NLP UK Training Podcast

It wasn’t about the promotion, it wasn’t about the job title – it was about the work itself.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve and Kali turn their attention to a quietly common career predicament: the grey zone. You don’t hate your job. You’re not in crisis. The salary’s decent, you can afford a holiday a year, you’ve got Netflix, you might even have your own parking space. But something’s missing — and you can’t quite put your finger on what. It’s not bad enough to leave, but it’s not good enough to feel alive either.

They also dig into the trap of “destination thinking” (“when I get this title / hit this salary / reach this level, I’ll feel better”), why finding the 99% of work you love matters more than escaping the 1% you don’t (Kali’s solution to her hated accounting work: hire an accountant), and a wonderful Jim Bowen “Bullseye” analogy about the 55-year-old delegate who said she wanted to be a coach — and what she’d be looking back at in ten years’ time if she didn’t take the small first steps. If you’ve been telling yourself “I should be grateful — it’s a good job” while quietly wondering if there’s something more, this is a permission slip to take that seriously.

In this episode, Steve and Kali discuss:

• What the career “grey zone” actually feels like — and why it’s harder to escape than outright misery
• “Destination thinking” — why “when I get there, I’ll feel better” rarely delivers
• The Bullseye principle: what you could have won, and why small steps now matter
• How to double down on the work you love (and offload the bits you don’t)

The diagnosis is the diagnosis – but how you experience it is up to you.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve and Kali introduce what Steve openly calls the single most important thing he’d teach if he only had one model to share: above the line, below the line. It’s a simple framework with a huge ripple effect. Above the line lives Ownership, Accountability and Responsibility (OAR — you’re rowing your own boat). Below the line lives Blame, Excuses and Denial (BED – you’ve pulled the duvet over your head and hidden from the world). The premise is uncompromising: you’re either in one place or the other. You don’t get to fluctuate in between.

What gives this episode its weight is Kali’s story. She shares openly about being diagnosed with psoriatic arthritis around the time she met Steve — a diagnosis that forced her to give up the dance company she’d been running five nights a week. For a long time, she sat below the line, blaming the condition for how she felt. The shift came when she realised that while the diagnosis itself wasn’t going to change, how she experienced it absolutely was within her control. Once she started taking small responsible actions for her own health, something quietly shifted – and kept shifting.

They also bring in lighter examples: Kali’s wet-weather drive that morning (left earlier, cup of coffee, music on, no panic), the manager who taught his whole team the model not by lecturing but by saying “I’m a bit below the line about this” until people got curious enough to ask, and the litter-pickers Steve spotted in Ashby on a Sunday morning – a small act of personal responsibility that quietly changes a community. If there’s one episode of the podcast worth sending to a friend, Steve thinks it’s this one. Listen, draw the line on a piece of paper, and ask yourself the question that genuinely changes everything: am I above the line about this.

In this episode, Steve and Kali discuss:

• The above-the-line / below-the-line model in full (OAR vs BED)
• Why you can’t sit in the middle — and how to spot which side you’re on
• Kali’s personal story: a life-changing diagnosis and the shift from blame to ownership
• How to introduce the model to a team without lecturing them
• The “cause vs effect” concept from NLP and why it’s a powerful place to live
• Steve’s pick for the one thing he’d teach above anything else

You don’t need to turn the wheel ninety degrees – one degree, held over time, will get you somewhere completely new.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve and Kali tackle one of the biggest reasons people give up on the lives they say they want: the gap between where they are and where they want to be feels too vast to bridge. The fix isn’t a dramatic overhaul. It’s a one-degree shift – a small, sustainable change that compounds quietly over weeks and months until you look up and find yourself somewhere new.

Steve uses the analogy of a boat: turn the wheel just one degree and in fifty miles you’ll arrive at a completely different destination. They bring it to life with real examples – the learning and development manager who wanted to go freelance and was advised to start with one evening class a week rather than handing in her notice, the coaching delegates running their first small Sunday events with five attendees (two of them friends), and Steve’s own visit to see his daughter in Nassau, where the Instagram-perfect poolside photo masked the tropical storm, the flooded roads, and the nine-hour economy flight that came before it. The point lands hard: what you see on socials is one frame of someone else’s reality – not the journey that got them there.

