If you're familiar with YouTube's Mother of Millennials, Jenna Marbles, then you probably have heard of the 'Too Much Gene'. She coined this term in her videos across the years, essentially describing a trait that makes you go all gas, no breaks at whatever you're working on, and emphasizes the 'more is more' approach. 

(It does feel important to say here that it's not a real gene. Anyway...)

In this episode, Beth and Joyce share their experiences with the 'Too Much Gene', how they try to combat it, and why it may actually stem from chasing perfectionism. 

From ruining artwork to buying far too many mini lanterns for one household, they discuss why we sometimes accidentally sabotage our work, how to come to terms with being 'good enough' and learn to sit with your imperfections, and why slow progress is still progress.

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Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. 

Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.

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A slow burn romance book? Sign us up. A slow burn emotional breakdown? Um, no thanks. Unfortunately, we'll all probably be burned by one at some point in life (okay enough with the fire metaphors), and our time has come!

Join us today as we discuss the anxiety train that Joyce has found herself the conductor of - she's self-aware enough to know why it's happening (positive), but can't do anything about it (negative). 

We cover everything from how to figure out what's driving your anxiety, symptom substitution, knowing what's fixable versus what isn't, why sometimes imagining the 'worst-case scenario' is actually the most helpful option, and understanding what your version of 100% is.

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Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. 

Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.

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If you've watched the show "Severance", you probably have thought about what it would be like to be severed yourself. Sure, the highs might be alluring, like being able to set hard boundaries between your professional and personal lives or turning off emotions that are too difficult to deal with in the moment. But are they worth the cost?

Is feeling 'numb' better than feeling 'bad'? Would you be left with a full, whole life?

Let's discuss.

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Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. 

Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.

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The health & wellness (physical/mental) and self-help spaces have been the topic of MANY conversations so far in 2025. The promises of magic pills, cure-all supplements, and life-changing theories seem to be everywhere. Is there truth behind them, even if the nuance is missing, or are they just hype?

In perhaps their most unhinged episode yet - featuring a bad mood, the tale of getting lost in a grocery store, and a doomed creativity workshop - hosts Beth and Joyce share their opinions on these much-discussed industries and why they might not deliver what you had hoped for. 

They chat about what motivates people to follow these trends, experience vs. expertise (and whether qualifications matter), and why we all need to be a bit more skeptical.

About Your Hosts: 

Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. 

Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.

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After making a major life choice, wouldn't it be great to know that what you did (or picked, or said, etc., etc.) was right? That you wouldn't have to spend days, or months, or years, wondering what would have happened if you had done something different? Just some simple existential questions to start your Wednesday :) 

Today's episode digs into regret, and whether it's a feeling worth having. Beth and Joyce share their thoughts on the importance of learning from the choices you do (or don't) make, giving yourself grace, how guilt and regret differ, and why we should all enjoy the color grey more (it's relevant, we promise!)

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Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. 

Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.

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The irony of relationships is that the more we like somebody, the more fear we can have. This can show up as jealousy of their friendships, worry that they will cheat, anxiety that you won't be good enough or that they will abandon you, or even panic that your values won't align later on. It sometimes feels like that honeymoon phase can't last forever, amirite?

And yet, there are ways to tell what is a real fear worth having, and what's been created in your head - intuition vs. imagination, to put it simply.

Join our conversation today, where we cover why voicing your fears can help you not act on them, the toxicity of blame and the importance of owning your part, why you should be adding the word 'overall' to your relationship vocab, and the age-old question, 'do opposites attract?'

About Your Hosts: 

Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. 

Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.

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Hot take: having a range of emotions is normal. Yes, sometimes the depth of them can be pathological, and there are tools and treatments to help. But just because you are experiencing an emotion doesn't mean you have a diagnosis, and misusing this language can be dangerous - both for those who do have one, and for you.

In today's episode, Beth and Joyce discuss how to decipher whether you're having a typical feeling or something more, the mind-body bond, why mood follows behavior, and the power of language (spoiler alert: it plays a bigger role than we give it credit for!)

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Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. 

Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.

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How many times have you been asked 'What do you want to be when you grow up?' Maybe you knew, you stuck with it, and it went exactly as planned - hey, more power to you (also...how??). But maybe, you were too young to know the answer, you picked something and then realized it wasn't quite right, or you took a few left turns and can't find your way back. What are you supposed to do then?

Beth and Joyce dive in this week to the concept of a life plan and what to do when what you thought your life would look like, doesn't match what it *actually* looks like - for better or worse. They cover what it means to be 'fantasy-driven', why it might just be better to wait until you have life experience to develop major plans, how to determine if you need to make some sacrifices to be happy, and why it's okay to start over.

About Your Hosts: 

Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. 

Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.

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Have you ever been talking to a friend and thought...we do NOT see eye-to-eye on this? But you don't want to make it weird by maybe having an argument, so then you don't bring it up, and then it gets weird anyway, and then you feel really awkward? Don't lie - we've all been there. 

But! Conflict doesn't have to be the end of the world.

Today we're dishing out some friend-ly advice about when to bring up issues that are potentially difficult, the normalcy of conflict (and what you can learn from it), how to decide if a relationship is worth saving or if you've grown apart, and why kindness ultimately is key.

About Your Hosts: 

Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. 

Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.

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We all know that social media is...complicated. On one hand, we can discover new ideas, get inspiration, and just see things that brighten our mood (like hello, dog videos). But it's a slippery slope. One false move, and you're stranded in a toxic wasteland wondering how everybody's life is better than yours. 

In today's episode, we chat about how powerful photos can be (and why not everything is as it appears), the impact your moods have on what you perceive, and the fact that nothing is perfect - even our 'dream job'. 

About Your Hosts: 

Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages. 

Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out.

Note:

Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help.

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