearse the new story so your brain chooses it under pressure; and use coaching to raise awareness rather than hunt for perfect answers. There’s a clean distinction between mentoring and coaching, a reality check for trainers who think they must know everything, and a humane mantra: you won’t always have the answers - and that’s okay. Want to retire the “not good enough” script and show up bolder? Press play, try the journaling prompt this week, and notice what shifts when you treat imposter feelings as data, not destiny.