They also unpack why instant gratification is the enemy of progress (the January gym crowd makes a cameo), how compound interest works just as powerfully on actions as on money, and why comparing yourself to someone’s curated highlight reel is a fast track to giving up on something you’d otherwise be brilliant at. If you’re feeling stuck or stretched thin, the takeaway is liberating: you don’t need to do everything right now. Move the dial one degree, set your sail, and let the compounding do the rest.

In this episode, Steve and Kali discuss:

• The boat-and-wheel analogy: why one degree changes everything over time
• Why January gym memberships rarely make it to February
• Compound interest – and how it applies to action, not just money
• The hidden work behind every “perfect” social media post
• A real client story of building a coaching business one Sunday at a time

A positive attitude won’t cure everything — but it certainly helps with a lot.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve and Kali tackle something every one of us deals with… setbacks. From rising bills and stormy commutes to lost clients and the end of relationships, life has a habit of sideswiping us when we least expect it. So what separates the people who spiral from those who bounce? According to Steve and Kali, it often comes down to one deceptively simple habit – asking yourself a better question.

Steve shares a real example from the business: a telemarketer called during a training day to say a council client was about to cancel three leadership programmes due to redundancies. The old Steve would have panicked. Instead, he asked himself “How can I improve the situation?”, fired off a quick email during his coffee break, and turned a potential loss into an ongoing conversation. That one question – asked in the right state – changed everything. They also dig into why negativity is the path of least resistance (thanks to our built-in negativity bias), why personal responsibility is the antidote to feeling at the mercy of external events, and how setbacks often become the launchpad for the next chapter – whether that’s a new course, a new job, or a fresh start.

This isn’t about slapping on a smile and pretending problems don’t exist. It’s about recognising what’s in your control, changing your state before you take action, and being honest enough to ask for help when you need it. If you’ve been sitting with a setback and waiting for things to improve on their own, this episode might be the nudge to pick a better question – and start moving.

In this episode, Steve and Kali discuss:

• The one question that can shift your state in the middle of a setback
• Why negativity takes zero effort – and positivity takes just a little more
• A real-world example of turning a client cancellation into an opportunity
• Why personal responsibility is empowering, not exhausting

You can’t always change the people around you – but you can change who you choose to be around.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve and Kali explore a question most of us never stop to ask: who are you spending your time with, and how is it shaping your energy? Steve shares a vivid story from returning to the UK after five weeks of NLP trainers’ training in Las Vegas – stepping onto an airport transfer bus and, for the first time, really noticing the low-level hum of grumbling he’d been deaf to his whole life. That contrast – five weeks of positivity followed by a wall of mumbling Brummies – became a turning point.

From there, they dig into how personal growth can sharpen your radar for the “mood hoovers” around you, why trying to change other people is a dead end, and how deliberately surrounding yourself with positive, solution-focused people quietly raises your own game. They also explore Paul McKenna’s advice about celebrating the success of others rather than knocking them – and how that simple shift lifts you just as much as them.

But this isn’t about toxic positivity. Steve and Kali draw a careful line: being around upbeat people isn’t about dependency or needing a support network to prop you up. It’s about putting your own mask on first, taking responsibility for your own energy, and then choosing to spend time with people who face problems with a “what can we do about it?” attitude rather than a sigh. If you’ve been tolerating energy-drainers at work or at home – or if you’ve never stopped to ask whether you’re the one lifting people up or pulling them down – this is ten minutes well spent.

In this episode, Steve and Kali discuss:

• Why personal development makes negativity harder to ignore
• The difference between needing a support network and choosing your circle
• How to respond to other people’s success (and why it matters for your energy)
• A simple question to ask yourself: am I the energiser or the drain?

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve and Kali challenge a powerful and increasingly common narrative… the idea that we are somehow broken and need fixing. From social media highlight reels to the medicalisation of normal human emotions, they explore how modern culture can subtly convince us that sadness, frustration, grief, or comparison mean something is wrong with us. Through personal stories and reflections – from bereavement to Instagram illusions – they unpack how easy it is to measure our everyday reality against someone else’s carefully edited moment and conclude that we’re falling short.

The message is both grounding and liberating... you are not broken. Feeling grief after loss is human. Feeling frustrated at injustice is human. Having a bad day while someone else posts champagne photos is human. Drawing on NLP and the Three Principles, Steve and Kali remind listeners that comparison is often the thief of joy, and that most of what we judge ourselves against is incomplete or filtered. If you’ve ever felt “less than” because of what you see online or believed you needed fixing simply for being human, this episode offers a reassuring reset – and an invitation to return to your authentic, already-whole self.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve and Kali explore a powerful question: is your career feeding your soul, or just filling up your schedule? They reflect on the familiar cycle of chasing the next promotion, ticking off the next goal, and constantly adding to the to-do list – only to arrive at a quiet sense of unfulfilment. Drawing on their own corporate and entrepreneurial experiences, they unpack the difference between busyness and meaning, values and validation, and why many of us never stop to ask why we’re climbing the ladder in the first place.

It’s practical and reflective, too. You’ll hear four coaching questions designed to help you pause and reassess: what would your ideal workday feel like? What would you miss if your job disappeared tomorrow – and what wouldn’t you? When did you last feel truly alive at work? And what are you tolerating that you’ve convinced yourself is “just normal”? If you’re feeling stretched, restless, or quietly questioning your direction, this episode offers a gentle reset – and a reminder that fulfilment doesn’t come from doing more, but from doing what truly aligns.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve and Kali unpack one of the most talked-about (and most misunderstood) ideas in modern psychology and coaching... The 3 Principles.

Steve takes on the challenge of explaining it simply, cutting through jargon to show how the 3 Principles describe the way we experience life from the inside out. Using everyday examples - mistaken identities, noisy cars, and instant reactions - they explore how our brains are constantly predicting reality, and how what we experience isn’t happening to us, but is being generated by us.

The real power comes in the implications. As Steve explains, once you gain an embodied understanding that feelings, reactions, and stress are created internally, life naturally begins to settle.

You become calmer, less hooked by the past, less anxious about the future, and more able to respond as your true self rather than from habit or ego.

If you’re curious about why insight can be more powerful than techniques, how peace of mind emerges without effort, and why the 3 Principles quietly transform how people relate to themselves and others, this episode is a clear and welcoming starting point. Have a watch and see what shifts when you realise the projector has always been inside you.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve and Kali tackle one of the questions they’re asked most often… what actually is NLP? Rather than a textbook definition, they offer a refreshingly human explanation – think of NLP as a user manual for your brain. Using simple metaphors (apps, habits, and updates), they break down Neuro-Linguistic Programming into how we think, how we talk to ourselves and others, and the unconscious patterns that quietly run our day-to-day lives. Along the way, they unpack neuroplasticity, self-talk, and why the questions you ask yourself matter just as much as the statements you make.

It’s practical and immediately usable. You’ll hear everyday examples of shifting inner dialogue, reframing situations with better questions, and using language to create positive expectation - in yourself, at work, and in the people around you.

The episode also gives a glimpse into the coaching and change techniques within NLP, including how deeply held limiting beliefs can be softened or removed far more quickly than most people expect.

Curious about how small changes in language can create big changes in confidence, performance, and wellbeing? This is a perfect place to start - press play and try one simple reframe today.

Welcome back to the NLP UK Training podcast! Hosted by NLP Trainers Steve Kay and Kali Fraser from NLPUKTraining.com – a leading provider of NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner certification in the UK.

In this episode, Steve sits down with Jonathan “JP” Peach for a deeply personal conversation about creating a heart’s desire - not in the fluffy, vision-board sense, but in the gritty, real-life way that emerges when you’ve been cracked open a bit. JP traces his journey from corporate retail to six months off with depression and anxiety, the “shorts and flip-flops” reset, and the unexpected mentors who nudged him toward coaching.

You’ll hear how he discovered a clear purpose - to inspire and energise people to be the most brilliant version of themselves - and why owning that purpose changed not just his work, but his entire way of moving through the world.

It becomes wonderfully practical, too. JP shares the timeline exercise he uses with clients to spot the patterns in what truly lights them up, how to notice when your wisdom (not your ego) is nudging you toward change, and why you don’t need to blow up your life to take the next step toward the work you’re meant for.

If you’re feeling stuck, restless, or caught between “this pays the bills” and “there must be more than this,” this episode is an invitation to pause, look under the surface, and tune back into what floats your boat. Press play - your future self might thank you.